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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
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How can I teach my child not to be greedy?

It seems that today's world has gone mad in consumerism and materialism. Parents give their kids presents on all kinds of occasions where presents didn't use to be given, like random holidays ...
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4answers
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How long is breastfeeding effective and worthwhile?

I realize that this question can have many personal or subjective viewpoints, so the answer I'm looking for is what the best-known data shows us from two perspectives: Is there an average ...
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3answers
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Is it normal for a husband to sleep significantly more while his wife is pregnant?

Since my wife is pregnant, I've been sleeping a lot more. I feel tired much much earlier (around 9~10 instead of midnight). Is this a documented known reaction? I've heard of/seen men gain weight, ...
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3answers
165 views

What is the best way to evaluate a daycare?

What questions should I typically ask if the topics don't come up? Also, what should I be looking for that might not otherwise be pointed out, or worse things they may hope as a novice parent I won't ...
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How can a young child be taught not to bully?

How can an 18 month old be taught that bullying is not ok? He seems to like causing the trouble it brings upon him, and bullying, mean acts also seem to please him. He likes to sit on his younger ...
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What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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14answers
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How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?

It's hard to imagine a more difficult life decision than deciding to be a parent. How do you know if you're ready to be a parent?
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Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
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At what age should a child be introduced to the Television?

At what age should a child be introduced to the TV?
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5answers
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What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
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Is crib use (mostly) universal?

We have friends who decided against a crib in favor of a futon mattress on the floor. This idea came from the book Montessori from the Start. The benefits for the baby are that they aren't confined ...
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How do I teach my baby to not touch my computer?

I have a 10 months old boy who really, really wants to play with my computer. It is not like he is mildly curious - as would be the case with power sockets, glass stuff and other objects which deserve ...
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10answers
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How do you convince your son to poop in the toilet?

My four year old is completely pee trained, no issues when dealing with that. But when it comes to using the toilet for poop, he refuses. I'm constantly catching him going in his pants, leaving ...
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7answers
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What are the risks of posting baby pictures online?

We've set up a Twitter account for our daughter so that interested people (friends, relatives, old ladies) can follow her, find out what she's doing and see how adorable she is. My sister heard this ...
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6answers
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Is baby talk helpful or detrimental?

I have heard both that 'baby talking' in response to a child's babble is productive, and that 'baby talking' is counter-productive and can impede language development. Any thoughts?
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Should you give honey to a newborn?

I visited a friend-of-the-family in hospital soon after they'd had their new baby. I was surprised to see a jar of honey by the bedside. I thought it was for the parents to have in Tea or on toast, ...
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7answers
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How to remove Toddler's attraction for iPhone /iPad?

I have a 2 year old boy. When he sees iPhone and iPad, he is literally glued to it for hours on end. And he is so stubborn that it is difficult for us to get him leave these instruments. Usually I ...
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7answers
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Help child overcome fear of water on head

My 22-month-old daughter absolutely hates getting her hair wet. At bathtime, she complains (crying, but without tears) when I pour water on her head in preparation for washing her hair (even if I'm ...
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8answers
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Are there any dangers or downsides to white noise as a calming tool

We find white nose to be extremely effective for soothing our 5-week old son. Loud white noise (60 decibels or so) will help soothe him when he is overtired and crying, and if we play soft white noise ...
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3answers
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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7answers
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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11answers
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Can you guide a toddler to learn specific words?

My 14 month old has a pretty good vocabulary for his age. However, it is a source of frustration for my wife that "mommy" (or some variation thereof) is not part of his vocabulary. He says "daddy" ...
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4answers
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In what ways can you help a child develop self-control and delayed or deferred gratification?

Children, especially young children, are creatures of opportunity. They see a lesser prize within their grasp and a much greater prize that they may have to work for, and they will take the lesser ...
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Would it be bad to only speak to a child in a language in which you are not completely fluent?

My husband and I can speak daily conversational Mandarin, probably at the fluency and vocabulary of a native 3rd grade speaker. So decent, but not great. We speak 99% of the time in Mandarin to our ...
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8answers
1k views

Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?

My 4-month-old has a set bedtime routine and will generally go happily to sleep - but occasionally (for no particular reason) he'll work himself up into a fit and cry for long periods of time, ...
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1answer
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Why would a primary-schooler want to kill himself?

