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The words "efficient" and "toddler" don't really go together. Mostly, you just have to accept that things like getting dressed will take a lot longer while they are learning, and plan time in your schedule for it*. There are a few tricks that can make it a little easier, though. Have one parent hold the child still and assist while the other does the ...


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Being naked is fun...for children. It can be very freeing. However, I understand your concern. I think most children go through some period of this desire (my children often want to sleep naked). There is nothing wrong with a child being naked but this must have limits. I taught my children about private areas very early and I would insist that your ...


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Certainly people lived and existed before clothes were invented, so to some extent one could claim we don't "need" clothes. However clothes, especially for tiny babies, serve purposes other than warmth: absorbency. Babies don't just leak from the diaper area: they drool, spit up, and just like us, they sweat. Most baby-specific clothes are very absorbent ...


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He has learned that if he doesn't get dressed he gets rewarded with candy. One thing I've learned is never to reward children for doing something basic that they should be doing anyway, otherwise they will expect a reward every time they do it. So: Give lots of extra time to get kids dressed. When planning I always leave 20 minutes for that with my 3 year ...


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It is perfectly normal - in our garden in the summer my kids were still running round naked at 6 or 7 years old, but by that age they have enough personal modesty that they put clothes back on if we have visitors. At 1 1/2, they just don't have that sense of modesty so you have to find a way of being their modesty filter for them, without making them feel ...


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Kids are all different. I'd be surprised if a 2yo were completely dressing/undressing him/her-self all the time. I'd be surprised if a 6yo were not doing so. If you want to encourage self-dressing, buy the easiest-to-use clothes possible: velcro shoes, elastic pants, shirts that button or snap rather than pull over the head.


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As HedgeMage said, all kids are different, but you can look here: http://www.babycenter.com/0_toddler-milestone-self-care_6503.bc for general idea. It says there that at yours age child should already be able to take off his clothes, but only after 3 or even 4 he will be able to get dressed all by himself.


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Whether it causes resentment or not depends on how much say the child has in the matter. Kids often borrow their older sibling's clothing on their own. A lot of handing down happens even without parental intervention, as one child starts to grow out of something, they are more and more willing to lend it to their younger sibling, until it ends up de facto ...


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Although it is perfectly normal, if it continues and spreads to other tactile issues, I would watch it closely. There are some issues, such as ASD that can be indicated by tactile issues. I think we all have things that we don't like touching - sticky, dirty, itchy, etc. but if there is an excessive amount of issues like that in addition to wanting to be ...


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There are many different levels of motor skills, body awareness/schema, and visual motor perceptual skills required for the various aspects of undressing/dressing. Refining all of these skills may not be completed until 3-4 years of age. However, I do have a suggestion for encouraging her "next step" in each task. In therapy, we use "backward chaining" to ...


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In my experience, we had stages roughly like this: 12 months: Put arms through sleeves. Prior to this I began by puting shirt over neck, then positioned the hand in the arm hole, and then getting him to move his arm through the sleeve. That moved into him finding the arm holes mostly on his own by 12-15 months. That's probably the single biggest time ...


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The reasoning behind the wrapping is that the birth is quite an environmental change to the baby: You're safe in a nice and warm and soft womb, but suddenly this is replaced by light and air and space and hands and surfaces. Wrapping the baby gives some comfort (although not all babies like being wrapped, they enjoy their newly-won freedom). If you're in a ...


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You're focusing on the merits of planning to do laundry more frequently. He is almost certainly already aware of them. What's most likely going on is a prospective memory failure. I have the same problem, but didn't have a name for it until a few years ago. It's very difficult to understand for people with normal prospective memory. Essentially, he ...


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I don't personally subscribe to "children should be allowed to run around naked all the time" concept, though I know parents who do. Though I have had issues with getting my son out of his pajamas and into regular clothing. I started by making it a rule that the first thing we do when we get up in the morning is get dressed. I do it, my husband does it, I ...


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I agree that it can be a bother to close a onesie all the way down and find one snap left over. But it's no different than when I button up my shirt (except I wiggle less). I can think of a number of reasons why snaps are used so often: they're not a zipper. The end of a zipper can be pointy which can irritate, and the zipper itself can add just enough ...


