Siblings describe any two or more family members with a common parent or are adopted by and live under the guardianship of the same parent.

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What is the least problematic age difference between siblings?

We have one young toddler daughter and are pondering when (and if) she should have a younger sibling -- and what age difference might work best for both of them. For many (most) parents, what works ...
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Out of control sibling

I'm a 17 year old student, in their last year of high school and under shared custody of my parents. I have 2 siblings, a 14 year old sister and a 16 year old brother. For nearly my whole life, I've ...
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4 year old steals toys from baby brother

My nephew (Alex) is turning 4 in one week, and his little brother (Ben) is 10 months old. When Ben was born, Alex loved him to death and would do anything to help us with him, bringing him toys and ...
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Make my firstborn adapt to baby [duplicate]

I have a lovely little boy that just passed the 1 year mark. I am blessed with such a child and am enjoying being a dad everyday. Now my second child is underway and while I am happy that they are ...
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18 months old twins constantly biting

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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Watching movies 7yr old and 5yr old

The two are practically inseparable and we have what seems like an unsolvable dilemma: we want to allow the 7yr old to watch, for example, Star Wars but feel it's not adequate for a 5yr old. How ...
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Is having a sibling better for a child?

We have several friends who have two or more children, while myself and my wife only have one. Often when we visit them, it seems that the conversation always turns to, "When are you having your ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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How can I encourage my 3-year old daughter to respond to her younger brother's affection

My daughter is 3.5 years old and, naturally, sometimes has tantrums, gets upset and frustrated, and wants a hug. Her brother (22 months) adores her and, imitating us, will often try to hug her or give ...
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Is it better for siblings to meet at a young age?

My children are 3 and 18 months, their siblings from another father are 6, 7 and 8. They have never met each other. Is it better for them to meet now or to wait until they are teenagers or adults? ...
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How to deal with jealous and stubborn twin girls?

I have 19mo old twin girls. Recently we have been noticing a change in their behavior to each other. They are jealous to each other about getting our attention. Whenever we are near, they fight with ...
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How can parents prevent middle child syndrome?

A child can develop Middle Child Syndrome when feeling left out by the family. It can easily be caused by parents being too involved with the older and younger siblings and not making enough time with ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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giving birth at home— how to deal with an older child?

we're expecting our second child and -- as with number one -- we're planning on staying at home for child labour and birth. I have a good midwife and there's no medical reason to go to a hospital. ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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How to read one book to two children on different levels at the same time

We have 3 children so they outnumber us. Part of our bedtime routine involves book time. Once upon a time, this meant Mr. Dad reads to one kid and Mrs. Mom reads to the other. That's not really an ...
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How to deal with older sibling taking after the younger - toddler?

We have a lovely 4,5 year old boy who's learned to be independent in many daily actives (e.g. eating, getting dressed up, taking a shower (supervised)...). Until recently he's generally been acting as ...
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6 year old and stress

My 6 year-old grandson hums and sings most of the time. This started about 5 months ago. He acts and seems very happy. But his 12 year-old step brother has now moved in. They get along, but not as ...
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What should we be considering when adopting a sibling for our 4-year-old son?

I have been wanting to adopt a child for some time now, and my wife and I are now trying to arrange things in our life to make it possible, such as trying to get out of debt so we can afford it and ...
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One of two children invited to a mutual friends birthday party

Our family has just combined and moved to a new town a month ago. We have three children, a 13 year old boy and 10 and 9 year old girls. The 9 year old is my daughter and the 13 and 10 year olds are ...
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How do I handle when my step kids parent buys them everything they want?

My fiancee and her two daughters (8 years old and 4 years old) live with me and my two sons (7 years old and 10 years old). Six people is quite a houseful :) The girls' father sees them once a week ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Comments on this question suggested a companion question about opposite-sex siblings. We had our son and daughter in the same bedroom till age 7. We moved things around last weekend, not because any ...
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Is it OK for my 16 year old son to watch my 10 year old daughter at home alone while I'm at work?

I don't always have an option for a babysitter. They are both out of school and my son is very mature for his age. Am I wrong for allowing them to stay home alone being that they're both under the age ...
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One parent and two children at bedtime

Our personal situation is two boys, ages four and a half and two and a half, although I imagine answers to this question could be generalized. Bedtime in our home is usually between 6:30 - 8:00, and ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

My daughters, aged 6 & 3-and-a-half, go through phases of intense rivalry. I generally hold an attitude of not getting involved, but sometimes the fight either requires intervention as tempers ...
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My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related (...
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How to discourage toddler from playing rough with infant sister?

