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It appears there has been a complete erosion of respect, on both sides of this relationship. I highly recommend seeking outside, trained (be it pastoral care or professional) assistance in rebuilding a foundation of trust & respect. 13 is tough age to start this process, but it is doable. It will take time. I also suggest learning collaborative ...


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Whatever you are doing is clearly not working. Doing more of the same will give more of the same result. If you have already taken everything from your daughter then she now has nothing to lose; this puts you in a position of weakness and makes the situation even more difficult. Perhaps what you need to a "reset" in your relationship with your daughters. ...


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Raising a child is not a game of chess. There is not a "next move." When I was 12 was the last time I was spanked. It was by my mother. I couldn't help but laugh at her attempt. My very strong timber-faller stepdad then assaulted me by kicking and punching me. Do you know what lesson I learned? Despise him. 25 years later, that is the sum of my memory ...


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This seems very similar to our experience with our son. The behaviour showed up in kindergarten (age 4) and continued in first year of school (prep). In short, the issues diagnosed and dealt with so far are: tiredness due to sleep apnea (surgury) partial deafness due to blocked Eustachian tubes (grommets) Sensory seeking (OT, chewing-gum) Sensory ...


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Young boys at that age are actually discovering attraction, it seems normal, but the child does need a male advice,,,If there is no father around, a sensible uncle, teacher or close friend of the famiy can help. The most important issue is to point out the difference in LIKING a girl and LOVING her. Secondly, exlplain the fact that we will have many ...


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So far your well-meaning efforts have been directed towards the symptom: his misbehaving. Addressing the symptom, however, will not resolve the underlying cause. From this rather short narrative (in terms of a psychoanalysis), it is simply not possible to determine the underlying cause. However, consider these points: You said that your child is doing ...


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The main reason she's on Facebook and Tumblr is to interact with her friends. How often do you have people over, or take her to visit her friends? Have you started teaching her to drive? Does she have any extracurricular activities where she gets to see friends? Also, complaining isn't going to improve her grades. Just make her associate you with annoying ...


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Why do you want her to wear skirts of a certain length? That's very important for you to examine in this. You need to explain it to her (probably yet again) and then ask her what she thinks of your reasons and discuss why she feel they're not valid. She's 15, not 5 and should be able to articulate her thoughts or at least should start practicing doing so. ...


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Personally, I would definitely try to enforce the 'No English' rule at home, although realistically, I'm not sure you will be able to keep it for very long. I'll also second what JPmiaou wrote about using every chance to expose them to the minority languages, and taking comfort in the idea that they won't forget what they learn, even if they one day decide ...


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This is a variant of the "both parents speak the minority language" model of bilingual childrearing, except with two minority languages, one for each parent. My sister and I grew up in the bilingual version, and I think its success definitely depended on the strict No Majority Language In The House rule that our parents enforced. Our friends from similarly ...


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What worked with my daughter... 1) In no uncertain terms, I was very disgusted by the eating. Repeatedly and consistently. Nothing about the person, but the act itself. 2) Every chance I get, I offer her a nose picking to eat. Ask her why she won't eat everyone's nose pickings. If that seems gross then keep offering until that decision sticks and gets ...


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No research (sorry!) but personal experience: I'd like to suggest that you take into account whether they are likely to need your languages (Fin/Jap) outside of your home? For instance, if you're in Britain, then knowing Finnish is a neat gimmick but hardly useful - unless you frequently visit (or have visitors from) Finland. Same for Japanese, of course. ...


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If the picking is specifically related to the nostrils feeling dry + itchy, I would recommend trying to apply Aquaphor or other moisturizer. It will both help the condition and make the idea of picking less appealing (getting sticky ointment on the picker's finger). This simple emphasis has helped break cycles of picking -> nosebleed -> scabbing -> ...


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Get some really short skirts for yourself and muscle shirts for your husband. If wearing that at home doesn't work, try the nuclear option and wear it to pick her up at school. One more serious point that wasn't clear from your question, but that you've probably addressed when you talked to her: "Our rules" is not a good argument, but you should explain ...



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