Questions about issues that are specific to twins or multiplets.

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How do I make sure I don't mix up identical twin newborns?

I think all babies look alike, even when they are not identical. I need to come up with a strategy over the next few months.
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How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister?

We had 2 adorable twins in January. Our older daughter is jealous of them and our life has become a nightmare. How can we address her jealousy and improve our situation?
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When do twins know their own names?

I've read that babies generally recognize and respond to their own name at around 5 months of age. How is this different for twins (particularly identical)? Being as they often (almost always!) hear ...
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Can fraternal twins develop their own “language”?

I've often heard about twins forming their own "language", but I've always assumed that it only applies to identical twins. Is there any research out there on the subject? Does it apply to both ...
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Have there been long-term studies on the effects of separating twins at school?

I have toddler twins that are currently in the same class at school. What research has been done so that I can decide whether or not to separate them next year?
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Is it better to separate twins in the kindergarden?

My friend has twins and they are about to start at the kindergarden. However teachers suggest to put them into two different groups. I know it's a common practice in many countries, but does anyone ...
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How to handle fighting twins

I have twin boys aged 15 months. They normally fights for a toy/ or anything new. Earlier it was a slap on the others head with the toy or hand but now they have started biting each other. Is there ...
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Fraternal twins “competition” issue

we have fraternal twins (4 yo), and have following issue, ever since they were born one was the "bigger" one, a simply put, he's (currently) better at almost everything than his brother (be it reading,...
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How to deal with jealous and stubborn twin girls?

I have 19mo old twin girls. Recently we have been noticing a change in their behavior to each other. They are jealous to each other about getting our attention. Whenever we are near, they fight with ...
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How to simultaneously spoon feed twins?

My wife and I are on different schedules which during the week leaves one parent alone with the twins. Feeding the twins bottles at the same time has proven to be relatively easy. We are now in the ...
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What are things to consider when purchasing a baby backpack?

REI.com is currently running a sale on their selection of baby backpacks. I'm not looking for a product recommendation because ultimately that's like asking someone's favorite flavor of ice cream. ...
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Are non-identical twins hereditary?

I'm confused. I keep hearing different answers: some say identical twins are hereditary, some say it's the non-identical twins (fraternal) that are hereditary. Which is correct?
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Stroller for twins [closed]

I was wondering if there are any strollers for twins that is separable available. It would be nice if we could just latch two strollers together when one person is pushing and separate them out into ...
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Development for Twins

I'm a mother of three grown sons and have been a nanny to dozens of children. Last year I started babysitting 3 week old twins. They were only 2 weeks early, but their development is significantly ...
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How to encourage toddler twins to share?

Our twins are just over eighteen months and are having issues sharing. Given their shared age the answers provided to "how do you encourage siblings to share?" is not specifically aplicable. So far it'...
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How to deal with one twin's success and another jealousy?

{Asked on behalf of a friend}. Situation: 2 twin boys, 10-13 age range. Previously very closely academically matched and successul. Good relationship with each other all their life. This year, one ...
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How can I reduce feeding jealousy with my twins?

Our girl/boy twins are a little over a year old. One of the surprising things we've learned is that they are intensely jealous of each other at feeding time. It starts first thing in the morning: ...
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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Non-nutritive sucking during feeding?

We're new parents, so a lot of "simple" questions. Our boy does a lot of non-nutritive sucking during feedings. His pattern is usually 10 minute feed (or occasionally 10 minute non-nutritive ...
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Toddler having a kind of facial spasm/seizure

I have twins aged 14 months. Recently my wife observed that one of them while sitting on her lap was (not sure how to explain) having a kind of seizure/ facial spasm. His mouth was open for a while ...
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Why my 12 months baby bites herself?

One of my twin babies has started biting herself when I try to soothe her ( when she starts crying). She will try to bite her lower arms or wrist and leave bite marks. After that she will start ...
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My twin Daughters are very different in size! [closed]

I have two beautiful 11-month-old girls who were born in November, last year. I formula feed them the same amount. Also, they eat the same quantity of finger food, soups, vegetables and even chicken ...
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Why do my 14 month old twins cry whenever they drink milk or water?

Whenever we try to feed any liquid to (both of) our 14-month old twin girls, they cry. This includes milk, water or any kind of liquid. They don't use a bottle any more, so we are using a spoon to ...
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Should my twins play with other children?

My 5 year old twin sons have been at their new school for four months now, and they have made no friends. This is down to their own actions, at school they will only play with each other and want ...
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How to deal with my teenager step daughter's rebellious behavior?

My 14 yo step daughter loves troubling us. I initially thought taking her side and spending time with her may improve the situation. But I guess, I was wrong . She loves breaking rules. She talks ...
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Which is the best formula for gassy babies?

Which formula milk is the best for gassy babies? I have 11 month old twin girls and I give them Aptamil. It's nice but they don't like the flavour and get gassy. So which is the best milk out of ...
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My step daughter shook my baby [closed]

My guests were at home and I was decorating pudding for them. So, I gave my 12 month twin girls to my 14 year step daughter to take care just for 10 minutes in her room. I heard the babies crying ...
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Is it right to go the cold turkey way when babies cry? [duplicate]

My babies troubling me and each other . They are 11 mo twins . I have decided to put them in their separate cot into their rooms when they cry and come back to their room once they stop crying. Does ...
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3YO and twin babies: car seat configuration in 2011 Honda Pilot

I have a 3YO forward facing in a Diono Radian, and am expecting twins, who will be in Graco Sugride + base seats. From what I can tell, I have two options: 1) Radian in 3rd row, with infant bases ...
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How to teach 7 month old twins naps after lunch?

We have twin girls, 7 month of corrected age (premies). Both get tired and cranky after lunch. We have read that kids need regular schedules and that we should teach them to take a nap in their bed ...
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Why am I sleep deprived? [duplicate]

My 11 mo twins are difficult to handle and I feel very sleepy. I am sleep deprived. I find it so hard to concentrate. Also my tiny baby constantly beats and pokes my other twin.