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What do we do if our children don't like the nanny?

So I just came back to work after a long discussion with our 4 year old. He complains (more to the effect, he had a meltdown) that he doesn't like our nanny, and would prefer to have our neighbour ...
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At what age should a child be able to dress herself?

At what age are children typically able (and willing) to dress themselves? Our daughter is two and a half and can take her pants on and off and take her shirt off, but cannot put a shirt on herself. ...
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How to know whether I am producing sufficient breast milk?

I have to breast feed my 9 day old for 1 hour. That is frustrating for me, and doesn't satisfy her too. Then I have to feed her about 60 ml formula. How would I know whether I am producing sufficient ...
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Can a son share a bed with his girlfriend, at 27?

Your son is 27 and due to financial problems, you've invited him to move home. His 30 year old girlfriend is coming to stay. Should you oppose them sharing his double bed during her visit? This ...
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How do you investigate what's going on in the pre-kindergarten classroom?

For some, seeing the kindergarten teacher have such remarkable control over 20 children seems astonishing. But she doesn't get that without doing something. And the children don't always tell you ...
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How to better engage myself with my 15 month old

My 15 month old toddler is very active and I often find it challenging to match his pace. He seems to get bored with his toys very quickly. Earlier he used to be very much interested in my laptop and ...
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577 views

Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?

Before our girls were born, I told my husband that I didn't want to go through "crying it out" because I knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it. At the time he agreed with me. However, after close to ...
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Can a Stepfather and Stepson relationship work well?

I am in relationship with a woman with a 6 year old son. I entered his life when he was 4 and so far we have had a very close relationship. He seems to listen to me, enjoys activities with me, and ...
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459 views

How do you wash a toddler's hands in a public restroom?

I find it quite hard to wash my toddler's hands in a public restroom which may have a very wet counter and otherwise be a bit dirty. It's hard to operate soap dispensers which require two hands to ...
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380 views

Why do some parents have a favorite (or least favorite) child? How can this be avoided?

Playing favorites with one's children is clearly a moral grey area at best...so why do we do it when should be treating all our children equally? I'm a personality psychologist by training, and ...
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Help! My 5 year old just won't poop on the toilet

I don't know what to do. We have been trying to get our son to poop in the toilet since he was 3. He is now 5 and shows no signs of starting any time ever. He has done it once or twice but he poops in ...
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How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister?

We had 2 adorable twins in January. Our older daughter is jealous of them and our life has become a nightmare. How can we address her jealousy and improve our situation?
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When to pull loose teeth

My 5 year old is starting to have some teeth become loose. Specifically her lower two front teeth. I just noticed today that one of them is really loose. However, I don't know how loose it should be ...
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How do you say “not now”?

Sometimes children (say 3-5 years of age) want you to play with them, but for whatever reason, you cannot participate. How do you say "not now" without hurting their feelings or making them feel ...
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5answers
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How can I help my kids to sleep comfortably (and safely) on an overnight drive?

Asking this one anonymously, I don't want the police coming round to arrest me! In a few weeks, we've got a long drive to go on vacation. Because our youngest is pretty unbearable on long car ...
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4answers
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How do we stop our child screeching?

Our 3 1/2 month old has just learned how to make an ear-piercing screech, which appears to either mean "happy" or "tired and grumpy". How can we dissuade her from making this noise, without ...
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How do you explain World War II to young children?

My 7-year old son asks many questions about World War II. I have the habit not to hide anything, but concepts such as Nazism or the Holocaust are so inherently dreadful that he sometimes seems to ...
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6answers
460 views

Is it harmful to a child's social development to tell them “don't talk to strangers”?

Conventional parenting wisdom tells us to drive the fear of talking to strangers into our kids. Is this at all harmful though? Is there any adverse impact to a child's social development by doing ...
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How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?

My 8 year old son has an issue with following rules a little too closely. He gets upset if rules and/or routine are broken. For instance, last night he was upset because a classmate was singing ...
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How to fit 3 children car seats into the back of a car

My 3rd child was just born and I've discovered fitting the seats for all my children into the car is a real problem. My oldest child is using a booster, my middle child a car seat and the new baby is ...
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4answers
576 views

How accurate are the “Suggested Age Ranges” of toys?

Most toys manufactured today include a suggested age range, supposedly identifying the ages of children who will (safely) appreciate the toy. How accurate are these ranges? How do the manufacturers ...
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6answers
767 views

How do I get my overachiever to accept her mistakes and live up to her abilities?

My seven year old child is a perfectionist and I believe it holds her back. She is so afraid of making a mistake or "failing" that she is afraid to put herself out there. She is similarly afraid to be ...
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How do you stop a toddler from trying to get into bed with her parents in the middle of the night?

For a few weeks now my 2 year old daughter has woken up in the middle of the night crying for mom or dad. This started out when we took off her diaper and she would cry to go to the potty. She picked ...
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How do you reduce feelings of guilt for leaving children for a date night ?

We have two children, 3.5 and 1 years old. My wife and I rarely go out on our own, I can count on one hand since the oldest was born. We have never left them alone all night, they have always woken ...
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One room for each son, or one bedroom and one play room?

My family just +1'd itself. The newborn sleeps with us in the master bedroom for now, but we will move him when he's a few months old and no longer requires attention several times each night. Our ...
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8answers
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Nearly 2 and doesn't comprehend speech

I see a lot on this site and all over the Internet about toddlers that are late to talk. The general consensus seems to be as long as they can understand when you talk to them then don't worry, they ...
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How can I stop my toddler from having nightmares about robots?

