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A friend of mine had this problem with her daughter. They solved it (though it took a while) by pretending her daughter was invisible when she was misbehaving. They remarked aloud that Sally was so loud they had to turn off their "Sally ears and eyes". In order to become visible again, she had to ask politely if she could be visible. It sounds silly, but ...


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Sounds like you and your husband aren't providing consistent consequences for her actions. You try to discipline her. Your husband doesn't do anything (and it sounds like he might be undermining you). You and your husband need to sit down and figure out what the consequences should be when your daughter misbehaves. Your daughter wants what most everyone ...


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I don't have a wholesale solution but two thoughts I would like to contribute: a) Friedrich Wilhelm August Fröbel, who was a student of Pestalozzi said »education is example and love – that's it« (»Erziehung ist Beispiel und Liebe – sonst nichts.«). I try to put this before all rules and consequences and keep asking myself: do I show enough love and do I ...


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Well, you have your house rules, and Grandma has her house rules, and they're not the same. You can't expect your boys to obey the rules of one house while they are in another. Your big mistake is, you shouldn't be teaching the boys house rules at all. You should be teaching them life rules. Eight and nine year old boys should not be polite to adults, ...


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I'm going to concentrate on the question in the title. I cringe a bit when I hear people say "have you been good?" or "be a good boy for your mummy". It's the same thing. So is it helpful to call a child "naughty" or "good"? How is it helpful? What will it achieve? Isn't it superfluous anyway? For younger children in particular, I think the concept ...


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There is about a 99% chance she is being dramatic. Sibling rivalry can be intense. However, this needs to come before the attention of a parent or trusted adult. It is bullying--big time. On the 1% chance that you feel your safety is truly threatened, and a parent is not being helpful, you might call the authorities (police). You just described the legal ...


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I was a 13 year old kid with drug and alcohol problems. I am now 21 and in the receiving process. It was hard for me because my mother was lenient and my father wouldn't have anything to do with it. This indeed is an extremely tough topic. First it comes from who he is around. Peer pressure is either horrible or very good. His mind set and point of view are ...


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This is not going to be a complete answer, because you have not given much detail (what you've tried, how he gets the substances, how he's gotten around it and why, etc.) I'll modify the answer when additional information becomes available. I'll assume it's as bad as you say, and you've tried grounding, taking away privileges, etc., and nothing has worked. ...



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