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This is absolutely normal - she has discovered a new toy: her voice. At this age she doesn't really know anything about the effect loud shouts can have on others. And even when you ask her to stop, that is only a short term thing. But this will come with time - I'd suggest keeping on doing as you are now. If you make too big a thing of it, sometimes ...


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THIS GIRL NEEDS IMMEDIATE PROFESSIONAL HELP. Picking up the knife, presumably in a threatening manner, indicates serious instability. This is not a run-of-the-mill teenage emotional outburst. She is quite possibly a danger to someone else or to herself. She effectively threatened homicide or suicide. This young lady needs to be evaluated by a medical ...


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It is in our nature to be jealous. I noticed similar problems with my kiddos. However, I then noticed how I "congratulated" them and such, and realized I was creating the jealousy. I've since switched to a "right on, the more you practice the better you both will get" kind of accolade for almost all situations. Even when it is just 1 kid doing something ...


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We used to call one of my nephews The Pterodactyl Child, until we nipped that bud: Inside voice, please. (yes, even if sometimes we are outside) I only have one niece, so I may be off-base, but IME (and my mother's, who holds a masters degree in special education) females develop sooner and begin the "terrible twos" at around that age. Good luck :)


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There is something you can do. Instead of only reacting with the "serious" look and "no", sometimes mimic her back! At times when it is least disturbing to others. It might be engaging and fun. And she might learn something even more, like when the shouting is more appropriate and fun, and when it ought to be toned down. Additional benefit: meaningful (to ...


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I hate to say this but I am 10 years into something similar. Run, don't walk! It will not get better, matter of fact it's guaranteed to get worse with age. I am now plagued with anger issues, mental break downs, depression, so much more. I hate to sound so negative but it is the truth. Save yourself before there is nothing left to save :/ I love the kids, I ...


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Children that age learn new things everyday, some good some bad. Trust me it is only a phase and will pass soon. What you can do meanwhile is not give her extra attention when she shouts i.e. don't tell her it is bad or to stop, simply try to distract her with a toy she likes or a book or whatever else she likes. UPDATE: All the people advising a 'firm ...


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We use a 'double check'. Sometimes he doesn't understand what it actually means when he says yes/no, so I confirm what he meant by explaining what will happen next. Example: Me: Are you done with your dinner? Toddler: Yes! Me: Ok, then I am going to take your food away (or even better: Can I eat your food? This really drives home that he is not having ...


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My answer works on excited adults too: speak very softly to her and she'll speak softly too. Kids learn by mimicry. As soon as she's old enough to understand you can add; "the people over there don't want to hear that" or (my favourite) "that baby over there wants to sleep, please don't be so loud".


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One of my favorite diving games growing up was "penny fetch". My folks would toss coins into the pool and we were supposed to go down to fetch them. Sometimes they would toss the higher denominations (dimes, quarters) into the deep end. Since we sometimes got to keep the money we had incentive to learn to swim underwater. Obviously harder to do in a ...


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This sounds like classic ADHD symptoms, because it sounds like I was when I was that age to a scary degree. My son feeds on bad attention. Personally, when I was acting like this, I just wanted any kind of attention. I found that if I misbehaved (trying to kiss the girls, throwing sand, interrupting the teacher), I got the attention that I wanted. ...


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It just a phase; one of the random things she learned elsewhere. But how you handle it when she screams might be the reason why she keeps screaming. I try to refrain myself from criticizing other people's parenting methods. But I can tell you hitting is not a good way, it probably will work due to pain; but the only thing you are teaching your child is ...


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Say OW. She's probably hurting people's ears a little, though she doesn't exactly understand that yet. But even at her age, she probably knows that "OW" signals pain. It's up to you to show her that her behavior is no good because it causes pain in others. It's also probably ok to exaggerate for effect in this case, even if it doesn't cause you physical ...


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This is very normal. However, in my experience, your plan will likely not work out. The problem is not her screaming, it's her disobedience. If she stops screaming but continues to grow in disobedience, you will likely still be displeased. Fortunately, there is something else you can do. If you oppose corporal punishment on principal, ignore this answer. I ...


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I believe the police department handles assault and battery. I'm sorry. I know it's your daughter, but when we progress to using weapons to convey threats and we're perceiving these threats as legitimate, you have a responsibility to your other daughter to do something about this immediately. Failure to act in the best interests of your other daughter could ...


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Even though you're not their father, and you can never be their father, you should love them like they're your children and be a father for them if you want to be with their mother. You cannot have their mother without them. When you got serious with her, you got serious with all of them. It won't be easy, but as suggested, you should spend one-to-one time ...



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