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17answers
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...
72
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13answers
17k views

How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
52
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12answers
3k views

Should you let a toddler win?

We've started playing some simple games with my 2-year-old son, including a simple age-appropriate matching game. He enjoys playing, but seems (to me, at least) more focused on playing over winning. ...
48
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11answers
2k views

What are some strategies for raising a bilingual child?

We are planning on raising our child bi-lingual. The plan is for my husband to only speak English to her and I would only speak Tagalog (a dialect of the Philippines). I have asked my parents to also ...
47
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15answers
2k views

Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?

I pay my 5.5yo $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed. I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5 year old brother's Lego messes. Good or bad? ...
45
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11answers
1k views

Programming with a baby

I'm wondering what parents programmers (or really any working-at-a-computer job) have to say about staying at home with an infant while trying to get some work done; is it at all feasible? How much ...
45
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17answers
3k views

How do you teach a child religious views?

Since a few weeks my 2yo son refuses to pray for his food. His refusal probably has nothing to do with religion; being a 2yo he simply refuses to do anything we don't force him to. Nevertheless, this ...
43
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8answers
2k views

Should we circumcise our son?

My wife and I will be having a son in about a month and we are still deciding if we should have him circumcised. There does not seem to be a strong medical opinion on the matter but we are ...
43
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9answers
8k views

How do you cope in the first few months?

How do you cope with the sleeplessness, the stress, the fear in the first few months? Our baby just came home yesterday. He was five weeks premature, so he was in the NICU for two weeks. The stress ...
39
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8answers
5k views

Can “The Giving Tree” be explained in a way that isn't an unhealthy lesson?

My son loves "The Giving Tree," by Shel Silverstein. And I also remember it being a favorite of mine as a kid. I vaguely remember it from childhood as having some mildly sad themes, and most people ...
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30answers
11k views

My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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10answers
2k views

How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?

My wife and I had joked about expecting endless "why?" questions from our son while we were expecting, and I thought I was prepared for it. In fact, I thought the stereotypical constant flow of "why? ...
31
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6answers
3k views

The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?

The school has assigned The Hunger Games as a literature reading assignment for my 11 year old. I read the books and enjoyed the ride, but feel the brutality is too much for this age group, in this ...
30
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8answers
2k views

How can a dad be both a mother and father

I'm a dad and I've unexpectedly found myself raising my son effectively alone. I'm in an atypical single-parent situation, but more general single-dad advice would probably be better for other ...
29
votes
13answers
6k views

How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a “tattletale”?

My friend recently shared this experience, and I thought it would be a good question for our site: So, [my son] got in trouble in school today. It seems that the kids were lined up in the ...
28
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16answers
11k views

Just found out my daughter might be gay. Now what?

I recently came across a photo on my 14 year old daughter's iPod of a letter from a girl friend of hers that expressed her feelings for my daughter. Words like "I do melt in your eyes" and "I can't ...
25
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4answers
1k views

How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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5answers
4k views

The noise of his children playing makes a parent tired and glad to leave for work

I spoke on the phone to an old acquaintance, and he confessed the following: His second child was born half a year ago, the first child is now three. He goes to work, while his wife stays home with ...
21
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6answers
1k views

How do parents have sex when there's a toddler in the house?

Scenario: 1-bedroom apartment and there's no one else living in the house to watch the toddler. Any recommendation?
20
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5answers
14k views

My son Is 5 years Old and sexually active

I am a 20 years old female student and I have a 5 years old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
19
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6answers
1k views

How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler.Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
18
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8answers
1k views

How do you manage free time when you have kids?

My problem is I have almost zero free time. I have two young kids 3 and 2 when they where young my wife didn't want to let them fall asleep by themselves so now I take the 2 year old and my wife ...
18
votes
3answers
364 views

Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?

My son is 18-months-old and he is in a daycare room with kids 16-months to 2.5 years. Most days when I pick him up they are watching TV. The shows range from somewhat educational (Dora, Sesame St.) ...
18
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4answers
538 views

Helping children cope with a parent's suicide

I like this site and thought I would venture with another question about my husband's suicide and how this has affected our children. I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a ...
17
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8answers
18k views

How soon until I can take my newborn to take a walk outside?

