Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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19 yr old niece lives with us and is upsetting family relations

My 19 yr old niece has come from overseas to study, and lives with us. I have two small sons, and my niece one minute loves them the next minute shuts them out. She has come from a not so loving ...
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What can I do about my teenagers behavior? [closed]

My son, 16, has a good GPA in high school but his social life is nonexistent outside of his computer. Every suggestion I've made to him results in a "No." He doesn't like to go out with his dad, go ...
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Ways to convince a teenager to quit smoking

I'm 23 years old and I have a sister that is very soon turning 17. She lives with my parents and I live abroad for a couple of years now. My mother noticed that my sister started smoking around 1 ...
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Feelings of being a terrible parent

My stepson, who has recently moved in with his mother 4 hours away, has left my husband with feelings that he is a terrible parent. My stepson was abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally, as ...
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Having older kids wear an apron at meal

I'm wondering whether it is acceptable to have older kids (I mean girls between 11 and 18 yr old) wear an apron at meals. I used to think that by 10 yr old, they would be able to eat perfectly cleanly ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Last night my husband and I addressed a few things we discovered in my son's room being a concern. We are pretty strict parents and believe in corporal punishment especially since my son doesn't have ...
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How to deal with controlling parents?

I'm a simple freshman in high school. My parents (especially my mom) have pushed me immensely. Including, but not limited to: Putting me in advanced mathematics from a very early age. (Algebra 1: ...
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My son is texting to other boys acting as a girl

I'm really not sure what to think about my son meaning, about 5 different times in the past 2 years or so I found him texting to other boys acting as a girl and this goes on for a long time.. With ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

I'm 16, and I don't know what to do. My parents are controlling everything I do and watching everything I do. I think I'm going insane. I thought a counselor or psychiatrist could help me but it ...
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Halloween Themed Activity [closed]

I am interested in a large scale Halloween Activity primarily young adults, I wanted to show some Halloween spirit so I picked the movie Rocky Horror Picture Show. I want to have the movie playing, ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help (...
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How to help a 12 year old adopted girl with anger management?

We are the parents of an adopted girl who is now 12. She has several emotional problems. In no particular order: She prefers cakes and biscuits to meat and veg. We suspect a sugar addiction. She ...
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How to get my 16-year-old to understand that chores aren't that hard to complete?

My 16-year-old dreads taking out the garbage as well as other things that need to be done around the house. Every morning before school, I tell him not to forget to take the garbage out. He ...
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My 13 year old doesn't care about school?

He has done ZERO homework and is getting straight F's in class. His highest grade is a 52. He just doesnt care, and if I take anything away from him he drives me so insane I just have to give it back. ...
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I can't motivate my 13 year old twins to get school work turned in

We have tried grounding them, taking all their privledges away, we have tried reward systems and nothing works. They have started lying about getting the work done and turned in when they know we ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-...
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Will my child be ready for the world?

I have a teenage child who is generally a good student and we have a usually good relationship. I only worry that he isn't being prepaired for the world very well and that he's only being prepaired ...
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How can I convince my teenage son to focus on his studies?

Please advise me how to solve this sensitive issue so that my son and the girl both understand. My son, who is studying 12th std, is attracted to a girl of same class who is his tuition mate and ...
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12 y/o daughter gives one-word answers to every question

My 12 y/o daughter used to be very open. A great communicator. Very warm and gregarious. A few months ago (right around the time her body started changing) she gradually started changing her pattern. ...
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How to deal with a bedwetting teenager?

My 13 year old still wets the bed. Over the years we have tried alarms, medication, waking him up at various times, controlling his drinking, charts (behaviour modification). He hates it and wants ...
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How can a teenager avoid changing in a school locker room?

What can a teenager (or their parents) do when they very strongly refuse to change in a school locker room? There are plenty of families and students that feel they should not undress in a somewhat ...
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What if my kids don't want me to speak my native language?

My children are raised multilingual; we live in Austria and they learn all their German from my wife and from the world around us. I'm Danish and I want my kids to know that language too, so since ...
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How best to take advantage of a child's extended vacation

This is a little more complicated than it might seem, so I'll give some back-story. We have 2 kids: The oldest, 11, was born to us during my first year of college, and I was only intermittently ...
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How do you get a teenager to take shorter showers?

