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There are online 'parents of encopresis' support groups. A quick googling came up with several. Interacting with other parents in this situation may help you, and might give you ideas on what to ask your child's doctors. When encopresis is this entrenched, you need a multidisciplinary specialist approach: if she has never been hospitalized, she should be, ...


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Toilet timing? Would that help? You send him to the toilet at regular times when you think he has to do a poo. I can recognize when my daughter has to, for instance, but I can't see on my other kids, so maybe you wouldn't recognize the signs neither. In that case, maybe first during a week or so you would have to write on a paper the times when your boy ...


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A few ideas/suggestions/questions: Have you spoken to a pediatrician about a physical issue? Does he watch you poop and then help you flush? He may be afraid, many children are, of allowing 'part of him' to be flushed away. Flush his poop down the toilet even from his diaper/underpants. Does he make any sign he is making? React to it FAST! Does he poop at ...


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My daughter has the same problem. She's four and didn't potty train until this year. I highly recommend Dr. Sears Baby Book for this kind of stuff. Love him or hate him on co-sleeping etc. on basic behavior stuff he has some great advice. We tried some of the things in the book. Here's what's working for us. Breathe! Forget that they're 'too old' for this, ...


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One possible reason for such behaviour that wasn't mentioned here yet is that he might be enjoying this, while pooping in toilet might be "boring" to him. He is probably well aware that he shouldn't be doing it and that it's "a bad thing" so that's why he keep silent when you ask him why he's doing this. I would go and ask him "Do you enjoy doing this?" ...


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It seems to me that the other possible reasons for this behavior is: Your son does not like other people to see him doing his business or the result of it. He is attached to his potty and does not feel comfortable on others. I don't think you can do much about either except for discussing it with your son and letting him know that there is nothing wrong ...


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DISCLAIMER: I don't care if this gets down voted to the basement in hell, if it helps one other person, hopefully the OP, then I'm satisfied. This is advice I never thought anyone on this planet would ever be unlucky enough to need, honestly. Moderators feel free to delete it if you feel so inclined. My son had this same problem. In fact, just tonight, he ...


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Not sure where you are but have you escalated this up to the school's governing body? Gotten his physician involved? And if nothing else works, can you get the local media involved to shame the school into doing the right thing? "Local school refuses to help adorable kindergartner with illness" can be the headline that most schools will do anything to ...


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Some of the suggestions here are great ideas for a new trainee. However, this questioner is asking about a five year old and has been at it for a few years now. Take heart! Take a breath and realize it is unlikely your child is being purposefully difficult at this age and stage of the game. This answer is pointing out the possibility of encopresis, ...


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I was like "what the heck could be going on!?" Until you said "autism".... Even if it's mild, this could be one of his antics, rituals etc... as odd as it may sound. I would have said make him do all the cleaning up of the mess etc. but I bet that would be hard with him. Rewarding like you are doing is a good idea. I've been working with Aspergers and ...


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Positive Reinforcement I can't stress that enough. Everything you've mentioned to resolve the issue is a negative reinforcement. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but it's not supportive of shaping behavior. What might have happen is you've become caught up in dealing with the problem instead of focusing on the goal of toilet training. Become Nonreactive ...


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Ham and Bacon is on to something, I think. Given BBM's reply, I am offering this: You need to separate cause from solution; you can't attempt to solve the problem until you know what is actually causing it. Causes: Does your child only behave this way when he perceives a risk to lose toys or miss out on something? It seems reasonable that he's afraid of ...


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I realize this was posted ages ago, but it struck me that your situation is somewhat similar to the one we experienced with my son when we returned to daycare after being potty-trained. Our son was perfectly potty-trained at home, but when we put him in daycare 3 days a week, he started having accidents. Granted, we didn't have any poo accidents, but we ...


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The best way to get a toddler toilet trained is to encourage. Allow him in the room while you go. Another good way is sticker charts, get him to sit on the loo with clothes on and make a big fuss of it and work down to no clothes. Each time make a fuss and give him a sticker. Then get him to actually try and poo. Make a big fuss of it. He will like to please ...


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If he has been cleared medically by a doctor and he is okay physically and mentally, suspend all favorite activities and have him earn them back by using the bathroom when he has to poop. You have to let him realize he is going to lose all fun by choosing to soil his pants. Make him responsible for cleaning up himself and ban playing until he finishes. He ...


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With those few of my children who continued to poop in their pants rather than the toilet well after learning and generally choosing to urinate in the toilet, we eventually told them something similar to, "You are capable of recognizing when you need to use the restroom, and taking care of yourself in there. We would like you to choose to keep yourself and ...


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My son has had the same issue since he was born basically. He never really used to the toilet as his large bowel movements were very painful. He is now 10 years old and is going into 5th grade. I can finally say that I can see progress now. We seen tons of doctors, specialists and a lot of trips to the ER and urgent care because he had not had a bowl ...


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My son is 2 months from his 5th birthday and just now started pooping in the potty. We have been frustrated for years, since he was 2 1/2. He started doing it around 3 and got a stomach virus which put us back at square one. Everyday he would poop his pants, he did not care that he did it either. I started putting the poop in the toilet and showing him to ...


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Let him run around the house naked. This was how we potty trained mine. Make sure he knows what's expected, and then see if he poops on the floor, or makes it to the toilet.



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