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Leave. Leave now. There's clearly something seriously wrong. Whether it's bad parenting, a psychological disorder, or something else entirely, it is beyond your control and you are liable for the welfare and actions of the children in your charge. Don't end up under criminal neglect charges or worse because you can't change the situation. If you suspect ...


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The most concerning thing about your question is the comment, he "has taken a kitchen knife and tried to kill me and his brother." If you are speaking literally this child needs a professional intervention. The consensus is for you to get out of this situation for your safety. Do everything you can (outside of staying) to help the family transition to ...


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Honestly, if the parents just laugh it off and at the same time confirm that they are bad -- leave. These kids are not yours; they're just a job. Your life and sanity is worth a better job. If you can, move on to a better job and forget about this. I don't see anythIng in your question to say that you really need or want to keep the job, except for the ...


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Great question. First off, you are very lucky to have close friends and family close by that you trust. My wife and I do not have anybody here so we actually have to rely on online baby sitting sites... talk about scary and feeling guilty... The guilt will go away once you take a few date nights and you see that your children are okay with the person you ...


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You have a professional and moral obligation to report your concerns to the relevant authorities. (Certainly in the UK; I imagine it's the case in other countries too.) Here's a UK link: http://www.ncma.org.uk/news_and_events/news/january_to_june_2011/lscb_guidance_from_ncma.aspx Here's a Canadian link: http://www.oacas.org/childwelfare/duty.htm By not ...


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Look on it as helping your children to learn to trust in other adults (which is important for their development). Also they learn that your absences in their lives are very temporary and that your return can be relied upon. These are two good lessons. Since you say that you have absolute confidence in the potential babysitters then you don't have anything ...


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As mentioned by the other people, leave. While you are there, you are responsible for these children and anything that happens to them. You only have 4 weeks left, so there is little incentive for you to start a long-term correction of the child's behaviour, especially since you have no support form the parents. Whether you stay or go, I would suggest ...


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This is probably too late now, but I wanted to add another option in hopes you still have a chance to make a difference. This child needs professional counseling. The parents have no interest in obtaining it. However, their ability to maintain their standard of living depends on a babysitter. In other words, if you are really willing to leave, they need you ...


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If you are supposed to be in control of the children and one of them is leaving the house at his will when not dangerously disrupting the house when home - then -YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL. You have asked the parents for their help and they LAUGH at the situation - then - YOU ARE NOT IN CONTROL. Would you drive a school bus when everything is out of ...


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Have you discussed why you are feeling this way? Do you think you will miss something or do you feel like you are "abandoning" them? Maybe you can pin point a specific root for your feelings and take steps to insure you are comfortable when you leave them. Depending on when their bedtime is, you could always help put the kids to bed while the babysitter ...



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