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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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What is a healthy, ethical way to deal with a nanny cam?

I know how silly it sounds, but it makes me feel better: I'm asking for a friend. (We've decided we don't need one, as our nanny appears to be far more capable than we - it might make more sense for ...
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1answer
72 views

How to encourage a toddler to swallow his food?

Our three-year-old son is quite picky when it comes to food. He has not been interested in eating fruits and vegetables, but recently he started to dislike certain meats as well. He would munch the ...
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How can I help my kids to sleep comfortably (and safely) on an overnight drive?

Asking this one anonymously, I don't want the police coming round to arrest me! In a few weeks, we've got a long drive to go on vacation. Because our youngest is pretty unbearable on long car ...
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4answers
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How to teach a child a foreign language at home when both parents aren't native speakers of a different language?

Kid's age is currently 6 months. Country: India I can write English well but am not fluent when it comes to speaking. I don;t have any native English speakers around me. What are my other options of ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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6answers
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How do we stop our daughter rolling over and waking herself up?

Our 5 month old generally gets her head down somewhere in the early evening. We lie the sleeping lump on the bed face up, and she snoozes. Then she rolls over onto her tummy and wakes up. She's at the ...
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My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't

My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't. We have been talking about it for the last few days (talking strongly). I have raised points such as: We will get less time to spend with our current kids. ...
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How to deal with children succeeding because of their parent's efforts rather than their own?

It's that time of year again: Pinewood Derby! The Cub Scout motto is "Do Your Best". But it's also important to recognize true excellence. Our pack does a good job of balancing those values by giving ...
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How do parents have sex when there's a toddler in the house?

Scenario: 1-bedroom apartment and there's no one else living in the house to watch the toddler. Any recommendation?
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5answers
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What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
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542 views

How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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2answers
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Are there some side effects of letting an infant eat chocolates?

My 10 month old has developed a liking for chocolate. Her grand parents are responsible for all this. I asked my parents to stop providing chocolate to her, but they still give it to her when I am ...
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141 views

Enforcing minority languages at home

We're a bilingual household in a country that speaks a third language. I speak Finnish to the kids, my wife speaks Japanese, and I speak Japanese with her. Our older son recently started going to ...
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3answers
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How do you respond when a child catches his parents having sex?

I ask this Question on behalf of my neighbor. Their 12 year old son saw his parents having sex. As there is only one room in their home we can't say its the parents' mistake... but now the question ...
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2answers
112 views

My 2 year old doesnt want to sleep through. drinks 5-7 bottles per night

My 2 Year old girl has never slept though. she used to wake 3 times a night for a bottle and then 5 times a night for a bottle now she is so bad she wakes up 10-15 times a night and wont go back to ...
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4answers
239 views

What are the key considerations when selecting a potty?

It's time for potty-training, but we have trouble finding a good potty. We first bought one that plays music, but it's just to big, she basically falls down into it when sitting. We looked for a ...
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6answers
2k views

How do I get my child to stop picking his nose?

My son picks his nose and, yes, eats it. How can I get this to stop?
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3answers
238 views

Are incentives (toys, candy) a good idea to help facilitate potty training?

We've been trying a number of techniques (videos, naked time, etc.) to help our almost-3yo to use the potty consistently, with some progress. All of our techniques have fallen into the "entourage, ...
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2answers
102 views

Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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80 views

Citrus fruits ok for babies?

Giving citrus fruit to a baby that is just starting on solids is discouraged on several places online, however i cannot find any solid reasoning behind this advice. Has there been any scientific ...
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5answers
444 views

Is potty-training in 3 days possible?

I want to potty train my 2-year-old, and I read about The 3 Day Potty Training Method which claims is possible to do it in 3 days! Has anyone tried this method?
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6answers
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Should we put our baby in a helmet to mold her head?

We took our healthy daughter for her 4-month checkup and half-jokingly asked the doctor whether we should be concerned about the fact her head is a bit mis-shapen. It is fairly round in the back left ...
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2answers
93 views

7 Yr Old Using Violent Language During Play

My 7 year old son has started using words like 'kill', 'murder' and 'stab' when he's playing with me or other kids. He's not angry or violent about it. For example we might be playing/pretending to be ...
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2answers
191 views

9 year old son brought a toy gun to school- how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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6answers
85 views

How can I talk my son through his competition anxiety?

This year my son tested into our district's Math Field Day competition. He was very excited to show us the results and we all agreed to commit to the weekly practice sessions after school. He enjoys ...
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2answers
249 views

How should I respond to a parent who's upset their child wasn't invited to a (small) birthday party?

