Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.

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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

My son is a 13-year-old honor roll student. He comes home and has all his chores done by the time I get home. He is a great kid. He was hanging out with his friends; this group has been friends ...
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5answers
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My 15-year-old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend

My daughter is 15 and her boyfriend is 17. They are having sex and I'm not sure if I want her to. On top of that, her boyfriend is a drug dealer, but she thinks that he is cool because he makes a ...
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How to reduce Online Game Addiction?

What are some methods to help a teen who openly admits that they may be addicted to online gaming and wants help?
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How can we help our son deal with his girlfriend's emotional issues?

So our son is only 15, but he has fallen pretty heavily for a girl who apparently comes with a lot of "baggage". She comes from a broken home and is constantly having issues. Our son spend a lot of ...
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16yo works TOO MUCH?

We have a lovely child who is very motivated in their schoolwork. They are getting straight A's, and are loved by all their teachers. They are autistic, and it seems that schoolwork is their new ...
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Explain Pre-Teens and Teens the problems of a surveillance state and internet privacy [closed]

I want to present an audience, consisting of mostly teens and pre-teens, the problems of a surveillance state, e.g. if everything is recorded what you are doing. That leads to an internal scissor in ...
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As a stranger how do I deal with teenagers misbehaving or being a nuisance in public [closed]

This question arose after a few teenagers in a group of ten were being a nuisance. Two were on a single bike swaying all over the place riding on the pavement. They nearly crashed into a car and a ...
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I grounded my 16 year old son for 1 month because he got detention every day. Is this a fair punishment? [closed]

I am the father of a 16 year old son. I grounded him for 1 month because he got detention every day. He's not allowed to get out of his room except for food and using the bathroom: no tv, no ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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6answers
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

I want to leave and start something on my own. But my husband is not working as well and I fear my daughter will feel bad to say that both her parents are not working. What should I do? I have enough ...
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3answers
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How do I get my 17 year old under control? His behavior is unacceptable

Sorry, this is my first post. My son is currently in high school. He has failed a lot of courses. Sometimes he doesn't respect me. He screams so loud and I get scared, and the last time he hit me ...
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4answers
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Drawing the line between abuse and “roughhousing” a teenager?

While this is not anyone in my family, I witnessed a father at a party treating his adolescent daughter like crap. The daughter's kind of introverted and didn't socialize too much, but the father ...
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How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?

My daughter (17 years old) doesn't listen to me, but when a stranger says a few kind words to her she is like "Look Dad, he/she is such a good man/woman". I have learned that she has a boyfriend. ...
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1answer
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How can I encourage my teenage sister to have political efficacy?

My teenage sister recently began telling her friends that she would like to study law in college. I would like to help her become more assertive, confident, and have increased participation in ...
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2answers
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How do you handle the boomerang effect with Teens?

15 year old teen boy in question. Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there coming & going without saying hello (sometimes). missing please/thank you (sometimes). speaking ...
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1answer
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14 year old daughter has a boyfriend and I have heard reports of inappropriate behavior from her friends

My daughter has been spending a lot of time with her new boyfriend, to the point it is making her other friends uncomfortable. While I had told my daughter as long as she could be responsible and ...
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2answers
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Can Prozac stunt a teenager's growth?

I have a close friend whose son turned 14 last October. He started on 10mg of Prozac in September 2013, gradually increased to 60mg in July 2014, where he has remained. My friend keeps regular ...
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2answers
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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Is 15 years old too old to ground for bad grades?

I have a 15 year old that has been grounded 60% of the time the past two years. Most of the groundings are around his grades or forgetting to do homework. When he is grounded at first he buckles ...
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12answers
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What should we do when our 15 year old wants sex with his 13 year old girlfriend?

So the other day I walked in on our teenager and caught his girlfriend with her pants down. It is quite clear what they were intending to do. Now he claims he had no intention of having sex with ...
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2answers
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How can I instigate or spark an interest for math to my 14 year old daughter?

My 14 year old daughter finds math boring and she acknowledges it whenever we talk about it. What can I do to spark an interest for math in her?
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3answers
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My 14 year old daughter is overly resistant when I advise something

When I'm trying to explain something to my 14 year old daughter, she becomes very resistant to what I say or advise. I do understand that she has a hard time due to her age, both physically and ...
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1answer
285 views

How to get a 15 yr old started with a computer?

