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There is nothing wrong with his mind. The first time I fell in love was before my 4th birthday. I fell in love all the time in the following years, both with girls I hadn't previously known and with girls I had known for some time. There is nothing wrong with him telling you about this experience, either. On the contrary. The only thing that slightly ...


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First off, you will argue. That's normal; that's part of being in a relationship, as I'm sure you've figured out. Having a child will only add stress to the relationship, so that means you will have arguments. Especially when you go on car trips together (close quarters for extended periods), visit relatives, etc. Here's the thing: The way that you argue ...


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I have no idea what any kind of "best" action could possibly be. What I would want to make sure of is that no matter what interaction I have with my kids about the death of their other parent I want to be clear what is happening inside me (and deal with that) from what is happening inside them (and help them deal with that). They are two different aspects of ...


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Firstly, I would say there's a huge difference between having a fight and having a debate. A debate sounds like something healthy. I would avoid raised voices and name calling. Avoid throwing things and slamming doors. Avoid saying things that you are going to regret. Anything that can be construed in anyway as violent, whether verbally or physically, ...


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I am not an expert, but would like to supply some resources that you might find helpful at the website of the American Association of Suicidology. It has: a Suicide Loss Survivors page with a lot of great resources on it. links to support groups in each State (not sure if you are in the States) a monthly newsletter (which may help you feel not so alone ...


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Few studies have been done on this topic, and mostly the papers written on it have emphasized the destructive consequences of not telling children the whole truth promptly after death. Mostly those studies were done in the 60s and 70s, at a time when it was quite common not to tell children, and the damage done includes distorted mourning processes and ...


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I don't know if there's scientific evidence about developmental benefits but it's a certainly good bonding opportunity for you to do at home. I wouldn't take my baby to somebody else and pay them to massage my baby... this is not a burdensome chore or a highly skilled activity. Google "baby massage techniques"


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I would start out by handling primary-schooler tantrums the same way as toddler tantrums -- basically, don't let his tantrums succeed. Immediate and natural consequence. Deny him whatever it was he threw the tantrum over, end your current activity, abort your planned activity, or whatever else is appropriate. Don't give in, ever. A tantrum never wins. He ...


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My daughter had problems with shutting down and crying especially if she got something wrong or failed at something. When she was 8, I enrolled her in a local kung fu afterschool program (combo child care/martial arts class). The master taught them pride in themselves via real achievement and didn't take any crap (where to be fair, this behavior falls in ...


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One thing I’ve heard suggested is that if an argument starts in the child’s presence, it should also be resolved in his or her presence (i.e.: if you get into an argument, don’t take it to another room to spare the child). The reasoning is that the child won’t understand that the argument was resolved, so his or her tension remains. You also lose the ...


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Your boy is perfectly normal and reminds me of myself at his age. I constantly was "falling in love" but looking back, I was attracted to or enjoyed being around that person. I can also see now that I look back that I was looking up to my own parents and siblings relationships. Wanting to be like them and have what they have. I also, can see TV being an ...


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Regarding your specific questions (motor skills and emotional development): The only evidence I could find that supported the idea of an improvement in motor skills were studies that showed an increase in weight for premature babies that received therapeutic massage versus premature babies who did not receive therapeutic massage. There were repeated ...


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You could try connecting with him. Often, parenting isn't about seeking obedience, it is about building connection. Children will follow leaders they trust and respect, and feel trusted and respected by. Just like the rest of us. And, yes, you are right, not all children are the same. He is an individual with his own triggers, sensitivities, etc, as well as ...


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When the behavior that you are displaying begins either one of you can say, we need to table this until after the baby goes to sleep. Then be sure to pick it up at that time to get it out of your system. It is good to practice this now, as when the child gets older it becomes even more important. And if you do end up fighting infront of a child, be sure ...


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Short answer: tell the the truth Long answer: My father went to jail... twice for the same offence, one time for a short period, 6 months in which my mom told us nothing, and one time for 2 years, and my mother spoke openly about it towards me and my older sister, we also visited regularly and my dad always had writings to give to us or nice drawings. ...