For my son's 10th birthday we told him he could invite 3 friends over for a sleepover. The party was a ton of fun until the next day, ( for me that is!) I received a text message from the mother of ...
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1answer
73 views

Should children of incarcerated parents be told the truth?

On Saturday mornings, I visit a nearby county jail. Most of the men I talk to are fathers. Some are serving short sentences and others are awaiting trials that will likely result in lengthy ...
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How does one separate parent from playmate?

We play with our kids. We roll around on the floor and play with blocks and draw pictures. At the same time we nurture, feed, clothe, and educate them. So while we are playing and goofing off and ...
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1answer
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What are the tradeoffs to consider between monitor systems with dedicated screens and mobile-based ones (iPhone, android, etc.)

We've been using motorola's monitor system for some time, which comes with both monitors and cameras, and can be expanded with their proprietary devices. (You can add another camera and see both on ...
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3answers
114 views

How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
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252 views

16mo still not walking, I think it's my fault?

On Thanksgiving my baby girl took her first two steps by herself. When this happened the six people that were around her at the time, including myself, flipped out and started clapping and got really ...
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1answer
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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8answers
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How much time is too much time playing educational computer games?

I recently bought an iPad primarily for my 3-year-old daughter. I put nothing on it but educational apps and children's books. No YouTube, no Internet, no (non-educational) games. I've decided to let ...
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1answer
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My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
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2answers
139 views

Are boys naturally drawn to balls more than girls?

Having boy/girl twins, I find it interesting to compare their development over time. Recently my son started standing on his own and has learned to throw things. His favorite toys are balls that he ...
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4answers
331 views

Bed gets wet nearly each night although diaper is worn

Our 5 (nearly 6) year old son has had problems with potty training for a long time now. When he sleeps at night, he wears diapers, as he is not aware of peeing during the night yet and does not wake ...
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1answer
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Memory foam top covers and mattresses

We converted our 2 year old toddler's crib into an an accessible bed a few weeks ago. He's doing well on it, so we want to replace his crib with the brand new single bed we bought for the spare room. ...
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1answer
140 views

If you are using time outs, how do you deal with a toddler asking for them

We're currently trying to avoid punishment, with the exception of very "natural" consequences (refusing to eat lunch may result in no snack, etc.) But for a while, we were using "time outs" for those ...
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1answer
85 views

At what age do children notice the absence of a parent?

This past weekend, my wife went on a retreat while I stayed home with our 1-year-old twins. Since they were sleeping when she left, there was no separation anxiety. The next morning, I changed them ...
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3answers
127 views

Parental “Wow” as a reaction to trivial child achievements

The question is based on my personal feelings, so is probably biased and subjective. I frequently see parents (and remember my own) encouraging their children on every trivial or regular achievement ...
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1answer
80 views

How can parents avoid making decisions based on nostalgia?

Recently I saw an article passed around that advocated for more free playtime: We went to school, but it wasn't the big deal it is today. School days were six hours long, but (in primary school) ...
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1answer
63 views

How to talk to parents about death?

My parents have always tried to shelter me from trauma (divorces, illnesses and deaths in the family, and so on) which makes it difficult to broach the subject of death with them. This is more of an ...
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3answers
100 views

How can I get my toddler to drink more water?

My toddler doesn't like to drink water. She doesn't seem to notice that she is thirsty, even if her pee is a dark yellow. How do I help her to recognize that her body is thirsty and that drinking ...
6
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3answers
281 views

Why do my parents start ridiculing me in front of my friends?

I don't know if this is in the right place to ask this question. I am 27 years old and I live with my fiance. Everytime I happen to meet my friends and my parents are around, or whenever my fiance ...
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3answers
553 views

How can you offer other parents suggestions without making them defensive?

Because we parents spend so much time complaining to each other sharing best practices, we often find ourselves in situations where another parent is sharing an approach or technique that we have ...
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2answers
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Resistant child and potty training regression

My 3 year old son is really bright, has an amazingly long attention span, and can be loads of fun but lately he is fighting absolutely everything. It takes ages to get him dressed as he won't do it ...
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7answers
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How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
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2answers
131 views

Why do my children ask “Are you happy with me?”

For the past few months, my children, 2 and 3, have been asking me "Are you happy with me?" Of course, I respond with "I am very happy with you! The most happy!" But they still ask on a daily basis! ...
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How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...

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