Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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As a parent, how should I react to someone asking me for permission for Prom?

Following up on my question Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom, I've decided to ask, considering how my daughter hints that he'll ask her within the next week, if he asks me for ...
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Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?

As Prom season quickly approaches, I've begun to wonder about who will ask my daughter. In particular, should I be expecting someone to ask me for permission before they go with my daughter, or do I ...
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How to go about regaining the trust of my child?

Having experienced parental alienation syndrome, my child is very reticent and unresponsive to my attempts in rebuilding our relationship. The condition is very much like sulking, but with an ...
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Young teenager with body odor

I am a school counselor working with 14-18 year old students. I have been made aware of a 14 year old male student who has body odor so noxious that his teacher came to me and mentioned that other ...
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How to deal with a bedwetting teenager?

My 13 year old still wets the bed. Over the years we have tried alarms, medication, waking him up at various times, controlling his drinking, charts (behaviour modification). He hates it and wants ...
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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My 14 year old daughter is overly resistant when I advise something

When I'm trying to explain something to my 14 year old daughter, she becomes very resistant to what I say or advise. I do understand that she has a hard time due to her age, both physically and ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who declares that he isn't interested in college?

I am reading the book P.E.T. about communicating with children and there is a question. How would you address the situation when your 15 year old child comes home and tells you he isn’t interested in ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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How do I tell my mom that I am not Christian?

I have actually recently found a label for my religion (druidism). I am 15 and I actually established my personal beliefs years ago. I feel like a disappointment to my parents already because I'm ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

I want to leave and start something on my own. But my husband is not working as well and I fear my daughter will feel bad to say that both her parents are not working. What should I do? I have enough ...
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Regularity of teen reproductive cycle?

Young girls start their periods at various ages. Approximately how long does it take to be regular (i.e. roughly monthly)? If regularity does not occur, then at what point would seeking a doctor's ...
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How do you handle the boomerang effect with Teens?

15 year old teen boy in question. Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there coming & going without saying hello (sometimes). missing please/thank you (sometimes). speaking ...
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How to get a 15 yr old started with a computer?

So I got a chance to speak to the kid of the security guard of our office and he was looking to get started with a computer and was looking for guidance. The kid is 15 now, and I must also say that it ...
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How can I encourage my teenage sister to have political efficacy?

My teenage sister recently began telling her friends that she would like to study law in college. I would like to help her become more assertive, confident, and have increased participation in ...
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Daddy daughter travel trip?

I have an idea that may or may not be a good one, so I am looking for a little advice. I have a daughter and son, 5 and 1 respectively. I have this pipe dream to save some money to take them on a ...
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Daughter is reluctant to participate in proposed family meeting. What kinds of objections do you anticipate she has?

My daughter is reluctant to participate in a family meeting, before day one. While I will ask her, what kinds of objections do you anticipate she has? She has no background from me as to what this ...
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How to deal with homework/studies frustration?

Our kid has been going through some fallback in school scores recently, and as a result, I've been monitoring and helping him to do his homework. Usually, everything goes smoothly, but sometimes, ...
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What games are good to play with teens in the car?

I will be travelling with two kids aged 15 and 18 in a car this upcoming month, and I would like to play some games in the car with them. I know the game where you look for different license ...
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how to talk with your teen when he caught you having sex with your partner [duplicate]

My husband and I got caught by my teenager son having oral sex. I am emarrased and i don't know how to handle it. is there any advise? thank you
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Can Prozac stunt a teenager's growth?

I have a close friend whose son turned 14 last October. He started on 10mg of Prozac in September 2013, gradually increased to 60mg in July 2014, where he has remained. My friend keeps regular ...
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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How do you help an older sibling understand an intersex younger sibling?

One of my friends has two children. One is male (14 years old) & another one is has an intersex condition (10 years old and has male and female genitalia). Up until last month the male child ...
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My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)

I admit I did not do well at my first year of exams at A level... but I have changed it around and I am working so much harder than I have ever done! I also have a girlfriend who I see once a weekend ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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My parents don't understand how I eat so much (food quantity required for a teenage boy)

I'm asking this question from the my POV as a teenage boy. As some of you probably know, teenage boys eat. And then eat some more. The problem is, my parents haven't quite figured that out yet. I'm ...
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Drawing the line between abuse and “roughhousing” a teenager?

While this is not anyone in my family, I witnessed a father at a party treating his adolescent daughter like crap. The daughter's kind of introverted and didn't socialize too much, but the father ...
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My 11 yr old has some irrational fears

I have a son that just recently turned 11. He still periodically calls for me or his father at night because of things like "hearing noises" or just "being scared" He also has a small fear of the ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How can I instigate or spark an interest for math to my 14 year old daughter?

My 14 year old daughter finds math boring and she acknowledges it whenever we talk about it. What can I do to spark an interest for math in her?
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Throwing parties for teenagers

Are there any overarching guides, strategies, or "best practices" in throwing birthday parties for teenagers? This is something that I will have to do soon, and I have a few concerns: Their friends ...
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How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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What should parent do when their child is dropping more hair?

A colleague of mime notice that her teenager kid is dropping a lot of hair recently. What advices should I give to my colleague to help her teenager kid instead of telling her to ask her bring her ...
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Long Car rides with teenagers [duplicate]

I am going to a amusement park at the end of the month with my youth group. I will be in the car with 4 other girls and 6 boys. I need some game ideas to keep the boys busy so they won't pick on me. ...
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Can the council demand that a 16yo shares a bedroom with a 1yo?

I have just been put on the council housing list and at the moment live in a 2 bed house in which the 2nd room is tiny. The council are saying that my two daughters, aged 16 and 1 year, can share a ...
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How can allowing children to participate on Halloween be helpful in reinforcing good habits?

I recently wrote this: "Halloween: the one day where we encourage children to accept candy from strangers, go to strangers' homes, and vandalize property and terrorize people if they don't get ...
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Dealing with teens and pornography?

Say you know that your son watches pornography and you may or may not have caught him in the act. How do you react to this ? Do you ban him from using the internet/monitor his activities or overlook ...
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Teen secretly playing video games when should be doing homework [closed]

If a son of about 14 years old, using his laptop to do schoolwork, secretly plays video games instead, should it be the parent's responsibility to find this out and stop him? If the son finds it hard ...
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How often do you take a teenager with glasses in for a vision checkup?

I know that a prescription for eyeglasses is good for 1 year. When or how often do you take a teen in for an eye checkup? I don't want to wait until she is complaining about her eyes getting worse ...
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Integrating original family fun games with learning [closed]

Encouraging pre-teens and more so teens to be involved and interested in family activities and educational learning can be a challenge. Spending time with friends, online activities, combined with ...
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Does a damaged dental brace need repairing?

My son uses a palate expander and the side prong has broken off. Since it's so late I can't call the dentist but my son is very upset because he doesn't want to have to get a new one or prolong the ...
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Is my 14 year step daughter a bad influence on my children?

My husband's daughter has come to stay with us for a month. I have tried playing and talking with her, but she isn't interested. She also back answers me. She doesn't even look at my twin babies which ...
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How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?

My daughter (17 years old) doesn't listen to me, but when a stranger says a few kind words to her she is like "Look Dad, he/she is such a good man/woman". I have learned that she has a boyfriend. ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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Is this considered child abuse [closed]

First, my mom never hits me; I want to be clear on that. My brother 13, and I, 15 got into a fight at McDonalds. We threw ketchup at each other and I accidentally got some on on a nearby woman. My ...