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Read a bedtime story. A bedtime story winds him down and can be useful for talking through some special good or bad events/behaviours of the day. Our toddler would just rip the pages out if we tried now :-) but soon we want to begin this. I'd place it after the bathroom, just before lights out. I think I'd prefer to put him in his bed after reading, to ...


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3 years old is a prime time for children to assert their independence, developmentally they understand they are separate entities from everyone else. With some kids, choices are key. Many are extremely motivated to do something as long as it is in their own way. I would recommend that you don't allow her to decide for herself, but give her meaningful ...


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Same time every day. Whatever ritual the parents choose, it should start at the same time every day. It might take longer to complete on some days, but a fixed starting time helps create a solid routine. This starting time should be respected whenever possible, also on evenings when special events are happening (parties, guests visit, etc.).


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Putting toys away. This is one neat thing we've built into our bedtime routine. Even at 12 months of age, our child already knew that the toys are meant to be put away at the end of the day. The toys sleep in bins at night, and the bins have their own place as well. By starting this particular habit very early, we've managed to get a very tidy living room ...


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Giving some freedom won't hurt. But make sure you are confortable with whatever she comes up. Preferably it shouldn't be her deciding, you should come up with an "evening plan" together. A good trick is to discuss the problem, reach a consensus, and write down what you decided together on a sheet of paper, then hang the sheet somewhere visible. She can't ...


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Talk about the day One part of our evening routine is talk about our days: We started with that habit at the earliest days. We told our baby than what he did all day long. Later we could ask specifically for some events that he remembered. (E.g. "Who did we visit today?" — "Grandma." — "Yes right...".) By now we established a routine that he and I take ...


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Brushing Teeth If you want your toddler to grow up having good dental hygiene, its best to cement the habit now. Therefore, as soon as they have teeth to brush, you should include brushing teeth in the bedtime routine. What works for us best is after bath, but before books. Every family will have to determine where teeth brushing fits into their evening ...


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Give The Child A Bath Bath time prior to bedtime is an important part of the ritual, ensuring your child can feel clean and comfortable as they settle down to sleep. If they play in the bath, that's OK as they'll get rid of any excess energy before the next part of the bedtime ritual. If the bath calms them down, that's OK too (since the whole point of ...


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Same order every day. This should really be a no-brainer. The steps that the bedtime ritual consists of should be done in the same order every day.


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No bottles in bed. We have had a firm rule in our house that bottles and sippy cups are NEVER allowed in their cribs. I know too many kids who have to have a bottle of milk in order to fall asleep at night.


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Avoid Stimulai When Kids Are In Bed This may sound like a no brainer, but when you tuck your kids in and turn out the light try to avoid any kind of stimulai thereafter, such as singing lullabies, touching them, talking to them, etc. This will only prolong the sleep process. When my children would have trouble going down, or call out to us in the middle ...


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I was always a morning riser myself, but my daughter and husband are definitely NOT! What I did was to create a morning routine for her in music. The first song is "here comes the sun" by the Beatles and the next is "I got the sun in the morning and the moon at night." The music itself doesn't always wake her, so I'll go in and give her a kiss on the ...


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Keeping the bedroom for sleeping. Bedrooms are for beds and beds are for sleeping in. All that we keep in our boys bedroom are their beds and clothes. I plan to keep it that way, as much as possible, as they get older. Our goal is that once they go into their room it is for personal quiet time and sleeping. Yes it means that their toys are all over the ...


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First off, what you're describing is common even for families with similar attitudes. Young children have a tough time dealing with changes, and having to sleep in an unusual bed or sleeping arrangement is hard. Your baby will probably have trouble even if the two kids were perfectly normal: it's the change in habits that does it. I certainly would expect ...


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The only harm that might come of allowing your child to choose when to get ready for bed is that they might not get enough sleep, and they might develop poor sleep habits. As long as you place a reasonable limit to how late she can choose so she gets plenty of sleep at night, then there's no reason you can't let her choose. In my experience, however, ...


