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Unfortunately the specific answer to your question is "yes the law might forbid children from being out and about without supervision, but it depends on the state". I believe the section of law most applicable to this question is "child neglect", and for the most part the definitions of child neglect are left to the states. There is a very wide variety in ...


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If the babysitter does it routinely, as a job, I would ask them first what their rate was. From there you can possibly negotiate if you feel there is room for it - your situation is less demanding than the norm may be, or there is some other perk for the sitter. You may encounter sitters like I have though - they do it routinely, but have no fixed rate. ...


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I think before anything is done, you have to talk to the teacher to learn more. You need to verify that what your child is telling you is accurate. If it is, I would recommend going to the owner/operator of the daycare and asking them what their action plan is for this. At my child's daycare, there are two separate classes for each age/grade level. Perhaps ...


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To be honest, I think this one is house-by-house cultural, depending on whether the behaviour desired is understanding of right and wrong, or obeying authority figures. Spanking is traditionally a clear indicator of an Authoritarian household or organisation, where the key to discipline is obedience; understanding of the issues involved are, at most, a ...


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It depends: Most important, what did you agree to? Is there an expectation of vacation pay? What are your neighbours/friends doing? What are your country's laws? How much do you like your nanny? Is there a reason why you might want to continue paying during a vacation so that they won't look for another employer? I know of some people who pay their ...


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Most nurseries don't kick kids out for a cold or cough as long as the child does not have a fever, however if your nursery is you can take your daughter to the doctor and get a note saying she is okay to go to school. Most doctors will write a note for a child with a cold, as colds don't go away for a long time.


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This is serious. It sounds like you are dealing with a seriously disturbed child. A child who threatens to cut other children is likely to have been raised in a terrible environment and needs help (or perhaps is even beyond help, if the parents are unwilling to do anything about it). Certainly the daycare must know about it, though I'm not sure what ...


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I think, legal issues aside, that you should tell the nanny. Not because of privacy issues, but because it is more effective as a deterrent of undesired activities if it's in the open than if it's secret. You don't necessarily have to state it upfront as 'We want to watch you', however; you can put it as "We want to be able to see our kids from time to ...


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I would inform said nanny first. Like Joe said, it would act as a deterrent. Deterring or attempting to prevent a bad action by the nanny is much better than having to clean up any mess she might make with the children or the house, be it emotional distress on the children's part or an actual filthy mess in the house. While people desire everyone to have ...


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A few years ago, we interviewed for a nanny for our (then) 2 yo. We read probably 100 resumes and interviewed a couple of dozen. Firstly, my observations: Most that we saw were young women either in uni or just left. They see it as a temporary position until they get another job. Many had only had baby sitting experience before. Few were interested in food ...


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In the particular area I live, it actually seems the opposite, here it seems a very common configuration is preschool with "extended day" care options, and full-day daycares that feature a preschool curriculum, whereas preschools that are "just" preschools are harder to find. What kinds of preschools are common probably depends a lot on the demographics of ...


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Age, experience, and enthusiasm are things to consider as well. I would be willing to pay a college student far more than I would someone in high school because of the difference in maturity and life skills. Also, the fact that a college student has bills to pay would yield a higher wage. Enthusiasm is the most important though. Is the sitter going to watch ...


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I would simply wait for her to get hungry. Three hours is not so long for a child to wait to eat at that age; three year olds sometimes eat like sparrows in my experience, boys and girls alike. Though it may cause you some anxiety, try simply waiting one day for her to get hungry, instead of giving in after three hours; I can almost guarantee she will eat. ...


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The only way we've ever found things like that, for babysitting/carpooling/nanny shares, is in our organic network. Check with your neighbors (if you have a bunch of people around you who have older kids, or grandkids, they might know someone who knows someone...). Talk to people you socialize with or work with. Have your friends check with THEIR friends. ...


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It seems odd to interlace the locations as you do (ABABA) -- if you must, then at least make it AAABB so that there is less change. I believe that changing location every day can be a source of needless frustration for all of you. As DA01 comments, I would recommend choosing just one institution.


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We are away quite a lot, but pay our nanny when we are away anyhow. She is dependent on this income and doing otherwise would feel weird. Since we are away way more that the 4 weeks of vacation there are per year here, we sometimes make deals with her to stay an hour longer the week after and things like that.



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