Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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How can a teenager avoid changing in a school locker room?

What can a teenager (or their parents) do when they very strongly refuse to change in a school locker room? There are plenty of families and students that feel they should not undress in a somewhat ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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I can't motivate my 13 year old twins to get school work turned in

We have tried grounding them, taking all their privledges away, we have tried reward systems and nothing works. They have started lying about getting the work done and turned in when they know we ...
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How do you help an older sibling understand an intersex younger sibling?

One of my friends has two children. One is male (14 years old) & another one is has an intersex condition (10 years old and has male and female genitalia). Up until last month the male child ...
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How to help a 12 year old adopted girl with anger management?

We are the parents of an adopted girl who is now 12. She has several emotional problems. In no particular order: She prefers cakes and biscuits to meat and veg. We suspect a sugar addiction. She ...
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How can I instigate or spark an interest for math to my 14 year old daughter?

My 14 year old daughter finds math boring and she acknowledges it whenever we talk about it. What can I do to spark an interest for math in her?
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My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)

I admit I did not do well at my first year of exams at A level... but I have changed it around and I am working so much harder than I have ever done! I also have a girlfriend who I see once a weekend ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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Why does my 16 year old sister still bite?

When I was laying on my bed minding my own business, my sister who was still angry over something came over and bit my hand. Like really bit my hand, which left teeth marks. I am at my wits end! I'm ...
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As a stranger how do I deal with teenagers misbehaving or being a nuisance in public [closed]

This question arose after a few teenagers in a group of ten were being a nuisance. Two were on a single bike swaying all over the place riding on the pavement. They nearly crashed into a car and a ...
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Teenage Boy wants to live with his Mum

I have 3 kids. The eldest boy is 20 and is studying at University, my middle son is 17 and still at school and my youngest is a 12 yo daughter. About six and a half years ago my wife left and at the ...
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How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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What expenses should I pay for my 16-year-old daughter

I give my 16 year old daughter 1 dollar a day for keeping straight A's (90% or above in every class).  If she drops to a B in one of her classes, no dollar until she brings it back up (I check via the ...
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Drawing the line between abuse and “roughhousing” a teenager?

While this is not anyone in my family, I witnessed a father at a party treating his adolescent daughter like crap. The daughter's kind of introverted and didn't socialize too much, but the father ...
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Is my daughter getting enough sleep?

I have two daughters, 12 and 15 years old. The younger goes to sleep at about 9 and wakes up for school at 7 so she gets around 10 hours of sleep, but her older sister is up until around 11:30pm ...
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Are these strange communication habits of urban teenagers normal?

Being a teenager now, unlike when I was young, has some differences regarding communication regarding mobile phones / internet. I have noticed some strange behavior in teenagers (around 15), which I ...
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My step granddaughter orders expensive meals, but won't eat them

My 14 year old stepgranddaughter orders the most expensive item on restaurant menu and then won't eat it. She always has an excuse... my stomach hurts, my head hurts, etc. won't ever put her cell ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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How can I convince my teenage son to focus on his studies?

Please advise me how to solve this sensitive issue so that my son and the girl both understand. My son, who is studying 12th std, is attracted to a girl of same class who is his tuition mate and ...
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12 y/o daughter gives one-word answers to every question

My 12 y/o daughter used to be very open. A great communicator. Very warm and gregarious. A few months ago (right around the time her body started changing) she gradually started changing her pattern. ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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where can i get help for my13 year old daughter whos tantrums get physical?

I have a 13 year old daughter. She has had a tantrum tonight after her and her sister got in a little argument. My 13year old daughter got to the point where she got physical with my other daughter. ...
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My son is texting to other boys acting as a girl

I'm really not sure what to think about my son meaning, about 5 different times in the past 2 years or so I found him texting to other boys acting as a girl and this goes on for a long time.. With ...
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Throwing parties for teenagers

Are there any overarching guides, strategies, or "best practices" in throwing birthday parties for teenagers? This is something that I will have to do soon, and I have a few concerns: Their friends ...
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How to deal with controlling parents?

I'm a simple freshman in high school. My parents (especially my mom) have pushed me immensely. Including, but not limited to: Putting me in advanced mathematics from a very early age. (Algebra 1: ...
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Why does my son of 12 yo only talk and behave nonsense in front of me?

Since 8 years old, my son always likes to talk and behave nonsense in front of me. He likes to act cute or like a baby mimicking a cute voice and pretending to be like a baby only to me. To others he ...
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How to deal with my dad's semi-destructive behavior?

I'm a 16 year old teenager growing up in Texas. My dad was (up until now) a really good dad. We used to do stuff together, but that has changed in the last couple of years or so. I don't have a good ...
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Is an 8 week trip abroad an appropriate time away for a 14 year old?

