Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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Is 15 years old too old to ground for bad grades?

I have a 15 year old that has been grounded 60% of the time the past two years. Most of the groundings are around his grades or forgetting to do homework. When he is grounded at first he buckles ...
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Social media etiquette - adults friending child's friends

We have a 15 year old daughter who just signed up for Facebook. No, I don't plan to friend her, but my wife and I do plan to ask her to see what's going back and forth, from her and her friends. (On ...
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My 13 year old is sexting need advice

Today I went through my daughters kik account just to make sure she wasn’t getting creepers and from what I have seen in the past she is very behaved on there i.e. shutting down offers for sexting . ...
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How to get a 17 year old son to realize that laundry is not that hard to do and to do it on a regular basis?

Our other kids that are now grown have pretty much always done their laundry since they were like 13 years old. This son is 17 and probably has only done his own laundry, all on his own, like 10 times ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers “playing dumb” about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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My daughter is having sex with her cousin

I walked in on my 14 year old daughter is having sex with her 14 year old cousin. It happened in my sister's house in her double bed. I wasn't sure on how I should react but I told my sister and she ...
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How did you maintain good contact when your child was far away?

My 18 year old son lives in another country. He's finishing up high school and he has a lot of things that go on in his personal life. It can be really hard to stay in touch. He rarely answers email I ...
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What are appropriate sexual boundaries between siblings?

I have three children, my younger two are a 13 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. They are both maturing and going through puberty. Gone are the days of my little son doing little naked dances, ...
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Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance

My daughter is currently 10. I have always tried to encourage her to not be overly concerned with other people's opinion of her, and I think that this has largely succeeded. Like any kid, she gets ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help ...
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Some strategies for maintaining adult relationships separately from children?

Some background. I have always been extremely careful about taking precautions to prevent my children from ever walking in on me when engaging in sexual activity. I've had a relationship with my next ...
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Should I enroll my child in driving lessons or teach them myself?

I realize that some countries might have mandatory government-regulated driving courses before you can get a driver's license, but I think that most countries allow parents the option of teaching ...
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What do you do when your parents are physically hurting you?

My girl friend called me scared for her life to day after her parent(s) strangled her. She is 19 years old and cannot support her self on her own. Im not sure what she can do or anything I can do to ...
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Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?

As Prom season quickly approaches, I've begun to wonder about who will ask my daughter. In particular, should I be expecting someone to ask me for permission before they go with my daughter, or do I ...
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13 year old losing muscle

My 13 y/o son had been highly athletic his entire life. About 18 months ago we noticed him losing strength in his legs. Over time it has gotten worse and he cannot run normally any more. He has lost ...
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Feelings of being a terrible parent

My stepson, who has recently moved in with his mother 4 hours away, has left my husband with feelings that he is a terrible parent. My stepson was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally, as ...
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Is it cruel to deny laughing gas for a teen getting a tooth filled?

My 13 yr old daughter has a cavity. They plan on giving local anesthesia, with an option for laughing gas. When I had teeth filled, I never recall getting laughing gas. I'd like for her to learn ...
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At what age do teenagers begin to masturbate?

This is a delicate question. It is not a subject that I can ask my children about. At what age can a parent expect this activity to start?
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As a parent, how should I react to someone asking me for permission for Prom?

Following up on my question Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom, I've decided to ask, considering how my daughter hints that he'll ask her within the next week, if he asks me for ...
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Young teenager with body odor

I am a school counselor working with 14-18 year old students. I have been made aware of a 14 year old male student who has body odor so noxious that his teacher came to me and mentioned that other ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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Regularity of teen reproductive cycle?

Young girls start their periods at various ages. Approximately how long does it take to be regular (i.e. roughly monthly)? If regularity does not occur, then at what point would seeking a doctor's ...
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My 14 year old daughter is overly resistant when I advise something

When I'm trying to explain something to my 14 year old daughter, she becomes very resistant to what I say or advise. I do understand that she has a hard time due to her age, both physically and ...
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How to reduce Online Game Addiction?

