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Often the solution here is as simple as reframing the request. So if he is playing with blocks and it's time to leave for school, no matter how much advance notice you give and no matter that you leave for school at the same time every day, when you announce "time to leave for school!" he may well resist and refuse and generally push back. So try asking ...


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I don't know if it's the case for you, but one thing I see a lot of parents of strong-willed children do repeatedly is ask a question, then get frustrated when the child answers in the negative. If a negative answer is not acceptable, then don't ask a question! Reserve questions for when you are honestly okay with any response. Bad: Do you want to go ...


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I'm not sure of the answer exactly, but I sometimes hold her and kiss on the cheek together with a soft hug. However, I have the feeling that such action does not have any effect on her... If you look at mammals in general, facial licking is practiced as a means of communication by (those without hands) from soon after birth onwards. It is likely that ...


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The ultimate goal of any punishment or discipline method ought to be discouraging a repeat of that behavior in future. It sounds like he's more focused on the part where he's done wrong and deserves punishment — not making the next leap of logic to the part where he's learning from mistakes. My daughter frequently sneaks junk food into her room late at ...


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Usually, kids tends to accept change better if they're prepared and know what will come. I would then go that way and expose the short-term planning to him : now you can play there, but in 30 minutes we'll be going to the pool, then to the movie. Once at the pool, be a bit more accurate : around 3PM we'll be going out the pool and go to the movie, and so on. ...


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Read this books for yourself and talk with him about it - what he likes about them, how he thinks about it and how he sees our world. As a parent, you should be understanding about things he likes. If you call his taste in books and music "not normal" or in general negative, he will never be able to have confidence in your support. One of the first things he ...


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Is there any specific moment in the life of a baby when they start understanding the "meaning" of a kiss in the sense of a caress? Each and every babies are unique and no static formula can be applied on them such as "at this month he/she will do this and this". I can remember what my daughter did. When she was born, she would cry the whole night even ...


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First, even the authorities know that taking passport pictures according to that "standard" isn't always feasible and usually will accept your best attempt even if the head is not perfectly straight etc. We had good results when keeping the following things in mind: Timing and Preparation Pick a time when your baby is happy, awake and alert, not hungry, ...


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My little boy does this and has silent reflux. It's a significant symptom of this. The head swinging and the burrowing tends to get worse if he needs to burp too... He will literally burrow then swing his head around and then headbutt my shoulder until he burps and then settles until the next one is ready to come up. With silent reflux they find it ...


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I'm focusing on the concept of him stating "I don't deserve it" especially in an instance where the self-imposed punishment isn't directly related to the "crime" in question. So far the only punishment I impose is to send my children to their room to figure out what they did wrong and then, after a short time, to apologize to me or their sibling for what ...


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Have you asked her why she resists bedtime so much? By 10 she should be fully capable of discussing this on an adult level. Ask her. Don't do it during bedtime, at least at first (though later on that may be necessary to get all of the details). Don't do it in an accusatory way. Just ask: "Why don't you like going to bed?" If it started recently, ...


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With an issue like this, I will always recommend professional counseling. Unlike other communication problems, the problems you're experiencing have a direct effect on the emotional and mental health of your children. A family therapist could help you learn to communicate with your wife about these manners, and how to handle her outbursts. Right now, your ...


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I would be far more concerned about his access to mature media, especially when you have a problem with it, than his reaction to it. I doubt he is mature enough to understand/handle/normalize much/most of it at 11, and he shouldn't have free access to these things without your consent/knowledge. In fact, I would expect a strange reaction from someone who ...


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Interestingly, I have had this exact same experience with my own son. We would play Minecraft and he would not set any goals. I quickly gave up on trying to convince him to set goals and found out he'd rather work on creative mode and do whatever strikes his fancy. So, that's where we are with that. However, he does play Pokemon as do many of his peers. ...


