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Biting is tough; my oldest went through a stage at just over a year and it was very difficult to train him out of it. It took around four months to get him to stop; he just didn't understand it was wrong, even with books, 'Ouch, Biting Hurts', giving more attention to the bitee, etc. Biting at three is a bit different, though. A three year old has some ...


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Have their hearing tested? My son was accused of selective deafness by his kindergarten teacher. Guess what, a doctor found that he was partially deaf. Blocked Eustachian tubes had filled his inner ears with liquid reducing his hearing. After surgery, and grommets and 6 months recovery, there were still some issues. In a noisy environment, he had a hard ...


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Get their attention first before you say anything else. Timmy? Timmy? Until you get through to them, say nothing else. Try not to give away whether this is an icecream moment or a laundry moment. Surprise them by sometimes getting their attention with a laundry basket in your arms and saying "when I've got this laundry put away, do you want to ...


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Young boys at that age are actually discovering attraction, it seems normal, but the child does need a male advice,,,If there is no father around, a sensible uncle, teacher or close friend of the famiy can help. The most important issue is to point out the difference in LIKING a girl and LOVING her. Secondly, exlplain the fact that we will have many ...


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If the picking is specifically related to the nostrils feeling dry + itchy, I would recommend trying to apply Aquaphor or other moisturizer. It will both help the condition and make the idea of picking less appealing (getting sticky ointment on the picker's finger). This simple emphasis has helped break cycles of picking -> nosebleed -> scabbing -> ...


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The primary motivator for many children is attention. If the behaviors he is exhibiting are getting attention from you and others, you might try removing that incentive. This will take much discipline on your part, but if you can stick to your guns, you might be able to shift his behavior. Examples He wants to learn something but doesn't want to put in ...


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So far your well-meaning efforts have been directed towards the symptom: his misbehaving. Addressing the symptom, however, will not resolve the underlying cause. From this rather short narrative (in terms of a psychoanalysis), it is simply not possible to determine the underlying cause. However, consider these points: You said that your child is doing ...


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It is unlikely it is ADHD, but the only one to diagnose that is a trained therapist (which I am not). It is extremely rare that ADHD is diagnosed first in adults, but it does happen (as it did with me, for example.) ADHD, however, isn't the only mental "illness" out there, as I am sure you know. Therapy is unlikely to hurt, so why not try it? Something ...


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19 years old ! This "kid" really needs a reality check. Some suggestions - Try to find out why he needs more. To impress girls, to fit in with the rich crowd etc. ? If those are the reasons behind his behavior, then explain why he should not spend money on those things. Tell him to get a job as short-term experiment and see how money does not literally ...


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Another reason: a higher vantage point than they're used to. It's hard for us to realize how limited kiddo's perspective can be from down low. Sitting on our laps puts them up at a similar eye level to us that's still a notable novelty. My bored son can suddenly find his unchange environment enthralling for another five minutes just by virtue of being lifted ...


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It appears there has been a complete erosion of respect, on both sides of this relationship. I highly recommend seeking outside, trained (be it pastoral care or professional) assistance in rebuilding a foundation of trust & respect. 13 is tough age to start this process, but it is doable. It will take time. I also suggest learning collaborative ...


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Whatever you are doing is clearly not working. Doing more of the same will give more of the same result. If you have already taken everything from your daughter then she now has nothing to lose; this puts you in a position of weakness and makes the situation even more difficult. Perhaps what you need to a "reset" in your relationship with your daughters. ...


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Raising a child is not a game of chess. There is not a "next move." When I was 12 was the last time I was spanked. It was by my mother. I couldn't help but laugh at her attempt. My very strong timber-faller stepdad then assaulted me by kicking and punching me. Do you know what lesson I learned? Despise him. 25 years later, that is the sum of my memory ...


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My son also received some serious bite marks as a toddler, and he learned to do the same. We made sure to tell him at every given situation that biting is wrong and he must speak up when it happens (daytime caregivers did the same). Thankfully he learned that biting and hitting is never okay, even in defense, and it always works to speak up, to move away ...


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A few more possibilities to consider: A cranky tummy, particularly when recently fed. Young babies gastrointestinal system may not be moving things along smoothly. You can try and figure this out by seeing how baby responds to different positions. One good test to differentiate "tummy" from lonely / bored is to lie down on your back, with baby on your ...


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How can his parents help him to understand, that those behaviors tend to push off other people... Do you want him to understand, on an intellectual level, that these behaviors push off other people? Or do you want him to stop those behaviors? The former is a challenge for six-year-olds, and does not reliably lead to the latter. (Think of all the adults ...


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Have you checked her for the symptoms of reflux/silent reflux? Dr Sears' book had a good set of symptoms that were a help for us when we were trying to find the problem. Google it for more info through http://www.babycenter.com.au/a567208/reflux was a good overview. She might need some help with managing it if she does have it. It went away by 10 months for ...


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This is as much a problem with adults as children. Think of your work situation. You start the year, your boss (implicitly or explicitly) says "Do a good job this year and you will get a raise". Twelve months later, you're told you didn't do a good enough job and don't get a raise. Alternately, your boss has a list of goals, and periodically discusses ...


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First, your child is not at odds with you or anyone else -- not in his view. I hated when people would try to teach me things. At a very young age I even declared openly to my mother that I would not learn from her mistakes; that sometimes learning from my own mistakes was the best way to learn. You said, "especially if he is not able to do it himself ...


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One idea is to ask the child a question to check whether they have heard or not. Pappa: Timmy, Can you take out the trash? Timmy: ... Pappa: Timmy, Can you take out the trash? Timmy: ... Pappa: Timmy, Did you hear what I said? Timmy (in a perfect world): You said to take out the trash.


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Karl Bielefeldt's answer is fantastic, but I would also consider the possibility that perhaps your boy is engaging in attention-getting behavior. You mentioned that he is fantastic at home with a special needs and two-year-old sibling. You also said he has previously been getting good grades and judging by your post I'm assuming he's been well behaved up ...



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