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How quickly do I need to change my newborn with a dirty diaper?

How quickly do I need to jump on changing a dirty diaper? What are the downsides of waiting vs getting right to it? I have two specific scenarios in mind: I'm holding my son during the day time, ...
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4answers
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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Should children be preemptively taught about drugs, alcohol, and sex?

This is a follow up to When should you start talking with your children about sex?. Is it better for parents to preemptively educate children about taboo subjects such as drugs, alcohol, sex, or ...
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Sex play in young children

I have a 3 year old daughter who spends a bit of time playing with her male cousin who is 5 1/2. I recently walked in to my daughter's room where they were playing to find my daughter completely ...
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14answers
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Are modern cloth diapers really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers?

Are modern cloth diapers such as gDiapers or bumGenius really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers? It seems the diapers themselves are quite expensive and then you have to include the cost ...
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4answers
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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7answers
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How to avoid corporal punishment?

I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself. We have two boys, one's five and the other's two. Due to their age ...
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3answers
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?

I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
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6answers
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How do you discipline someone else's child?

We have friend who is living with us and he has a 5-year old boy. The child has been disrespectful and distructive. He tore a ceiling fan down, and has been breaking stuff and writing on the walls. ...
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What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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7answers
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
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8answers
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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4answers
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Introducing my children into my disbelief in a Christian environment

While most of my adult life I've been trying to accommodate myself as both an agnostic and a non-theistic Catholic Christian, recent events had lead me to reject being a Christian and embracing my ...
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5answers
761 views

How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage?

I am Christian (though admittedly, liberally so) while my husband is Agnostic. He agrees that it is appropriate for our child to receive some education in my faith, but we have been unable to find a ...
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5answers
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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6answers
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Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
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11answers
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What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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13answers
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Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
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6answers
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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11answers
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What is a reasonable amount of time to wait before family visits your new baby?

My wife and I are preparing to negotiate with our families about visiting our first baby. We want to take some time to recover and feel like we have a comfortable routine before taking visitors. We ...
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6answers
7k views

Is baby talk helpful or detrimental?

I have heard both that 'baby talking' in response to a child's babble is productive, and that 'baby talking' is counter-productive and can impede language development. Any thoughts?
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8answers
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5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
13
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8answers
286 views

Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?

I don’t have any immediate plans for a child. At the earliest (probably), I’ll become father in 3 years. I can imagine that the time will become stressful as soon as the child is on the way, not to ...
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4answers
886 views

3 year old tantrums in public

Yesterday we (wife, 3 year old son, 6 year old daughter, me) were at a mall. After we stepped off the moving pavement my son decided that he wants to go another direction, and pulled his hand out of ...
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7answers
1k views

Can a toddler spend too much time with books?

Back when we were still expecting our son to be born, we were told all about how important it was to read to our son, even before he was born. Being avid readers ourselves, my wife and I felt this ...
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2answers
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How can we end nighttime 'comfort' nursing?

My wife and I are just finishing up a 4 week trip home to visit the grandparents (we live in Australia, they in North America). We have introduced the unfortunate habit in our 10 month old daughter ...
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4answers
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Is walking barefoot bad for my child's health?

I've heard all my life that walking barefoot on a cold floor would make me (when I was a child) more susceptible to catching a cold and things like that. My wife keeps saying that to our child. Is ...
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7answers
4k views

How do we teach our 1 yr. old that “no” isn't a game?

We have a little girl that's almost 13 months old. She's found that when she touches a power cord or near an electrical outlet and we say "no" that it's a bit of a game. She gets a funny smirk on her ...
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7answers
39k views

How can I keep my infant from sleeping while bottle feeding?

We've been trying to get our infant on a schedule, but he tends to fall asleep before he's done eating, which makes it challenging, because he doesn't finish, and wakes up hungry too early. It also ...
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5answers
3k views

Video game addiction

I am a mother of a brilliant 18.5 year old young man who is obsessed with video gaming. This is a habit that has existed since he was 13 years old and was exacerbated when his severe chronic cystic ...
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4answers
2k views

My toddler wants to watch the same shows over and over

My son (2 and a half) watches about 3-6 hours of television a week at home (usually closer to 3 than 6). However, most of that time is spent watching the same shows or movies time and time again. We ...
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4answers
3k views

At what age can children understand and respond well to discipline?

