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How can I help a child stay motivated in learning to program?

How could I help a smart preteen child (pre-teen) learn programming? He does well in school, and he has skipped 2 grades and is an introverted stereotypical nerd. He is very interested in web ...
22
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5answers
4k views

How much pressure should I put on my kids to learn?

My wife just started reading "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother", a book written by a Chinese mother who talks about the pros and cons of the high-pressure and rigid parenting style of some Chinese ...
47
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8answers
4k views

Should we circumcise our son?

My wife and I will be having a son in about a month and we are still deciding if we should have him circumcised. There does not seem to be a strong medical opinion on the matter but we are ...
44
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13answers
30k views

What is a positive way to handle a boy who acts like a girl?

My 3yo regularly plays and acts like a girl. For example, he likes to take his arm out of one sleeve on his shirt and pretend he's a princess. He loves to dress up in his mom and sister's clothes. He ...
42
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10answers
16k views

My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
31
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7answers
10k views

Should I let my baby play with oranges?

I'm a father of a beautiful girl. She is 8 months old. I started playing with an unpeeled orange, tossing it in the air and catching it. My little girl noticed it and wanted to examine the orange. ...
30
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9answers
2k views

Reasoning vs “because I say so”

Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt." One of us feels that it is ...
27
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5answers
9k views

How many toys are enough/ too much?

My husband and I have decided to minimize the number of toys for our daughter for a variety of reasons... we have a small house, I am unemployed also we see how greedy many children who have ...
21
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8answers
3k views

Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?

This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old). When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
19
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7answers
10k views

How much should I interact with my newborn?

I have a 2 month old baby. My wife and I take care of him collectively. As he is growing, his sleep time is reducing. Sometimes, due to our schedules, we want him to sleep, but the baby is still ...
12
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5answers
939 views

Is complimenting children where they can hear it good or bad?

TL;DR: Is there anything wrong with praising children to their parents while the children can hear it? From R. Kipling's "The jungle book": ‘How beautiful are the noble children! How large are ...
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6answers
517 views

Preparing quality bedtime stories

When I was a child I enjoyed my mom's bedtime stories so much, and even now I can still remember some of them. Now it's my turn to pass such a wonderful experience down to my daughter. However I am ...
31
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6answers
88k views

How worried should I be about head bumps as my infant learns to get around?

We have hardwood floors in the house, and have made a little "play area" out of foam interlocking "tiles" for our 9 MO to play on. Of course, he's not content to restrict his explorations to the ...
25
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6answers
46k views

For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
16
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5answers
654 views

What studies exist regarding computer usage and computer game playing that support limiting access?

There is no shortage of questions here that relate to stopping or limiting computer time and game playing. What studies are motivating these concerns? I ask this as someone biased because I spent a ...
15
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7answers
2k views

How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
13
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2answers
2k views

When should a child transition through the different car seats, to none, and to the front seat?

What parameters (age/height/weight) should be considered when determining which type of car seat a child should use, or whether to use one at all? When should they be allowed to sit in the front seat?...
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4answers
7k views

When to allow children to consume sugar/candy/sweets/junk?

We have so far not allowed our toddler (20-months) any foods that contain sugar (chocolate, cake, sweets, sweetened juice, etc.) on the premise that consuming sugar is not needed and only causes ...
11
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9answers
3k views

What are some fun (no TV or computer) activities that a 2 year old and a 4 year old would enjoy together?

The only common activity I've found that works well so far is fort building. My 2 year old boy is very active, but my 4 year old daughter loves to have books read to her. However, when I'm alone with ...
5
votes
10answers
760 views

How can a pre-schooler improve her handwriting skills?

My brother's daughter is 6 years old. She is very smart and picks up things very easily. But when it comes to handwriting, she is not doing good. What techniques or tools can we give her in order to ...
30
votes
16answers
35k views

Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
29
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8answers
5k views

How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
25
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9answers
4k views

Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-...
23
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9answers
5k views

Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
21
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6answers
5k views

How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
20
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6answers
4k views

How do I deal with my wife's violent outbursts around our child?

I am becoming increasingly concerned by my wife's outbursts of anger. She has a very short fuse and very few coping strategies, so when something goes wrong (anything from a birthday party invite ...
19
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4answers
2k views

How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?

