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How and when should I teach my children how to swim?

I personally want to teach my children (all under 6yo) how to swim. What readiness guidelines should I use to determine if they're ready to start? What things should I teach them first? Are there good ...
18
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9answers
6k views

Should adults pay rent if they live in their parents' home?

If your grownup children still live at home, should they share cost of living in the common household?
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4answers
1k views

Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?

Our son is now at the age where we let him watch a moderate amount of children's videos to entertain himself -- all firmly G rated stuff. I have also been allowing him to watch some recent animated ...
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11answers
2k views

Can you guide a toddler to learn specific words?

My 14 month old has a pretty good vocabulary for his age. However, it is a source of frustration for my wife that "mommy" (or some variation thereof) is not part of his vocabulary. He says "daddy" ...
12
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6answers
3k views

Do we NEED to help a baby learn how to self-sooth? And how long can it take?

Before our girls were born, I told my husband that I didn't want to go through "crying it out" because I knew I wouldn't be comfortable with it. At the time he agreed with me. However, after close to ...
12
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6answers
5k views

What should you do after you've raised your voice at your child?

We've all lost our cool at one point or another. We all know its terrible to raise your voice at your kids, but every once in a while we slip. I've occasionally raised my voice to my teenager and to ...
11
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5answers
4k views

Can a Stepfather and Stepson relationship work well?

I am in relationship with a woman with a 6 year old son. I entered his life when he was 4 and so far we have had a very close relationship. He seems to listen to me, enjoys activities with me, and ...
11
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5answers
3k views

How do you explain World War II to young children?

My 7-year old son asks many questions about World War II. I have the habit not to hide anything, but concepts such as Nazism or the Holocaust are so inherently dreadful that he sometimes seems to ...
11
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8answers
2k views

How do you stop a toddler from trying to get into bed with her parents in the middle of the night?

For a few weeks now my 2 year old daughter has woken up in the middle of the night crying for mom or dad. This started out when we took off her diaper and she would cry to go to the potty. She picked ...
11
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3answers
297 views

What factors should you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter?

What factors do you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter per hour? The time of day, meals, duration, travel, etc?
10
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1answer
300 views

My son is getting presents from people he's never met; how do we teach him to appreciate the sentiment behind the gifts?

My two-year-old son is getting a lot of presents this Christmas. Quite a few of these presents are from friends of my wife, who've never actually met my son, or from relatives of mine that live out ...
10
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8answers
4k views

How can I deal with my unreasonable 8 year old with ADHD?

I have two kids, 8 and 5 years old. My first boy has ADHD he is on medicine, but the medicine will stop working after 4pm, or some times works good or some times so-so. The problem I have with him ...
10
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5answers
9k views

How can I get my 2.5 year old to sleep on his own?

My toddler sleeps well at night, its getting him to bed part is really frustrating. The main problem is that he won't let me leave the room until he falls asleep. He is not scared to be alone, he ...
9
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3answers
4k views

Walking barefoot is bad for my child health?

I've listen all my life that walking barefoot in the cold floor would make me (when I was a child) more susceptible to get a cold and things like that. My wife keeps saying that to our child. Is ...
9
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2answers
642 views

What kind of impact have parental quarrels on children?

What kind of impact (permanent or temporary) can parental quarrels have over a child on the short-term and on the long-term? I wish to know if some studies have been done on the matter. Answers with ...
9
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5answers
948 views

Why does my mother expect me to behave like others and herself?

I am 30 years old married. My mother (50 years old) keeps on telling me that *"Your cousin didn’t have problems with that then why are you having problems with the same thing/situation!"* *"I ...
9
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9answers
7k views

teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining

My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
9
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6answers
478 views

How do you keep up with a toddler?

My son is 2, and is seemingly a perpetual motion machine. He constantly wants me to "play cars" (we stand at a window sill and smash matchbox cars into each other), play "tag" or "chase me" around ...
9
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7answers
1k views

Should I supplement children's education at home?

I am a mom who has made two changes to my children's education so far. I was not satisfied with the level of education of school at the first school so we switched to a more rigorous academic ...
9
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5answers
15k views

What are the risks of putting a newborn baby to sleep on their front?

For our first baby, we were told by various midwives in no uncertain terms, that babies must always be placed on their backs to sleep (no explanation ever given- just instructions!). This was all very ...
9
votes
6answers
11k views

How do we prepare for a long car journey with a 2 month old?

Is there anything specific to think about when planning a long car journey (12 hours with an overnight stop) with a 2-month old? I guess one of the issues is whether one of the adults stays in the ...
9
votes
6answers
1k views

How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?

Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
9
votes
6answers
298 views

What techniques can keep a reluctant pre-schooler on a morning schedule?

Early starts at distant work make for alarm clocks and morning rush in our house. A 4 year old child and two adults have around an hour to get washed, dressed and fed to leave at 7am. To my son ...
9
votes
3answers
490 views

How can I handle a child that claims medical problems as a bad excuse?

I have 3 kids who seem to use medical reasons for excuses, most often to not go to bed. For instance, my 7 year old periodically "Can't move" at bed time to get to his bed, but when he gets in there, ...
9
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8answers
1k views

What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?

My nearly 6 year-old son is going to first grade next year. He's already reading quite fluently and writing. He does basic math (without writing). He has great sense of humor, and he loves to make ...
9
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4answers
1k views

How do I teach my toddler not to abuse animals?

