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I was a foster parent for a year. I met parents who were unequivocally abusive. One thing I took from that experience is that the term "abusive" is applied way too frequently to normal parents who at worst are making honest mistakes and at best just have a different parenting style. It dilutes the impact of the word, and in my opinion dishonors truly ...


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My opinion is to wait for the child to ask for it. Fear of pain shouldn't be a motivation to decide it for them. Yes, it hurts a little but you can explain that to them. In the end they have to make the decision. This subject touches on the human right to bodily integrity. I don't want to sound "heavy" and I understand that an earring is relatively harmless ...


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In general, older kids will be viewed as cooler kids, probably because they have more freedoms and do more complex/rewarding things. Because of this, the younger children will emulate them, for better or worse. If you think that these older kids are someone you want your children to look up to, then its good to have your children interact with them. If they ...


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To be perfectly honest I get a yellow flag here. In my opinion, I think that 7pm is too early... but that's just my opinion. I mean, you're the one that knows your kid, not me. Right? Yeah. But I certainly wouldn't call it abusive. I would however call the teachers expression of 'concern for abuse' a full-on threat. I see that statement as "I don't agree ...


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I would add that children that don't sleep what they need tend to be physical instead of intellectual when facing problems. So sleeping too lite is often a source for frustration and small fights. What Karl said about calming down the last hour is good. We always read a story to our children in a way to calm down and also create a routine so their body ...


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but I was wondering how normal it is to go through several years of school before a "problem" is noticed by parents and/or teachers or other professionals. Is this possible? Autism is strange beast. It is extremely varied from person to person, and other psychological disorders (and several genetic ones) can look like Autism and not be it. ...


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At two years old, I'm assuming that the party is mostly a get-together of parents of small children (most 2-year olds aren't at the stage where they have their own social circle). The main problem with inviting a teenager or near-teen is that it is unlikely that his/her friends will be there, and thus he/she will be left out, and basically have nothing to do ...


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My opinion is to wait until the child itself expresses a desire for this. I'm surprised to see infants with piercings because I feel that the parents make a cosmetic choice that does nothing for the child, but you propose a reason why they might do that (too young to fear the pain) that is new to me. Whether that is valid is for each parent to decide. I ...


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As a former teacher, and a child that was raised alongside children that had been removed from their homes for actual abuse, I'm angry for you reading the details of your question!!! This teacher, from the information you included, has stepped way "out of bounds" and you need not worry about her statement having any truth to it. I agree whole-heartedly ...


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What a child can do is not the same as what a parent should allow them to do or what a parent should force them to do. If one left whole-grain crackers and cereal on the counter and stocked the fridge with milk, cheese cubes, hummus, fruit, and cut-up veggies, a three-year-old could certainly feed herself whenever she was hungry and satisfy every ...


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Depends on the child, at 6 my daughter could easily make a peanut butter sandwitch or a bowl of cereal... But at 8 my son didn't do either. Now they are 13 and 11, and cook one full family meal a week! I don't think it's bad to have a child make some of their own meals, it's how they learn. I don't mean you should stick them with a microwave meal 3x a ...


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This is a very difficult question to answer, for the following reasons: Autism spectrum disorders are incredibly varied. The medical definition of autism is changing: the DSM IV definition is quite different from the soon-to-be-adopted DSM V definition. The legal definition of autism (at least in the US) is completely different from the medical definition ...


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Our 19 year old daughter's ears were pierced when she was an infant, and Grandma gave her a nice pair of earrings. Then there were pictures taken with my wife, her mother, her grandmother, and her daughter all similarly dressed with the similar earrings. I guess I am a human rights violator. I will book flights to the Hague for my wife and I. Beyond ...


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We did not pierce our baby girl's ears. Human rights debates aside, there are some hygiene issues that I think deserve consideration. I was allergic to nickel. Still am to an extent. But when I got my ears pierced at the age of 7, it was because I really wanted them to be pierced. That's why I was willing to put up with itching, weeping, swollen, hot, ...


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I really wanted my ears pierced, but my parents said I had to wait until I was 10 years old. Their reasoning was that I had to be sure I wanted it done and mature enough to keep them clean. On my tenth birthday my parents took me to the salon and I got my hair and nails done and then went to get my ears pierced. They made a big deal about how grown up I ...


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I agree with Remko that piercing an infant's ears violates their right to their own body since they cannot consent. And I would discourage others from making any sort of body modification to their child without his or her consent unless there is a medical necessity. My own opinion is that a child should not be permitted to modify his or her own body until ...


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Depends on what you consider a meal. Peanut-butter and Jelly sandwiches? 5 or 6, I expect. Something hot or that requires a knife? You'd have to spend time cooking with them to know when it would be ok. My kids could make batter from scratch and cook pancakes on an electric griddle by themselves at eight, but I wouldn't let them do it without an adult ...


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I would say about the age of 6-7 is a good time to start learning making sandwitches and heating milk/pre-made meals in microwave. It may come in handy once the kids go to school instead of kindergarden. Working with tosters, induction plates, other things that get hot but are otherwise safe - some time after they have mastered making sandwitches. 8-9 yo I ...


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Children should be allowed to spend time with lots of kids from a variety of age groups as it helps to give them a more well-rounded sense of social skills. Different ages have different expectations. The interactions between kids change as their age differential does also. As long as the older kids are setting a good example and being kind to your little ...


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When we have done family parties we had children of all ages, so long as we had something for them all to do, or they had someone their own age or near to be with - things were fine. For my sons first year parties they were all for the family rather then the kids, the second birthday party was more about them but we still had mostly the family. If the 13 ...


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Second grade. In our house it was second grade before we were allowed to get our ears pierced. My parents felt that by that age we were responsible enough to care for them ourselves. There was also a rule that if we didn't care for them and they got infected the earrings would be taken out and the holes allowed to grow closed again. Also, we were not ...



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