So I got a chance to speak to the kid of the security guard of our office and he was looking to get started with a computer and was looking for guidance. The kid is 15 now, and I must also say that it ...
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1answer
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Teen secretly playing video games when should be doing homework [closed]

If a son of about 14 years old, using his laptop to do schoolwork, secretly plays video games instead, should it be the parent's responsibility to find this out and stop him? If the son finds it hard ...
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15answers
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How can I prevent my parents' divorce?

I am a young teenager, younger than 16. (I do not want to give my age online) My dad told me he wants a divorce, but I don't want my parents divorced. My dad says he can't stand my mom anymore. My ...
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1answer
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My parents never believe what I have to say or believe in me (trust issues around amount of effort being put into schoolwork)

I admit I did not do well at my first year of exams at A level... but I have changed it around and I am working so much harder than I have ever done! I also have a girlfriend who I see once a weekend ...
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3answers
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My parents don't understand how I eat so much (food quantity required for a teenage boy)

I'm asking this question from the my POV as a teenage boy. As some of you probably know, teenage boys eat. And then eat some more. The problem is, my parents haven't quite figured that out yet. I'm ...
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3answers
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How to get a 17 year old son to realize that laundry is not that hard to do and to do it on a regular basis?

Our other kids that are now grown have pretty much always done their laundry since they were like 13 years old. This son is 17 and probably has only done his own laundry, all on his own, like 10 times ...
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7answers
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My stepdaughter wants to go to California to see her girlfriend

My stepdaughter came out to us that shes gay. She has been talking to her girlfriend who lives in California and asked her dad if he could take her. I said, "No she's only 14 yrs old. Would you take ...
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4answers
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Building self-esteem while encouraging a tidy, acceptable appearance

My daughter is currently 10. I have always tried to encourage her to not be overly concerned with other people's opinion of her, and I think that this has largely succeeded. Like any kid, she gets ...
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Should I expect my 20 year old son to get a job while at University?

My son is now 20 years old, still living with us at home and goes to University three days a week. He has never had a job. Since he was a child I have tried to encourage him to do tasks for pocket ...
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4answers
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Is my 14 year step daughter a bad influence on my children?

My husband's daughter has come to stay with us for a month. I have tried playing and talking with her, but she isn't interested. She also back answers me. She doesn't even look at my twin babies which ...
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2answers
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My 11 yr old has some irrational fears

I have a son that just recently turned 11. He still periodically calls for me or his father at night because of things like "hearing noises" or just "being scared" He also has a small fear of the ...
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Daughter is reluctant to participate in proposed family meeting. What kinds of objections do you anticipate she has?

My daughter is reluctant to participate in a family meeting, before day one. While I will ask her, what kinds of objections do you anticipate she has? She has no background from me as to what this ...
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2answers
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Throwing parties for teenagers

Are there any overarching guides, strategies, or "best practices" in throwing birthday parties for teenagers? This is something that I will have to do soon, and I have a few concerns: Their friends ...
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2answers
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help ...
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1answer
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Long Car rides with teenagers [duplicate]

I am going to a amusement park at the end of the month with my youth group. I will be in the car with 4 other girls and 6 boys. I need some game ideas to keep the boys busy so they won't pick on me. ...
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13 year old losing muscle

My 13 y/o son had been highly athletic his entire life. About 18 months ago we noticed him losing strength in his legs. Over time it has gotten worse and he cannot run normally any more. He has lost ...
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2answers
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How often do you take a teenager with glasses in for a vision checkup?

I know that a prescription for eyeglasses is good for 1 year. When or how often do you take a teen in for an eye checkup? I don't want to wait until she is complaining about her eyes getting worse ...
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How do I approach my 13-year-old daughter's confusion regarding her sexuality?

My 13-year-old daughter is fascinated and obsessed with another girl. She is not able to do her normal routine things. She has not even talked to the girl yet the girl occupies her full mental space. ...
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1answer
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Regularity of teen reproductive cycle?

Young girls start their periods at various ages. Approximately how long does it take to be regular (i.e. roughly monthly)? If regularity does not occur, then at what point would seeking a doctor's ...
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How to deal with homework/studies frustration?

Our kid has been going through some fallback in school scores recently, and as a result, I've been monitoring and helping him to do his homework. Usually, everything goes smoothly, but sometimes, ...
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Not sure what to do about my teen daughters stealing and lying

My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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4answers
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How should we deal with some inappropriate behavior from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an “open” relationship. Huh? Now what?

A little background- my daughter has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or relationship and is in 8th grade. She has always been young for her age and had a tough time identifying with other girls and ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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Dealing with teens and pornography?

Say you know that your son watches pornography and you may or may not have caught him in the act. How do you react to this ? Do you ban him from using the internet/monitor his activities or overlook ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...