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I would not spend a lot of time and effort "preparing" him - that way you risk building it up in his mind into a big scary thing. A huge part of pain perception is to do with psychological state and expectations of pain - if you expect something to hurt, it will hurt more than if you don't. So: don't mention it until the day, or even until you're setting ...


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First off, the doctor must wash his/her hands after entering the room, period. The doctor opened the door with his hand, right? That's a (major) point of contagion right there. Unless you're in some futuristic practice with automatic doors, I would never excuse the doctor from not washing post-entering the room. Second, unfortunately, doctor handwashing ...


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My wife had her first doctor's appointment and it took exactly 15 minutes. Is that ok? It depends on a lot of factors. The first pre-natal visit (that's what they're called) with an obstetrician should be at least half an hour long, unless your wife saw a trained associate of the obstetrician before that visit, who gathered all the information common ...


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In addition to the all ready fabulous suggestions given above, I just wanted to add this: Whatever tests are run, scans are taken, etc., make sure you get copies for yourself and keep them in an organized place (like a notebook), and anytime you visit a new doctor (or even an old one), take them with you. Shuffling information and data between doctors ...


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Seek alternate specialists If you've lost confidence in your health care professionals, or if they've dismissed you despite clear signs of a health issue, I'd advise you to seek another health care professional. Get a second, third, or a fourth opinion. There is little else you can do - if a doctor has ran every test, done everything he believes he can to ...


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The key to lessening pain of a vaccination is not to tense up your muscles. I had my kids practice "make your arm soft" and poke them with my finger. It's easy to demonstrate that a simple finger poke hurts more on a tense arm than a soft one. Then just as the doctor or nurse approaches their arm with the needle, remind them "make your arm soft" and it ...


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First, you need to calm down about it yourself. Children cue off their parents' reactions. If you're freaked out, he will be too. The mildest disease is 100 times worse than a shot. Second, don't lie about what it will be like, or else every time you go to a doctor he will expect the worst. Tell him the facts without either sensationalizing or ...


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Our youngest was "diagnosed" ADD. Turns out he just has a different learning style and is a little boy whose soul needs motion to be happy. So we pulled him from school and he crushes everything he does. That is as long as he can bounce and be upside-down. He does most of his math in his head while bouncing on a trampoline. Point: Be very careful about the ...


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When I need an annual flu shot or other vaccination, I like to bring my son with me (schedule permitting) so he can watch. Seeing me go through it, understand that we all have to do it, and that it's not a big deal or especially painful, makes it less of an anxiety when he needs to have one himself. We also discussed often (even at age 4) the purpose of ...


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We always start and end with personal recommendations, but you're right that doing so can be difficult to get for specialities. Read their biography on the hospital web site. How does it compare to their peers on the same staff? Does your pediatrician know the other doc, or just their reputation? Can your pediatrician comment on the facility as a whole? ...


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Medication noncompliance is an issue with about 70% of schizophrenic patients. There are a number of reasons for this, including: Lack of awareness (I'm not sick, so why should I take medication?). This is biological. Denial (patient knows he is sick but refuses to believe it). This is psychological. Side effects which doctors often underestimate. ...


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It's important that your doctor wash their hands, but less important than you might think. As a health care provider, I wash my hands before examining every patient, but it's out of respect for the patient's feelings, not because my hands are particularly dirty (I wash my hands after every patient encounter. I'm unlikely to bring you that patient's germs.) ...


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If doctors take issue with being asked to wash hands, patients are not to feel responsible for hurting their feelings as long as they ask in a respectful way. It's the patient's right. A little awkward discussion in the room is far less harmful than an infection. Most doctors will be happy to wash up. They know it's part of their job. If they are ...


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There's a push towards diagnosing children earlier, but medication can be problematic so the recommendation is usually to start with parent training and behavior modification programs. ADHD among preschoolers CHADD is an advocacy group for ADHD and they provide a page with resources for finding a doctor. (Their website provides a lot of general info as ...


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I say, in a clear firm tone "please can you wash your hands before continuing?" If I wanted to be delicate I would say "Sorry, but I didn't see you wash your hands. Would you mind doing so before you continue? Thanks." In England it is always acceptable to remind clinicians about hand hygiene and patients are encouraged to do so. I would raise a ...


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I definitely concur with getting a second or third opinion. On the personal side, it sounds like a support group (beyond just Parenting at StackExchange) could be really beneficial. I would start with family and close friends for their support. But even with the best of intentions, they may not understand what you are going through. Most communities have ...


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I would ask in a curious, not attacking way something like : "Don't you need to use these?" (pointing at the sanitizer) "I always thought doctors offices were really picky about those..."


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We see LOTS of specialists for our kids (ENTs, Allergist, Podiatrist, and Pediatric ophthalmologist). There are a few things we've figured out that work for us personally as we've evaluated out options. 1). How long is your child going to need to see this doctor? We were less selective about the doc who put in our daughter's ear tubes who was only going ...


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I'm just a parent, and only a husband at that, but here it is: Unfortunately doctors schedule patients for 10 to 15 minutes at the most, so the time they are with you will average around that. Some patients won't have questions, and others will need more time, so it tends to average out and works in general, so I'd say that 10-15 minutes is normal for an ...


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As a (formerly) practicing Ob/Gyn, my initial ob visits typically included the mom-to-be and anyone she cared to bring into the room, realizing some personal questions would be asked. The usual appointment time was about 40 minutes, less for some, more for others. Please realize, this was a couple years ago before managed care became so managed. I generally ...


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According to the most recent DSM guide used to assist physicians with diagnosis, ADD is no longer the correct term for the disorder; it is now considered to be a subtype of ADHD. So what the OP addresses is in fact ADHD. All afflicted individuals share a core set of just a few of the known symptoms. The presence of the other ancillary symptoms vary in ...


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Maybe try talking to him about being brave and having courage. How he's a big boy now and he can be very brave, like a super hero that he may like. Do not make a big deal of the vaccinations, say it's 3 pinches, it will pinch for a little bit and it will be over soon. Reassure him that you'll be there with him and will hold him tight. Then you could ...


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Don't feel bad, I had a doctors appointment today at 1 and left at 3:15. Oh no, not because they cared oh so much about me, but because I'm pretty sure the doctor was running really late. He's pretty rude too.. so I guess you just have to pick and choose your docs, and if you want to get something out of them, stop them and ask. Or else they'll just move ...


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Different doctors are different. Some really enjoy the prenatal stuff and make a big deal out of it. Others prefer to leave that to doulas or birthing classes, and got into the profession for other reasons. They assume if you have questions or concerns you will bring them up. You may have gotten a doctor on that end of the spectrum. Keep in mind, ...


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If you trust your current pediatrician, they can likely give you good referrals to local specialists. IMO the best recommendations come from health care professionals, particularly when they are not "working" for you. Do you have any friends or family members who are nurses or doctors? Ask them who they would go to; even if they don't know the specialists ...


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You could try asking on Facebook. I've found a few good doctors that way, although it may not work as well for a less common specialty. There are also usually Mom forums in the bigger cities where you can ask for recommendations of doctors.



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