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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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4answers
546 views

How to handle post traumatic stress with my 6yr old daughter?

4 weeks ago some weirdo shot at my balcony (probably for fun) with a gun used for practice. Anyway, the glass of my balcony door broke. At the same time my daughter of 6 was sitting just next to it, ...
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8answers
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How can I get my child to stop biting others?

How do I get my 5-year-old to stop biting his brother and classmates?
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8answers
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How can I address toddler's fear of water over her face?

Our 2 and half year old daughter who used to love baths, playing in the pool and just playing with water now is terrified to bathe. It is a battle to even get her in the tub, let alone to try and ...
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4answers
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Is walking barefoot bad for my child's health?

I've heard all my life that walking barefoot on a cold floor would make me (when I was a child) more susceptible to catching a cold and things like that. My wife keeps saying that to our child. Is ...
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10answers
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How do I explain regional differences in language?

What are good methods of explaining to my four-year-old son why "color" is not how he should spell "colour", even though it is spelt that way in many of the books he's reading? (Also "realize", ...
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How can we teach a toddler to use first person and second person point of view in speech?

My 2y5m old daughter speaks rather well for her age, but she keeps using 3rd person in almost every situation. Whether she speaks about herself or people she addresses to, she uses third person: not ...
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9answers
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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3answers
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How can we discipline our toddler?

TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed. At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
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7answers
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How often should I bathe my newborn?

He's starting to get pimples. We had thought that we only needed to bathe him once a week, though I can't remember where we read that.
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3answers
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My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
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3answers
515 views

Methods for reducing or coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation is a major problems for parents of a newborn child. Are there methods which could help young parents cope with sleep deprivation or reduce it? Have you tried any of them? What is ...
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6answers
859 views

How to help a tomboy not dread puberty

She's ten and mostly plays with the boys, fitting in well due to her easy-going nature, outstanding athleticism, strong sense of fair play, and wild and crazy sense of humor. She's super competitive, ...
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6answers
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Being good or not at playing with kids

I noticed that some of my friends naturally play with any kids including mine: they have no difficulty finding anything funny to do to them or with them and make them laugh and have fun. By contrast, ...
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10answers
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How can my toddler learn to stay under the blanket at night?

My 2yo son slept in a sleeping bag (see image below) until around 1½ years old, then he didn't like that anymore so we switched to using a blanket. He moves around so much while sleeping that the ...
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4answers
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In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?

Children, especially young children, are creatures of opportunity. They see a lesser prize within their grasp and a much greater prize that they may have to work for, and they will take the lesser ...
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4answers
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How long is breastfeeding effective and worthwhile?

I realize that this question can have many personal or subjective viewpoints, so the answer I'm looking for is what the best-known data shows us from two perspectives: Is there an average ...
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4answers
4k views

How does having a second child change your life?

Most parents would probably agree that having a child will deeply change your life. But how does having a second child change your life? Second-time parents won't be much surprised about the smell ...
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5answers
639 views

What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?

There is no shortage of questions here that relate to stopping or limiting computer time and game playing. What studies are motivating these concerns? I ask this as someone biased because I spent a ...
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6answers
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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3answers
506 views

Expat child refuses to learn local language

We are a Spanish family who has recently relocated to England with our children. Our 6 year old boy can't speak nor understand English; he knows some words, basic phrases and a few numbers, but that ...
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9answers
17k views

How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?

I have an 11 y/o son who is showing a tendency towards becoming gay. People have seen him walking like a girl but I haven't. I'm thinking that they are just judgmental. On his computer games he ...
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14answers
2k views

How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?

It's hard to imagine a more difficult life decision than deciding to be a parent. How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
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13answers
2k views

Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
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2answers
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Why do Heinz's Honey packets say not to give them to children under 12 months?

I was getting tea today and noticed those cute little honey packets made by Heinz. At the bottom of the packet it says: DO NOT FEED TO CHILDREN UNDER 12 MONTHS OLD - why?
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16answers
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How to get toddler to eat eggs?

