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A couple points of perspective: I've always believed that moral obligation goes from parents to offspring. Any obligation perceived by offspring in the opposite direction comes out of the feelings of the offspring. Circumstances of need clearly can affect feelings at any time. Children don't ask to be born. They have zero say in their birth situation, so ...


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By NO means is someone supposed to "charge" their parent rent. The parent showed a lifetime of devotion to raise the child into an adult and at least took care of them for 20 years. Its absolutely unethical to be so cold as to even think about charging your parent for anything. And for their part, parents know this and should not take advantage of their ...


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It depends on your point of view. Were I the parent, I would offer to pay rent. Were I the child, I would decline the offer. In any case, I would advise both parties not to become dependent on the financial arrangement, if at all possible, even non-fiscal benefits like babysitting or housework. If you pay rent, don't make it so high or deplete your ...


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My answer for both of situations (parent with child, child with parent), is likely to be the same. Although, I would give more leeway to a person attending some form of college or vocational training, regardless if that was a traditional student or a returning-ed adult. I don't think there is any moral obligation for the parent to pay rent to their child. I ...


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One of the challenges that you will have to face is accepting that there is going to be pain generated by this separation. Either he is so full of anxiety that he is unable to even deal with the thought of separation, or he is taking advantage, knowing that he can defy you without consequences. Or maybe both. It may be difficult for you to know what is ...


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It seems to be the case that he's refusing to acknowledge anything about his future. This kind of thing can be due to a combination of fear and trauma, since after all, laziness is generally rooted in fear. Since he'll accept no help at all, it's probably time to give him a wake-up call. Write down all the things he needs to do as well as all the offers of ...


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I may have some insights as a college student, although I've admittedly never lived in dormitories or campus housing. I've only been a purely nontraditional student. Disadvantages Cost I attend a state university, and the resident rates for room and board for next year are going to be about $8000 for the next school year. This includes only the fall and ...


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I suspect this varies significantly by the person and family. Some advantages to one person will be disadvantages to another. In particular, the differences: Living at home, unless you live on campus already, means a bit of a commute for the child. This means a bit less time for socializing, and less ability to join the kinds of socializing that ...


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Well, one of the advantages would be that it's sort of a way to ease into living away from home. You're responsible for yourself, but you're not alone and there are people who are somewhat keeping an eye on things. There are also lots of great shared experiences to be had with others living in the dorm. Of course, some of those shared experiences may not ...



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