When my son was one-and-a-half, my sister gave us a Wall.e Robot toy; it talks when you push buttons and moves back and forth. He loved it. But all of a sudden a year later he has become terrified of ...
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4answers
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At what age do kids start sleeping through the night?

My son is now almost 12 months old and he still doesn't sleep through the night regularly. Maybe one night a month he will sleep from 7pm->6.30am without waking, and that's only if he's utterly ...
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4answers
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Pre-teen always sneaking junk food

My daughter is nine, and over the last few months has been frequently stealing sweets from the kitchen (fridge, pantry, or deep freezer) to eat them in her room at night. There are a variety of ...
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4answers
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3 year old has a fit when arriving at daycare

My 36 month old boy will happily walk or ride on my bike to the creche (daycare), will lead me right up to the door of his room, as if he is looking forward to the day's activities. Then just as we ...
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2answers
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At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub?

Today when my daughter took a bath I wanted to go check on a thing, but of course couldn't since I was watching her. Of course it depends on the child, but in general at what age do you think you can ...
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How can we help my pre-schooler get over his initial shyness when we have guests?

My four year old is always extremely unsettled whenever they first interact with a guest. It doesn't matter if it is another child who has played with many times before or an adult. It also doesn't ...
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How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?

Our daughter thinks she has an equal say in any of our decisions. She only does the things we tell her to do if she thinks they make sense, otherwise we have to threaten her, which makes her threaten ...
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How not to lose patience with toddler

I am wondering how not to be harsh with a toddler. With all the love I have for my boy, I do lose patience and get angry with him once in a while! Any ideas on how to deal with such a situation.
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4answers
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What are the biggest expenses for a new baby?

My wife is expecting, and as we plan, I want to know if there is anything that people were surprised by how expensive it is, or didn't realize they would need to pay for?
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3answers
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What is effect of giving sugar to an infant?

Instinctively I try to avoid giving our 1 year old sugar. However, I don't really understand why it is bad for her. Often when she doesn't want to eat any more savoury food she is more than happy to ...
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2answers
382 views

Should imaginary friends be accepted or discouraged?

As a professional working with families, I am often asked about imaginary friends. I never experienced this behavior with my own son so I have little personal information to share. One child ...
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3answers
854 views

What are the pros and cons of school-aged adopted children taking their adoptive parents' name?

We are in the final stages of adopting kids ranging from ages 7-12. The question has come up a time or two about last names, namely if they should keep their last names, or if we should give them ...
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New born seems to be spitting up entire meals. Should I be worried?

We have a baby that is a little over a week old and it seems like after some feedings she is spitting up what looks like her entire meal (breast feeding). I've been weighing her and she still seems ...
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How can I help my ten-year-old not be traumatized by the deaths of characters in books?

My daughter understands these are characters, not real people. She writes stories herself, mostly for school, and understands that "something has to happen." Yet the death of any character with more ...
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2answers
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Explaining to a toddler when masturbation is appropriate

Our toddler has discovered the joys of having her hand down the front of her panties. Frequently. Now, we don't want to tell her that doing so is wrong, but we want to explain to her that there's an ...
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3answers
472 views

What are some ways to get an older sibling to give a younger sibling a little space?

We have 2 daughters - a 4 year old and a 1 year old. Our 4 year old daughter will not leave our 1 year old daughter alone. It is nothing malicious or intentionally mean, but it feels like we should ...
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3answers
207 views

Preventing motion sickness in a baby on a plane

A few weeks ago, we took our 6-month-old on the plane for the first time. Five hours into a ten-hour flight, with no warning at all, he vomited (and spectacularly, not a little milk burp). A week ...
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3answers
953 views

At what age or developmental milestones is a child capable of critical thinking?

I am interested in pursuing a non-authoritarian approach to educating my son and I do not know at what age (or prerequisite milestones) the focus of education should switch from telling him facts to ...
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5answers
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How do I talk to my child about homelessness and mental illness?

We live in Vancouver, Canada, which for various reasons (weather, policy effects, etc.) has a large homeless population. Many of them suffer mental illness of some degree. Panhandlers are a common ...
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4answers
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At what age can children understand and respond well to discipline?

When my daughter was 6 months old, she liked to crawl over to our floor lamp and play with it (which is dangerous). Instead of trying to correct her behavior, we simply moved the lamp behind a child ...
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3answers
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How do I stop my daughter from hitting another child?

Recently my daughter started to hit another girl with whom she is currently sharing her nanny. My daughter is 2 years and 2 months now, the other child is 1 year 3 months. The nanny was our daughters ...
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8answers
243 views

What are some resources to help in learning sign language?

Any recommended books, DVDs, websites, etc for parents wanting to use sign language with their (hearing) baby?
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3answers
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Explaining sexual attraction

So, my prepubescent daughters have pretty much got an idea about 'where babies come from', though their curiosity so far has only got them as far as how the baby gets out, not how 'Paolo' gets 'in'. ...
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3answers
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How do you operate a successful “Star Chart”?

So, one of the techniques for improving behaviour that you often hear about is the "star chart". You put the focus on good behaviour by adding stars (I nearly said "badges") for the good stuff and ...

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