We have two dogs and two cats, and our son loves to interact with them, but his form of interacting is not particularly enjoyable to the animals... Some of the things he does are just annoying, like ...
9
votes
3answers
767 views

How do you remove stains from cloth diapers?

Our breast-fed son occasionally has poops that are greenish. These tend to stain his clothe diapers. What is the best way to get stains out without compromising the ability of the diaper to do its ...
8
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5answers
638 views

Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
8
votes
5answers
729 views

How to persuade lazy-to-think kids to learn mathematics?

I am teaching mathematics for kids. Some of them are so lazy in thinking. They often answer my questions without thinking. And some of them also early decide that they will be artists, dancers, ...
8
votes
2answers
608 views

How can you teach a toddler about pain without actually inflicting any in return?

My daughter is entering those 'terrible twos', and as a father I want to find the method of teaching her discipline and self control that really gets the point across. For most behaviors, my wife and ...
8
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4answers
4k views

My wife is pregnant again, does she need to stop breastfeeding our son?

We have a 1 year old son, and my wife is now pregnant with our second child. Our doctor says she should stop breastfeeding our son because she is pregnant, because it may harm the fetus. This makes me ...
8
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11answers
5k views

When should I allow a child to swear?

Disclaimer: I do not have kids of my own yet, so this is more of a curiosity question. I'd met some kids via online gaming who were ages 13 or so, and swearing quite skillfully. I think in ...
8
votes
4answers
775 views

How to handle a defiant 2-year old when he takes something he shouldn't?

My very strong-willed 2 yr 10 mo. old son is curious about everything in his environment, which crops up as a problem now and then if something delicate, expensive, or dangerous comes into it. Eye ...
8
votes
1answer
206 views

How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I ...
8
votes
6answers
3k views

Is it okay for my newborn to sleep in a travel bed instead of his crib?

My "Pack n Play" is easy to move around the house and it contains things I need such as changing pad or diapers. Is there any disadvantage for letting my newborn sleep in this for a long period of ...
8
votes
1answer
1k views

What to do when toddler keeps using the potty to stay awake at bedtime?

We are working on potty training our two year old girl and it is interfering with our bedtime routine. She will often keep requesting to use the potty, knowing that we will take her out of bed to go ...
8
votes
7answers
2k views

Will getting child care from a non-native English speaker impact my child's language development?

My wife and I really like a neighborhood day care we recently checked out. The place seems very nice and the care providers seem to do a very good job. They are organized, appear to give a lot of ...
8
votes
3answers
629 views

How do we make our toddler less afraid of robots?

I'm sure the headline made you curious? :-) But I'm serious, and I am not referring to toys but actual household machines. We have a Roomba floor vacuum cleaner and a lawn mower. My 20-month son is ...
8
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4answers
1k views

Is nipple confusion a real thing?

Our baby daughter is breast-fed, but sometimes it would be convenient to supplement with a bottle of formula (mostly so that the mother can sleep a little longer while dad takes care of it). We keep ...
7
votes
3answers
546 views

Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
7
votes
2answers
3k views

Does daycare mentally damage children under three?

An article in The Times and plagerized here suggests that it may do children permanent mental harm to be left in nursery (daycare) when under the age of three. Jonas Himmelstrand, a Swedish ...
7
votes
2answers
2k views

Why won't my toddler sleep when her mother tries to put her in bed?

my daughter is 21 months old and at present behaves in a curious way. I don't think this question is a duplicate of others with similar titles. During the day she's a sweetheart, no problems at all. ...
7
votes
5answers
6k views

What should be done when your child wakes up from a nap and is extremely irritable?

We have a daughter who takes naps and (usually) wakes up extremely cranky and irritable. She is 1 month away from being 3. Because she is so irritable, she'll usually cry when she wakes up. Depending ...
7
votes
10answers
2k views

Do we need an electronic breast pump?

Since we plan that my wife is going to be a full-time/stay at home mom, do you think she will need an electronic breast pump? We are first time parents. We do not sure if we need the electric one or ...
7
votes
2answers
1k views

How can I potty train my 4 year old daughter?

I have been trying to potty train my daughter over the summer to prepare her for nursery school. She started sitting on the potty for hours just in case she wet in spite of being told this was not ...
6
votes
4answers
168 views

Baby takes so long to wind, is there a solution?

Our baby was born prematurely and had to be bottle fed. The nurses joked that she was a 'windy baby' when she was being nursed. Now she's home and nearly six weeks old, she's devouring ample amounts ...
6
votes
2answers
495 views

How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
6
votes
6answers
7k views

My 3 month old gets up 10-15 times a night?

My 3 month old newborn has been waking up every 15 minutes to every hour during the night for 4 weeks and we have tried everything from Baby Wise to Baby Whisperer to the No cry Sleep Solution with no ...
6
votes
3answers
4k views

2 year old wont sleep

My 2 year old son, wont fall asleep without having someone in his room with him. He doesnt want to be touched or held. He just wants you to sit in the chair. And after he does go to sleep he wakes up ...
6
votes
4answers
11k views

Is my pediatrician missing something about my 3 month old's gas pain?

My 3 month old has cried out at between 4:00 and 6:00 a.m. for hours in gas pain almost every night for the past 6 weeks or so. There have been 2 or 3 nights in this time where she did not have an ...

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