I understand that newborn's immune system is still weak and crowds/strangers are to be avoided. Knowing this, how soon can I take my newborn outside, for example to take ~1 hours walk in a non-crowded ...
17
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4answers
811 views

What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
17
votes
4answers
1k views

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
16
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5answers
722 views

Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it ...
16
votes
4answers
824 views

Why do kisses stop a child from hurting?

Whenever my son gets a minor injury (scraped knee, stubbed toe, bumped head, etc.), the fastest way to get him to stop crying is to kiss wherever he got hurt. It almost always immediately stops the ...
16
votes
3answers
442 views

My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
16
votes
6answers
696 views

Being good or not at playing with kids

I noticed that some of my friends naturally play with any kids including mine: they have no difficulty finding anything funny to do to them or with them and make them laugh and have fun. By contrast, ...
16
votes
3answers
1k views

How to raise a child between agnostic parent and believer relatives?

Few months back I turned agnostic. Don't have children yet. Other family members are believers, I am not. My mother tells me to pray to God and ask him to increase my salary/happiness/safety ...
16
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2answers
1k views

14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
15
votes
4answers
711 views

What can I do to get my wife to be more involved?

I'm writing this in the middle of the night, right after a bottle feed and a nappy change coupled with incessant wailing piercing through my ears. I've often tried to seek solace on the internet ...
14
votes
8answers
1k views

How do I teach my baby to not touch my computer?

I have a 10 months old boy who really, really wants to play with my computer. It is not like he is mildly curious - as would be the case with power sockets, glass stuff and other objects which deserve ...
14
votes
3answers
13k views

Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?

During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
14
votes
1answer
816 views

What stories for children have strong female role models?

I notice that just about all young children's stories (fairy tales, etc) depict women in a subordinate role. This hit me while reading Cinderella: her ultimate goal in life is to be the prettiest so ...
14
votes
2answers
170 views

How to explain to your child one of you parents isn't around

Apologies for the question but I am stumped on how to approach an issue and this will be hard to discuss so excuse me for being blunt. My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I ...
14
votes
2answers
216 views

Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

The autistic child (Aspergers Syndrome, age: 12) is constantly mobbed by other children, both in school and in the way to the home. It includes calling a names, mocking, showing faces, pushing, ...
14
votes
2answers
286 views

Introducing my children into my disbelief in a Christian environment

While most of my adult life I've been trying to accommodate myself as both an agnostic and a non-theistic Catholic Christian, recent events had lead me to reject being a Christian and embracing my ...
13
votes
11answers
2k views

What is a reasonable amount of time to wait before family visits your new baby?

My wife and I are preparing to negotiate with our families about visiting our first baby. We want to take some time to recover and feel like we have a comfortable routine before taking visitors. We ...
13
votes
4answers
207 views

How to handle post traumatic stress with my 6yr old daughter?

4 weeks ago some weirdo shot at my balcony (probably for fun) with a gun used for practice. Anyway, the glass of my balcony door broke. At the same time my daughter of 6 was sitting just next to it, ...
13
votes
5answers
897 views

My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
13
votes
3answers
304 views

Methods for reducing or coping with sleep deprivation

Sleep deprivation is a major problems for parents of a newborn child. Are there methods which could help young parents cope with sleep deprivation or reduce it? Have you tried any of them? What is ...
13
votes
5answers
491 views

How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
13
votes
5answers
322 views

Finding Great Books at the Right Level

My daughter began reading at age three. When we enrolled in Kindergarten, she was tested and it was discovered that she could already read (and comprehend) at a fifth grade level at age five. She ...
13
votes
5answers
176 views

Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
13
votes
4answers
228 views

Balancing children's needs with a parent's own needs

For me, as a new parent I found it difficult to find a balance between meeting the needs of my son and my own needs. I was inclined to view my own needs as being selfish and an inadequacy within me ...
13
votes
2answers
257 views

When you don't think (grand)children are getting the care they need

My neigbor is now a grandmother of two little girls about whom she is very concerned. Relevant backstory: The grandmother/neighbor was an adict to multiple things while she raised the mother of the ...
13
votes
5answers
462 views

How does one address Christianity with their children in a mixed faith marriage?

I am Christian (though admittedly, liberally so) while my husband is Agnostic. He agrees that it is appropriate for our child to receive some education in my faith, but we have been unable to find a ...

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