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Why do parents refer to themselves in the third person?

Can anyone explain to me the reason why parents tend to refer to themselves in the third person, when talking to their young children? E.g.: "Hold Daddy's hand while we cross the road" as opposed ...
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What walking distance is acceptable for a 6-year-old?

We had a discussion in the family about how long of a walk can be taken with our 6-year-old daughter. We walked for 18.5 km (about 11.5 miles) and she was tired at the end, but after a 40 minute rest ...
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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?

How do I deal with 7 year old kid who refuses to do a chore or task? He's not listening and ignores my request.
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How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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At what age should a child stop accompanying a parent into the “wrong” public toilet?

When you're a Dad on your own you take your small girls into the Gents with you. Mums take their sons with them to the Ladies. At what age should we stop doing this? I guess the answer changes ...
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Which breeds of dog are safe to have around a toddler?

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around when raising a small child?
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Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...
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My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
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Are there any dangers or downsides to white noise as a calming tool

We find white nose to be extremely effective for soothing our 5-week old son. Loud white noise (60 decibels or so) will help soothe him when he is overtired and crying, and if we play soft white noise ...
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Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?

Our son is now at the age where we let him watch a moderate amount of children's videos to entertain himself -- all firmly G rated stuff. I have also been allowing him to watch some recent animated ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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666 views

How to prevent “open air incidents”?

We have a newborn who seems to like to pee when we change his diapers. Any tips on how prevent this?
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8answers
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How do I put my child in time-out when we're in public?

What is the recommended thing to do when my kids are misbehaving in public? For instance, I have had situations where they are yelling and throwing stuff in a restaurant, or the other day they one ...
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3answers
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My child has chickenpox, am I infectious?

My 3-year-old has had chickenpox for about 2-3 days, but a close friend has just had a baby and I want to go and help. Is it possible that I am infectious, despite not having the illness? I had it as ...
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How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
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3answers
671 views

My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
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What can be done to help bright children stuck in a boring school?

My kids (grades 2&4) are very bright and very active. The traditional school setting does not seem to be working for them. This is evident by their perpetual visits to the principal's office for ...
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Being good or not at playing with kids

I noticed that some of my friends naturally play with any kids including mine: they have no difficulty finding anything funny to do to them or with them and make them laugh and have fun. By contrast, ...
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Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
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For the benefit of the child: whats better - no father or bad father?

Whats best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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3answers
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Is it normal for a husband to sleep significantly more while his wife is pregnant?

Since my wife is pregnant, I've been sleeping a lot more. I feel tired much much earlier (around 9~10 instead of midnight). Is this a documented known reaction? I've heard of/seen men gain weight, ...
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How long is breastfeeding effective and worthwhile?

I realize that this question can have many personal or subjective viewpoints, so the answer I'm looking for is what the best-known data shows us from two perspectives: Is there an average ...
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How can a young child be taught not to bully?

How can an 18 month old be taught that bullying is not ok? He seems to like causing the trouble it brings upon him, and bullying, mean acts also seem to please him. He likes to sit on his younger ...
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1answer
777 views

Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?

Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him. However, when we are both present, he ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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7answers
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How to handle a 11y/o son who act like a girl?

I have an 11 y/o son who is showing a tendency towards becoming gay. People have seen him walking like a girl but I haven't. I'm thinking that they are just judgmental. On his computer games he ...
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980 views

Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
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8answers
841 views

When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?

I'm afraid to let my children get into relationships(i.e. girl-boyfriendships) too early just in case it did them no good. At what age would it be safe to allow our children this liberty?
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How can we make our newborn breastfeed less frequently?

We have a new baby (almost two weeks old). For the past 8-9 days she's had a habit of Breastfeeding every hour during the afternoons. She can spend 30mins feeding, then 30mins active and gurgling, ...
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What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?

Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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Is it too dangerous for my 2 years old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?

There are few questions about the iPad but I am interested in knowing if such habit has bad impacts on my son. He watches YouTube for hours and hours. I cant deny that he has learned some good things ...
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How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
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8answers
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Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?

I have been reading about star charts and other reward systems for children, and wonder whether rewarding what I would call normal behaviour (e.g. do your chores, don't hit your little brother, etc) ...
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What can I do to encourage my 12 year old son to enjoy productive activities?

I have a 12 year old son who if completely left up to his own devices, will spend almost all of his free time doing one of two things, playing casual computer games, and watching TV. I would like to ...
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7answers
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How to remove Toddler's attraction for iPhone /iPad?

I have a 2 year old boy. When he sees iPhone and iPad, he is literally glued to it for hours on end. And he is so stubborn that it is difficult for us to get him leave these instruments. Usually I ...
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10answers
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How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?

My four year old is completely pee trained, no issues when dealing with that. But when it comes to using the toilet for poop, he refuses. I'm constantly catching him going in his pants, leaving ...
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9answers
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How do you know when it is time to take a child to the Doctor?

Our children have recently been sick and I am wondering when is the right time to take them to the doctor. They both have had runny noses with coughs, diarrhea, and fevers off and on for a week, ...
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How to deal with parent's (grandparent's) extreme political views?

Problem Space: My mother holds an extremely polarized political view that I do not agree with. My Specific Issue: My mother has recently gotten to the point where she literally personally blames ...
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4answers
359 views

How to handle post traumatic stress with my 6yr old daughter?

4 weeks ago some weirdo shot at my balcony (probably for fun) with a gun used for practice. Anyway, the glass of my balcony door broke. At the same time my daughter of 6 was sitting just next to it, ...
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9answers
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How do I explain regional differences in language?

What are good methods of explaining to my four-year-old son why "color" is not how he should spell "colour", even though it is spelt that way in many of the books he's reading? (Also "realize", ...
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How can I stop my toddler from playing with electrical outlets and plugs?

My 2.5-year-old son has this weird fascination with electrical outlets and power bars. I tried telling him that it's dangerous (he understand and can identify dangerous objects and situations, and ...
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7answers
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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How can we discipline our toddler?

TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed. At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
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4answers
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Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?

Our 3 months old baby is very keen on rolling over and being on his stomach. Most of the time he automatically rolls over in a few minutes after we put him on his back, including during bed time. Is ...
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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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6answers
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Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
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7answers
622 views

Would it be bad to only speak to a child in a language in which you are not completely fluent?

My husband and I can speak daily conversational Mandarin, probably at the fluency and vocabulary of a native 3rd grade speaker. So decent, but not great. We speak 99% of the time in Mandarin to our ...
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7answers
690 views

Cleaning bathtub toys that squirt water

What is the best way to clean out bath toys that store water? Specifically, we have quite a few toys that have a hole in the bottom and can suck in water and squirt it out when squeezed. A few of ...

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