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I can't diagnose someone over the internet, but it's possible he might be on the autistic spectrum. Repetitive speech patterns, spacing out, taking things literally, and poor memory are all common features of autistic kids - as is having an uneven pattern of strengths and weaknesses. Does he have trouble making friends? Does he show other kinds of ...


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I'm autistic and I do this too. It's not defiance or satisfaction at provoking the person or anything like that. It's completely involuntary and not associated with happiness at all. My impression is that many autistic people express emotions using different kinds of nonverbal signals than non-autistic people. For example, I once met a kid who showed ...


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Your best approach may be to try to get her to imagine what this other girl is feeling. Ask her to think about when she first got interested in boys (I'm assuming she is). Make sure she recognizes that she didn't chose to start feeling those feelings, it just happened. Now, tell her that a lesbian feels the same way, but about girls instead of boys. How ...


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There are two types of lessons a child can learn from trying something and failing: either to keep trying it until he gets it; or, that it's actually okay to fail. That is, despite what his parents/teachers have been telling him, the world didn't end just because he gave up/didn't finish/flunked a course. Or, nothing really bad happened when he failed, ...


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Step 1 is talking to your wife about her behavior towards your stepdaughter, but in the light of how you can help. If you set out to give your wife a lecture, she won't listen. If you seek her out to offer your support, then you'll get somewhere. For example, with the shower situation, I see a conversation going something like this. You - "Hey, I was ...


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I think a big cause of this would be something along the lines of peer pressure, or influence in this case. Just a week of influence can take a toll for months. I think a good idea is to see who he is hanging around at school or these camps. If a few of them are known to lie then (like the sponge kids are) he too with start this habit. If that is the case ...


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Two weeks old should be a pretty easy age for that, as she's not going to squirm around too much. Put her on a light coloured sheet on a bed, and take the photo from above. Just make sure you get a direct front shot with no significant shadows, both eyes open, and both ears visible and you should be fine.


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My daughter is 1.6 years old now. From my experience I can say, you need not to worry. he laughs like its a joke Kids world is entirely different and we can't go and see whats happening in their world. Their, language, activities everything will be different. When he scratches others face people will make some sounds know, that make him happy. Just cut ...


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I agree with @Lance's answer that it's very possible that you might be taking this more seriously than you need to. That was my first impression. I'm not sure that I would consider his behavior as solely manipulation to get his way. It might be that when he's sad, he really just does miss the comfort of the mother he was born to and continues to see every ...


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I have been in the situation in a couple different ways, and it is surely two things: We always read too much into things, but it is always important to continue to be that parent because the alternative has lasting negative effects. The "i want to go to the other parents" is a very intelligent way of manipulation, to suggest that he knows everyone is ...


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Kissing your baby is an expression of love and affection. Even infants understand that, as evidenced by my boys (now pre-schoolers) who as babies would often calm down from a tantrum when I gave them a hug and a kiss. Whether or not your daughter is affected by your hug and kiss -- or if she understands the "meaning" of a kiss -- is much less important than ...


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My advice only comes from other things I have read recently on this site - if I could find the exact questions again I would link them. First, I would read from a similar question for a 7-year-old. Try looking at This Answer. Communication is important because it keeps you from just shooting in the dark. You may have better luck by "counting down" until ...


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None of this sounds abnormal to me; I suspect and what he's looking for is more verbal contact and attention. The oratorial tautologies (repetition of the same idea different ways) is a very common pattern when teaching children; he has probably picked up on the pattern. I found this behavior annoying, as well, and learned a few techniques to curtail it. ...


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I also wanted to chime in and say that my 5 year old stepson sounds exactly the same as yours. We had behaviour psychologist look at his behaviour and temperament for a sudden change in his behaviour due to an unrelated hyperactivity problem. Luckily the hyperactivity is now manageable through the coaching we received from the specialists we saw, and when ...


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I think expecting tact from a 4 year old is kind of futile. Children that age only have the most limited ability to take another person's perspective. For example, most kids can't tell the difference between irony and literal statements until around 7-8 years old. Your son probably doesn't have the capacity yet to understand the difference between lying and ...



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