It's great that they think hygiene is important. It's a hassle that the bathroom is tied up. How do you get a teenager to be faster in the shower?
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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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14 yr old lesbian/bi daughter

My 14 year old daughter recently broke up with a boy she was dating for 7 months because she fell in love with a girl. I totally support her as I had a similar experience when I was in my 30's. My ...
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My 13 year old is off the rails and dad has given up

I have a 13 year old boy who is disrespecting both parents and out of control. He is totally self-absorbed (as I know most kids are) and he can't handle any situation. He hasn't has a clue on how ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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How can I deal with my 12-year old son's rebellious behaviour?

My son is a very loving child and fun to be with usually....ever since he turned 12 he is suddenly the resident expert in the house on anything from how to drive a car to how become president. You ...
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Is a 17 year old considered an adult to go out whenever they want? what does the law says? [closed]

My 17 year old daughter took a uber with the credit card I got for her yesterday, I did not give her permission to go to Houston to visit her bf, and she still went without respecting my decision as ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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My mom has taken over my daughter

I moved near to my parents five years ago. My daughter was 10 years old at the time, and she stayed with them. But she is almost 15 now and I want her back. My mom has been ill and I don't know long ...
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How can we help our son deal with his girlfriend's emotional issues?

So our son is only 15, but he has fallen pretty heavily for a girl who apparently comes with a lot of "baggage". She comes from a broken home and is constantly having issues. Our son spend a lot of ...
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My 11 yr old has some irrational fears

I have a son that just recently turned 11. He still periodically calls for me or his father at night because of things like "hearing noises" or just "being scared" He also has a small fear of the dark,...
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Why does my 16 year old sister still bite?

When I was laying on my bed minding my own business, my sister who was still angry over something came over and bit my hand. Like really bit my hand, which left teeth marks. I am at my wits end! I'm ...
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How to reduce Online Game Addiction?

What are some methods to help a teen who openly admits that they may be addicted to online gaming and wants help?
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Monitoring a computer-literate teen

I would like to monitor my 16 year old boy's web activities, but I have been struggling to do so. Since he started his interest in computer programming, it's become an arms race. I've tried setting up ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who has started to smoke?

How can you best handle this? Coming off as too strong and authoritative might invite "rebellion". Too lenient makes it seem okay. What is the best response for driving home the dangers and risks ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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My 15-year-old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend

My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend is 17. They are having sex and I'm not sure if I want her to. On top of that, her boyfriend is a drug dealer, but she thinks that he is cool because he makes a ...
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I am 24 years old. I found marijuana and ecstasy my 17 year old sister's room. What should I do?

I went to borrow bus fair from my sister this morning and found a small clear bottle with a small amount of marijuana and four mysteriously labeled, handmade pills in her change box. I don't know what ...
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Should I expect a boy to ask me for permission for prom?

As Prom season quickly approaches, I've begun to wonder about who will ask my daughter. In particular, should I be expecting someone to ask me for permission before they go with my daughter, or do I ...
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16yo works TOO MUCH?

We have a lovely child who is very motivated in their schoolwork. They are getting straight A's, and are loved by all their teachers. They are autistic, and it seems that schoolwork is their new '...
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Explain Pre-Teens and Teens the problems of a surveillance state and internet privacy [closed]

I want to present an audience, consisting of mostly teens and pre-teens, the problems of a surveillance state, e.g. if everything is recorded what you are doing. That leads to an internal scissor in ...
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How can I motivate my 16 yo daughter to do something valuable with her life?

I have a 16 year old daughter who, whenever she has free time wastes it on things that I think are futile like Facebook, Tumblr, etc. She's also performing poorly at school. I've talked to her about ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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As a stranger how do I deal with teenagers misbehaving or being a nuisance in public [closed]

This question arose after a few teenagers in a group of ten were being a nuisance. Two were on a single bike swaying all over the place riding on the pavement. They nearly crashed into a car and a ...
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I grounded my 16 year old son for 1 month because he got detention every day. Is this a fair punishment? [closed]

I am the father of a 16 year old son. I grounded him for 1 month because he got detention every day. He's not allowed to get out of his room except for food and using the bathroom: no tv, no ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...