What are some methods to help a teen who openly admits that they may be addicted to online gaming and wants help?
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My mom has taken over my daughter

I moved near to my parents five years ago. My daughter was 10 years old at the time, and she stayed with them. But she is almost 15 now and I want her back. My mom has been ill and I don't know long ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who declares that he isn't interested in college?

I am reading the book P.E.T. about communicating with children and there is a question. How would you address the situation when your 15 year old child comes home and tells you he isn’t interested in ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?

I have actually recently found a label for my religion (druidism). I am 15 and I actually established my personal beliefs years ago. I feel like a disappointment to my parents already because I'm ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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My 11 yr old has some irrational fears

I have a son that just recently turned 11. He still periodically calls for me or his father at night because of things like "hearing noises" or just "being scared" He also has a small fear of the ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How do you handle the boomerang effect with Teens?

15 year old teen boy in question. Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there coming & going without saying hello (sometimes). missing please/thank you (sometimes). speaking ...
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How to get a 15 yr old started with a computer?

So I got a chance to speak to the kid of the security guard of our office and he was looking to get started with a computer and was looking for guidance. The kid is 15 now, and I must also say that it ...
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How can I encourage my teenage sister to have political efficacy?

My teenage sister recently began telling her friends that she would like to study law in college. I would like to help her become more assertive, confident, and have increased participation in ...
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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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Daddy daughter travel trip?

I have an idea that may or may not be a good one, so I am looking for a little advice. I have a daughter and son, 5 and 1 respectively. I have this pipe dream to save some money to take them on a ...
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How best to take advantage of a child's extended vacation

This is a little more complicated than it might seem, so I'll give some back-story. We have 2 kids: The oldest, 11, was born to us during my first year of college, and I was only intermittently ...
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Daughter is reluctant to participate in proposed family meeting. What kinds of objections do you anticipate she has?

My daughter is reluctant to participate in a family meeting, before day one. While I will ask her, what kinds of objections do you anticipate she has? She has no background from me as to what this ...
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How to deal with homework/studies frustration?

Our kid has been going through some fallback in school scores recently, and as a result, I've been monitoring and helping him to do his homework. Usually, everything goes smoothly, but sometimes, ...
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What games are good to play with teens in the car?

I will be travelling with two kids aged 15 and 18 in a car this upcoming month, and I would like to play some games in the car with them. I know the game where you look for different license ...
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how to talk with your teen when he caught you having sex with your partner [duplicate]

My husband and I got caught by my teenager son having oral sex. I am emarrased and i don't know how to handle it. is there any advise? thank you
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How to get my 16-year-old to understand that chores aren't that hard to complete?

My 16-year-old dreads taking out the garbage as well as other things that need to be done around the house. Every morning before school, I tell him not to forget to take the garbage out. He ...
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My parents don't understand how I eat so much (food quantity required for a teenage boy)

I'm asking this question from the my POV as a teenage boy. As some of you probably know, teenage boys eat. And then eat some more. The problem is, my parents haven't quite figured that out yet. I'm ...
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Can Prozac stunt a teenager's growth?

I have a close friend whose son turned 14 last October. He started on 10mg of Prozac in September 2013, gradually increased to 60mg in July 2014, where he has remained. My friend keeps regular ...
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19 yr old niece lives with us and is upsetting family relations

My 19 yr old niece has come from overseas to study, and lives with us. I have two small sons, and my niece one minute loves them the next minute shuts them out. She has come from a not so loving ...
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How can a teenager avoid changing in a school locker room?

What can a teenager (or their parents) do when they very strongly refuse to change in a school locker room? There are plenty of families and students that feel they should not undress in a somewhat ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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How do you help an older sibling understand an intersex younger sibling?

One of my friends has two children. One is male (14 years old) & another one is has an intersex condition (10 years old and has male and female genitalia). Up until last month the male child ...
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How to help a 12 year old adopted girl with anger management?

We are the parents of an adopted girl who is now 12. She has several emotional problems. In no particular order: She prefers cakes and biscuits to meat and veg. We suspect a sugar addiction. She ...