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Where should boys aim their urine?

We have been potty training our son. We got him comfortable going sitting down first, and now he is learning to urinate while standing. What should I teach him to aim for when peeing while standing ...
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Reasoning vs “because I say so”

Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt." One of us feels that it is ...
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My 2 year old is a bully! [duplicate]

My son doesn't want to share anything with other kids, and if some kid even so much as touches his toy, he pushes the kid. He shouts and cries at the same time, and tries to express his anger by ...
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When your child says something embarrassing in public… how do you deal with it?

So our 3 year old son is both talkative and imaginative, but hasn't necessarily learned all the social decorum that comes with age/experience and social development. There's been a number of ...
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Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
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14answers
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I don't want to be a father [closed]

I feel awful about this, but I can't keep my silence about it anymore. I'm a 25 year old man. I am a piano teacher and have a lot of entrepreneurial/artistic dreams and goals. I met a girl about two ...
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14answers
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Bringing babies to bar?

Full disclosure: I'm not a parent. I was at a bar last weekend, and I saw something that was pretty startling to me. There was a woman with a baby in a baby bjorn, standing in the bar drinking and ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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How do you tell your child they are terrible at something?

My daughter is playing soccer. She's not bad but she won't practice as hard as she needs to because she has a completely skewed perception of her abilities. She thinks she is really good but she is ...
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7answers
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Is there an alternative to Boy/Girl Scouts in the US?

My son desperately wants to join the Boy Scouts, but I've had to say no due to the local troop's religious agenda. I've been helping my friend try to come up with ideas for her daughter's new Girl ...
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What are the objective arguments against immunizations for infants and children?

There has been a lot of talk lately about the alleged harmful (potential?) side effects of vaccinations/immunizations for infants and children. What are the objective arguments against immunizing?
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Is there a benefit or harm in letting a 3 year old control her own bedtime routine?

I'm a bit exhausted getting my 3 year old daughter through the evening. Getting home, washing hands, sitting at the dinner table, eating dinner, eating fruit, taking a bath, towel drying, drying ...
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8answers
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Is Television appropriate for meal times?

I grew up eating in front of the TV, watching kids programs, while my parents and, much elder, brother watched news or quiz programs in the neighboring room. On Weekends we all ate around the same ...
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18answers
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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13answers
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How do you decide if a movie is suitable for young children?

Movies have ratings, which vary a little around the world, but the ratings just don't convey a full understanding of some scenes which may be scary for young children. For example: Monsters Inc. is ...
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7answers
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What is the best way to respond if my child is picked on by other children?

What can I do if other children pick on my children? Obviously I can't perform any disciplinary actions. Reprimanding might make my child look like a "mama's boy" and doing nothing might look like a ...
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How quickly do I need to change my newborn with a dirty diaper?

How quickly do I need to jump on changing a dirty diaper? What are the downsides of waiting vs getting right to it? I have two specific scenarios in mind: I'm holding my son during the day time, ...
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6answers
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How worried should I be about head bumps as my infant learns to get around?

We have hardwood floors in the house, and have made a little "play area" out of foam interlocking "tiles" for our 9 MO to play on. Of course, he's not content to restrict his explorations to the ...
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Is there any scientific evidence in favor of co-sleeping with children?

Many people choose to co-sleep with their children because of supposed psychological and sleep quality reasons. Are there any scientific studies or other concrete evidence to back them up?
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Should the nanny quit when the parents don't care about their dangerous children?

I have four weeks left of the worst nannying position of my life. I originally thought the job would be great, three kids that seemed a little naughty but manageable. The interview went great and ...
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11answers
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What age is it appropriate to start martial arts?

I would like to send my son to learn martial arts as soon as possible as I believe this would help him gain confidence in his early stages of life (it worked for me when I was an adult) At what age ...
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4answers
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

I know this is an SE site for parents dealing with kids... but I am desperate enough for answers, so here it goes. In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. ...
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10answers
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At what age should you start giving your children pocket money?

I think pocket money is a great method of educating your children in financing, but at what age should you start and under which condition?
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3answers
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When should you start talking with your children about sex?

