Age specific questions from about 1 year to about 3 years. Younger: infant. Older: pre-schooler.

learn more… | top users | synonyms (3)

75
votes
17answers
6k views

How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...
54
votes
12answers
4k views

Should you let a toddler win?

We've started playing some simple games with my 2-year-old son, including a simple age-appropriate matching game. He enjoys playing, but seems (to me, at least) more focused on playing over winning. ...
37
votes
10answers
2k views

How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says “why?”?

My wife and I had joked about expecting endless "why?" questions from our son while we were expecting, and I thought I was prepared for it. In fact, I thought the stereotypical constant flow of "why? ...
36
votes
13answers
11k views

What is a positive way to handle a boy who acts like a girl?

My 3yo regularly plays and acts like a girl. For example, he likes to take his arm out of one sleeve on his shirt and pretend he's a princess. He loves to dress up in his mom and sister's clothes. He ...
33
votes
21answers
4k views

What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?

I think most parents agree that it's helpful to follow some fixed ritual when putting a child to bed. What elements in such rituals are particularly useful, and what should be avoided? There are ...
31
votes
28answers
12k views

How can I brush my toddlers' teeth when he won't let me?

My toddler doesn't like to get his teeth brushed. How do I get him to be more cooperative? He knows it's part of the bedtime routine and doesn't try to avoid it. He will happily grab and hold out his ...
30
votes
9answers
26k views

Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?

This is probably a classic but here goes. Some time between midnight and three my 9 month old will wake crying. Often he is hungry or has gas and can be fairly easily consoled and falls asleep in our ...
30
votes
9answers
5k views

My child is ignoring my timeouts and walking away from them. What are some options for handling this?

I have a two and a half year old daughter. Recently she's been acting up generally, and ignoring timeouts by getting up and walking away. I would pick her up and plant her down again, but I know ...
27
votes
9answers
1k views

Reasoning vs “because I say so”

Raising our two-year-old, my wife and I have slightly different views on how to get our child to obey instructions, such as "get in the car seat" and "put on your shirt." One of us feels that it is ...
23
votes
9answers
8k views

How can I stop my two year old from taking off his diaper in bed?

Recently, my two-year-old son has been taking off his diaper at nap time. It's usually full and dirty and makes a big mess. He has managed to do it while wearing all types of pants (even overalls). ...
22
votes
4answers
74k views

What should I be teaching my two year old?

My two year old daughter has never been to a daycare, so everything she knows is something that me, my husband, or her grandparents have taught her. She sees very little interaction with other kids ...
21
votes
13answers
1k views

How do my wife and I stop our son from learning to swear from us?

My wife and I both tend to have... colorful language (for me it tends to be far worse when driving). Our son just turned one, and is starting to become more verbal. He's not quite at the point where ...
21
votes
6answers
2k views

How do parents have sex when there's a toddler in the house?

Scenario: 1-bedroom apartment and there's no one else living in the house to watch the toddler. Any recommendation?
21
votes
7answers
4k views

How do you teach a toddler rhythm and melody?

My 1 year old daughter loves all kinds of music and rhythm. She dances and "plays" enthusiastically on both guitars, the piano and her toy glockenspiel. This has, since she was just four month, always ...
20
votes
12answers
2k views

What are some tips for making an international flight with a toddler?

We're traveling from SF to Paris (direct) with our 20-month old soon. What are tips for surviving the flight and not having everyone hate us?
20
votes
8answers
2k views

Why do kids always do things which we tell them NOT to do?

This is the kind of behaviour which I have seen in lot of kids including mine (2 year old). When I tell him NOT to hold a knife, he will make sure he does it. If I tell him not to spill milk on the ...
19
votes
6answers
2k views

How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler.Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
19
votes
5answers
4k views

Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...
19
votes
5answers
7k views

At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
18
votes
9answers
704 views

How do we teach a pre-schooler about money and shopping?

When I go to a store with my four year old son he wants to buy a lot of stuff he sees. Also he constantly claims that he needs a new toy. How do I explain to him that we can't buy everything we want?
18
votes
3answers
427 views

Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?

My son is 18-months-old and he is in a daycare room with kids 16-months to 2.5 years. Most days when I pick him up they are watching TV. The shows range from somewhat educational (Dora, Sesame St.) ...
18
votes
5answers
1k views

How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?

This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
18
votes
3answers
8k views

How do you potty train for overnight?

My three year old is well on her way to being potty trained. She rarely has any accidents, , at least during the day. My wife and I put her in pull ups to sleep at night. My question is, whats the ...
18
votes
5answers
33k views

Getting a 2-year-old back to sleep in the middle of the night

We have always had trouble with our little boy not sleeping through the night. He will do it in spells (every night for a week, then not at all for a fortnight). But he has recently developed a ...
17
votes
9answers
3k views

How to teach a toddler to identify colors correctly?

