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Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.

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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I'm not the parent and I don't have any kids, so this is just based on what I observe. There's this mother who, when her daughter (about 3 years old) starts crying and making a fuss, she'll lose her ...
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How can I stop my 6-year old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds like if my older son (10) touches his thing or even ...
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How should I deal with a 3 year old storming off and sulking over minor incidents

I have three children, a five year old, a three year old and a 10 month old baby. At the slightest thing, the three year old will get annoyed and storm off in a sulk. It could be anything from being ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...
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How can I stop my 5 year's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5 year old little boy...90% of the time. About once a week...give or take he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc). I ...
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What's an effective way to deal with toddler transition tantrums (“I don't want to stop yet?”)

This isn't a question about what general incentives or methods of discipline work best. I'm looking for techniques specific to transitions, like when it's time to stop playing and go somewhere, etc. ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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3 year old with vicious temper

My three year old boy (the middle of three boys; older bro is 9, younger bro is almost 2) is smoldering with anger pretty often. He flies off the handle at little things. I've dealt with a good share ...
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Does a child need to apologize and how should I react while it does not?

Our son is 6 years old and often quite "bullheaded". If something does not go the way he wants, he is very frustrated and quickly shows a tantrum, cries, screams and insults us. We then send him to ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

I have a 12 year old daughter who is having screaming, door slamming, hour-long rages at the slightest thing. I also have 2 older daughters, aged 17 and 18, who never did this after they were 2 and ...
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how to teach persistence to 3 year old

My 3 year old daughter gets very frustrated when things don't work for her the first time. She seems to go from happy to crazy upset immediately. Is this a time-appropriate developmental thing? I ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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Strategies to reduce computer game interest

We have a moderately strict rule about electronics time at the house -- as long as their homework, chores, or other responsibilities are finished, each kid gets to play a computer or video game for an ...
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3 year old tantrums in public

Yesterday we (wife, 3 year old son, 6 year old daughter, me) were at a mall. After we stepped off the moving pavement my son decided that he wants to go another direction, and pulled his hand out of ...
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How do I handle my toddler's temper tantrums?

I have a 19-month-old daughter. She is a very active child, and usually very well behaved. But in recent times I have noticed that she is constantly whining and also throwing temper tantrums - if she ...
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Any advice on how to react to my 4 year old who gets hysterical instead of solving her “problem”?

My four year old daughter has had this issue recently where if anything goes "wrong" she completely loses it. I put "wrong" in quotes because its the slightest thing and, in particular, its ...
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My wild son - have i missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?

I'm worried about my son's behavior. He's bright and energetic, but his behavior seems out of control. He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his alphabet in song ...
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How to deal with tantrums in an older child?

We have three boys aged 4, 8 and 10. The youngest & eldest seem to be fine and no issues, but the middle child is quite willful and having tantrums. Its like he never quite grew out of the ...
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How to deal with a child in an “I can't” phase?

A 3 1/2 year old child has entered an "I can't" phase. He says "he can't" about things he really can do. It becomes hard to detect when to help or not help, because you're supposed to help children ...
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How can I make my travel schedule easier on my 5-year old?

I travel a great deal for my job. Most weeks I'm gone from Sunday Night until Thursday Night, and sometimes I'm gone through the weekend as well. I have two children, a 5 year old and a 3 year old. I ...
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How can I encourage my toddler to walk and not be carried?

My 2½ year-old is a very capable walker, but often he decides he just doesn't want to do it. Usually, when we go out, he goes in the push-chair. But sometimes he wriggles and screams until we are ...
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How do I get a young toddler to walk holding my hand?

Baby boy is just 12 months, but walks really well and prefers to walk. When we are at the grocery store or somewhere we need to go from Point A to Point B, sometimes he doesn't want to go where I ...
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How do you prepare for the “terrible twos”?

I keep hearing about how bad things get once a child enters the "terrible twos". I know quite a few parents who claim that the age is just a natural time for frequent temper tantrums, and non-stop ...
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What are some possible ways to deal with night-time tantrums

My daughter, who is coming up for 3 years old has never been a good sleeper. She regularly wakes during the night, sometimes up to 3 or 4 times but more commonly once or twice. More often than not ...
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How can we avoid tantrums over sweets and cakes?

From the moment he wakes to the moment he falls asleep my toddler barely ever stops asking for "chocolate", "sweeties" or "cakes". He frequently doesn't eat his meals well, but we are fairly strict ...
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How do I teach my child to express his frustration?

My son is two and testing his boundaries. In general, I'm comfortable with that and have no problem with him getting frustrated when he's not allowed to do something. Unfortunately, his normal mode ...
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Can temper tantrums indicate a behavior problem?

I understand that temper tantrums are relatively normal for many children. However, some children seem to have far more temper tantrums than other children their age, and others far fewer. Can ...
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Should we change a wet diaper and risk triggering a night tantrum or leave our son be?

Our 2-year old son is going through a rough period - we have cut his breastfeeding to once daily (before bed) and his sleep pattern is changing and is therefore unpredictable. Lately, he will often ...
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How can I keep my toddler from scratching himself when he is upset?

Whenever my toddler gets very upset or throws a fit, he has a tendency to rake his fingernails very hard across his face, often drawing blood. Currently one side of his face is covered with scratches ...
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Why does my son behave better when he's alone with one parent than with both?

Whenever I'm alone with my son, we play, have fun, and he even plays alone with his toys for a long time; this also happens when my wife is alone with him. However, when we are both present, he ...
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How can you deal with tantrums without spanking?

My son just turned 2, and he started throwing more tantrums on us. He doesn't eat well or drink enough milk ... and he is becoming more adamant and says "No" more often. If we force him to drink ...