Age specific questions from about 1 year to about 3 years. Younger: infant. Older: pre-schooler.

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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?

I think most parents agree that it's helpful to follow some fixed ritual when putting a child to bed. What elements in such rituals are particularly useful, and what should be avoided? There are ...
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How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?

We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training: Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
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Getting a 2-year-old back to sleep in the middle of the night

We have always had trouble with our little boy not sleeping through the night. He will do it in spells (every night for a week, then not at all for a fortnight). But he has recently developed a ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...
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How do you know when it is time to take a child to the Doctor?

Our children have recently been sick and I am wondering when is the right time to take them to the doctor. They both have had runny noses with coughs, diarrhea, and fevers off and on for a week, ...
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How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people?

From talking to other parents, it seems like most boys (children?) go through an early stage of hitting at around 1. I have a 14-month old (2nd) son who occasionally hits me in the face, and ...
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How can we discipline our toddler?

TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed. At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
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How do I cope with my toddler's jealousy towards her newborn brother and sister?

We had 2 adorable twins in January. Our older daughter is jealous of them and our life has become a nightmare. How can we address her jealousy and improve our situation?
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How can I get my toddler to eat as well for us as he does at daycare?

My son (currently 23 months old) attends an in-home daycare 5 days a week. The daycare provider cooks homemade meals for the kids, and provides snacks. By every report she gives, our son gives her ...
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What do we do when timeouts are not effective?

We have a three year old toddler, and he has just seemed to realize that timeouts are nothing more than him sitting in a corner for a few minutes. He has recently started doing a whole suite of bad ...
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Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
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How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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How can a young child be taught not to bully?

How can an 18 month old be taught that bullying is not ok? He seems to like causing the trouble it brings upon him, and bullying, mean acts also seem to please him. He likes to sit on his younger ...
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How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?

My wife and I both tend to have... colorful language (for me it tends to be far worse when driving). Our son just turned one, and is starting to become more verbal. He's not quite at the point where ...
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How can I potty train a 12 month old?

I want to potty train much earlier than is common, when my son is 12 to 14 months old. What's the best way to go about it?
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How do you teach a toddler rhythm and melody?

My 1 year old daughter loves all kinds of music and rhythm. She dances and "plays" enthusiastically on both guitars, the piano and her toy glockenspiel. This has, since she was just four month, always ...
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How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
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How should we cope with 12 month old waking in the night?

We are trying to get our 12 month olds sleep routine improved now that both of us will be returning to work. We've been working on getting the settling routine sorted out each night, and haven't ...
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How can we make a long road trip pleasant for a toddler and the parents?

We're planning to drive to visit my family later this year. It is roughly a 10-11 hour drive if we go straight through (I'm planning on making fairly frequent stops, however, as I think it would be ...
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How to better engage myself with my 15 month old

My 15 month old toddler is very active and I often find it challenging to match his pace. He seems to get bored with his toys very quickly. Earlier he used to be very much interested in my laptop and ...
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What to do when my 3-year-old holds poop in and won't go in diaper or on potty?

My son is almost 3 (33 months) and for the past few months, he has been holding his poop in, to the point that he won't go for many days a time. When this started, the doctor advised us to give him ...
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Should I stop teaching my toddler a second language if his exposure to it will be limited?

I have stared to talk exclusively in English to my son when he was less than 6 months old. However, we have decided not to move to an English speaking country, so I ended up practically alone. It's ...
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What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?

We're traveling from SF to Paris (direct) with our 20-month old soon. What are tips for surviving the flight and not having everyone hate us?
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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
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Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?

My son is 18-months-old and he is in a daycare room with kids 16-months to 2.5 years. Most days when I pick him up they are watching TV. The shows range from somewhat educational (Dora, Sesame St.) ...
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Should I encourage my 2½ year old to attempt to “read” his own stories?

My little boy is 2½ now, and has enjoyed being read to at bedtime since he was small. But lately he's started refusing to be read to at all. Instead he says "No, I want to read it" and takes the ...
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When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
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How to handle a toddler does not want to fall asleep?

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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When should I transition a 2 year old toddler from the cot to a bed?

My son turned 2 today, and we have been considering for a long time to transition him to a bed. Specially since he already sleeps in a bed at the daycare. I am afraid that he will not want to stay in ...
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How do you prevent a toddler from waking too early?

