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How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
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11answers
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How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...
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4answers
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How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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10answers
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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11answers
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What is the impact on kids of having two working parents?

Having grown up with a stay-at-home mom, I wonder what negative impact not having a SAH parent has on young children and elementary school children (who are in alternative care after school). Let's ...
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5answers
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How to encourage a child to self-edit and take criticism positively?

Our eight year old daughter writes well for her age, and has produced some really spectacular pieces in class. She's not terribly interested in writing for fun at home, though. When she does, what she ...
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2answers
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Have studies shown whether toys that feature guns or other weapons prominently promote violent behavior?

Note: I am looking for referenced answers only! Answers citing one or more peer reviewed studies, or, better yet, a meta analysis of several such studies, would be ideal. Answers that reference ...
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2answers
561 views

Should imaginary friends be accepted or discouraged?

As a professional working with families, I am often asked about imaginary friends. I never experienced this behavior with my own son so I have little personal information to share. One child ...
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2answers
1k views

My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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3answers
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Can I give my baby a bottle of breastmilk straight from the fridge?

I'm exclusively breastfeeding my baby, and occasionally give him pumped bottles. I generally try to warm them up before giving them to him, at least to room temperature. (I was once told as a tip to ...
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9answers
2k views

What are the basic items we should buy to receive our new baby?

We've being looking online for a to buy list of basic items we should buy before having a baby. We are planning to move so we want to buy just the basic needs.
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4answers
7k views

How to deal with incessant talking?

Our 4 year-old is constantly talking. This isn't your average pestering parents on a topic until they answer or you lose interest. He never loses interest and continually switches to any random ...
11
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8answers
263 views

What are some resources to help in learning sign language?

Any recommended books, DVDs, websites, etc for parents wanting to use sign language with their (hearing) baby?
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1answer
315 views

At what age is gender identity developed?

Recently, I've been seeing videos and news that say that gender identity is formed much earlier than commonly believed, with respect to gender identity disorders or being transgender. Such information ...
10
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4answers
600 views

What exactly is the problem with the Television?

I know it is recommended that kids not watch TV till they are at least two years old, and even then that TV viewing be pretty minimal. However, I wonder what are the actual detriments to kids older ...
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4answers
1k views

When can children understand the concept of lying?

How old does a child have to be to be lying on purpose? How old are they before they can understand the concept of a lie vs the truth? What about not the truth vs the truth?
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5answers
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When is the best time in a child's development to move to a different area?

We're thinking of switching to a different region at some point in the future. We're not sure when would be best with regards to our child's education and development needs? Would it be best to move ...
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3answers
4k views

How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?

My 3½ year old son has been diagnosed with a mild eye defect, so he is getting corrective glasses (with non-shattering plastic lenses, obviously). As I've never worn glasses myself, nor my wife at ...
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16answers
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How do we get our toddler to gain weight?

Our toddler isn't gaining weight, and our doctor told us to fix it. We stopped breastfeeding and she gained a kilo in just two weeks, but since then (soon two months) she hasn't gained anything again, ...
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5answers
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Disney, Dreamworks and Pixar: What is the appropriate age to start showing their films to a child?

My godson is soon having his first birthday. I think that's too young to start putting him in front of the TV to watch films (although he does appear to enjoy toddler TV like Bumba with healthy ...
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2answers
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My one year old son doesn't want to eat. What happened to my son?

When my son was under 11 months old, he ate a lot, but I don't know what changed when he reached 1 year old. It seems like he doesn't like to eat. When we give our son food, sometimes he tries to ...
7
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6answers
35k views

Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem?

I understand that temper tantrums are relatively normal for many children. However, some children seem to have far more temper tantrums than other children their age, and others far fewer. Can ...
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3answers
5k views

Attention-promoting activities for a toddler

ADD runs in our family ("in fact, it practically stampedes"), and I'm starting to see my toddler's attention become more and more difficult for him to control; he's beginning to have difficulty ...
6
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5answers
430 views

How should I deal with my toddler's difficult behavior towards food?

My daughter is almost 15 months old and has always been a small eater. She was breastfed for the first 5 months then solids were gradually introduced. It went okay for the first few weeks but soon it ...
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6answers
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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4answers
2k views

Is it reasonable to put limits on a pre-teen playing video games?

Posted on behalf of a friend of mine: What are appropriate rules for how much time kids actually get to play video games (such as x-box 360, PlayStation 3, or on the PC)? Apparently we are the ONLY ...
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5answers
354 views

Teaching mathematics to young children

When I was a child, I learned basic mathematics (addition, subtraction) through practice and memorization of basics (6 + 7 = 13). However, while I was visiting a child (5 yrs. old) over New Year's, I ...
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9answers
71k views

How quickly do I need to change my newborn with a dirty diaper?

How quickly do I need to jump on changing a dirty diaper? What are the downsides of waiting vs getting right to it? I have two specific scenarios in mind: I'm holding my son during the day time, ...
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4answers
4k views

Should children be preemptively taught about drugs, alcohol, and sex?

This is a follow up to When should you start talking with your children about sex?. Is it better for parents to preemptively educate children about taboo subjects such as drugs, alcohol, sex, or ...
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6answers
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Sex play in young children

I have a 3 year old daughter who spends a bit of time playing with her male cousin who is 5 1/2. I recently walked in to my daughter's room where they were playing to find my daughter completely ...
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4answers
3k views

How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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14answers
3k views

Are modern cloth diapers really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers?

Are modern cloth diapers such as gDiapers or bumGenius really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers? It seems the diapers themselves are quite expensive and then you have to include the cost ...
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7answers
3k views

How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
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7answers
2k views

How to avoid corporal punishment?

I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself. We have two boys, one's five and the other's two. Due to their age ...
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7answers
9k views

What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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7answers
2k views

Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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6answers
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How do you discipline someone else's child?

We have friend who is living with us and he has a 5-year old boy. The child has been disrespectful and distructive. He tore a ceiling fan down, and has been breaking stuff and writing on the walls. ...
19
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4answers
860 views

Introducing my children into my disbelief in a Christian environment

While most of my adult life I've been trying to accommodate myself as both an agnostic and a non-theistic Catholic Christian, recent events had lead me to reject being a Christian and embracing my ...
19
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11answers
6k views

What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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12answers
8k views

How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?

Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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5answers
3k views

My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
17
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7answers
3k views

Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
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11answers
14k views

What is a reasonable amount of time to wait before family visits your new baby?

My wife and I are preparing to negotiate with our families about visiting our first baby. We want to take some time to recover and feel like we have a comfortable routine before taking visitors. We ...
16
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2answers
7k views

At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub?

Today when my daughter took a bath I wanted to go check on a thing, but of course couldn't since I was watching her. Of course it depends on the child, but in general at what age do you think you can ...
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11answers
28k views

5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
15
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13answers
1k views

Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
15
votes
6answers
7k views

Is baby talk helpful or detrimental?

I have heard both that 'baby talking' in response to a child's babble is productive, and that 'baby talking' is counter-productive and can impede language development. Any thoughts?
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6answers
5k views

Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
14
votes
8answers
298 views

Long-term preparations for becoming a parent?

I don’t have any immediate plans for a child. At the earliest (probably), I’ll become father in 3 years. I can imagine that the time will become stressful as soon as the child is on the way, not to ...
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7answers
1k views

Can a toddler spend too much time with books?

Back when we were still expecting our son to be born, we were told all about how important it was to read to our son, even before he was born. Being avid readers ourselves, my wife and I felt this ...

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