My 14 yo son is interested going on a summer missions trip to Mt. Kilamanjaro in Tanzania, Africa. His mother is pushing him to go, but has just sprung the idea on me. Everything looks fine about the ...
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How to deal with a preteen's sudden unhealthy obsession?

Say a preteen girl is going through an unhealthy obsession. I know many people go through a phase of extreme obsession with something at some point, whether it's with a celebrity, a school crush, a ...
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Dealing with teens and pornography?

Say you know that your son watches pornography and you may or may not have caught him in the act. How do you react to this ? Do you ban him from using the internet/monitor his activities or overlook ...
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What should parent do when their child is dropping more hair?

A colleague of mime notice that her teenager kid is dropping a lot of hair recently. What advices should I give to my colleague to help her teenager kid instead of telling her to ask her bring her ...
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Sons girlfriends' parents against their relationship

My son is in love with a girl of a different ethnicity and her mom is completely against it. My son said that her mother has tried to kill her once, that CPS has been involved and that the girl has ...
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My 13 year old doesn't care about school?

He has done ZERO homework and is getting straight F's in class. His highest grade is a 52. He just doesnt care, and if I take anything away from him he drives me so insane I just have to give it back. ...
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Long Car rides with teenagers [duplicate]

I am going to a amusement park at the end of the month with my youth group. I will be in the car with 4 other girls and 6 boys. I need some game ideas to keep the boys busy so they won't pick on me. ...
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Can the council demand that a 16yo shares a bedroom with a 1yo?

I have just been put on the council housing list and at the moment live in a 2 bed house in which the 2nd room is tiny. The council are saying that my two daughters, aged 16 and 1 year, can share a ...
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How can allowing children to participate on Halloween be helpful in reinforcing good habits?

I recently wrote this: "Halloween: the one day where we encourage children to accept candy from strangers, go to strangers' homes, and vandalize property and terrorize people if they don't get ...
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What can I do about my teenagers behavior? [closed]

My son, 16, has a good GPA in high school but his social life is nonexistent outside of his computer. Every suggestion I've made to him results in a "No." He doesn't like to go out with his dad, go ...
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Will my child be ready for the world?

I have a teenage child who is generally a good student and we have a usually good relationship. I only worry that he isn't being prepaired for the world very well and that he's only being prepaired ...
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Teen secretly playing video games when should be doing homework [closed]

If a son of about 14 years old, using his laptop to do schoolwork, secretly plays video games instead, should it be the parent's responsibility to find this out and stop him? If the son finds it hard ...
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How often do you take a teenager with glasses in for a vision checkup?

I know that a prescription for eyeglasses is good for 1 year. When or how often do you take a teen in for an eye checkup? I don't want to wait until she is complaining about her eyes getting worse ...
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My 13 year old is off the rails and dad has given up

I have a 13 year old boy who is disrespecting both parents and out of control. He is totally self-absorbed (as I know most kids are) and he can't handle any situation. He hasn't has a clue on how ...
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teens nagging at each others

The kids of my GF, 14 and 11 respectively, have that annoying tendancy to nag at each other when night time is coming. Teen girl likes to pout and teenage boy thinks himself as some kind of prima ...
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What advice can I give to a teen who wants to tell his dad uncomfortable truths?

My girlfriend's Teenage Boy (TB), 14, wants to talk to his dad about things he doesn't like about him, like smoking in the living room. He came to me for advice. Knowing his dad, who is a very ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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Halloween Themed Activity [closed]

I am interested in a large scale Halloween Activity primarily young adults, I wanted to show some Halloween spirit so I picked the movie Rocky Horror Picture Show. I want to have the movie playing, ...
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Having older kids wear an apron at meal

I'm wondering whether it is acceptable to have older kids (I mean girls between 11 and 18 yr old) wear an apron at meals. I used to think that by 10 yr old, they would be able to eat perfectly cleanly ...
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What martial art should a 14 year old male join [closed]

I have a 14 year old son, who keeps insisting on joining martial arts, but I believe that he is too old to join martial arts at this age and that it will be harder for him to learn from this point ...
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Explain Pre-Teens and Teens the problems of a surveillance state and internet privacy [closed]

I want to present an audience, consisting of mostly teens and pre-teens, the problems of a surveillance state, e.g. if everything is recorded what you are doing. That leads to an internal scissor in ...
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Integrating original family fun games with learning [closed]

Encouraging pre-teens and more so teens to be involved and interested in family activities and educational learning can be a challenge. Spending time with friends, online activities, combined with ...
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Out of control sibling

I'm a 17 year old student, in their last year of high school and under shared custody of my parents. I have 2 siblings, a 14 year old sister and a 16 year old brother. For nearly my whole life, I've ...