Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?

So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriends son from her previous relationship. I'm afraid though... He does ...
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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?

A little background- my daughter has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or relationship and is in 8th grade. She has always been young for her age and had a tough time identifying with other girls and ...
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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What should I teach my teenager about condoms?

Let me preface the question by saying that I'm not asking this question in order to endorse or promote teenage sex. Even if my child wants to wait until he is married to have sex, as a parent, I still ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?

I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
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How should a parent react when their child comes out of the closet to them?

Several of my good friends, including my best friend, are gay/lesbian/queer. All of them have told me that coming out was one of the most emotional and difficult things they've ever had to do. Their ...
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When (if ever) is it appropriate to spy on your teenager's texts?

I'm an active member of Android Enthusiasts Stack Exchange and recently came across this question by a parent, asking for advice on spying on his teenage (I'm assuming) son's texts without getting ...
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14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
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Teenage daughter and stepfather

I have a 16 year old who has no respect for her stepfather. They hardly communicate and each time he says something she snaps or makes a stroppy or contradictory comment. He sometimes loses his temper ...
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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How young is too young to start wearing makeup?

A couple of us in the office today were talking about young girls and makeup. One mentioned that his daughter is thirteen and already wearing makeup, another mentioned her niece wears makeup as well ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?

I went to borrow bus fair from my sister this morning and found a small clear bottle with a small amount of marijuana and four mysteriously labeled, handmade pills in her change box. I don't know what ...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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I suspect my teenager is using illegal drugs; what should I do?

Beyond the usual teenage mood-swings, my teen's behavior has become unusually erratic. He stays out late, and seems to go out of his way to avoid me when he comes home. His sleep patterns seem ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?

How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay. What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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Too many variables at play — troubled “son”

So, here's the story. My ex-girlfriend, whom I have an 11 year old son with, had a son before ours with a man who has never seen his son past the age of one. He's now 16. He grew up a generally happy ...
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Relevant research to support father custody for children?

I have a friend who has children who are suffering an abusive situation with his ex-wife where she is physically, emotionally and verbally abusing their children. The situation is such that the ...
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How should I react when my child is being teased at school?

If I have a child who is consistently made fun of at school, what should I do to help my child learn to cope, ignore, or respond to the situation. What should I do to help prevent the situation from ...
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining

My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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How do you get a teenager to take shorter showers?

It's great that they think hygiene is important. It's a hassle that the bathroom is tied up. How do you get a teenager to be faster in the shower?
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What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?

My children are raised multilingual; we live in Austria and they learn all their German from my wife and from the world around us. I'm Danish and I want my kids to know that language too, so since ...
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Should I enroll my child in driving lessons or teach them myself?

I realize that some countries might have mandatory government-regulated driving courses before you can get a driver's license, but I think that most countries allow parents the option of teaching ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you?

My girl friend called me scared for her life to day after her parent(s) strangled her. She is 19 years old and cannot support her self on her own. Im not sure what she can do or anything I can do to ...
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How did you maintain good contact when your child was far away?

My 18 year old son lives in another country. He's finishing up high school and he has a lot of things that go on in his personal life. It can be really hard to stay in touch. He rarely answers email I ...
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What are appropriate sexual boundaries between siblings?

I have three children, my younger two are a 13 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. They are both maturing and going through puberty. Gone are the days of my little son doing little naked dances, ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?

I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on. I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...
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Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?

As Prom season quickly approaches, I've begun to wonder about who will ask my daughter. In particular, should I be expecting someone to ask me for permission before they go with my daughter, or do I ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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13 year old losing muscle

My 13 y/o son had been highly athletic his entire life. About 18 months ago we noticed him losing strength in his legs. Over time it has gotten worse and he cannot run normally any more. He has lost ...
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Young teenager with body odor

I am a school counselor working with 14-18 year old students. I have been made aware of a 14 year old male student who has body odor so noxious that his teacher came to me and mentioned that other ...
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How to deal with a bedwetting teenager?

My 13 year old still wets the bed. Over the years we have tried alarms, medication, waking him up at various times, controlling his drinking, charts (behaviour modification). He hates it and wants ...
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Is it cruel to deny laughing gas for a teen getting a tooth filled?

My 13 yr old daughter has a cavity. They plan on giving local anesthesia, with an option for laughing gas. When I had teeth filled, I never recall getting laughing gas. I'd like for her to learn ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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How do you respond to a teenager who declares that he isn't interested in college?

I am reading the book P.E.T. about communicating with children and there is a question. How would you address the situation when your 15 year old child comes home and tells you he isn’t interested in ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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As a parent, how should I react to someone asking me for permission for Prom?

Following up on my question Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom, I've decided to ask, considering how my daughter hints that he'll ask her within the next week, if he asks me for ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?

I have actually recently found a label for my religion (druidism). I am 15 and I actually established my personal beliefs years ago. I feel like a disappointment to my parents already because I'm ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...