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Realistically, there is only one way to treat this young man and that is to love him, completely and without reservation, forever. It's not easy to diagnose your family's problems from a single 425 word description, but certain tells jump out of your story. I'm sure you love the kid, or else you wouldn't be here. His mother and sister love him, too. But ...


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I am surprised that no one suggested you sit in on the "class" several times to observe your daughter's behavior. To communicate effectively, you need to know (and if to believe, you need to see first hand, so be it) what behaviors of concern your child's teachers are seeing, and for them to believe you, they need to know if what you say is true (if it is, ...


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For one, I'd get a plastic mat you can put under the high chair, you can always carry that later to the bathtub and clean it off. I don't think it's going to be too hard to get him to eat at the table. If he throws a fit, or tosses his food away, he's clearly not hungry enough...yet. When he's hungry enough, he's going to eat! Don't give in and take him ...


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Small children have very little control over their lives. Most decisions are made for them. So when they figure out how to get any control, they take the idea and run with it. Your daughter has tried temper tantrums to get what she wants. And she learned that for you and your husband it doesn't work. So she doesn't try that with you. For the preschool ...


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By the way, my son's phase passed very quickly and I'll tell everyone what worked for us. We made him a little photo album filled with about 20 pictures of all his favorite people and a little rhyme on each page. He loved to look at it and had to keep his eyes open to do so, and to tell him classmates and teachers about who is in the book. It was gold! This ...


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I have 5 year old triplet girls. Each and every one of them experienced what you are describing (night terrors) off & on since at least 18 months of age. All of their 'terrors' were deep & frightening, just terrible to work through and I always thought it was something a person just had to outgrow. HOWEVER, my husband did a lot of investigation and ...


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If she really doesn't want any physical contact, I wouldn't force it. I would try to keep a smile and just look at her and tell her that you still love her and you will be there for her when she is ready. I had two different step-mothers growing up. My experience with the first one was horrible, so I projected this experience onto my expectations for my ...


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Perhaps she is getting her molars? Our daughter had those nightly terrors when she was around 13 months. The only thing that calmed her down was chewing on bread / toast. During daytime we just noticed a higher flow of saliva...


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I have twin boys and it was certainly obviously well before one was a year old that he was jealous of any attention that his brother got. It took a while longer before he starting showing any brotherly feeling, and even then, it appeared to be more to get praise or a good reaction from the surrounding adults. By three, he was better about not being always ...


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It sounds like you are a wonderful parent, and you have good reason to believe you are doing all you can in the home. There is something called "mismatch" where even the best-intentioned parents and kids just aren't a good fit, which causes strife, but your situation seems way different. Your child needs an evaluation by a mental health professional. Your ...


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It really seems like the teacher just doesn't have time to effectively cater 20-30 different discipline styles so any children that don't conform must be Autistic or ADD or some other trendy excuse for their behavior. This happens because teachers in the US (I'm assuming your in the US) are incredibly overworked and under supported. So while I'm not trying ...


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Yes, it's just a toy, however I also think the way the play with toys can sometimes be an indicator of how they'll play with other children or animals. We ask our children to play carefully and respectfully with their toys. With their stuffed animals, we ask them to treat them gently, as if they were real animals. I don't think there is anything wrong with ...


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I understand why you're anxious about this. It can be really alarming to think of something "stuck" in your three-year-old child's mouth with nothing you can do to get it out. He has realized this too! The problem wasn't really a problem until you accidentally made it into one. Our rule is that when he starts pocketing food, we don't make him eat ...


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Our doctor also encouraged it due to feeding issues. In my experience as a mother of 1, an aunt of 16, and babysitter of many others: sucking their thumb also helps the child be more self secured in their toddler years.


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I'm wondering how this situation finally resolved with your daughter? The exact same issue has been occurring with my 5-year-old this week, and upon having her evaluated by the doctor we found out that she does not have a UTI. It is driving me insane, I can't focus on work or anything. Doctor did mention that there are other issues we could explore, such as ...



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