My 18 month old has started waking up progressively earlier every morning for the past couple of weeks. It used to be that he would wake up between 6am-7am, which was no problem because I would wake ...
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How can I switch an exclusively breastfed 1-year-old to food?

My 1 year old daughter eats very little. Infact she doesn't even drink bottled milk. Not to mention she hasn't gained much weight in the last couple of months. She mostly survives on mothers milk. ...
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My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
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What are some suggestions for helping with potty training?

I have been potty training my daughter over the past few days and its not going to well. How can I figure out if she is just not ready for it or I should try other techniques. We came up with a ...
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How do you handle a toddler that refuses to say 'sorry'?

My two-year-old son is generally exceptionally well-behaved and polite. He was saying "please" and "thank you" at a very early age, and would apologize if he had problems sharing or accidentally hurt ...
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What are the causes and remedies of constipation in toddlers?

My 1 1/2 year old baby daughter is having difficult with her bowel. She seems to have a constipation sensation. I have personally never seen small aged children having constipation in my life. I ...
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Advice for carrying out the “Stay in Bed” technique with our 2-year-old

My two-year old has always had trouble settling and sleeping through the night, but recently the problem seems to have become an awful lot worse. It all came to a head one night a few weeks ago after ...
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How can I get my toddler to sleep later in the mornings?

My son, now 15 months old, was sleeping through the night, and waking up consistently at 6am. However, over the past few months he had been gradually waking up earlier. Now he wakes up consistently ...
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How can I keep a 14 month old busy at some activity for longer than 3 minutes

Our boy loses interest in any activity - playing with toys /playing with us/mock singing/you-name-it very soon The only exception is watching TV (which can go on for 30 minutes uninterrupted) and he ...
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How to get 2 year old to vocalize words?

I have a two year old (just turned two) boy that doesn't speak much. He vocalizes only a few words (like "mom", "up", and "grandpa") clearly but other than those, he's largely silent. He seems ...
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How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?

A 3 1/2 year old child has entered an "I can't" phase. He says "he can't" about things he really can do. It becomes hard to detect when to help or not help, because you're supposed to help children ...
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Encouraging my 2-year-old to play independently

My little boy is 2½, and has never been very good at playing by himself. When we take him to play-groups he won't ever go more than a few feet away from us at any time; At a party last week, he ...
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How do I teach my toddler not to stuff her cheeks with food?

My 20-month-old daughter, given the opportunity, will stuff her cheeks full of food she likes (especially cheese, raisins, or green beans) to the point where it's difficult for her to chew or swallow. ...
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Retrain toddler to potty?

My toddler was using the potty frequently when he turned about 2.5 years, then after Memorial weekend, he suddenly stopped going. He seems to hold it forever and is very stubborn. I haven't had him ...
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Should a parent tell their child that father christmas is not real?

Christmas time is looming and I am currently having a debate with a co-worker on the topic in the question title. She believes that you should tell your child from a very early age that there are a ...
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Are there techniques for sleep training that actually teach a child how to sleep?

I finally found some time to read the books my mother borrowed for me about sleep training. I was sorely disappointed: neither book mentioned anything about actually teaching the child how to fall ...
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Kids Website, is it a good idea?

My daughter is just 4 months old. Being a software developer, I register two domains on her name, as soon as her name is finalized. Now I was looking for some really eye catching kid website ...
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How do we get an eight month old back to sleeping in his crib?

Our son's crib is in our bedroom, and he was mostly sleeping the whole night in his crib with no issues. Do to a series of events (power outage, spending the night at relatives with no crib, needing ...
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How can I move my toddler's interest from toys to playmates?

My kid is 2 years and 9 months now. For a year now we've been in USA and we were buying him electronic toys (buttons, music, lights, shapes, numbers), so he is very sharp at those, he can say number ...
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Should you let a toddler win?

We've started playing some simple games with my 2-year-old son, including a simple age-appropriate matching game. He enjoys playing, but seems (to me, at least) more focused on playing over winning. ...
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How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?

My wife and I had joked about expecting endless "why?" questions from our son while we were expecting, and I thought I was prepared for it. In fact, I thought the stereotypical constant flow of "why? ...