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How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?

Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
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12answers
777 views

Email and social media for pre-teens

My daughter is 11 and I discovered that she had a Facebook account and a personal email account. These were two things my wife and I had told her she wasn't allowed to have. I felt she was still too ...
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1answer
663 views

What should I consider when deciding whether to homeschool my child?

This is an often-controversial topic, one where it's easy to find conflicting or misleading information. What are the important points to consider when making the decision to enroll in a mortar and ...
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breaking my rejection of christianity to my parents

I know this isn't exactly appropriate for this site--I'm not a parent, I'm a son--but I think it's still applicable to the community here. I would prefer feedback from actual parents concerned about ...
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9answers
729 views

What do we do when timeouts are not effective?

We have a three year old toddler, and he has just seemed to realize that timeouts are nothing more than him sitting in a corner for a few minutes. He has recently started doing a whole suite of bad ...
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How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
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4answers
717 views

How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?

What are good strategies to deal with children (not my own ones, but children I'm meeting in the kindergarten) which do things to me or to my son which they should not do like throwing things etc. ...
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How do you respond when a child catches his parents having sex?

I ask this Question on behalf of my neighbor. Their 12 year old son saw his parents having sex. As there is only one room in their home we can't say its the parents' mistake... but now the question ...
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What to do when parents disagree regarding their parenting

My husband and I often find that we parent differently. We know that up to a point that is why every child (hopefully) as two parents, so they can learn about difference in people, their approaches, ...
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6answers
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What are some ways to teach a child how to spit (after brushing their teeth)?

Typically, this is something you don't want out of a child. My 4 1/2 yr old has been brushing his own teeth for about a year. The problem is that I can't convey to him to spit out the toothpaste. I ...
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5answers
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Getting a 2-year-old back to sleep in the middle of the night

We have always had trouble with our little boy not sleeping through the night. He will do it in spells (every night for a week, then not at all for a fortnight). But he has recently developed a ...
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5answers
361 views

How do you determine when to start a child on music lessons without pressuring them?

I have a 5-year old who has shown some interest in music. We started him with some very basic piano lessons (30 min/week) from an instructor who specializes in teaching children and got him a keyboard ...
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11answers
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What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
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13answers
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How do you teach morals and values in non-religious households?

There was a similar question to this one on moms4mom.com but I had trouble finding it earlier. My husband and I were raised Catholic, but neither of us believe any more. We have two daughters, and ...
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12answers
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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Is an expensive stroller worth it?

Strollers seem to come in all ranges of prices. From $100 to well over $1000 (sorry for the US-centrism, but I'd guess it is the same in other places). Given that this will probably be something that ...
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5answers
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Is it okay for both parents to be asleep at the same time?

It's day 2 and we've been trying to always have 1 of us awake at all times watching the baby so that we're never both sleeping at the same time. Does a newborn need to be watched 24/7 or am I just ...
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5answers
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How can a father teach his girl child about menstruation?

Usually in a home, the mother will teach her daughter about menstrual periods, but consider this following situation: In my neighbor's home the father takes care of his daughter (at present the ...
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6answers
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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How can I teach my son to ride a bike?

My son is almost seven years old and still can't ride a bike. He loves to be outside and play, and he wants to ride a bike. His bike has training wheels, but the moment I take them off and try to ...
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11answers
6k views

How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?

How do I deal with 7 year old kid who refuses to do a chore or task? He's not listening and ignores my request.
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5answers
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Why do parents refer to themselves in the third person?

Can anyone explain to me the reason why parents tend to refer to themselves in the third person, when talking to their young children? E.g.: "Hold Daddy's hand while we cross the road" as opposed ...
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5answers
757 views

Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it ...
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8answers
979 views

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around a toddler?

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around when raising a small child?
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4answers
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At what age should a child stop accompanying a parent into the “wrong” public toilet?

When you're a Dad on your own you take your small girls into the Gents with you. Mums take their sons with them to the Ladies. At what age should we stop doing this? I guess the answer changes ...
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4answers
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Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...
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9answers
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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4answers
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Is there any research on the effects of PG cartoon violence on small children?

Our son is now at the age where we let him watch a moderate amount of children's videos to entertain himself -- all firmly G rated stuff. I have also been allowing him to watch some recent animated ...
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4answers
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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6answers
509 views

How to prevent “open air incidents”?

We have a newborn who seems to like to pee when we change his diapers. Any tips on how prevent this?
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3answers
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My child has chickenpox, am I infectious?

My 3-year-old has had chickenpox for about 2-3 days, but a close friend has just had a baby and I want to go and help. Is it possible that I am infectious, despite not having the illness? I had it as ...
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9answers
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How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
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3answers
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My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
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6answers
703 views

Being good or not at playing with kids

I noticed that some of my friends naturally play with any kids including mine: they have no difficulty finding anything funny to do to them or with them and make them laugh and have fun. By contrast, ...
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3answers
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How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
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2answers
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14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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5answers
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Why is my baby suddenly screaming in the bath?

My baby has always loved bath-time, almost since he was born. He learned to splash when he was only a couple of months old and loves to play around with the water, and over the past few weeks I've ...
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4answers
355 views

How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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8answers
791 views

When is it safe to start letting our children go into relationships?

I'm afraid to let my children get into relationships(i.e. girl-boyfriendships) too early just in case it did them no good. At what age would it be safe to allow our children this liberty?
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9answers
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How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...
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10answers
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How can we make our newborn breastfeed less frequently?

We have a new baby (almost two weeks old). For the past 8-9 days she's had a habit of Breastfeeding every hour during the afternoons. She can spend 30mins feeding, then 30mins active and gurgling, ...
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12answers
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?

Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
15
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7answers
968 views

How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
15
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8answers
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Why should children be rewarded for good behaviour?

I have been reading about star charts and other reward systems for children, and wonder whether rewarding what I would call normal behaviour (e.g. do your chores, don't hit your little brother, etc) ...
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10answers
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What can I do to encourage my 12 year old son to enjoy productive activities?

I have a 12 year old son who if completely left up to his own devices, will spend almost all of his free time doing one of two things, playing casual computer games, and watching TV. I would like to ...
15
votes
4answers
713 views

What can I do to get my wife to be more involved?

I'm writing this in the middle of the night, right after a bottle feed and a nappy change coupled with incessant wailing piercing through my ears. I've often tried to seek solace on the internet ...
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6answers
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Raising a bilingual child when one parent knows both languages while the other doesn't

I am in the USA, originally from India, and my wife is American. My native language is Hindi. My wife knows only a little bit of Hindi. It hasn't been a problem because we usually talk in English ...
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9answers
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How do you know when it is time to take a child to the Doctor?

Our children have recently been sick and I am wondering when is the right time to take them to the doctor. They both have had runny noses with coughs, diarrhea, and fevers off and on for a week, ...
15
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7answers
528 views

How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
15
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9answers
792 views

How do I explain regional differences in language?

What are good methods of explaining to my four-year-old son why "color" is not how he should spell "colour", even though it is spelt that way in many of the books he's reading? (Also "realize", ...

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