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Toddlers this age (and younger) bite. That's just a fact. Most of them outgrow it fairly unceremoniously. They bite for a number of reasons, three of which are 1) reaction, 2) attention, and 3) frustration. Usually this frustration stems from not being able to "use their words" to adequately express their frustration. To combat this, show him all the time ...


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When your child rebuts you that his statement is true, you simply need to point out that's not all that's required. The usual guideline for adults is: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Gossip about a classmate fails the second two tests. Tattling can be considered ok under certain circumstances (are you telling me to get someone into trouble, or ...


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It sounds like fairly normal behavior to me, but I think you're doing the right thing. At an early age, children might not yet understand when certain things aren't okay to say (That age is anywhere between 1 and 100, incidentally). The best way to address this is on a case-by-case basis, letting them know why it's rude to say what they've said, and to ...


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A great way to proceed here is to try and discover the source of your child's frustration. Some common sources of frustration: Has your child's routine recently changed? Is your child feeling jealous of the time you spend with his younger brother? Does he feel that he's unable to communicate his thoughts? Is your child getting enough rest during the ...


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I agree that there are two intelligent beings here tying to influence the other. The problem is that one of them doesn't have the vocabulary yet to voice the transgression and frustration he feels. He is not being a manipulative little dictator at this stage; he's just expressing what he feels in a way that comes naturally to him. There is a double concern ...


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TL;DR: 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2–12 by Thomas W. Phelan Ah, the joys of parenting. You haven't said anything about if he has siblings, and if so, where is he in birth order, and how he treats them. Please allow me to go on a bit about ODD since it sounds like a possibility. ODD kids often: are very bright, get angry, argue with ...


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It's important to remember that there are two intelligent human beings in this transaction, each trying to train the other. He's trying to train you to jump into action when he screeches. If you want to reinforce this behavior, reward it by giving him what he's screaming for. If you want to extinguish it, you'll have to ignore it and reward other, less ...


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My son was in a very similar situation two years ago. In addition to my follow up answer, I would like to add that the main thing we discovered is there was almost nothing we could do at home about his behavior at school. We offered everything from spectacular rewards down to harsh punishments for a year, to little avail. He stopped taking his frustration ...


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Here's my attempt: You messed up your relationship (I'm not criticizing it, BTW, I'm just stating a fact) and that obviously troubles your daughter. If you feel like you cannot fix your relationship, all you can do is to try to minimize the negative effects this has on your daughter. If I was in your place, I'd start out by asking myself why she behaves ...


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It may not be the answer you want and it will probably get down voted but the best thing you can do is to move back in together and try a lot harder to make your marriage work.


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I mostly agree with anongoodnurse's answer (+1 from me), and would add: Between 2 and 4 is the phase where children learn to deal with the frustration of not getting something they want, and where they can be very demanding, impulsive, and sometimes violent. However, that doesn't mean they are evil or mean. They just have to learn how to do that thing ...


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Sounds like you need to work on your marriage more than your parenting. I'm sorry if that sounded insensitive, but it's important to understand that a 3 year old's entire universe is wrapped up within her parents and she sees it all crashing down. Better to address it than mask it. If moving back in together is absolutely not an option, try couch time. 15 ...


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When I read your first paragraph, I thought, "yep, that's my little one, too." However, I was very surprised to see how quickly he's labeled ODD. I never thought my child had ODD. I thought she was just being an energetic young child, doing everything she could to explore the world, including finding out what breaks, what triggers mom+dad, what limits she ...


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Ask your pediatrition. Those words are often used by teachers to tell you they suspect ADD. Teachers are not medical professionals so are not supposed to suggest your child might have a particular medical problem. So a teacher is not supposed to say, "I think your child may have ADD."



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