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You can try the following but I'm not sure how well it works for this kind of situation. You acknowledge that the child is crying and that to them they have a valid reason for doing so. You tell them to use words. You tell them that you cannot understand them when they are crying and that to help them you need to hear them. You ask them what the problem ...


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I think the crying is not so much about things not being just-so, as it is about the toddler not having control over the world. Being able to control things is a new feature of a toddler's life, and, as with all skills just acquired, toddlers (and babies) tend to practice them to degrees that are unusual for us. My son who just turned three is the same. In ...


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As a young infant, my daughter tried to throw a kind of tantrum over some little thing in a restaurant. There was nothing that could be done to make it better. I calmly picked her up and took her out to sit by ourselves in the car while my wife finished her meal. My daughter was getting old enough to understand simple conversation, so I explained that we ...


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Toddlers cry for the strangest of reasons. My favorite of many stories I heard is "He cried because he wasn't allowed to lick the dog." So I wouldn't take this too serious for now. His crying might either be just random, or it might be an indication that you are enforcing rules to strictly (can't tell from your question). If you think that might be the ...


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The problem here is the concept of positive reinforcement, but what you do here is to accidentally "punish" your son with your rewards. The concept of "You may only watch TV after you cleaned up your toys" does not present watching TV as a reward, but cleaning up as a punishment and lowers watching TV to a regular activity. You are basically saying "You ...


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Have you checked her for the symptoms of reflux/silent reflux? Dr Sears' book had a good set of symptoms that were a help for us when we were trying to find the problem. Google it for more info through http://www.babycenter.com.au/a567208/reflux was a good overview. She might need some help with managing it if she does have it. It went away by 10 months for ...


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A few more possibilities to consider: A cranky tummy, particularly when recently fed. Young babies gastrointestinal system may not be moving things along smoothly. You can try and figure this out by seeing how baby responds to different positions. One good test to differentiate "tummy" from lonely / bored is to lie down on your back, with baby on your ...


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This is as much a problem with adults as children. Think of your work situation. You start the year, your boss (implicitly or explicitly) says "Do a good job this year and you will get a raise". Twelve months later, you're told you didn't do a good enough job and don't get a raise. Alternately, your boss has a list of goals, and periodically discusses ...


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That's a tough one. Newborn babies generally only cry for three reasons (this is an oversimplification at best): hungry, wet, or hot/cold. Since you mentioned this can happen after being fed or after a changing, that rules two out. You also mentioned swaddling. What do you swaddle with? Is it a warm blanket or just a regular thin blanket? Perhaps she is ...


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All those things would calm down my toddler too, they like to be warm and near you, baby bjorn was my daughter preffered place to nap. Sometimes they are fussy just because they want to do something or reach something and they can't do it or they have tooth ache or stomach ache... you can not keep them happy 100 % of the time but another thing that every ...


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Karl Bielefeldt's answer is fantastic, but I would also consider the possibility that perhaps your boy is engaging in attention-getting behavior. You mentioned that he is fantastic at home with a special needs and two-year-old sibling. You also said he has previously been getting good grades and judging by your post I'm assuming he's been well behaved up ...


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It is unlikely it is ADHD, but the only one to diagnose that is a trained therapist (which I am not). It is extremely rare that ADHD is diagnosed first in adults, but it does happen (as it did with me, for example.) ADHD, however, isn't the only mental "illness" out there, as I am sure you know. Therapy is unlikely to hurt, so why not try it? Something ...


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It appears there has been a complete erosion of respect, on both sides of this relationship. I highly recommend seeking outside, trained (be it pastoral care or professional) assistance in rebuilding a foundation of trust & respect. 13 is tough age to start this process, but it is doable. It will take time. I also suggest learning collaborative ...


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Whatever you are doing is clearly not working. Doing more of the same will give more of the same result. If you have already taken everything from your daughter then she now has nothing to lose; this puts you in a position of weakness and makes the situation even more difficult. Perhaps what you need to a "reset" in your relationship with your daughters. ...


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Raising a child is not a game of chess. There is not a "next move." When I was 12 was the last time I was spanked. It was by my mother. I couldn't help but laugh at her attempt. My very strong timber-faller stepdad then assaulted me by kicking and punching me. Do you know what lesson I learned? Despise him. 25 years later, that is the sum of my memory ...


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This seems very similar to our experience with our son. The behaviour showed up in kindergarten (age 4) and continued in first year of school (prep). In short, the issues diagnosed and dealt with so far are: tiredness due to sleep apnea (surgury) partial deafness due to blocked Eustachian tubes (grommets) Sensory seeking (OT, chewing-gum) Sensory ...


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Young boys at that age are actually discovering attraction, it seems normal, but the child does need male advice. If there is no father around, a sensible uncle, teacher or close friend of the family can help. The most important issue is to point out the difference in LIKING a girl and LOVING her. Secondly, explain the fact that we will have many rejections ...


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First, your child is not at odds with you or anyone else -- not in his view. I hated when people would try to teach me things. At a very young age I even declared openly to my mother that I would not learn from her mistakes; that sometimes learning from my own mistakes was the best way to learn. You said, "especially if he is not able to do it himself ...


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So far your well-meaning efforts have been directed towards the symptom: his misbehaving. Addressing the symptom, however, will not resolve the underlying cause. From this rather short narrative (in terms of a psychoanalysis), it is simply not possible to determine the underlying cause. However, consider these points: You said that your child is doing ...


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How can his parents help him to understand, that those behaviors tend to push off other people... Do you want him to understand, on an intellectual level, that these behaviors push off other people? Or do you want him to stop those behaviors? The former is a challenge for six-year-olds, and does not reliably lead to the latter. (Think of all the adults ...


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The primary motivator for many children is attention. If the behaviors he is exhibiting are getting attention from you and others, you might try removing that incentive. This will take much discipline on your part, but if you can stick to your guns, you might be able to shift his behavior. Examples He wants to learn something but doesn't want to put in ...


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Teach your child to protest loudly. A loud "no! don't bite me!" should be enough, and if it isn't, it should get the teacher's attention. Pushing away is also good, but why is he only doing it "weakly"? What did the teacher say when you addressed this?


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Another reason: a higher vantage point than they're used to. It's hard for us to realize how limited kiddo's perspective can be from down low. Sitting on our laps puts them up at a similar eye level to us that's still a notable novelty. My bored son can suddenly find his unchange environment enthralling for another five minutes just by virtue of being lifted ...


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Now I do self-emplyment IT jobs over the country. On my 19 I was already living on my own in another city and planning overseas work which I did for couple of months. In High School I had to earn my own money for parties, clothes etc. In my early years I had to save all money from relatives to buy a toy. Tell your son he's a sisy and boot him out of ...



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