In a recent episode of Super Nanny (a UK and US show on parenting), I noticed that Jo Frost was openly talking to the parents and older sibling of a family about sex in front of a 6-7 year old. My ...
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8answers
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?

My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...
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How can I tactfully ask that people refrain from giving religious items at a baby shower?

My wife has a baby shower coming up in a month or so and we are not religious, but both of our extended families are Christian. We've seen other members of her family receive religious items, like ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

My husband and i have differing opinions on this. I don't believe in the term 'spoilt'. I would be very happy if my daughter was 'spoilt' in the sense that she expects to be treated with the highest ...
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4answers
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Should children be preemptively taught about drugs, alcohol, and sex?

This is a follow up to When should you start talking with your children about sex?. Is it better for parents to preemptively educate children about taboo subjects such as drugs, alcohol, sex, or ...
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What should I teach my teenager about condoms?

Let me preface the question by saying that I'm not asking this question in order to endorse or promote teenage sex. Even if my child wants to wait until he is married to have sex, as a parent, I still ...
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5answers
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The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
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14answers
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Do I really need to wake my newborn to feed him?

We have a two week old child. He's eating well during the day, eating at least 8 times a day, and is breast feeding. His weight gain has been 'normal' so far, and he regained his original birth weight ...
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Is punishment necessary?

I'm a young parent, and still have a lot to learn, but I have been wondering a lot about whether punishment needs to be a part of parenting. Maybe I'm being too optimistic here, but are there any ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and ...
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Should Disney princess movies be avoided?

I recently read an article entitied Are our girls suffering from 'Princess Syndrome'? which makes the point that many Disney Princess movies send a message that: Children as young as two are ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frown upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...
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How can I stop my two year old from taking off his diaper in bed?

Recently, my two-year-old son has been taking off his diaper at nap time. It's usually full and dirty and makes a big mess. He has managed to do it while wearing all types of pants (even overalls). ...
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How many toys are enough/ too much?

My husband and I have decided to minimize the number of toys for our daughter for a variety of reasons... we have a small house, I am unemployed also we see how greedy many children who have ...
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11answers
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How do you handle bilingual education in a country where you do not speak the language natively?

Our 2 year old son is growing up in a different country (New Zealand) than we did (Brazil). We try to speak to him in portuguese all times, and we noticed that he is learning english reasonably well ...
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6answers
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Sex play in young children

I have a 3 year old daughter who spends a bit of time playing with her male cousin who is 5 1/2. I recently walked in to my daughter's room where they were playing to find my daughter completely ...
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6answers
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For the benefit of the child: what's better - no father or bad father?

What's best/better for the child in the long/short run - to have no father in his life or to have a "no-good" father in his life? And by "no-good" I mean - mentally and financially unstable, ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active

I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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What are the pros and cons of a chicken-pox party vs immunization?

Growing up in the US, most kids I knew (myself included) were exposed to Chicken Pox through Chicken-Pox parties where kids were allowed to play with a child who already had the Chicken Pox. Now that ...
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12answers
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How do I get my 6-month-old to sleep better at night?

So our 6-month-old boy still doesn't sleep through the night. He still wakes up at least once and wants to eat. He takes 3 naps during the day, ranging from 30 minutes to 1.5 (sometimes 2) hours. We ...
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9answers
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Is visiting museums worthwhile or beneficial for a toddler?

Would visiting an art museum, history museum, etc. which is not specifically geared toward children (i.e. not a "children's museum") be good for a toddler? I'm assuming that the toddler is under ...
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How do you explain to a five year-old what energy is?

The other day I told my son to not waste hot water, as it is a waste of energy. He then asked what that is. I want to explain it well, also from a physical point of view, since I find it important. ...
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4answers
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What should I be teaching my two year old?

My two year old daughter has never been to a daycare, so everything she knows is something that me, my husband, or her grandparents have taught her. She sees very little interaction with other kids ...
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8answers
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Should I tell my 10-year old son, how screwed-up Cinderella is?

My 10-year old boy recently told me that he likes the Cinderella fairy tale. Some fairy tales including this one, have several layers of meaning and sometimes they guide people's life decisions. ...
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...

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