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This is definitely primarily about you and your wife communicating, and (hopefully) compromising. However, since you asked about what a "normal" evening is like, I'll speak to that first. I'll start by saying I don't think there is a "normal". Evening routing depends on so many factors, I can't imagine that you could single out any one and say that it is ...


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I'm approaching this from the "what could possibly go wrong?" side of the matter, as I think a child getting into trouble on the way to school is unlikely. Traffic safety. A nine-year-old should already know how to cross a street safely. You can practice it with them and watch how they do it, both on foot and by bike. Getting lost. Once again, a ...


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Everyone on here has already said, "Talk to your Wife." So I won't reiterate that part again. This Wonderful answer gives information about how to go about engaging in that conversation in a way that is most likely to result in a positive outcome. What I didn't see addressed was the 1-2 hours it takes to put the two kids to bed. Parenting is exhausting ...


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I think this is something that is done gradually. Thinking back to when I was a kid (my daughter is still too young for public transit), my dad used to take me with him ever weekend into town on the underground. He taught me how to read the maps, and understand changing trains. At some point he started letting me plan the route to our destination and say ...


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Diana Baumrind, a psychologist known for her work on parenting research, identified different categories of parenting styles. The restrictive approach you describe sounds very much like her "authoritarian" style of parenting. From the wikipedia article (note that I find the article to be rather biased in tone, and it cites a number of claims based upon ...


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This can vary widely by region: Some cities are downright murderous and can only be traversed by car, others are very safe. Here are the factors that I can think of, in no particular order: How long is the trip? (three minutes at a child's pace, or twenty minutes by car) What are the roads like? (bike lanes > pavement > dirt road) How much traffic is ...


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TALK TO YOUR WIFE! Tell her how you feel in a quiet and meaningful way. Let her know you are not blaming her or pointing fingers, that you are just trying to communicate your feelings and prompt her to communicate her feelings. This type of communication is the only way that my wife and I have survived, it was extremely hard to do at first and has taken ...


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I don't think this is actually a parenting question, but the problem you are actually facing is around your and your wife's expectations of needs. Having very little time to yourselves in the first few years with kids is perfectly normal, and getting through this requires patience, but the bigger picture for you is that you must talk with your wife. I am ...


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The only real factor, besides your own potential anxiety, is whether you believe he can take care of himself - including handling problems that may come up. To help decide, I would suggest quizzing him on possible scenarios. Maybe use some role play. For instance - You've taken a wrong turn and don't recognize the street, what do you do? (Approach a ...


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I think you're maybe asking the wrong question. You really don't have free time with 2 young kids in the house and two working parents. I think you need to ask a) how do we get more free time? or b) how do we better use the time we have together? For 'a' maybe look at the budget. Just she really enjoy working? If not, maybe it's time to rethink her ...


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Apart from the obvious issue of a child's responsibility level, distance and location would be important factors for me. I walked from school from around 9 years old or so, but it was only 0.5Km, in a quiet village with good pavements (sidewalks). Riding a bike would personally make me very nervous as the chance of more serious accidents is much higher, ...


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Of course talk to the wife. The part I'm going to add is that you should practice the conversation. And I mean practice... Say these things out loud to yourself in a normal voice. Doing so makes brings it out of the nebulous netherworld of your imagination and puts it into the real world as you say the words and they go into your ears. It actually works. ...


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It is not an uncommon problem to have almost no free time when there are toddlers in the house. But a normal evening in a house with kids will look different in different households, there isn't one normal or right way to do things. That said, it sounds like your family's evening routine may need some adjustments. Reconsider your bedtime routine. 2 hours ...



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