My son's just started school, and it seems to be exceptionally difficult to get him to talk about what he did during the day. The responses are generally, "I don't know", or "I can't remember". ...
18
votes
6answers
917 views

How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage?

I am Christian (though admittedly, liberally so) while my husband is Agnostic. He agrees that it is appropriate for our child to receive some education in my faith, but we have been unable to find a ...
16
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3answers
66k views

Can I give my baby a bottle of breastmilk straight from the fridge?

I'm exclusively breastfeeding my baby, and occasionally give him pumped bottles. I generally try to warm them up before giving them to him, at least to room temperature. (I was once told as a tip to ...
13
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8answers
5k views

How to nurture my child to be fearless

I feel that my two-year-old kid is fearful since birth, or it is my own fear. This question arose when I compared him with other numerous children. As a father, I don't want him to fear anything. I ...
13
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4answers
1k views

When upgrading our toddler from a cot to a bed, how do we keep him in his bed?

We want to convert our son's cot into a bed this weekend (starting Friday evening). We think it's time to transition because he often tries to climb out (but fails yet), and during daytime playing he ...
12
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8answers
5k views

How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?

Our daughter thinks she has an equal say in any of our decisions. She only does the things we tell her to do if she thinks they make sense, otherwise we have to threaten her, which makes her threaten ...
11
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4answers
1k views

When can children understand the concept of lying?

How old does a child have to be to be lying on purpose? How old are they before they can understand the concept of a lie vs the truth? What about not the truth vs the truth?
10
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4answers
994 views

How should I react if another child “attacks” my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)

Recently I was in the following situation: I wanted to pick up my son (4.5 years old) in the kindergarten and another child was throwing bark mulch at him. I don't consider this especially dangerous,...
8
votes
4answers
4k views

How do we raise our child with three languages?

My wife is Italian, I am Swedish. Between us we speak English, neither one of us knows the other language. We are currently living in Sweden and will do so for a while. The baby will be born in May. ...
41
votes
15answers
13k views

How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?

So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriends son from her previous relationship. I'm afraid though... He does ...
40
votes
6answers
8k views

Should I try to protect my son from hearing that his father wants nothing to do with his two boys?

My ex husband, who was near 30 when we had our first child, and 33 when we had our second, hasn't seen his children since 2008.. We broke up when the youngest was 6 months but as his girlfriend was ...
37
votes
12answers
18k views

I want to expose my 5-year-old daughter to boys and girls toys equally, but she just turned her nose up at Star Wars. What do I do?

My aspiration is to give my daughter experiences of boys and girls toys. My background is that I work as a software engineer and had experiences of LEGO, Meccano, programming and sci-fi movies. I don'...
35
votes
5answers
12k views

How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?

I think all babies look alike, even when they are not identical. I need to come up with a strategy over the next few months.
29
votes
4answers
2k views

How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
28
votes
9answers
101k views

How quickly do I need to change my newborn with a dirty diaper?

How quickly do I need to jump on changing a dirty diaper? What are the downsides of waiting vs getting right to it? I have two specific scenarios in mind: I'm holding my son during the day time, ...
26
votes
4answers
5k views

Mom too worried with germs and disease

I've a six month old baby. He's very healthy. My girlfriend (his mom) is literally terrified by the "dirt, germs, bacteria, and viruses" and any illness they could cause. So..just to name a few, she ...
25
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5answers
3k views

How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?

This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
23
votes
14answers
16k views

How to teach a child to swallow pills?

All my kids are bad at swallowing pills. For whatever reason, it doesn't go to the back of the mouth easily for straightforward swallowing. This is particularly problematic for the oldest (now 10), ...
22
votes
7answers
4k views

How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
21
votes
4answers
3k views

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
20
votes
8answers
4k views

Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
19
votes
9answers
1k views

How do we teach a pre-schooler about money and shopping?

When I go to a store with my four year old son he wants to buy a lot of stuff he sees. Also he constantly claims that he needs a new toy. How do I explain to him that we can't buy everything we want?
19
votes
11answers
8k views

What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
18
votes
4answers
10k views

At what age can you leave the child in the bathtub?

Today when my daughter took a bath I wanted to go check on a thing, but of course couldn't since I was watching her. Of course it depends on the child, but in general at what age do you think you can ...

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