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How do you explain to a five year-old what energy is?

The other day I told my son to not waste hot water, as it is a waste of energy. He then asked what that is. I want to explain it well, also from a physical point of view, since I find it important. ...
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6answers
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Sex play in young children

I have a 3 year old daughter who spends a bit of time playing with her male cousin who is 5 1/2. I recently walked in to my daughter's room where they were playing to find my daughter completely ...
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8answers
16k views

Should I tell my 10-year old son, how screwed-up Cinderella is?

My 10-year old boy recently told me that he likes the Cinderella fairy tale. Some fairy tales including this one, have several layers of meaning and sometimes they guide people's life decisions. ...
25
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10answers
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What are the pros and cons of a chicken-pox party vs immunization?

Growing up in the US, most kids I knew (myself included) were exposed to Chicken Pox through Chicken-Pox parties where kids were allowed to play with a child who already had the Chicken Pox. Now that ...
25
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8answers
4k views

Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and ...
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9answers
8k views

We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?

We've heard of some couples taking a long time to get pregnant, from the time when they decide to start. We're wondering what we can do to make the process faster.
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6answers
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Should Disney princess movies be avoided?

I recently read an article entitied Are our girls suffering from 'Princess Syndrome'? which makes the point that many Disney Princess movies send a message that: Children as young as two are ...
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5answers
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The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
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9answers
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frown upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...
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5answers
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How many toys are enough/ too much?

My husband and I have decided to minimize the number of toys for our daughter for a variety of reasons... we have a small house, I am unemployed also we see how greedy many children who have ...
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5answers
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?

This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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6answers
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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7answers
3k views

How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
24
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23answers
8k views

Should we force our son to have hobbies?

I have a 10-year-old son who is slightly autistic - he has an assistant with him at his school, but is intelligent enough. We are struggling to find a hobby that our son will enjoy and stick with. ...
24
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9answers
5k views

How do parents have sex when there's a toddler in the house?

Scenario: 1-bedroom apartment and there's no one else living in the house to watch the toddler. Any recommendation?
24
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8answers
8k views

Is it too dangerous for my 2 years old son to watch YouTube on the iPad for hours?

There are few questions about the iPad but I am interested in knowing if such habit has bad impacts on my son. He watches YouTube for hours and hours. I cant deny that he has learned some good things ...
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8answers
84k views

How soon until I can take my newborn to take a walk outside?

I understand that newborn's immune system is still weak and crowds/strangers are to be avoided. Knowing this, how soon can I take my newborn outside, for example to take ~1 hours walk in a non-crowded ...
24
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9answers
3k views

Is visiting museums worthwhile or beneficial for a toddler?

Would visiting an art museum, history museum, etc. which is not specifically geared toward children (i.e. not a "children's museum") be good for a toddler? I'm assuming that the toddler is under ...
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4answers
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What should I be teaching my two year old?

My two year old daughter has never been to a daycare, so everything she knows is something that me, my husband, or her grandparents have taught her. She sees very little interaction with other kids ...
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4answers
2k views

What are the psychological impacts of a split-religion household?

This is quite related to THIS question about how to deal with a non-religiously-participating child when both parents are Christian. My situation is a bit different, and while some of the answers at ...
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14answers
8k views

How to teach a child to swallow pills?

All my kids are bad at swallowing pills. For whatever reason, it doesn't go to the back of the mouth easily for straightforward swallowing. This is particularly problematic for the oldest (now 10), ...
23
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7answers
3k views

Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it ...
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6answers
2k views

How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?

Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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4answers
3k views

How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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3answers
6k views

14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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10answers
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Daughter is 11 and really upset that she may be lesbian

My daughter is 11 and confused. She recently read a book which at the end the character found himself to be gay. She said that she now has thoughts of girls kissing and it makes her sick, she ...
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14answers
3k views

Are modern cloth diapers really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers?

Are modern cloth diapers such as gDiapers or bumGenius really cost efficient compared to disposible diapers? It seems the diapers themselves are quite expensive and then you have to include the cost ...
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7answers
1k views

What are some milestones a child should reach before learning programming?

I am going to buy a PC for my kid as a birthday present, so I'm thinking how to use it educationally. Of course, an obvious choice is teaching him how to program. I'm not asking what age should a kid ...
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7answers
3k views

How long should I wait before I permit my children to have access to caffeine?

From observing teenagers around my neighbourhood, it's obvious that Starbucks, and a few other coffee shops, are standard hangouts for teens. So I assume that once they're in highschool, I won't have ...
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7answers
6k views

How do you teach a toddler rhythm and melody?

My 1 year old daughter loves all kinds of music and rhythm. She dances and "plays" enthusiastically on both guitars, the piano and her toy glockenspiel. This has, since she was just four month, always ...
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1answer
1k views

What should I consider when deciding whether to homeschool my child?

This is an often-controversial topic, one where it's easy to find conflicting or misleading information. What are the important points to consider when making the decision to enroll in a mortar and ...
22
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10answers
955 views

How do you address sibling rivalry?

My children (7&9) always seem to be trying to get each other into trouble. The frequent sniping, digs, put-downs, and exclusion cause me concern. Many times the fighting comes down to a control ...
22
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3answers
561 views

How should I talk to my child about death?

How should I explain death to a child under 5-6 years old if a close family member or friend dies?
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4answers
2k views

How do you handle a teacher that teaches pseudo science?

It is not uncommon, that some teachers or schools introduce pseudo-science, like creationism, as a part of curriculum. Given that it is hard to change school quickly, how to deal with such situation? ...
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6answers
6k views

Making the child finish their food even if they are already full [duplicate]

As a child, my parents always made me finish my food even if I was already full. Food definitely isn't wasted this way, but overeating is not good either. What would be the advantages and ...
21
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12answers
2k views

How do you feed a picky eater?

Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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14answers
2k views

How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?

My wife and I both tend to have... colorful language (for me it tends to be far worse when driving). Our son just turned one, and is starting to become more verbal. He's not quite at the point where ...
21
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7answers
2k views

How to avoid corporal punishment?

I know that beating and spanking is no good, but there are situations sometimes when I'm unable to maintain control over myself. We have two boys, one's five and the other's two. Due to their age ...
21
votes
14answers
3k views

What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?

We're traveling from SF to Paris (direct) with our 20-month old soon. What are tips for surviving the flight and not having everyone hate us?
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votes
6answers
609 views

How do you find great reading material for a child whose reading ability is far outstripped by his/her comprehension?

I have an 8yo child with CAS (Childhood Apraxia of Speech). Because the first two schools he attended didn't deal well with his CAS, he only really began to read about a year ago. He reads at a ...
21
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6answers
16k views

At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
21
votes
6answers
59k views

Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
21
votes
8answers
3k views

Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?

This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old). When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
21
votes
4answers
1k views

What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
21
votes
4answers
2k views

Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...
21
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5answers
4k views

How much pressure should I put on my kids to learn?

My wife just started reading "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother", a book written by a Chinese mother who talks about the pros and cons of the high-pressure and rigid parenting style of some Chinese ...
21
votes
5answers
14k views

At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
21
votes
7answers
9k views

What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
20
votes
14answers
11k views

Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?

I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
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7answers
2k views

Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?

I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity. Why the concern? For ...

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