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Explaining mental illness to children

We have a relative with some sort of undiagnosed mental illness who (among other symptoms) compulsively cleans everything regularly with fairly strong bleach. Her fear of germs and infection is the ...
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7answers
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How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
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7answers
6k views

How do you teach a toddler rhythm and melody?

My 1 year old daughter loves all kinds of music and rhythm. She dances and "plays" enthusiastically on both guitars, the piano and her toy glockenspiel. This has, since she was just four month, always ...
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1answer
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What should I consider when deciding whether to homeschool my child?

This is an often-controversial topic, one where it's easy to find conflicting or misleading information. What are the important points to consider when making the decision to enroll in a mortar and ...
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5answers
4k views

How much pressure should I put on my kids to learn?

My wife just started reading "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother", a book written by a Chinese mother who talks about the pros and cons of the high-pressure and rigid parenting style of some Chinese ...
22
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10answers
1k views

How do you address sibling rivalry?

My children (7&9) always seem to be trying to get each other into trouble. The frequent sniping, digs, put-downs, and exclusion cause me concern. Many times the fighting comes down to a control ...
22
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4answers
2k views

How do you handle a teacher that teaches pseudo science?

It is not uncommon, that some teachers or schools introduce pseudo-science, like creationism, as a part of curriculum. Given that it is hard to change school quickly, how to deal with such situation? ...
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6answers
6k views

Making the child finish their food even if they are already full [duplicate]

As a child, my parents always made me finish my food even if I was already full. Food definitely isn't wasted this way, but overeating is not good either. What would be the advantages and ...
21
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12answers
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How do you feed a picky eater?

Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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14answers
2k views

How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?

My wife and I both tend to have... colorful language (for me it tends to be far worse when driving). Our son just turned one, and is starting to become more verbal. He's not quite at the point where ...
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7answers
2k views

Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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7answers
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How to avoid corporal punishment?

I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself. We have two boys, one's five and the other's two. Due to their age ...
21
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6answers
671 views

How do you find great reading material for a child whose reading ability is far outstripped by his/her comprehension?

I have an 8yo child with CAS (Childhood Apraxia of Speech). Because the first two schools he attended didn't deal well with his CAS, he only really began to read about a year ago. He reads at a ...
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4answers
2k views

What can I do to get my wife to be more involved?

I'm writing this in the middle of the night, right after a bottle feed and a nappy change coupled with incessant wailing piercing through my ears. I've often tried to seek solace on the internet ...
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8answers
3k views

Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?

This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old). When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
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4answers
1k views

What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
21
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4answers
3k views

Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...
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10answers
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What would be a effective way to explain pornography?

With the availability of the internet and also the video mobile device (PSP, ...) our children will face pornography at an earlier age than we have. So I want to face this problem and explain things ...
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5answers
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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
21
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3answers
5k views

Does it hurt my baby (developmentally) if she watches while I'm on the computer?

I have a 6 month old who likes to stare at my glowing computer while I code or browse the internet. Most of what I view is text or static web pages, so it's not content I'm worried about her viewing, ...
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14answers
13k views

Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?

I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
20
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14answers
12k views

My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't

My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't. We have been talking about it for the last few days (talking strongly). I have raised points such as: We will get less time to spend with our current kids. ...
20
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11answers
8k views

What is the impact on kids of having two working parents?

Having grown up with a stay-at-home mom, I wonder what negative impact not having a SAH parent has on young children and elementary school children (who are in alternative care after school). Let's ...
20
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11answers
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How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...
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12answers
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My 9 year old son regards life as meaningless [closed]

My son, who is currently 9 years of age, tells me that life is absolutely meaningless and that "we're all here to waste time". When he first told me this, I felt both angry and depressed. And no, ...
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14answers
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What is the least problematic age difference between siblings?

We have one young toddler daughter and are pondering when (and if) she should have a younger sibling -- and what age difference might work best for both of them. For many (most) parents, what works ...
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4answers
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Should I stop pirating TV in order to better role model for my toddler?

I regularly pirate TV shows and occasionally music or movies. Other than that, I lead a crime-free life. Like many people who pirate things, I'd never go into a store and steal a cd or dvd, which is ...
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10answers
5k views

What can I do to encourage my 12 year old son to enjoy productive activities?

I have a 12 year old son who if completely left up to his own devices, will spend almost all of his free time doing one of two things, playing casual computer games, and watching TV. I would like to ...
20
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3answers
3k views

How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?

Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
20
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10answers
10k views

How and when should I teach my children how to swim?

I personally want to teach my children (all under 6yo) how to swim. What readiness guidelines should I use to determine if they're ready to start? What things should I teach them first? Are there good ...
20
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6answers
2k views

How do you discipline someone else's child?

We have friend who is living with us and he has a 5-year old boy. The child has been disrespectful and distructive. He tore a ceiling fan down, and has been breaking stuff and writing on the walls. ...
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7answers
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?

My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?
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9answers
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Should adults pay rent if they live in their parents' home?

If your grownup children still live at home, should they share cost of living in the common household?
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4answers
4k views

How do you respond when a child catches his parents having sex?

I ask this Question on behalf of my neighbor. Their 12 year old son saw his parents having sex. As there is only one room in their home we can't say its the parents' mistake... but now the question ...
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6answers
4k views

How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
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3answers
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How can an older brother fill the parenting void of an absent father?

Technically, I'm not a parent, but I'm hoping you can help me. My father has recently left and a big void of fatherly like stuff has been left. I am that older son who moved back in and isattempting ...
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4answers
3k views

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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3answers
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How do you potty train for overnight?

My three year old is well on her way to being potty trained. She rarely has any accidents, , at least during the day. My wife and I put her in pull ups to sleep at night. My question is, whats the ...
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11answers
7k views

What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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15answers
4k views

Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?

Our son (7 years) is having piano lessons for some months now. Currently we want him to practice at least 10 minutes each day, but this is sometimes difficult if he gets home late after sports or ...
19
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10answers
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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!

My 5-year old daughter is very defiant. It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word "no" she throws terrible, dramatic fits, screaming ...
19
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6answers
9k views

How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
19
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12answers
8k views

How can I tell if my child is truly gifted or just bright?

I'm the father of a 2 year old and I can't understand if she's gifted or just very bright. First of all we live in Italy, here giftedness is not recognized by law and there are no special programs ...
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5answers
4k views

Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...
19
votes
9answers
1k views

How do we teach a pre-schooler about money and shopping?

When I go to a store with my four year old son he wants to buy a lot of stuff he sees. Also he constantly claims that he needs a new toy. How do I explain to him that we can't buy everything we want?
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9answers
11k views

How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
19
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7answers
9k views

How much should I interact with my newborn?

I have a 2 month old baby. My wife and I take care of him collectively. As he is growing, his sleep time is reducing. Sometimes, due to our schedules, we want him to sleep, but the baby is still ...
19
votes
7answers
4k views

Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
19
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10answers
75k views

Is TV harmful to my infant's development?

My wife and I use our TV to watch shows and streaming movies. Our 2 month old daughter is sometimes drawn to the TV and will turn her head towards it and will 'focus' on it. I know that their eye ...
19
votes
4answers
2k views

How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?

My son's just started school, and it seems to be exceptionally difficult to get him to talk about what he did during the day. The responses are generally, "I don't know", or "I can't remember". ...

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