My nine year old nephew told his (single) mother tonight that he wants to kill himself. What would prompt that? backstory: His father is ... upstate ... for a little while longer, and they do have ...
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6answers
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What's the best way to extract baby snot?

Our baby currently has a cold which means her nose is streaming with snot. She is quite unhappy with us wiping it away with a tissue every few minutes. I can imagine her upper lip is getting quite ...
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4answers
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How does having a second child change your life?

Most parents would probably agree that having a child will deeply change your life. But how does having a second child change your life? Second-time parents won't be much surprised about the smell ...
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7answers
716 views

How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?

My son is two and a half years old and is not in general of the violent type. However he regularly enjoys showing "cruelty". By that I mean that regularly when he "by accident" (let's stay positive) ...
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3answers
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How do you address hoarding behavior in a primary-schooler?

Our 9 year old girl has a rather annoying habit. She tends to hoard things of emotional significance to her. Note that the wrapper from an ice-cream she has just had for the first time is considered ...
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1answer
816 views

What stories for children have strong female role models?

I notice that just about all young children's stories (fairy tales, etc) depict women in a subordinate role. This hit me while reading Cinderella: her ultimate goal in life is to be the prettiest so ...
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Should we freeze some breastmilk for later use even if there's no excess supply?

My wife is currently pumping just enough milk to keep up with "demand". Since she'll be going to back to work and won't be able to pump as often as she does now, her milk supply will likely run out ...
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2answers
170 views

How to explain to your child one of you parents isn't around

Apologies for the question but I am stumped on how to approach an issue and this will be hard to discuss so excuse me for being blunt. My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I ...
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1answer
585 views

Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?

Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him. However, when we are both present, he ...
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2answers
216 views

Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

The autistic child (Aspergers Syndrome, age: 12) is constantly mobbed by other children, both in school and in the way to the home. It includes calling a names, mocking, showing faces, pushing, ...
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4answers
249 views

What should I do with my daughter on Take Your Child to Work Day?

I'm a programmer and will be observing Take Your Child to Work Day with my four-year-old daughter, Thing1, on Thursday. I'm planning to get us dressed up, take her to breakfast and then bring her ...
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How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?

We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training: Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
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2answers
287 views

Introducing my children into my disbelief in a Christian environment

While most of my adult life I've been trying to accommodate myself as both an agnostic and a non-theistic Catholic Christian, recent events had lead me to reject being a Christian and embracing my ...
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15answers
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When do kids usually stop believing in Santa Claus?

My 7-year old son treats Santa as a real person. He probably suspects something, but me and my wife always find a way to persuade him. What is the normal age when children realize that Santa is not ...
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At what age should siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Currently we have one bedroom for our two daughters. Until what age can they share their room?
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8answers
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What can I do to baby-proof my home entertainment system?

My home entertainment system is a mess - there are cables, remote controls, various units, multiple plugs, DVDs, Blu-Ray disks, corners, glass bits and other various components which make for a fun ...
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7answers
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At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?

I just told someone on parenting that a baby becomes a toddler when it starts moving around. The question which came back was "what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?". That got me searching, ...
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6answers
264 views

Where is the line on helping with homework?

Here's something I know a lot of parents with school-age children struggle with. What's the line between "helping" a child with their homework versus out-and-out doing it for them? At what point is ...
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12answers
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Is the “1 2 3 Magic” strategy for disciplining effective?

Has anyone had experience with the discipline strategies put forth in the book "1 2 3 Magic" by Thomas W Phelan? "1-2-3 Magic" involves counting your child for bad behavior. For example, your ...
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5answers
795 views

Mother in law making us feel guilty about money

We have a mother in law who always makes uncomfortable comments about things we've purchased, such as our TV. We're a single income family with two children living in an apartment. We have no debt ...
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4answers
736 views

What do we do to minimize negative impact to our child when we (the parents) argue?

My wife and I have 8 month old baby boy. Having a fight, for example debating, is something that we don't want to do. But sometimes, we can't avoid having a fight in front of our son. When the ...
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5answers
469 views

How to begin reading to an active toddler?

Occasionally I come across an article describing that parents read to their kids. I like that, but I am not sure how and when to start doing so. In fact, this question is not really about my son, ...
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8answers
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?

My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?

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