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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!

My 5-year old daughter is very defiant. It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word no she throws terribly over dramatic fits screaming ...
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8answers
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...
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8answers
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How soon until I can take my newborn to take a walk outside?

I understand that newborn's immune system is still weak and crowds/strangers are to be avoided. Knowing this, how soon can I take my newborn outside, for example to take ~1 hours walk in a non-crowded ...
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7answers
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How much should I interact with my newborn?

I have a 2 month old baby. My wife and I take care of him collectively. As he is growing, his sleep time is reducing. Sometimes, due to our schedules, we want him to sleep, but the baby is still ...
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4answers
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What can I do to get my wife to be more involved?

I'm writing this in the middle of the night, right after a bottle feed and a nappy change coupled with incessant wailing piercing through my ears. I've often tried to seek solace on the internet ...
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9answers
732 views

How do we teach a pre-schooler about money and shopping?

When I go to a store with my four year old son he wants to buy a lot of stuff he sees. Also he constantly claims that he needs a new toy. How do I explain to him that we can't buy everything we want?
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3answers
2k views

How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?

Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
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6answers
1k views

Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it ...
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8answers
2k views

How do you manage free time when you have kids?

My problem is I have almost zero free time. I have two young kids 3 and 2 when they where young my wife didn't want to let them fall asleep by themselves so now I take the 2 year old and my wife ...
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9answers
5k views

Should adults pay rent if they live in their parents' home?

If your grownup children still live at home, should they share cost of living in the common household?
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3answers
463 views

Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?

My son is 18-months-old and he is in a daycare room with kids 16-months to 2.5 years. Most days when I pick him up they are watching TV. The shows range from somewhat educational (Dora, Sesame St.) ...
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6answers
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How can I teach my child not to be greedy?

It seems that today's world has gone mad in consumerism and materialism. Parents give their kids presents on all kinds of occasions where presents didn't use to be given, like random holidays ...
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5answers
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?

This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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4answers
3k views

How much pressure should I put on my kids to learn?

My wife just started reading "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother", a book written by a Chinese mother who talks about the pros and cons of the high-pressure and rigid parenting style of some Chinese ...
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4answers
805 views

Helping children cope with a parent's suicide

I like this site and thought I would venture with another question about my husband's suicide and how this has affected our children. I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a ...
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3answers
9k views

How do you potty train for overnight?

My three year old is well on her way to being potty trained. She rarely has any accidents, , at least during the day. My wife and I put her in pull ups to sleep at night. My question is, whats the ...
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5answers
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Getting a 2-year-old back to sleep in the middle of the night

We have always had trouble with our little boy not sleeping through the night. He will do it in spells (every night for a week, then not at all for a fortnight). But he has recently developed a ...
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13answers
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How do you teach morals and values in non-religious households?

There was a similar question to this one on moms4mom.com but I had trouble finding it earlier. My husband and I were raised Catholic, but neither of us believe any more. We have two daughters, and ...
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9answers
4k views

How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...
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11answers
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Is an expensive stroller worth it?

Strollers seem to come in all ranges of prices. From $100 to well over $1000 (sorry for the US-centrism, but I'd guess it is the same in other places). Given that this will probably be something that ...
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5answers
6k views

How can I potty train a 12 month old?

I want to potty train much earlier than is common, when my son is 12 to 14 months old. What's the best way to go about it?
17
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4answers
851 views

What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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7answers
2k views

How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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7answers
83k views

Do I really need to wake my newborn to feed him?

We have a two week old child. He's eating well during the day, eating at least 8 times a day, and is breast feeding. His weight gain has been 'normal' so far, and he regained his original birth weight ...
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12answers
920 views

Email and social media for pre-teens

My daughter is 11 and I discovered that she had a Facebook account and a personal email account. These were two things my wife and I had told her she wasn't allowed to have. I felt she was still too ...
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4answers
2k views

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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6answers
2k views

breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents

I know this isn't exactly appropriate for this site--I'm not a parent, I'm a son--but I think it's still applicable to the community here. I would prefer feedback from actual parents concerned about ...
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2answers
2k views

14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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3answers
2k views

How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
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9answers
876 views

What do we do when timeouts are not effective?

We have a three year old toddler, and he has just seemed to realize that timeouts are nothing more than him sitting in a corner for a few minutes. He has recently started doing a whole suite of bad ...
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4answers
808 views

How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?

What are good strategies to deal with children (not my own ones, but children I'm meeting in the kindergarten) which do things to me or to my son which they should not do like throwing things etc. ...
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3answers
3k views

How do you respond when a child catches his parents having sex?

I ask this Question on behalf of my neighbor. Their 12 year old son saw his parents having sex. As there is only one room in their home we can't say its the parents' mistake... but now the question ...
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5answers
1k views

What to do when parents disagree regarding their parenting

My husband and I often find that we parent differently. We know that up to a point that is why every child (hopefully) as two parents, so they can learn about difference in people, their approaches, ...
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4answers
409 views

How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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11answers
4k views

What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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11answers
659 views

What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
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6answers
9k views

At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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5answers
2k views

Is it okay for both parents to be asleep at the same time?

It's day 2 and we've been trying to always have 1 of us awake at all times watching the baby so that we're never both sleeping at the same time. Does a newborn need to be watched 24/7 or am I just ...
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5answers
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How can a father teach his girl child about menstruation?

Usually in a home, the mother will teach her daughter about menstrual periods, but consider this following situation: In my neighbor's home the father takes care of his daughter (at present the ...
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6answers
2k views

Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
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19answers
5k views

How can I teach my son to ride a bike?

My son is almost seven years old and still can't ride a bike. He loves to be outside and play, and he wants to ride a bike. His bike has training wheels, but the moment I take them off and try to ...
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6answers
3k views

Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?

A couple of times I encountered situation where people had a following policy If a parent yells at a kid out of frustration with no meaningful reason (e.g. the kid just got on their nerves but ...
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6answers
2k views

Why do parents refer to themselves in the third person?

Can anyone explain to me the reason why parents tend to refer to themselves in the third person, when talking to their young children? E.g.: "Hold Daddy's hand while we cross the road" as opposed ...
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votes
5answers
4k views

What walking distance is acceptable for a 6-year-old?

We had a discussion in the family about how long of a walk can be taken with our 6-year-old daughter. We walked for 18.5 km (about 11.5 miles) and she was tired at the end, but after a 40 minute rest ...
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11answers
7k views

How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?

How do I deal with 7 year old kid who refuses to do a chore or task? He's not listening and ignores my request.
16
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7answers
829 views

How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
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3answers
24k views

Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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4answers
1k views

At what age should a child stop accompanying a parent into the “wrong” public toilet?

When you're a Dad on your own you take your small girls into the Gents with you. Mums take their sons with them to the Ladies. At what age should we stop doing this? I guess the answer changes ...
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8answers
1k views

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around a toddler?

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around when raising a small child?
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4answers
1k views

Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...

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