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I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing problems with your child. I don't think that these are the traits of ODD, it actually sounds like your kid could be suffering from the downs (down syndrome). Take a look at these traits: Understanding Down Syndrome -- Signs At what age did he learn to speak / communicate? The issue may not be with him not respecting ...


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When I read your first paragraph, I thought, "yep, that's my little one, too." However, I was very surprised to see how quickly he's labeled ODD. I never thought my child had ODD. I thought she was just being an energetic young child, doing everything she could to explore the world, including finding out what breaks, what triggers mom+dad, what limits she ...


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TL;DR: 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2–12 by Thomas W. Phelan Ah, the joys of parenting. You haven't said anything about if he has siblings, and if so, where is he in birth order, and how he treats them. Please allow me to go on a bit about ODD since it sounds like a possibility. ODD kids often: are very bright, get angry, argue with ...


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I'd like to point out what I think (perhaps wrongly) should be the distinction between punishment and simply taking steps to repair the damage you have done. Punishment should punish bad behavior (however the parent defines it). It seems to me that doing something involuntarily is by any reasonable definition not bad behavior, so is outside the realm of ...


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Please look into buying a book called 123 Magic. I can't praise this book highly enough. One of the things it allows for is to provide consequences without engaging in any arguments with the child - basically allowing you to disengage in useless debate/discussions about bad behavior. Please see this answer for more details on the method and it's advantages. ...


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My son was in a very similar situation two years ago. In addition to my follow up answer, I would like to add that the main thing we discovered is there was almost nothing we could do at home about his behavior at school. We offered everything from spectacular rewards down to harsh punishments for a year, to little avail. He stopped taking his frustration ...


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Poor growth, constipation and irritability could point to Celiac disease. It sometimes takes years to reach a level of advancement where it can be detected in blood tests. Even if he has tested negative in the past, it may be worth requesting at each yearly check up. It took over a decade for my diagnosis, because my doctors were busy trying to treat each ...


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I exhibited similar behaviour at around the same age and my mum discovered the problem was related to food additives which at the time were in everything imaginable (and quite a lot of stuff you didn't expect like peas). We have the E-Numbers system here (UK) which classifies food additives and labelling laws which state they must be listed where used. ...


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The entire family is suffering here; you have my sympathy. Raising a temperamental child is difficult, but you can change things. This has been going on for a long time now, and it will be very difficult to correct the dynamics without a lot of help and support. I have a few recommendations, but you might need professional help from a family therapist if you ...


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It's great that you are discussing behavior and offering rewards, but at his age, the consequence for his actions needs to be immediate or he will not adjust his behavior. Have you ever heard of "Love and Logic"? It is a parenting program that I've found very useful with my own temper-prone child. Here are the basics: Understand that children learn how to ...


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This is still getting views, so I thought I would post my own follow-up answer. In retrospect, it was quite obvious that his behavior issues were much more frequent than most children. Rather than adjusting to the rules and eventually settling in like his classmates, our son's behavior issues at school increased in severity and frequency. A year later, he ...


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It looks like you have 2 issues: 1) Food 2) Behavior I think it might be helpful for you to separate the 2 issues in your mind and in you actions. Maybe you can work on one at a time? 1) For the food issue, does his pediatrician say he is not growing as he needs to? If not, then every recommendation I have heard says to let kids be in charge of how ...


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Immediate consequences are important. I stop right where we are. Sit on the floor and tell them my lap is your time out chair. You may have to move to the side of the aisle in the store. so people don't trip over you.



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