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What are the pros and cons of school-aged adopted children taking their adoptive parents' name?

We are in the final stages of adopting kids ranging from ages 7-12. The question has come up a time or two about last names, namely if they should keep their last names, or if we should give them ...
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3answers
165 views

What is the best way to evaluate a daycare?

What questions should I typically ask if the topics don't come up? Also, what should I be looking for that might not otherwise be pointed out, or worse things they may hope as a novice parent I won't ...
10
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6answers
172 views

How do you choose a first pediatrician?

While it would be great to be able to just use the doctor we were raised with... assuming that's not possible: How does one not merely locate a good first pediatrician, but evaluate them? What are ...
9
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6answers
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What is the correct temperature and humidity to maintain in a child's room at night?

We have been advised to keep the child's bedroom cool and humid. Are there any specific guidlines on the correct ranges of temperature and humidity? Currently, we are using a humidifier and have ...
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7answers
4k views

How do you teach a toddler rhythm and melody?

My 1 year old daughter loves all kinds of music and rhythm. She dances and "plays" enthusiastically on both guitars, the piano and her toy glockenspiel. This has, since she was just four month, always ...
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3answers
451 views

Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?

So, my school gives kids who do well and turn in all of their homework in 5th grade a laptop. I'm not sure what I think of this, me being raised that computers should be kept in public areas so as to ...
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6answers
4k views

What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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4answers
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How do you reduce feelings of guilt for leaving children for a date night ?

We have two children, 3.5 and 1 years old. My wife and I rarely go out on our own, I can count on one hand since the oldest was born. We have never left them alone all night, they have always woken ...
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4answers
874 views

How do I teach my toddler not to abuse animals?

We have two dogs and two cats, and our son loves to interact with them, but his form of interacting is not particularly enjoyable to the animals... Some of the things he does are just annoying, like ...
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5answers
3k views

How can a young child be taught not to bully?

How can an 18 month old be taught that bullying is not ok? He seems to like causing the trouble it brings upon him, and bullying, mean acts also seem to please him. He likes to sit on his younger ...
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5answers
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How do we introduce a newborn to the family dogs?

When our newborn arrives home, how do we introduce our two dogs to the child? We have two Shetland Sheepdogs and they are of course very friendly and loving. Despite this, it feels that in the ...
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4answers
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Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?

Our son is now at the age where we let him watch a moderate amount of children's videos to entertain himself -- all firmly G rated stuff. I have also been allowing him to watch some recent animated ...
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7answers
2k views

Is punishment necessary?

I'm a young parent, and still have a lot to learn, but I have been wondering a lot about whether punishment needs to be a part of parenting. Maybe I'm being too optimistic here, but are there any ...
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3answers
5k views

Is it normal for a husband to sleep significantly more while his wife is pregnant?

Since my wife is pregnant, I've been sleeping a lot more. I feel tired much much earlier (around 9~10 instead of midnight). Is this a documented known reaction? I've heard of/seen men gain weight, ...
10
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3answers
607 views

How do you moderate a teenager's obsessive or excessive behavior?

We're not dealing with teenagers yet but I would really like to avoid this kind of outburst. How have parents with teenagers been able to find/establish a balance for their children to not be so ...
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5answers
2k views

Should I send my child to Kindergarten early?

My 4 year old daughter desperately wants to go to "big kids" school like her big sister. She's currently in preschool now and seems to enjoy it. She's bright enough that she should pass all the ...
7
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5answers
930 views

How can I help my child develop social intelligence?

I am interested in developing social intelligence in my child. What behaviors have parents introduced into their daily family routine specifically to encourage the development of social intelligence? ...
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6answers
3k views

What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children?

What can I do if other children pick on my children? Obviously I can't perform any disciplinary actions. Reprimanding might make my child look like a "mama's boy" and doing nothing might look like a ...
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9answers
7k views

How can I stop my toddler from playing with electrical outlets and plugs?

My 2.5-year-old son has this weird fascination with electrical outlets and power bars. I tried telling him that it's dangerous (he understand and can identify dangerous objects and situations, and ...
9
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3answers
721 views

How do you remove stains from cloth diapers?

Our breast-fed son occasionally has poops that are greenish. These tend to stain his clothe diapers. What is the best way to get stains out without compromising the ability of the diaper to do its ...
9
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4answers
312 views

What is the best way to transition from away from co-sleeping

We are co-sleeping with our son. At some point in the future, we will need to transition him out of our bed. What is the best way to do this? Cold turkey vs gradual? Specific age vs signs he's ...
4
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2answers
245 views

How do I prepare my child for a sleepover?

How do I prepare my kids for their first sleepover? What should I do if they want to come home?
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5answers
2k views

When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?

My 9-year-old is asking to bike to school without adults. He is generally responsible. So far I have said he needs to find a friend to go with him. What can children do to convince their parents ...
11
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4answers
481 views

How to get a child to stop pretending to choke on foods he doesn't want to eat?