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Honestly, I wouldn't be too concerned about the crying. It may simply be her reaction to stress - the stress of trying something and having trouble with it. It sounds like it's not carrying on and on crying, just limited-in-time crying. Very, very successful athletes cry when they fail at something; have you seen the then-viral picture of the gymnast ...


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Bless her little heart; what a scary thing to go through. And bless y'all's hearts too; this sounds absolutely horrible to have gone through. Have you looked into therapy? Sounds like something that a professional who has dealt with grief and trauma issues might have some insights in handling.


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When my oldest was having trouble being dropped at daycare, I moved the decision for how long I would stick around at dropoff onto her. (She was about 3 iirc.) We didn't have a traumatic experience like yours complicating things, but I think this might help for you. I simply told her that each morning I would stay until she told me to go. The immediate ...


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Awww. This is so sweet. There is nothing to get worry about it, they are just kids. My son was in love for the first time at age 4 in Pre-K. He came home one day and told me, mom I like 2 girls, can I have 2 girlfriends? I say not, you must choose one. But of course I worry a little bit, I thought about myself, then and ask my husband if he felt in love ...


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I think your little boy is OK! :) but I don't want to call this feeling "love". Probably, your boy thinks that those little girls are pretty, kind and he is attracted by them. He is little and little children are always interested to world around them and to people different from them. Our society is full of false "love". Our society countinuously tells ...


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Start by explaining to her that who she is and what she does are not the same thing. Just because two people are fire fighters, for example, does not mean they are the same people. They can think and act very differently, like very different things, and generally behave very differently when they aren't working. Once the concepts of "who you are" and ...


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This is the most beautiful feeling you will ever feel. All good and normal parents do feel protective. Just know that you have to balance this with your child's needs. It is alright to feel protective, but it will be wrong to keep him locked up. Let him explore in a good way. Know that feeling protective over your child will only add to your and his ...


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First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Even tho it was a while ago, that doesn't change the value of the loss. I am an analytical parent. I ask questions and try to figure out why my kid did whatever they did. Sure they tell me they were hollering at their sibling because they did X, but the underlying reason is sometimes much stronger but goes ...


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In my youth, I was exposed to emotion charts. The earliest this occurred, for me, was 9 years old. However, there are simpler and more age-appropriate charts available for younger children. The two charts below are the exact same ones I saw countless times when I was younger. In fact, I had a French version of the second one (How are you feeling today?) on ...


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You say your daughter seems to behave like a normal child of her age (and of course this is comforting), however, this reaction to your laughing isn't entirely normal; then again, a lot of parents are not quite so sensitive to their child, so the fact that you're asking about this is really commendable, and may say something about your (very appropriate) ...


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I think your daughter is simply working incomplete information -- she has analytical ability beyond her age, but the insufficient information to base her analysis on. Ask her questions -- a lot. "Why do people need to pick a career", "How long does it take to learn". This will help you understand where the knowledge gaps are so you can fill them in. Use ...


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You may be confusing happiness or satisfaction with emotional health, the two are not the same things. Emotional health is another name for mental health, where good is simply the absence of a disorder. What you are really asking is if teaching your child sign language is likely to prevent your child from having mental health problems, the answer to which is ...


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The first thing I suggest you do is discuss with your child what they think love is. Children communicate with the vocabulary they know and an adult understanding of love is different from your child so make sure you are understanding exactly what your son is trying to communicate to you. I would also spend some time discussing why he is feeling anxious ...


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Totally normal. Don't worry about it as long as they aren't emulating sexual behaviors with one-another (if he ever engages these girls in play for example) its perfectly fine and nothing to be concerned about. They are new to figuring out love outside of family and what it all means and he is just "practicing" the idea of love. My daughter once asked her ...


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Being protective like this is completely normal. With my first child, I tried not to let anything happen to him and ran to him for every cry. I wanted nothing but the best for my baby. I now have three boys and my wife is pregnant again. The boys are always hurting themselves by falling down, running into things, fighting with each other. Children, and ...



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