The child's performance at school, how school rules/situations/other issues may affect the child, etc.

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The school has assigned reading I feel is inappropriate for my son to read. How do I approach this problem with the school and with my son?

The school has assigned The Hunger Games as a literature reading assignment for my 11 year old. I read the books and enjoyed the ride, but feel the brutality is too much for this age group, in this ...
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How do you handle a teacher that teaches pseudo science?

It is not uncommon, that some teachers or schools introduce pseudo-science, like creationism, as a part of curriculum. Given that it is hard to change school quickly, how to deal with such situation? ...
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What should I consider when deciding whether to homeschool my child?

This is an often-controversial topic, one where it's easy to find conflicting or misleading information. What are the important points to consider when making the decision to enroll in a mortar and ...
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What can be done to help bright children stuck in a boring school?

My kids (grades 2&4) are very bright and very active. The traditional school setting does not seem to be working for them. This is evident by their perpetual visits to the principal's office for ...
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Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

The autistic child (Aspergers Syndrome, age: 12) is constantly mobbed by other children, both in school and in the way to the home. It includes calling a names, mocking, showing faces, pushing, ...
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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?

When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to ...
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Where is the line on helping with homework?

Here's something I know a lot of parents with school-age children struggle with. What's the line between "helping" a child with their homework versus out-and-out doing it for them? At what point is ...
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How to restrain my 13-year-old pubescent sister?

Just to understand my position: I, as her older brother (she is without father, 13 and I'm 24), have to sometimes act like her parent, because mom just can't restrain her, when she starts yelling or ...
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How can I help a child who won't talk to anybody at school? Selective mutism

Although I am not a parent, I am interning in social work. I am currently working with a student in an elementary school who does not speak. The parents have explained that she does speak at home (I ...
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At what age should my child start schooling (formal education)?

What is the best age to start schooling for my kid. In India, some start schooling at 3 few at 4-6. So, I just want to know what is the age come out from research which is the best age for schooling. ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

My husband and I and are the parents of three wonderful children, but we've been having some issues lately with our 15 year old, our middle child. She continues to wear skirts that are much too short ...
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What do I do about the fact that my child can already read, write and do math before entering Kindergarten?

My nearly 6 year-old son is going to first grade next year. He's already reading quite fluently and writing. He does basic math (without writing). He has great sense of humor, and he loves to make ...
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How do you deal with a 9 year old not doing their homework?

My 9 year old girl is currently going through a phase where she isn't getting her homework done by herself. I'm trying to find the right balance between encouraging her to get her homework done, yet, ...
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Is it better to send your child to school with lunch, or lunch money?

I remember my school cafeteria food as being, well, not what I'd consider "food". At the same time, I know how hard it is to consistently pack lunch as an adult without getting bored with the same ...
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How should a child respond to peers who ask about their adoption?

Our child has always known they are free to ask about the circumstances of their adoption and we have always given open, honest, age-appropriate answers. However, this "free to talk" attitude may not ...
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How should I react when my child is being teased at school?

If I have a child who is consistently made fun of at school, what should I do to help my child learn to cope, ignore, or respond to the situation. What should I do to help prevent the situation from ...
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Classmates choosing soccer tournament over my sons birthday party

After kindergarten class my son started first grade this fall in a new class, which was a mixup of children from the previous kindergarten classes. There are 15 boys and 10 girls in the class. 10 of ...
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How to improve my 9yo child's short term memory

My daughter is now 10 and was recently given an IQ test. This was a comprehensive, 2 hour test administered by a child psychologist who specialises in gifted children. Her results were highly ...
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How can we make the most of Parent-Teacher consultations?

We attend parent-teacher consultations once a term and we sometimes come out feeling as if we've just received the the boilerplate script. Little X is doing fine, reaching all appropriate milestones ...
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How do you decide when it is time to change schools?

My son's school is not a good fit for him. I want to move him but minimize the disruption. When is the best time (grade) for boys to change schools? EDIT: "not a good fit" = not responsive to his ...
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Are same-gender classrooms better for girls, or mixed-gender classrooms better for boys?

I've heard that girls learn better in an all-girl classroom setting, but that boys learn better in a mixed boy/girl classroom composition. Is there any statistical evidence that this lends merit to ...
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Do we have a recourse against an anonymous parent making our child's life harder?

I apologize for vague subject, feel free to edit a better one. Our child has very severe pollen allergy leading to heavy asthma (a year ago he had to be taken to ER with major asthma attack, after ...
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip Kindergarten?

I have a 5 year old boy who is supposed to start Kindergarten in the US this year. He is advanced in many academic areas already, and we are worried he would be bored in Kindergarten. He is reading ...
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My child doesn't want to be seen in public with me… what should I do?

I drive my 10 year old child to school each day. However, lately he has been complaining about my dropping him off at school. He says it is embarrassing to be seen being dropped off by his father, ...
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How do we determine what school is best when a child is high performing on the Autism Spectrum (Aspergers)?

