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My daughter screamed in the car seat from about 1 month old until about 4 months old. She could not fall asleep in the car seat due to her Moro reflex. So if I attempted to drive anywhere during nap time she would get overtired and scream. In retrospect a product like the Swaddle Me which allows for swaddling while in a harness safely would have helped ...
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Your first question is what causes a child to become a bully, and there are many possible causes, most of which directly relate to low self-esteem:
observing parents and siblings exhibiting bullying behavior
being victimized by a bully
receiving negative messages or physical punishment or experiencing controlling behaviors at home or school
living in a ...
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While many of the bullies I have seen in schools have come from homes with significant parenting problems, it would surprise you the number of kids who bully (at an older age) who come from loving homes. It can be very easy for the bully-ee to become the bully in a chain-reaction kind of way.
At its root, bullying is about power and a lack of ...
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There doesn't seem to be a huge body of research on the matter but a recent meta-analysis looked at the effect of parenting on the risk of children to become bullying victims or a bullies themselves.
Parenting behavior and the risk of becoming a victim and a bully/victim: A meta-analysis study (Lereyaa et al., 2013)
Citing from the abstract:
Negative ...
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Having been bullied in more than one school, I can provide these observations from the "victim" perspective:
bullies enjoy being mean more than being kind
bullies enjoy the attention they get from others who think their behavior is cool (make ten people laugh by making one person sad)
bullies encourage each other
bullies are compensating for something ...
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I'm not an expert at this; I do help look after my partners three kids and I have a son of my own who lives with his mother. But from my experience, and from what I have read over the years, a child usually becomes a bully if there are problems at home: not enough attention, or the child is getting bullied at home.
It is mostly a cry for help, or trying to ...
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Hemming and hawing can mean a number of things. Rather than try to guess why he does it, after a reasonable wait (30 seconds maybe at his age), ask him:
"I notice you aren't answering. Are you still thinking or are you not sure of the answer?" Ask him to answer in full with either "I am still thinking" or "I'm not sure of the answer."
Model this behavior ...
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The other two answers are excellent. One additional suggestion is to delay not by time but by events. At 2-1/2 the child doesn't know what 'minutes' are, let alone what 30 of them amount too. But tangible activities and events do make sense and can be used.
So, "You can have the puzzle after your other toys are put away." "You can have the stick after ...
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The first request for the toy was a question, additional requests are attempts to manipulate - your child is trying to control his environment. If he asks the question enough times, he might wear you down. At the very least, he is getting your attention. 2-1/2 is old enough to start behavioral training. After you have told your child that he can have the toy ...
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This is something that actually varies from child to child! My daughter is patient and easy-going, and has always dealt fairly well with concepts of time and delayed gratification. My older son, in contrast, has almost no sense of time (he was five before he really figured out "tomorrow" and "yesterday" and "next week" and "in a minute" were not ...
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This article from Parenting magazine gives a number of strategies for dealing with stubborn kids. It suggests addressing behaviors from side-on rather than directly - the article refers to it as being "sneaky," but I would say it is clever, in that the approach helps stand-offs to move forward rather than becoming battles, and it respects the fact that ...
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I have had the same issues with my 5 year old son in 2012.
The school reported 2 different occasions of biting in one week. We did lots of feelings work with him as he said he was really angry both times he did it. We tried explaining why he shouldnt bite other children and he got it, he knew it was wrong. Then the following week squabling with his younger ...
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If someone is ADHD it can be a challenge. It isn't because they 'forget' or cannot remember. However if the wrong approach is taken by the parent IE, negative feedback vs positive feedback, the chances of having success is slim. The reward system is the best approach. Negative feedback and hurt relationships, especially if the child already understand the ...
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How about giving your other child a reward for NOT using bad language and tell your 7 year old that the same rewards are available to him?
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I have a 7-year-old daughter, she's started to pick up some rough language as well. There is no way we can prevent kids from learning bad language. Instead of focusing on some words as bad and others good, our approach is to focus on behavior. Saying a word isn't bad. But using it to hurt someone is.
So if my daughter says idiot out of context, I let it ...
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Given his age he probably spends a fair amount of time in a school bus and with peers in school. These situations are rich sources of interesting vocabulary and he will actually need some of this just to keep up.
That is perfectly normal at this age, and there is nothing you can do to totally prevent him from using this kind of words.
In our house we set ...
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