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There's no point discussing "good parenting" with a child. Actually there's no point discussing it at all with anybody. There will be (are) a lot of occasions in which your child will be exposed to different discipline levels or rules than the ones you set at home. Was it for stronger or weaker discipline (they are probably allowed more at home than they ...


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Good discipline for me is based on trust and commonly agreed upon system that has been set up with goals that the child has communicated that it wants to get. Not a fear based discipline that silences the participation of the kid in creating the structure. To do this the personal rapport must be based on personal bonding. I is harder to do bonding with a kid ...


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First: all people are different and have different needs. Do not use the needs of one person to determine the needs of another. What is going on in your child's mind and emotions is unique to her. Some may tell you that you are being manipulated, but I would say that child needs a lot of touch, and close connections with her parents especially before going ...


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I agree with the previous answers in that you may not k ow the whole story (based on your short question), but I disagree that it's ever ok to tell a child they have no reason to cry. A child doesn't understand the difference between "this doesn't warrant such an emotional response" and "you're not allowed to cry over this". I always cringe when I hear ...


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I certainly agree that it is wrong to tell a child (or an adult, for that matter) that the only legitimate reason to cry is if they have suffered physical injury. On the other hand, your brief account above doesn't necessarily tell the whole story. I don't know if you know the whole story. Did you just overhear a snippet of a conversation in passing? Or ...


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There's a difference between an emotion and its expression. Crying in children is a social signal, "I need someone urgently to fix my problem." Parents who tell their children not to cry about something aren't telling them it's not okay to feel that emotion, they are telling them, "This is not something that requires the urgent degree of other people's ...


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My seven-year old (boy) is the same --and I was the exact same myself as a kid. My biggest piece of advice would be to not do the second dinner. A full stomach makes it harder to sleep, and no child who gets three meals a day is starving. For my son (and myself) plenty of exercise is a huge key to good sleep, preferably throughout the day, but right before ...


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One of the best way to avoid always answering "no" is to not ask yes/no questions. Ask open-ended questions. "Do you want to wear these shoes or those shoes today?" "Do you want broccoli or green beans with your pork chops?" "Do you want to brush your teeth before or after your bath?" It still gives her the freedom to choose and exert independence, but ...


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Since no one answeres, I'll give it a shot :) It's hard to be "rational" with a young kid during conflict. Give her choices (we are going to the park like you asked, red or green shoes?) If she knows feeling word use it instead of being "rational" (I'm disapointed/frustrated that you didn't put your shoes, I'll have to do it for you) This is important, ...



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