I have a 4 1/2 yr old. We're at the stage where he's definitely finicky over foods. The issue is not so much that he's finicky, but that he expresses it by taking a bite and then mock choking. I am ...
4
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7answers
373 views

What age-appropriate sports allow the whole family to participate?

For a few years now I've been going to the gym three or four times a week, but since I've become a father if had to cut back my visits to the gym. Since this cutback already shows on the scale, I ...
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5answers
3k views

How much sun is too much for a child?

My three months old son really likes to sit or lie in the spots where the sun shines through our windows unto the floor. I guess he likes the additional warmth. Currently it's winter in Germany (from ...
11
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8answers
243 views

What are some resources to help in learning sign language?

Any recommended books, DVDs, websites, etc for parents wanting to use sign language with their (hearing) baby?
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6answers
450 views

How do you find great reading material for a child whose reading ability is far outstripped by his/her comprehension?

I have an 8yo child with CAS (Childhood Apraxia of Speech). Because the first two schools he attended didn't deal well with his CAS, he only really began to read about a year ago. He reads at a ...
9
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1answer
122 views

How should a child respond to peers who ask about their adoption?

Our child has always known they are free to ask about the circumstances of their adoption and we have always given open, honest, age-appropriate answers. However, this "free to talk" attitude may not ...
7
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2answers
622 views

How can we make the most of Parent-Teacher consultations?

We attend parent-teacher consultations once a term and we sometimes come out feeling as if we've just received the the boilerplate script. Little X is doing fine, reaching all appropriate milestones ...
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6answers
4k views

Is baby talk helpful or detrimental?

I have heard both that 'baby talking' in response to a child's babble is productive, and that 'baby talking' is counter-productive and can impede language development. Any thoughts?
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4answers
5k views

At what age do kids start sleeping through the night?

My son is now almost 12 months old and he still doesn't sleep through the night regularly. Maybe one night a month he will sleep from 7pm->6.30am without waking, and that's only if he's utterly ...
16
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11answers
601 views

What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
6
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1answer
355 views

What should we be considering when adopting a sibling for our 4-year-old son?

I have been wanting to adopt a child for some time now, and my wife and I are now trying to arrange things in our life to make it possible, such as trying to get out of debt so we can afford it and ...
5
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1answer
112 views

How should I handle my foster son saying he's not my 'real' kid?

I have a foster son, who today loudly and quite seriously proclaimed that he's not my real kid. He's lived with us for over a year, and we are most likely going to adopt him, having started the ...
6
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3answers
482 views

What can we do to monitor and evaluate how a babysitter is doing?

Is it appropriate to install recording or other monitoring devices? Should the babysitter know about them?
6
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3answers
1k views

At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Comments on this question suggested a companion question about opposite-sex siblings. We had our son and daughter in the same bedroom till age 7. We moved things around last weekend, not because any ...
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9answers
5k views

We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?

We've heard of some couples taking a long time to get pregnant, from the time when they decide to start. We're wondering what we can do to make the process faster.
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7answers
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How strict should we be with our 14 month old boy?

Our baby is really sweet :) Generally can be considered as a good / easy going baby. There are times though, when he gets totally out of control. I've had a discussion with a child-psychologist who ...
16
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8answers
975 views

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around a toddler?

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around when raising a small child?
6
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4answers
242 views

How can I teach my child to be careful about carrying potentially dangerous objects?

My 13 month old, who is a new walker but fairly steady on his feet, loves pens and markers. I want to encourage his writing and exploring, but I am worried about him walking around with these objects. ...
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2answers
3k views

Is teeth grinding bad for my child?

My one year old daughter will occasionally grind her teeth together for a few seconds. She has four teeth on top and four teeth on bottom, and she will grind them back and forth when she is walking ...
6
votes
4answers
272 views

How do you control the quantity of sweets and junk food a pre-teen eats?

For a pre-adolescent child, what strategies can I use to control the quantity of sweets and junk food that make it into his diet?
5
votes
2answers
165 views

When should a child be allowed to use public transit on their own?

When did you consider your child(ren) old/mature enough for using public transit? How did you go about making the decision about permitting this type of freedom?
8
votes
2answers
659 views

Should I let my 3 year old play educational games on my iPhone?

There are some great educational-type games for smart phones. Our daughter was able to navigate my iPhone pretty early on. She seems to learn a lot from the games she is playing - letter sounds, ...
4
votes
3answers
7k views

When can I cover my baby with a blanket in her crib?

Once our girls figured out how to kick their blanket loose so they were no longer swaddled, while they were sleeping, we were told they shouldn't sleep with a blanket anymore because the blanket can ...
16
votes
6answers
7k views

At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
10
votes
3answers
233 views

What factors should you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter?

What factors do you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter per hour? The time of day, meals, duration, travel, etc?
10
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4answers
851 views

When do you encourage your children to move out?

I recently met a guy, age 40, still living with his parents. In the gossip circuit this was considered inappropriate. But is it really? And if so, when does sharing a household with your grownup ...
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9answers
5k views

Should adults pay rent if they live in their parents' home?

If your grownup children still live at home, should they share cost of living in the common household?

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