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How can I get my 12-year old physically active or into sports when he's never been?

My son is 12-years old, and he has never been into traditional competitive sports. I'm fine with this - not all kids are. He played baseball for a short period when he was 8, but he didn't really ...
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2answers
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What should be encouraged? Indoor games or Outdoor?

While indoor games have several benefits (no effects of weather, the kid is right in front of you, many intellectual mobile/video games that are rather impossible as an outdoor game, and so on...), ...
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1answer
54 views

Does a late evening snack improve the odds that a child will sleep well?

Some of my friends with preschool and early-elementary children routinely give their children a snack shortly before bed to help them sleep better. On the other hand, we have generally limited ...
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3answers
94 views

Can toddlers be taught to safely navigate stairs?

We have 14-month twins who are just starting to learn to walk. Our house is a split level townhouse with three short flights of stairs. We have several gates to keep them safe. They're pretty ...
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3answers
87 views

Is there any upside to talking to young children about racial or ethnic groups?

I'm not talking about discussions of how different cultures have different traditions, and holidays, etc. I'm more interested in the idea of white, black or Asian people, which are obviously highly ...
4
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1answer
65 views

One of my son's classmates bites him or attempts to bite him

My son is his only target in class for some reason. He does this when the teacher is not around. My son doesn't bite back or complain to the teacher. There are bite marks on his hand, which I have ...
2
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3answers
194 views

How do I get my 5 year old to focus in school

Hi I have a 5 year old son and he's having problems focusing in school, he does his homework well and most times without supervision, but his teacher says he's not focusing in school and therefore all ...
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7answers
403 views

How can we ask our 22-year-old son to leave?

I am 53 years old and my wife is 47 years old and we have a 22-year-old son. We have huge problems with him. He has changed universities three times and now he is in a college. He drops his courses, ...
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2answers
69 views

Road trip with a 3-year-old

I will be going on a road trip with my almost 3-year-old. He was born prematurely so he is not necessarily at the same level of other 3-year-old children yet. How can I keep him settled down and get ...
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1answer
38 views

11 month old wakes up in the night crying. Continues to cry for hours

My 11 month olds son had been sleeping in his crib since he was two months. He is a happy baby during the day. He has a great appetite and I breastfeed about 4x a day and when he wakes in the night. ...
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1answer
78 views

Preventing jealousy from starting?

My question is similar to this question but not exactly the same. We are having our second child very soon. We have a 2 year old daughter and she is already beginning to understand that change is ...
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2answers
126 views

What is a healthy, ethical way to deal with a nanny cam?

I know how silly it sounds, but it makes me feel better: I'm asking for a friend. (We've decided we don't need one, as our nanny appears to be far more capable than we - it might make more sense for ...
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5answers
108 views

Is it OK for my children to eat solely carbs and fruit, which is what they want

We have two kids (almost 5yo and 20 months). Both are very picky eaters, eating some carbs(noodles, pasta, or bread, all plain; no potatoes/rice!), and fruit of all kinds, but nothing or very little ...
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2answers
67 views

How to deal with children succeeding because of their parent's efforts rather than their own?

It's that time of year again: Pinewood Derby! The Cub Scout motto is "Do Your Best". But it's also important to recognize true excellence. Our pack does a good job of balancing those values by giving ...
2
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1answer
65 views

How to encourage a toddler to swallow his food?

Our three-year-old son is quite picky when it comes to food. He has not been interested in eating fruits and vegetables, but recently he started to dislike certain meats as well. He would munch the ...
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4answers
146 views

How can I help my daughter's depression?

My daughter is a freshman in college and was sexually assaulted/raped on campus about 7 months ago. I noticed some cuts on her wrist when she was home last weekend and she admitted that she is cutting ...
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2answers
66 views

How can I teach my children to intervene in situations where they can help, without risking becoming busybodies, know-it-alls, etc

I'd like to teach both my kids to be the kind of people who will willingly insert themselves into situations where they can do some good. I hope to raise them to take pride in their ability to speak ...
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4answers
196 views

Dealing with teens and pornography?

Say you know that your son watches pornography and you may or may not have caught him in the act. How do you react to this ? Do you ban him from using the internet/monitor his activities or overlook ...
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5answers
2k views

What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
7
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3answers
236 views

Are incentives (toys, candy) a good idea to help facilitate potty training?

We've been trying a number of techniques (videos, naked time, etc.) to help our almost-3yo to use the potty consistently, with some progress. All of our techniques have fallen into the "entourage, ...
5
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2answers
100 views

Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the teacher ...
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1answer
38 views

Can I prepare baby cereal in advance?

I'm preparing for a long airplane flight with my family. I've been filling and freezing some refillable baby food pouches with chicken/veggie soup, etc. I'd like to also bring a couple of pouches with ...
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3answers
137 views

Enforcing minority languages at home

We're a bilingual household in a country that speaks a third language. I speak Finnish to the kids, my wife speaks Japanese, and I speak Japanese with her. Our older son recently started going to ...
5
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4answers
98 views

How can we help children learn to handle online freedom?

It's clear that children growing up with the internet the same way that my generation grew up with television: it's ubiquitous. Just like my parents worried that too much TV would harm me, it's not ...
6
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1answer
78 views

Citrus fruits ok for babies?

