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When we were heading towards a diagnosis for our eldest son (in the UK as well) one of the things we did was to go private for an audiology test so we could rule that out. We needed this step fast to get the autism statement moving before school started so we could get special needs assistance in place. Of course we were lucky to be in a position to afford ...


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You're not losing your "one remaining brain cell". You are absolutely right in wanting the child tested for anything and everything, and with the signs you discuss, I have no idea why your requests aren't being carried out. Regardless of what exactly is going on with your child, a parent's feeling that something is not right is one of the most reliable ...


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I read what your ex is saying very differently than you do. As a result my advice is going to be a little different from the other answers. You quote her as saying: If you're not able or willing to split these non-covered expenses, I may have to reconsider taking her And then you call this a “you're unwilling to pay” tactic. I want to pull you back ...


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DD, could he be trying to express a feeling that you don't have a parent's right to discipline him? That would explain the apparent resentment he's showing. It seems like you and his mum might - consciously or subconsciously - share that feeling, as you say that it's almost always his mum that disciplines him. I'd suggest that you and his mum sit down ...


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I would try not to read too much into it. Unwilling runs a pretty wide gamut, from "it's no problem but I just don't feel like it" all the way to "I could swing it, but it would be a pretty large sacrifice, and I don't think the benefits outweigh the costs in this particular case." This kind of thing is easy to misconstrue in written communication. I'd ...


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I want to tell my ex to stop using that kind of language when discussing these issues with me, but I don't know if this is a battle not worth fighting. If wishes were horses, beggars would ride. I presume you got divorced for a reason, possibly related to an inability to change a behavior or a lack of support, communication or understanding, etc. Let ...


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If he's breaking a toy by doing something on the wild side, he's probably out of control at that point, I'm guessing. Out of control emotionally, that is. This isn't particularly surprising for a seven year old; it's more common in my kids' age (2 and 3) but seven year olds still sometimes get out of control. When you're out of control, and then something ...


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It's fairly simple why he does it: kids don't like getting into trouble, and his avoidance method works because it delays his consequence and there is no additional consequence for running away. Kids will adjust their behavior to fit the permissiveness of the adult in charge. Do you remember in school there would be some classes where the students would ...


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Does he even deserve an email from her saying that they've grown apart as friends before she blocks him? I don't think it's the right question to ask in this circumstance. People's decisions of what to give to others aren't supposed to be based on rational considerations of what the recipients "deserve". And I don't think a "termination of relations" ...


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This is very long. I apologize, but the subject is complex and I don't want to leave necessary details out. Before you mentioned being his step-father, I knew why he was running away: He feels provoked. (I just didn't know what he was being provoked by.) The emotional stress of being told what to do by you is so offensive to him that he has no choice but to ...


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In situations like this I tend to let it go and focus on something else. Disciplining is easier when he accepts it, while he is seemingly running away from. Disciplining comes easier when he has more respect for you, then he will accept it more. Respect must be deserved in a personal relationship. I would try showing interest in what he is doing before a ...


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This guy's bad news. The idea "to block his number, email address and social media profiles" is absolutely the right thing to do. "Considerate" is a good attribute to have, but not at all times and all places. You and your daughter are being very generous to send the young man one last email, and give him one last chance. The odds that he'll take it appear ...


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My teenager is unfortunately much less interested in Mama's opinions about such things than yours is! So, since I don't get to give much advice at home to anyone, here goes! It can be hurtful to cut someone off completely without any warning. This could be especially painful and awkward given the proximity of your houses. If your daughter hasn't already ...


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We can't possibly comment on the boy's mental fitness. We don't know him; you do. I don't think you need to concentrate on his diagnosis or speculate about what psychoactive substances he may be using; you don't need help to label his behavior (which is at least insensitive and in one case crass); you only need to decide how you want to proceed. Plenty of ...


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I say speak to his parents and wash your hands of it. If this is atypical behavior something maybe wrong. Someone said the only predictable thing about addicts is they're unpredictable. If he's mental or on drugs his parents can probably help. He's not your responsibility. He upset your daughter and she can stop talking to someone who keeps hurting her. It ...



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