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Wake up earlier. This will probably mean moving the child's bedtime earlier as well; the difference between a 4yo who's slept 11 hours vs. 12 hours is amazing. I've fought the early-morning-get-everybody-ready battle as well, and the best tactic I have is to get yourself ready, then get them ready. My kids definitely have their own pace, and can only be ...


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The idea here is not to teach him to do what you tell him the first time .. that gets old fast, for both of you. The idea is to teach him to do what needs to be done without having to be told. He is old enough for that. First, rise early enough that the morning routine is not hurried. Suck it up. As it is now, you are setting yourselves up to fail. The ...


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Try to keep it simple and fairly quick. The whole evening should not be consumed by the bedtime routine. We have a set time that we aim for, sometimes we head upstairs a little earlier or later depending on the day. We do similar things in a similar order so our children know what to expect. Sometimes we read a chapter in a book or have them choose a ...


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If you are asking, "Is a disrupted sleep schedule harmful to my 1 month old?", the answer is no. Sleep is important to newborns, and they will sleep when it's necessary. Babies in utero are attuned to a mother's circadian rhythms, due in part to maternal hormones (cortisol and melatonin both pass through the placenta), maternal activity and other ...


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Include time off as part of bedtime One of the most effective tools my parents used with us when growing up, especially as we were entering the teenage years, was a 30 minute "self time" or "meditation time" added before the "lights out" "must be asleep now" bed time. This was time that I we were expected to spend in bed, without TV/video-games or talking ...


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First of all, why are you making him take piano? Do you feel he'll gain something from it? Is he naturally good at it, so you want to foster that in him? Are you trying to make him learn it, because that's what you feel society expects? Are you doing it because it's something you enjoy and want to pass that on to him? Additionally, why are you being his ...


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Keep in mind, your nieces' routines are being disrupted as well, and their behavior isn't quite normal in this situation either. We were in similar situations when our children were younger. What happened with us was no one was very happy with the situation, but no one wanted to admit they didn't want to fill every possible waking moment with family ...


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Toddlers can be in the car for quite a long time, there's no set guideline - it depends on the child. As for routines that also depends on the child. I think what's happening is that your child is getting bored of long car trips. 3-5 hours is a long time for a child to be sitting without toys or entertainment. I'd suggest getting him some car friendly ...


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I know of no other solution than just chugging along in your daylight-adjusted normal daily routine, as near to your normal hours as you can manage, and let the child adjust on his own. He probably has a bit of variance in his routine anyway (maybe half an hour?), so you can treat this as a variance too, albeit perhaps a little bigger. Very small children ...


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Being a parent, who happens to be a piano teacher, who happens to also teach my 2 daughters piano..... I would find out why he doesn't want to practice. Is there something he'd rather be doing at that time? Have him help you come up with a time that works for him. One of my students practices before breakfast-seems early to me-but, it's what works out ...


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This year what we did was take our kids out on a day trip where we ran them ragged. We took them to a park with a big hill and let them run and play as much as they wanted to. We kept them up a half hour past their normal bedtime by getting home a bit later and going through their normal evening routine a half hour later. They were so tired that they ...


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Don't engage in any activity after they are in bed I started this when my son was 6 months. If he would not sleep easily, we just used to turn out the lights and lie there as if we were asleep. Now he know (10 mo) that lights out means time to sleep and it doesn't take more than 15 mins of silence :)


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Don't watch an exciting/thrilling/scary movie before bedtime It's sometimes hard to gauge which movie would keep the children up, but in our experience, if it gets them excited enough to jump about when they're watching it, best have some wind-down time before bedtime.


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The following things motivate my 8-year old boy to practice the piano (Not in any particular order): The love of a song. The possibility to impress on his peers (I guess girls, but he would never admit it). The posibility of me learning a piece, or part of a piece faster or better than him. What I'll do when he gets stuck and demotivated is try to learn ...


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It sounds like the other parents are disregarding your interests and concerns in favor of their own preferred style and interests. Your examples of their statements are anything but respectful or considerate. I could accept that for an afternoon visit, but I'd not be happy with that arrangement during a multi-day family get-together. It's not about your ...



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