Giving citrus fruit to a baby that is just starting on solids is discouraged on several places online, however i cannot find any solid reasoning behind this advice. Has there been any scientific ...
12
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2answers
238 views

How should I respond to a parent who's upset their child wasn't invited to a (small) birthday party?

For my son's 10th birthday we told him he could invite 3 friends over for a sleepover. The party was a ton of fun until the next day, ( for me that is!) I received a text message from the mother of ...
2
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1answer
37 views

What are the tradeoffs to consider between monitor systems with dedicated screens and mobile-based ones (iPhone, android, etc.)

We've been using motorola's monitor system for some time, which comes with both monitors and cameras, and can be expanded with their proprietary devices. (You can add another camera and see both on ...
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2answers
85 views

7 Yr Old Using Violent Language During Play

My 7 year old son has started using words like 'kill', 'murder' and 'stab' when he's playing with me or other kids. He's not angry or violent about it. For example we might be playing/pretending to be ...
3
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2answers
107 views

My 2 year old doesnt want to sleep through. drinks 5-7 bottles per night

My 2 Year old girl has never slept though. she used to wake 3 times a night for a bottle and then 5 times a night for a bottle now she is so bad she wakes up 10-15 times a night and wont go back to ...
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3answers
109 views

Should parents of young children set an example of socializing by using Facebook?

If parents don't use Facebook, how will their children know how to use Facebook or other social media technology in healthy ways? Should parents be utilizing these technologies so at least their ...
7
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3answers
109 views

How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey Timmy, I ...
3
votes
1answer
85 views

My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
2
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1answer
65 views

Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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2answers
55 views

How does one separate parent from playmate?

We play with our kids. We roll around on the floor and play with blocks and draw pictures. At the same time we nurture, feed, clothe, and educate them. So while we are playing and goofing off and ...
4
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2answers
128 views

Are boys naturally drawn to balls more than girls?

Having boy/girl twins, I find it interesting to compare their development over time. Recently my son started standing on his own and has learned to throw things. His favorite toys are balls that he ...
3
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1answer
68 views

Should children of incarcerated parents be told the truth?

On Saturday mornings, I visit a nearby county jail. Most of the men I talk to are fathers. Some are serving short sentences and others are awaiting trials that will likely result in lengthy ...
6
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1answer
274 views

Are there drawbacks between reading stories from ebooks rather than paper books?

Talking of story books: The ebooks are much cheaper than the paperbacks of the same title. I am not rich so I am considering buying ebooks for the child and let her read on the laptop rather than the ...
8
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1answer
125 views

If you are using time outs, how do you deal with a toddler asking for them

We're currently trying to avoid punishment, with the exception of very "natural" consequences (refusing to eat lunch may result in no snack, etc.) But for a while, we were using "time outs" for those ...
2
votes
1answer
42 views

Memory foam top covers and mattresses

We converted our 2 year old toddler's crib into an an accessible bed a few weeks ago. He's doing well on it, so we want to replace his crib with the brand new single bed we bought for the spare room. ...
4
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2answers
149 views

8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. as the school year progresses his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown. always talking and making jokes. Then ...
2
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3answers
61 views

First solids and food allergies

I started introducing solids to my baby at 4.5 months (by our ped's advice). Here we are, 1 month later, and my baby developed a local rash after 3 out of 5 foods (rice, barley and sweet potato). ...
2
votes
1answer
59 views

How to talk to parents about death?

My parents have always tried to shelter me from trauma (divorces, illnesses and deaths in the family, and so on) which makes it difficult to broach the subject of death with them. This is more of an ...
6
votes
1answer
83 views

At what age do children notice the absence of a parent?

This past weekend, my wife went on a retreat while I stayed home with our 1-year-old twins. Since they were sleeping when she left, there was no separation anxiety. The next morning, I changed them ...
5
votes
3answers
121 views

Parental “Wow” as a reaction to trivial child achievements

The question is based on my personal feelings, so is probably biased and subjective. I frequently see parents (and remember my own) encouraging their children on every trivial or regular achievement ...
3
votes
1answer
76 views

How can parents avoid making decisions based on nostalgia?

Recently I saw an article passed around that advocated for more free playtime: We went to school, but it wasn't the big deal it is today. School days were six hours long, but (in primary school) ...
7
votes
3answers
550 views

How can you offer other parents suggestions without making them defensive?

Because we parents spend so much time complaining to each other sharing best practices, we often find ourselves in situations where another parent is sharing an approach or technique that we have ...
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1answer
79 views

How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?

Our son has Encopresis since many years (the history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). He is now 6 years old and in some phases (which often last 2..3 ...
0
votes
1answer
26 views

My daughter (2 1/2 years old) started to put her hand in her mouth about a month ago. How do I try to wean her from this behavior?

Starting about a month ago (2 years and a few months old), she is constantly putting her finger or fingers in her mouth. She is not teething. I'm not sure why she's doing it. Trying to discipline her ...
5
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2answers
127 views

Why do my children ask “Are you happy with me?”

For the past few months, my children, 2 and 3, have been asking me "Are you happy with me?" Of course, I respond with "I am very happy with you! The most happy!" But they still ask on a daily basis! ...
2
votes
2answers
98 views

Why do infants like stitting at the table?

We recently noticed that our 4 month old LO likes to sit on our lap at the table. We talked about it with some friends and they confirm it, their LOs also liked that. My wife recalls reading a blog ...

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