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The most effective solution I've tried has also typically taken the longest to implement. For that reason I don't really feel like it's the answer I'm seeking, but for completeness I want to submit it for review. Part of the criteria for them getting my attention, or assistance for conflict resolution is to prove to me that they took appropriate steps on ...


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I've never punished my kids for not getting along but I have gotten angry with one or another for improper behavior (e.g. over-reacting, escalating too far, endless teasing just for the fun the torture, etc.). I just explain, though, in a calm and normal voice why the behavior is incorrect. In general, I only break in if one is obviously hurt or really ...


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I can't believe anyone still thinks it is acceptable to hit children. Subjecting children to violence is clearly wrong and is always abuse. Hitting your child is as abusive as hitting your spouse -- perhaps worse because a child has less ability to escape the violence. Beating children is something that mostly comes from extremist Christian sects. A ...


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To keep this very simple: Corporal punishment, by definition (in the US), is not abuse. Corporal punishment is the intentional infliction of physical punishment that may cause pain or discomfort, but not injury or impairment, upon an individual. Physical or mental child abuse, on the other hand, inflicts injury, impairment, or lasting harm upon a child. I ...


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First of all, let me say I'm not a parent, nor do I plan to be one anytime soon. But as a child of two people, one of whom (Mother) applies corporal punishment and the other of whom (Father) does not apply it, I think I am at least slightly qualified to speak (write?) on the subject. My mom spanks my sisters (as she did me) when they break serious rules ...


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Here in the UK that would be an assault punishable with up to 5 years in jail. In Britain, mild smacking is permitted under a "reasonable chastisement'' defence against common assault. The 2004 Children’s Act clarified the defence by making any hitting that causes bruising, swelling, cuts, grazes or scratches punishable with up to five years in ...


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It would seem that the answer to your question is.. it depends. There have been studies done, in fact a study on studies.. a meta-study (how fitting for our current environment) on corporal punishment as an effective means of discipline. This link is to the summary of the meta-study. The other (minimal) research I've done shows that corporal punishment in ...


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When my 3yo elder daughter or her 15mo younger sister do that, they get one warning ("No! Don't hit!"), and if they proceed to a second slap or hit the reaction is an immediate, firm "No! Time-out!", picking her up and putting her in her crib for 15 minutes (or until she stops screaming in frustration and calms down, and if that transitions to naptime then ...


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I'm not sure this should be an answer instead of a comment on Christine Gordon's answer, but alas I have only 26 reputation at this point. I have an 8 year old daughter who is extremely motivated to her own agenda, and a 5 year old son that struggles with getting mad quite often. I've found timeouts, lectures, (most) rewards, and punishments to be ...


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Welcome to your child having a mind of his own, but not so much in terms of empathy. This will be the next several years of your life, to some extent. The best thing to do in my experience is to let him know that he's hurt you, and that if he does it again you'll have to put him down for a minute so that he doesn't keep hitting you. It won't always help ...


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Bothersome But Normal OK, the good news first - this is totally normal. I've seen this in my kids and I've seen this in other people's kids. Lots. If this is the only indication of possible ADD/ADHD then I don't think you have anything to worry about (particularly as the doctor says they're ok). You're In Control So the first thing is to realise that you ...


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One thing I know with my kids and I've taken professional advice on this is that you have to get down to their level. Standing up and raising your voice is quite intimidating and distancing, however if you get on their level and get in their world (in a nice way!) you will find they are much more amenable to not only listening to you at that point but at ...


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Is it better that he is 'vaping' (smoking requires burning) an e-cig or smoking a real cig as many kids have done in previous generations. Caffine is as addictive and as bad for you as small amounts of nicotine yet is socially acceptable and consumed daily by 99% of the population. If you are really concerned then maybe you should try to presenting some ...


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Yes, you are absolutely correct,Marinov.I often see parents who just hit their kids just because they didn't score well in academics, or watched t.v. for an extra 2 hours, or well, dropped icecream on the carpet. I believe it's not the child who is doing anything wrong, its just their own distress that makes them take it out on their kids. Slowly an ...


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I suggest that you provide her with lots of leggings to wear under her short skirts. Leggings are very trendy now, and wearing a short skirt over them gives the look that is "in" right now, but the body is better covered. I've seen this look from some young teens I know, and it allows them to remain stylish, while maintaining a certain level of modesty. I ...


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Oy, tough one. I can tell it's a real tightwire; it sounds like you would just rather give in if for no other reason than to get some respite but you know that's counterproductive. Here's what I like to: "Honey, if you eat that cookie right now, it will taste good and your tummy will feel happy. BUT!! Then the sugar will get all over your teeth and you'll ...


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You could also try to find other kids or parents who have an inspirating power over your kid, and arrange that your kid does his homework together with this influencing person. Until I was 17 I HATED studying. Five minutes of it and I would be going crazy, but somehow a cousin of mine offered himself to study with me. He just sit there near me and told me ...



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