When my daughter was 6 months old, she liked to crawl over to our floor lamp and play with it (which is dangerous). Instead of trying to correct her behavior, we simply moved the lamp behind a child ...
11
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2answers
474 views

Should imaginary friends be accepted or discouraged?

As a professional working with families, I am often asked about imaginary friends. I never experienced this behavior with my own son so I have little personal information to share. One child ...
11
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7answers
11k views

How do you teach young kids to defend themselves?

How do you teach kids to defend themselves, without becoming bullies? I'm talking about younger kids (1.5 to 3yo) who are not mature enough (or old enough) to take self-defense classes. My son is two ...
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4answers
480 views

What exactly is the problem with the Television?

I know it is recommended that kids not watch TV till they are at least two years old, and even then that TV viewing be pretty minimal. However, I wonder what are the actual detriments to kids older ...
10
votes
4answers
709 views

How do you introduce video games without pushing other activities into the background?

I am a gamer. I enjoy playing video games, and they've been a part of my life since I was a kid. I believe there are a lot of potential benefits from playing video games, and I want to be able to ...
10
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8answers
1k views

How to react when a child is in a dangerous situation which requires immediate reaction?

As with all children my son (16 months old) frequently gets himself in dangerous situations There is no problem with somewhat "static" situations, like trying to climb on a chair or slowly reaching ...
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8answers
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When should we allow children to experience spices in food?

Based on this question, I think it would be interesting to hear opinions on use of spices in foods for toddlers. When we prepare meals, we add the seasoning/spices fairly late. This allows us to ...
9
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5answers
451 views

When is corporal punishment abuse, really?

My friend (who believes in corporal punishment delivered lovingly[1]) has cancelled two of her pediatrician appointments now because one or another of her (4) children have had bruises on their ...
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3answers
736 views

are there any peer reviewed studies showing the benefits of video games for kids (especially girls)?

I've been fairly against video games for my daughters (10,11,11) but I'm starting to rethink that. Currently their total "Screen Time" is limited. I might let (or even facilitate/encourage) them to ...
9
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4answers
530 views

How to teach a toddler how to treat a book?

My son is nearing 2½ years, and he's got a big stack of picture books. He loves to turn the pages but doesn't take any care in doing so. That means the books are often torn and the spine bent so far ...
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9answers
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip Kindergarten?

I have a 5 year old boy who is supposed to start Kindergarten in the US this year. He is advanced in many academic areas already, and we are worried he would be bored in Kindergarten. He is reading ...
8
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2answers
1k views

When will we know if our child is left- or right-handed?

Out of curiosity: At what age does one hand gain "advantage" over the other? When do motor skills start differentiating for arms?
8
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3answers
417 views

In what way does reading story books to babies help them (besides falling sleep), and at what age should it be started?

There is a cultural difference. Where I come from there is no concept of reading story books as a bed time ritual to babies. Though I do remember my father telling me mythological stories in order ...
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3answers
4k views

Does a breast feeding mother's diet affect the breast milk produced?

Example: If during breast feeding, I keep on eating lots of Ghee, Coffee, etc., it may or may not harm me. BUT, - Will those substances have an effect on the milk produced? - Will the baby be ...
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4answers
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Is it normal that a 2½ year old omits any “s” in the start of words?

My son is not quite 3 years old yet. He's doing great in terms of speaking except for one detail: whenever a word begins with an s he will just skip that sound. For instance he consistently says top ...
8
votes
5answers
993 views

What are the most important features to look for in a baby monitor?

I want to buy a baby monitor but I am overwhelmed by all the different options. based on your experience, what are the most important features to look for in a baby monitor? Please explain the reasons ...
7
votes
3answers
164 views

What are good ways to begin preparing a child for a new baby?

I have a 4 and a half month old, so this won't be applicable for a while, but I would like to raise my son with the idea that he won't be an only child forever. I want my children to have a good ...

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