Perhaps I am rushing a bit but I'd rather ask and get feedback rather than just let it slide. I've recently been working on teaching colors to my 2 year old daughter. She can say the common colors if ...
17
votes
5answers
6k views

How can I potty train a 12 month old?

I want to potty train much earlier than is common, when my son is 12 to 14 months old. What's the best way to go about it?
17
votes
4answers
2k views

How can I tell parents of a 1-year-old that they're doing it wrong?

Without getting into the circumstances, my wife's step sister and her husband are living with us while he's between orders with the US army. She's 28 and he's 42. While they're living with us, it's ...
17
votes
9answers
832 views

What do we do when timeouts are not effective?

We have a three year old toddler, and he has just seemed to realize that timeouts are nothing more than him sitting in a corner for a few minutes. He has recently started doing a whole suite of bad ...
16
votes
6answers
8k views

At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
16
votes
8answers
1k views

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around a toddler?

Which breeds of dog are safe to have around when raising a small child?
16
votes
9answers
4k views

How can I get my son to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5 year old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
16
votes
9answers
9k views

How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
16
votes
3answers
554 views

My toddler has started “lying”

Recently, my almost two year old has started lying. It has taken us by a surprise; we are not sure if she means to lie, or if she doesn't understand what she is talking about. I'll give some ...
16
votes
5answers
3k views

How can a young child be taught not to bully?

How can an 18 month old be taught that bullying is not ok? He seems to like causing the trouble it brings upon him, and bullying, mean acts also seem to please him. He likes to sit on his younger ...
16
votes
1answer
743 views

Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?

Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him. However, when we are both present, he ...
15
votes
5answers
2k views

What's the most efficient way to dress a toddler?

Our twins are just starting to stand on their own, which is making getting them dressed a bit harder than they used to be. For one thing, my son especially would prefer to stand rather than lie back ...
15
votes
7answers
1k views

How can I negotiate with a toddler successfully?

Recently our 2.5 daughter started being really annoying about doing simple daily things, like brushing her teeth, dressing, undressing, putting on shoes to go out, etc. Often we need to negotiate up ...
15
votes
9answers
42k views

How do you know when it is time to take a child to the Doctor?

Our children have recently been sick and I am wondering when is the right time to take them to the doctor. They both have had runny noses with coughs, diarrhea, and fevers off and on for a week, ...
15
votes
5answers
1k views

My son witnessed a friend receiving corporal punishment; how do I prevent this from sending the wrong message?

As I was picking my son up from daycare the other day, another boy's "Nanny" (grandmother, I presume) was picking him up at the same time. The boy was playing, and grabbing on to other children's ...
15
votes
9answers
8k views

How can I stop my toddler from playing with electrical outlets and plugs?

My 2.5-year-old son has this weird fascination with electrical outlets and power bars. I tried telling him that it's dangerous (he understand and can identify dangerous objects and situations, and ...
15
votes
3answers
1k views

How can we discipline our toddler?

TL;DR version: Toddler doesn't understand disciplining. Help needed. At 22 months, our toddler is incredibly active and always has been. He's also mostly very well-behaved, especially when being ...
15
votes
7answers
4k views

When should a child stop using a pacifier, and how can I help with this transition?

I am curious how a child can be helped to move on from his/her pacifier, and what age is a good age to do this?
15
votes
6answers
5k views

Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
14
votes
7answers
2k views

How to remove Toddler's attraction for iPhone /iPad?

I have a 2 year old boy. When he sees iPhone and iPad, he is literally glued to it for hours on end. And he is so stubborn that it is difficult for us to get him leave these instruments. Usually I ...
14
votes
5answers
510 views

How to begin reading to an active toddler?

Occasionally I come across an article describing that parents read to their kids. I like that, but I am not sure how and when to start doing so. In fact, this question is not really about my son, ...
14
votes
11answers
2k views

Can you guide a toddler to learn specific words?

My 14 month old has a pretty good vocabulary for his age. However, it is a source of frustration for my wife that "mommy" (or some variation thereof) is not part of his vocabulary. He says "daddy" ...
14
votes
4answers
810 views

What should I consider when flying with an infant?

My wife and I will be traveling to the US next month and we're going to take two flights, probably one of 2 hrs and the other 4. Although my 7-months-old son already sits by himself, I'm not sure I ...
14
votes
7answers
821 views

How to react to “cruelty” of a toddler?

My son is two and a half years old and is not in general of the violent type. However he regularly enjoys showing "cruelty". By that I mean that regularly when he "by accident" (let's stay positive) ...
14
votes
4answers
3k views

How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?

We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training: Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
13
votes
7answers
15k views

At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?

I just told someone on parenting that a baby becomes a toddler when it starts moving around. The question which came back was "what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?". That got me searching, ...