I have two children at primary school (5 and 7, primary school is from 4 to 11 in the UK) and there is a possibility of moving them both to a different school in the same area (we're not moving ...
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Should I send my child to Kindergarten early?

My 4 year old daughter desperately wants to go to "big kids" school like her big sister. She's currently in preschool now and seems to enjoy it. She's bright enough that she should pass all the ...
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My eldest is aware of “an f-word” but doesn't know what it is, should I tell him?

My eldest son is 6 years old. He's mentioned a few times that there are boys in the playground who "know what the f-word is" (his words). He knows it's a bad word and not to be said, but doesn't know ...
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How do I teach my child the virtue of not quitting?

He is 14 years old. I have observed in his study of mathematics, he tries for some time, but then gives up sooner than one should (if the problem seems difficult). I guess just telling him to try ...
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How can I address issues that concern me at daycare (and school) without creating tension with the staff?

I realize that as a parent I will need to be my child's advocate at daycare and school and pursue issues that concern me. How can I bring up issues of concern about the behavior of the staff ...
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How do I persuade my 4 year old daughter that School is Cool?

As a kid, I used to like School more than anything else. Perhaps, because I came from a broken home and school is the only place where I have friends and people listen to me. Now that I've a ...
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How do I figure out why my child no longer likes preschool?

I'm wondering how to figure out why my 4 year old son no longer likes preschool. He is quiet and doesn't say why he doesn't like school when asked about it. My 4 year old son started preschool in ...
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Are netbooks appropriate for school age children?

So, my school gives kids who do well and turn in all of their homework in 5th grade a laptop. I'm not sure what I think of this, me being raised that computers should be kept in public areas so as to ...
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How can you encourage a child in a school subject they don't like?

I think it is safe to say that very few children enjoy every subject in school. How do you motivate your child to put effort into subjects that they just aren't interested in? I feel this is a ...
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What are best practices for managing student-teacher relationships?

Often the focus is on the relationship between teachers and parents, which makes sense largely because the parents seek to manage their relationship with the teachers. My question is: as a parent, ...
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How do you respond to a teenager who declares that he isn't interested in college?

I am reading the book P.E.T. about communicating with children and there is a question. How would you address the situation when your 15 year old child comes home and tells you he isn’t interested in ...
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How can I deal with my son's refusal to go to school?

When my 13 year old son decides he doesn't want to go to school, it's difficult issue to negotiate, as I cannot force him to go to school. By this I mean, he is not a toddler and cannot be picked up ...
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How can we make parents more attractive than TV, video games, etc.?

Maybe I'm too early to ask about this, since my status changed to be a father since 25 September ago.. But I'm very curious about this. I learned from my surroundings (my friends family, my ...
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How to control a class of 4 year old children?

Any advice on how to "manage", "gain control" and get the "attention" from a class of 4 yr olds? This was not covered in my University course. Note: English is their second language, and I must only ...
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My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
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How do you handle a conflict between your child and a teacher?

How do you approach resolving a situation where a teacher and your child are having a major conflict? When your child comes to you complaining about "unfair treatment" from a teacher, how do you ...
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How can parents improve a child's behavior outside their presence?

This question is hard to word correctly without sounding like we're trying to avoid responsibility. That's not the case. The issue is that our children behave better for us than for their teachers. ...
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Can a school prevent a child from walking home?

Asking on behalf of a friend of mine. Here's the situation: They live far enough away from the school to make it inconvenient, but not impractical, for her eight-year-old daughter to walk. Usually ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?

How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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Should schools instruct parents how to behave on the school run?

A recent news item dealt with heads in Middlesbrough instructing parents not to wear pyjamas on the school run. In my own case school recently wrote to parents reminding them to wear seatbelts and to ...
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Gifted child at gifted school still dealing with behavior problems

My child has always had behavioral problems; I even had a lot of behavior problems as a child so he gets it honestly. I thought that after he was deemed gifted and placed in a gifted program I would ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 11yo in school

This turned out way longer than I intended, please try to bulldoze thru it. My oldest daughter is 11. She's the middle of 5 (21 19 11 9 7). Her older bros are in 'college' (they're taking classes). ...
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How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?

I just had a chat today with the teacher of my 7 years old daughter. The teacher told me my daughter has a very short attention span during the class. She can't concentrate more than a few minutes on ...
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How should I prepare my son for preschool?

My son has been going to a small, in-home daycare since he was less than a year old. He enjoys it, but currently there are only 3 boys that are about the same age as him (ranging from about 6 months ...
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What is the right age to put the toddler to (pre-)school?

I have read a lot about Pre-school, Nursery, etc. But there is still lot of confusion on what should be the right age to put my kid to school (He is two currently) Is there a scientific research or ...
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What's the process to select a School?

My kid is only 10 months old. I know that seems a bit premature. We live in an area that people have told us is difficult to find a good school. So we thought that if we plan ahead and find 2-3 ...