Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?

I went to borrow bus fair from my sister this morning and found a small clear bottle with a small amount of marijuana and four mysteriously labeled, handmade pills in her change box. I don't know what ...
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What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?

My children are raised multilingual; we live in Austria and they learn all their German from my wife and from the world around us. I'm Danish and I want my kids to know that language too, so since ...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?

A little background- my daughter has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or relationship and is in 8th grade. She has always been young for her age and had a tough time identifying with other girls and ...
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teenage child with severe daily temper tantrums and whining

My 13 year old daughter has severe and daily outbursts - sometimes as many as 10 a day - from time she gets up till time she goes to bed. This has been going on since she was of walking and talking ...
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Do parents of teens need a locked liquor cabinet?

I had this debate with some friends who have older children. We keep our liquor in the cupboard above the fridge. When they get a bit older (still just 8 and 10) and could potentially be tempted ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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When (if ever) is it appropriate to spy on your teenager's texts?

I'm an active member of Android Enthusiasts Stack Exchange and recently came across this question by a parent, asking for advice on spying on his teenage (I'm assuming) son's texts without getting ...
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How can we ask our 22-year-old son to leave?

I am 53 years old and my wife is 47 years old and we have a 22-year-old son. We have huge problems with him. He has changed universities three times and now he is in a college. He drops his courses, ...
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Dealing with teens and pornography?

Say you know that your son watches pornography and you may or may not have caught him in the act. How do you react to this ? Do you ban him from using the internet/monitor his activities or overlook ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?

How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want? The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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Daddy daughter travel trip?

I have an idea that may or may not be a good one, so I am looking for a little advice. I have a daughter and son, 5 and 1 respectively. I have this pipe dream to save some money to take them on a ...
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Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
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What are appropriate sexual boundaries between siblings?

I have three children, my younger two are a 13 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. They are both maturing and going through puberty. Gone are the days of my little son doing little naked dances, ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and ...
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How do you get a teenager to take shorter showers?

It's great that they think hygiene is important. It's a hassle that the bathroom is tied up. How do you get a teenager to be faster in the shower?
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Teenage daughter and stepfather

I have a 16 year old who has no respect for her stepfather. They hardly communicate and each time he says something she snaps or makes a stroppy or contradictory comment. He sometimes loses his temper ...
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Young teenager with body odor

I am a school counselor working with 14-18 year old students. I have been made aware of a 14 year old male student who has body odor so noxious that his teacher came to me and mentioned that other ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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What should I teach my teenager about condoms?

Let me preface the question by saying that I'm not asking this question in order to endorse or promote teenage sex. Even if my child wants to wait until he is married to have sex, as a parent, I still ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents

I have three children 12, 13 and 19 and their father committed suicide 10 years ago (when they were 1, 3 and 9). They have suffered through many childhood taunts, at times, including: "Your father ...
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how to talk with your teen when he caught you having sex with your partner [duplicate]

My husband and I got caught by my teenager son having oral sex. I am emarrased and i don't know how to handle it. is there any advise? thank you
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How can allowing children to participate on Halloween be helpful in reinforcing good habits?

I recently wrote this: "Halloween: the one day where we encourage children to accept candy from strangers, go to strangers' homes, and vandalize property and terrorize people if they don't get ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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I suspect my teenager is using illegal drugs; what should I do?

Beyond the usual teenage mood-swings, my teen's behavior has become unusually erratic. He stays out late, and seems to go out of his way to avoid me when he comes home. His sleep patterns seem ...
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Integrating original family fun games with learning [closed]

Encouraging pre-teens and more so teens to be involved and interested in family activities and educational learning can be a challenge. Spending time with friends, online activities, combined with ...
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How did you maintain good contact when your child was far away?

My 18 year old son lives in another country. He's finishing up high school and he has a lot of things that go on in his personal life. It can be really hard to stay in touch. He rarely answers email I ...
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My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! Is this normal?

My 12 year old has been blowing off homework, and now is writing on his clothes! He plays hockey, which he loves. I stopped letting him play for his teams when his report card came back with bad ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father,13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, beacuse mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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How should a stepfather respond to “You are not my Father!”?

So the situation is that I'm not the real father of my son. I call him my son since I love him very much, but he is my girlfriends son from her previous relationship. I'm afraid though... He does ...
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What should parent do when their child is dropping more hair?

A colleague of mime notice that her teenager kid is dropping a lot of hair recently. What advices should I give to my colleague to help her teenager kid instead of telling her to ask her bring her ...
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Too many variables at play — troubled “son”

So, here's the story. My ex-girlfriend, whom I have an 11 year old son with, had a son before ours with a man who has never seen his son past the age of one. He's now 16. He grew up a generally happy ...
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14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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Relevant research to support father custody for children?

I have a friend who has children who are suffering an abusive situation with his ex-wife where she is physically, emotionally and verbally abusing their children. The situation is such that the ...
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Does a damaged dental brace need repairing?

My son uses a palate expander and the side prong has broken off. Since it's so late I can't call the dentist but my son is very upset because he doesn't want to have to get a new one or prolong the ...
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How to deal with a bedwetting teenager?

My 13 year old still wets the bed. Over the years we have tried alarms, medication, waking him up at various times, controlling his drinking, charts (behaviour modification). He hates it and wants ...
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Can the council demand that a 16yo shares a bedroom with a 1yo?

I have just been put on the council housing list and at the moment live in a 2 bed house in which the 2nd room is tiny. The council are saying that my two daughters, aged 16 and 1 year, can share a ...
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How to get my sister to use correct spelling while typing on computer?

I am sure that I am treading on eggshells here as this is a matter of opinion, but please do read on. I absolutely resent when people use incorrect spelling for 90% of their words, on purpose. My ...