Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-schooler.

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How to stop my 8 year old to cry every time she's frustrated

My 8 years old daughters is usually very good. Although in the last few months she started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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Is it normal for a six year old to say he's fallen in love?

Our 6.5 year old boy came home one day saying "there's something wrong with my mind", after some questioning he told my wife that he sometimes falls in love with girls and can't stop thinking about ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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What do you do to help an ADHD kid get along in the classroom or with school work better?

Rather than always trying to change the child, what are some techniques for ways to help a "wiggly kid" function in the classroom better without it just being about "sitting still"? The methods I ...
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Help troubled 5 year old boy on 2nd suspension for kindergarten

Can anyone give me any advise on how to help my 5 year old son. He is currently on his second suspension from kindergarten and nothing I do will stop his behaviour. He has hurt other students and his ...
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How to handle separation from former classmates at the start of a new term, when your child was the only one in a different class?

My 6 year old just started first grade, but to our surprise he was assigned to a different class from his former (from last year) classmates. The ones that did not transfer schools at least, but he ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?

Our son (7 years) is having piano lessons for some months now. Currently we want him to practice at least 10 minutes each day, but this is sometimes difficult if he gets home late after sports or ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?

I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary that she loves a boy - and she is only 10 years old. How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her?
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How can I teach a child to keep trying after a failure?

My niece is just under seven years old, and in her first year of school, where she is doing badly. The main problem seems to be that she doesn't do her homework or try to learn, and the reason there, ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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How can I deal with my unreasonable 8 year old with ADHD?

I have two kids, 8 and 5 years old. My first boy has ADHD he is on medicine, but the medicine will stop working after 4pm, or some times works good or some times so-so. The problem I have with him ...
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When should a child begin to learn knife skills for use in the Kitchen?

Helping in the kitchen is something my child thoroughly enjoys. Now that she is in elementary she has a handle on most of the "safe" kitchen skills from kneading dough to reading a recipe and even ...
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My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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How do I get an easily distracted 5 year old to eat more?

My 5 year old who used to be on the 91st centile for height is now below the 50th and we think the gradual decline has been since he started not eating so well. We believe he only eats just enough ...
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How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?

Our 7 year-old son has a 6 year-old girl friend and the 2 were really very close friends - one heart and one soul. Now she's moving for 3 years to another country (very far away) and the evening ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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how to tackle 6.5 years old misbehaving boy?

My son is six years old, quite intelligent,grasps things easily, is really sharp at school really, good with teachers, and often very nice with friends. But he is showing opposite behavior to me; he ...
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Are there things to watch out for after a tongue-tie operation?

My son is going in for a Tongue Tie clip, basically to do a small snip under his tongue to free it up, he fed well when he was young so it never came up until our dentist noticed it with his teeth and ...
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How to help a seven year old with unrequited love?

My son turned seven two months ago, and will begin his second year in elementary school after this summer. Yesterday he received a love letter by one of his class mates, a girl of the same age. She ...
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I love my step son so much but it irritates me when he compares me to his dad

My step-son keeps comparing me to his biological father, and I don't know why. I've been in a relationship with this woman for almost 3 years. She has been married previously and has a 6 year old ...
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How do I get my primary-schooler to love learning?

I do not know what to do anymore with my 6 year old daughter's lack of appetite for learning. She does not like to read anything. She would learn all the sight words and forget most of them, or ...
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Child worse than tattling she lies

Anyone have any thoughts on this? I observed Bella - 6 years old. Playing with children. This was all in the time frame of 30 minutes. Sophia accidentally brushes her lightly on the arm. She said ...
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How do I get my 5 year old to be more appreciative and thankful for what she has?

Lately, my 5 year old daughter keeps focusing on things she doesn't have (some game that her friend has or some doll that she saw on a commercial that she "needs") and although she has plenty of dolls ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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My 8 year old son won't fall asleep

We put him to bed at 9pm and he stays up til 1am or later. When I go to check on him he is always playing with his hands and sometimes talking. I ask him why he is awake and not trying to sleep and he ...
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What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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Cursive Handwriting for Lefties

My oldest is in kindergarten this year, and in our public schools here in the US stick-and-ball (ie. traditional manuscript) is the primary form of handwriting that is initially taught. More and ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?

Our son has Encopresis since many years (the history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). He is now 6 years old and in some phases (which often last 2..3 ...
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?

I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach. Her little daughter is lovely ...
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How do I prevent my child from becoming frightened by “scary” stories?

I have a ten year old child who gets spooked to tears to sleep in his room alone because another child at school told him a nonsense story about Slender Man. The child added a few bits to the myth, ...
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My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
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Should I choose a language immersion or regular school for a child with below average language skill?

My daughter (4 yrs 10 months) is bilingual (Japanese,English) and will be starting kindergarten next year. We currently live in the U.S.; her English is capable, but still fragmented and below her ...
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1st grader acting up at school

I have a 6 year old who will be 7 in less than 6 months. She has always been a very smart girl... She went to preschool for 3 years. She was very close to the teacher (since she was an infant) so I ...
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How to encourage a child to self-edit and take criticism positively?

Our eight year old daughter writes well for her age, and has produced some really spectacular pieces in class. She's not terribly interested in writing for fun at home, though. When she does, what she ...
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My Granddaughter is 8 and is having trouble sleeping. She seems to have a lot of unfounded fears and I am worried about her

She can usually fall asleep but awakens in the night afraid. She says she doesnt feel safe in her house. She also says she worries about school because sometimes she cant get her work done "fast ...
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How do I convince a stubborn 8 year old that the parents are supposed to be in charge?

Our daughter thinks she has an equal say in any of our decisions. She only does the things we tell her to do if she thinks they make sense, otherwise we have to threaten her, which makes her threaten ...
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How do I motivate my 8-year-old to practice the piano regularly?

I end up offering TV time as a reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 5 yr olds defiance and aggressiveness

My 5 yr old son just started Kindergarten last month. His class uses the Red, Yellow, Green color methods to record his behavior for the day and he has had 90% Red - which is bad. He is being very ...
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How can my 7yo daugher increase her attention span in school?

I just had a chat today with the teacher of my 7 years old daughter. The teacher told me my daughter has a very short attention span during the class. She can't concentrate more than a few minutes on ...
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How do you explain to a very sociable 5 year old about strangers? [duplicate]

I have a 5 year old that is very very very sociable. I am being a generous here. I have tried to explain to him in simple terms that not everyone is good and that he can't go up to everyone he sees ...
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frustrated and confused- my 5 yr. old is acting out and nothing we do at home seems to help

My daughter is 5 yrs old. She is a very sweet little girl who normally is very much a people pleaser- she likes to do things that make you happy. However recently she has has issues in school- she ...
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“Secret” correspondence with a child

A is parent of B, let's say in primary school age. A invents fake profiles of n realistic, inspiring characters and starts sending anonymous letters from each of these n characters to B, at different ...
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Is jogging an appropriate activity for a pre-adolescent child?

This question was motivated by seeing a 6 or 7 year old girl jogging with her mom today. I was in slow moving traffic so I know she ran at least 2.5 miles (the distance between the lights causing said ...