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5answers
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...
2
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3answers
157 views

What's an effective way to deal with toddler transition tantrums (“I don't want to stop yet?”)

This isn't a question about what general incentives or methods of discipline work best. I'm looking for techniques specific to transitions, like when it's time to stop playing and go somewhere, etc. ...
4
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1answer
127 views

how to teach persistence to 3 year old

My 3 year old daughter gets very frustrated when things don't work for her the first time. She seems to go from happy to crazy upset immediately. Is this a time-appropriate developmental thing? I ...
5
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3answers
290 views

How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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11answers
2k views

How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?

A 3 1/2 year old child has entered an "I can't" phase. He says "he can't" about things he really can do. It becomes hard to detect when to help or not help, because you're supposed to help children ...
6
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3answers
1k views

How can I encourage my toddler to walk and not be carried?

My 2½ year-old is a very capable walker, but often he decides he just doesn't want to do it. Usually, when we go out, he goes in the push-chair. But sometimes he wriggles and screams until we are ...
6
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6answers
3k views

How do I get a young toddler to walk holding my hand?

Baby boy is just 12 months, but walks really well and prefers to walk. When we are at the grocery store or somewhere we need to go from Point A to Point B, sometimes he doesn't want to go where I ...
5
votes
5answers
398 views

How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?

I keep hearing about how bad things get once a child enters the "terrible twos". I know quite a few parents who claim that the age is just a natural time for frequent temper tantrums, and non-stop ...
5
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9answers
1k views

How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?

From the moment he wakes to the moment he falls asleep my toddler barely ever stops asking for "chocolate", "sweeties" or "cakes". He frequently doesn't eat his meals well, but we are fairly strict ...
5
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5answers
2k views

How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
7
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3answers
11k views

How can I keep my toddler from scratching himself when he is upset?

Whenever my toddler gets very upset or throws a fit, he has a tendency to rake his fingernails very hard across his face, often drawing blood. Currently one side of his face is covered with scratches ...
16
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1answer
767 views

Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?

Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him. However, when we are both present, he ...
76
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17answers
7k views

How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...