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Toddler? One word: Smartphone. There is some great advice above, but in an emergency popping Elmo or a basketball game on a phone and handing it to the toddler can be a bailout when they are frustrated. Somewhat counterintuitively it even helps them focus on the hand that's going through a sleeve by having a big phone clenched in the other hand. We're not ...


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Be sure that you are certain about what the common factor is. It might appear to be the long vs. short but it might also be a texture thing. For a while my son would refuse to wear anything but soft clothing most of which were long like sweat pants and warm long sleeved shirts. I have to disagree with what Rory said though. I reserve such draconian measures ...


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If you don't buy long sleeved shirts and trousers he won't be able to wear them. If you want to limit what a child wears, it is easier to only give them choices which you approve of. If the trousers are wearing out, perhaps they should be thrown away and new ones not bought until the winter. For ones that aren't wearing out, hide them away during the ...


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Just adding to the chorus...clothes, for the most part, suck! Our 10 year old still will often come in the house after school and the first thing he does is strip to his underwear. Now that I work at home, even as an adult, there are many days that I'm wearing the same. ;) So, that doesn't help solve your problem, but hopefully reassures you that there ...


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I would only purchase what is needed now, for a number of reasons. The rate of a child's growth is not linear. The child might take stay at size 5 for 8 months then be at size 8 2 months later. Or the feet might not grow but the child gets taller. What you like now you (or the child) might not like in 6 months. My home had far too much kid stuff ...


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Light clothing. My daughter was born at the height of summer around here which generally averages in the mid to upper 90s degrees Fahrenheit (32+ degrees Celcius). Granted, not quite as hot as 113 degrees Fahrenheit... Onesies are your best friend. Short-sleeved onesies with no legs like these. If your baby starts to get cold, you can always throw a ...


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Based on commentary from friends of ours who are midwives and community nurses, there are two key information points here: To answer your specific question: No, those caps are just to keep the baby's head warm. They do not offer significant pressure to reshape the skull Trying to do this is unneeded, aside from exceptional cases that the hospital would ...


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I think the response is typical for kids that age. Even through the teen years, kids lack the ability to necessarily understand "why" they did something. Given that he does tuck it in when asked and without objections, I'd say just keep reminding him, and don't make a huge deal out of it. Eventually he might start doing it on his own, and if not, I suspect ...


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I'm a parent of a toddler and a preschooler, so I'm sure I don't know much about the fun specific issues of raising teenagers. Something to look forward to. However, this really doesn't sound too different from asking my three year old to clean up his toys. The question is really at its core one of three things: How do we convince him that laundry needs ...


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At that age kids like to wear different clothes - two of my kids did exactly that: they'd vanish to their room and come back in something entirely different. If he is demanding that you change his clothes for him, make it more of a game, but ask which ones he'll want for the morning and which ones for the afternoon. Distraction techniques work as well - ...


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The simple answer is that there is nothing easier (with the possible exception of velcro, but one side of velcro is scratchy so a baby might not like that, and you sometimes have to pull velcro really hard) You can work snaps with one hand, even with a wriggling child. If your worst case scenario is that you missed a snap - it's only going to add a minute. ...


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What other approaches can I try to deal with that situation? I see five general options: Take Valkyrie's approach of hacking your own footie pajamas. Make the children's room colder, to encourage them to want socks on. This doesn't strike me as a great approach, since they may simply bundle up in more blankets, rather than put on socks. Make the ...


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Really? Not much. If he doesn't "know" (or much more likely, care) about how his room looks, you can't teach him now. He's making a choice, prioritizing, and it's not a high priority to keep his clothes off of his floor. For some reason or other, he is bothered more by the thought of cleaning up than by the mess. He may also have anxiety about the prospect ...


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I found that my kids were not great at telling me when shoes were to small and I did find that they made big jumps, so I wouldn't buy all the sizes together. I also found that Target and Costco often have sales on shoes for young ones, so I wouldn't worry about not being able to find shoes when needed. I also pass down shoes through children. As they get ...


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The X months sizing system for baby clothes is far from accurate. Cloths of the same supposed size (say, all 3 months) from different manufacturers or different styles can vary dramatically in actual size. Then there's the fact that there is no standard size for a 3 month old baby. My 12 month old fits snugly in 18mo clothing. And my friend's 12mo old ...



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