A long while ago my 2 yr 9 mo old son decided he did not like eggs. He was good enough to taste them (and re-tasted them on a couple later occasions), but he made up his mind he just does not like ...
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6answers
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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11answers
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5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
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5answers
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What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
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7answers
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How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
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3answers
4k views

What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
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9answers
11k views

What can I do to baby-proof my home entertainment system?

My home entertainment system is a mess - there are cables, remote controls, various units, multiple plugs, DVDs, Blu-Ray disks, corners, glass bits and other various components which make for a fun ...
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4answers
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At what age should siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Currently we have one bedroom for our two daughters. Until what age can they share their room?
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Our babygirl doesn't say mommy

I am from Turkey and in Turkish the word for father is baba and dede for grandpa. Our 17 month old baby girl follows me all day with repeated baba but rarely says anne for mommy. As much as this ...
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9answers
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What is considered to be a safe age to be a babysitter?

One option for a babysitter is finding an older child (teenager) in your neighbourhood. The benefits are obvious (you get to know the family, so there's more trust). But is it truly safe to leave ...
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5answers
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What language should I use to talk to my baby?

I know two languages: My 'mother tongue' and English. I used to speak my mother tongue until I moved to an English-speaking country at the age of 8. Consequently, my mother tongue is at the level of ...
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7answers
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?

I have been going to church my whole life and faithfully following the Christian religion for 18 or so years. I'm 20 years old, and I have been having doubts about my faith for about 2 years now. My ...
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7answers
819 views

Should I use “pet names” when talking about (private) body parts with my child?

Given some recent questions regarding sexual discussions with questions, I want to take a step back and ask a related question: Should I use "pet names" when referring to a body part with my child? ...
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6answers
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Should I encourage my 2½ year old to attempt to “read” his own stories?

My little boy is 2½ now, and has enjoyed being read to at bedtime since he was small. But lately he's started refusing to be read to at all. Instead he says "No, I want to read it" and takes the ...
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7answers
53k views

Advice for carrying out the “Stay in Bed” technique with our 2-year-old

My two-year old has always had trouble settling and sleeping through the night, but recently the problem seems to have become an awful lot worse. It all came to a head one night a few weeks ago after ...
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6answers
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How to begin reading to an active toddler?

Occasionally I come across an article describing that parents read to their kids. I like that, but I am not sure how and when to start doing so. In fact, this question is not really about my son, ...
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7answers
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Can a toddler spend too much time with books?

Back when we were still expecting our son to be born, we were told all about how important it was to read to our son, even before he was born. Being avid readers ourselves, my wife and I felt this ...
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6answers
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Preventing anti-STEM bias especially with girls

Both of my children love science, and my wife and I have encouraged this in our children. However, at a recent school activity fair the representative for a science oriented group (robotics if I ...
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2answers
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How should I respond to a parent who's upset their child wasn't invited to a (small) birthday party?

For my son's 10th birthday we told him he could invite 3 friends over for a sleepover. The party was a ton of fun until the next day, ( for me that is!) I received a text message from the mother of ...
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2answers
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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7answers
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Is it really that bad to get water in an infant's ear?

My baby girl loves taking baths but, of course, we get conflicting information about how often and how careful we should be of water in her ears. The pediatrician said every other day and didn't say ...
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6answers
636 views

Is it harmful to a child's social development to tell them “don't talk to strangers”?

Conventional parenting wisdom tells us to drive the fear of talking to strangers into our kids. Is this at all harmful though? Is there any adverse impact to a child's social development by doing ...
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3answers
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Can I give my baby a bottle of breastmilk straight from the fridge?

I'm exclusively breastfeeding my baby, and occasionally give him pumped bottles. I generally try to warm them up before giving them to him, at least to room temperature. (I was once told as a tip to ...
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4answers
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How to answer someone who says, “What he needs is a good spanking!”

I was in a restaurant when my 2.5 year old decided to throw a major tantrum. I used time outs, so I scooped him up and carried him towards the door (he was crying and flailing). Much to my ...
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3answers
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Is a small kindergarten class a problem?

We have to choose between 2 good schools but one of them is rather small. There are about 8 children in the class. Is it bad or good for a child to be in a low populated classroom? Social interaction ...

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