We have a 2 year old and a 6 month old. We like to give the younger sister time on her tummy to learn how to crawl, but often while she is on the floor her older sister will come harass her. The most ...
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I don't feel accepted at home

I'm a 13-year-old guy and I have a 9-year-old sister. We've argued for as long as I can remember, we argue about 5 times per day. My mum and dad can't take it anymore. I try my hardest to be nice to ...
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At what age should siblings stop sharing their bedroom?

Currently we have one bedroom for our two daughters. Until what age can they share their room?
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Should I encourage siblings to compromise and collaborate?

Often when there's a chance to do something special as a family -- say, watch a movie together, or bake some cookies -- we let the three kids decide exactly what we are going to do. For example, they ...
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Why do some parents have a favorite (or least favorite) child? How can this be avoided?

Playing favorites with one's children is clearly a moral grey area at best...so why do we do it when should be treating all our children equally? I'm a personality psychologist by training, and ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?

Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and punishments for many of my conventional parenting ...
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How can I encourage my teenage sister to have political efficacy?

My teenage sister recently began telling her friends that she would like to study law in college. I would like to help her become more assertive, confident, and have increased participation in ...
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Natural consequence for being rude to a sibling

My 8-year-old son really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and laugh it off when he continues. Now, I'm a fan of natural consequences, ...
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How much ipad time do most kids get? [duplicate]

I'm a mother of 2, ages 3 and 10. I am worried that my youngest child is spending as much time, sometimes more time, on the iPad than my eldest. The iPad seems ideal when I am busy and the kids are ...
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Building a better relationship between half siblings for a more unified home?

My step son is 5. He's still struggling with the seperation of his parents. We have all been trying to reassure him in this home that he is loved. His father takes him for outings, sometimes, due to ...
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How can I help reunite my mother and little brother?

So the title says it all, but let me give you a short rundown of what has been going on. My parents are divorced and have been for 15 years now. They live relatively close to each other to make life ...
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Younger sister blackmailing parents

She's currently 16. She won't listen to a word my parents have to say. When they ask for the phone, since she's glued to it 24/7 and her grades have plummeted, she won't listen. She knows how to get ...
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Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds

My 5yo daughter is getting so jealous of her 2yo sister that she grabs everything that the other picks up (it can be anything from worthless plastic bag to newspaper) and throws a fit. Now her sister ...
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How do I deal with acute cases of “stay at home envy”?

Summary: an older child (in school) is 99% of time OK with the fact that sometimes he gets to go to school on days the younger child stays at home. This includes 100% rational agreement from him ...
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What can I do to prevent two well-behaving siblings from turning into a maelstrom of destruction when combined?

“Yeah!” said James enthusiastically. “I don’t mind sharing a room with Al—Teddy could have my room!” “No,” said Harry firmly, “you and Al will share a room only when I want the house demolished.” (...
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How should I handle “he/she told me to do it” excuses from siblings?

Sometimes (too frequent for my liking) when questioned "Why did you do this 100% prohibited or simply boneheaded thing", my kids' response is "he/she - pointing at the sibling - told me to do it". At ...
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Encouraging older brother to play with younger brother

I have two children, 33 months and 14 months old. They're both tall for their age, very physical types; climbing, running, etc. They both like to play with vehicles of all sorts, balls, ride on ...
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Ways to respond to younger sibling asking for help to cheat

How should one respond to a younger sibling asking for your help to cheat? Lets say a high school exam. How responsible is an older sibling for the younger sibling's decision to cheat? Where would ...
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How does one help the third child have activities of “his own?”

My nephew has two older sisters. One is heavily active in soccer and gymnastics, while the other is in Karate, basketball and dance. Both girls have tried other activities as well and always do well ...
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How to handle copycatting?

My six year-old son has gotten in the habit of copying his little sister. It feels like he is taking her behavior as cues to what is acceptable, but the act of copying itself (and usually ...
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How do you pass hand-me-downs to a younger sibling without fostering resentment?

A recent blog entry that I read discussing hand-me-downs made me wonder about what it must be like to a younger sibling who receives the bulk of their clothes and/or toys as hand-me-downs, recycled ...
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What can help prepare a 15 month old for the birth of a sibling?

My son is 15 months old and we are expecting a girl in 7-8 weeks. We have started talking about "baby sister" and we talk about baby sister's chair, car seat, room, etc. I know he doesn't understand ...
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Introducing a newborn to my 2 yr old

My wife and I have a 2 year old little girl. We in the upcoming weeks will be having a new addition (another girl) added into our home. We want our 2 year old to embrace her new little sister, love ...