Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-childhood.

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Expat child refuses to learn local language

We are a Spanish family who has recently relocated to England with our children. Our 6 year old boy can't speak nor understand English; he knows some words, basic phrases and a few numbers, but that ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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How to choose between one activity vs another?

My daughter has been doing ballet for the past few years and may have the opportunity to be in the Nutcracker with a major ballet group. Auditions are coming up this weekend. She has been in the ...
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My 7 yr old cant stay asleep beyond 5 or 6 hours?

My 7 year old falls asleep straight away at bedtime, which is any time between 7 & 8 pm, but then wakes any time from as early as midnight onwards, then cant go back to sleep ?
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Should I be expected to love my new step-granddaughter instantly?

My son has been living with his girlfriend for 4 years. He has an 11-year-old daughter and his girlfriend also has an 11-year-old daughter. They live in another state and do not come to see me. My ...
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How to help my 6 yr old who does a lot of self talking, becoming aggressive with teachers and classmates and lacking concentration in studies?

My son is in year 1 and he was doing really good in studies until last month. But, he is a bit lazy and does not usually take care of his belongings and is never ready to take any initiative to ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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Strategies for identified but unavoidable distractions

My 8-year-old son gets distracted very easily. We know what most of his triggers are, and usually deal with it by avoidance, but often avoidance is either unavoidable or undesirable. For example, ...
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4 year old seems suddenly uninterested in me

I have been separated from my childrens' father for nearly two years. I have custody of our two children, and he lives in a different city than us. Although it is a long haul for him to get to us, he ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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6 year old and stress

My 6 year-old grandson hums and sings most of the time. This started about 5 months ago. He acts and seems very happy. But his 12 year-old step brother has now moved in. They get along, but not as ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

I have two boys, just turned six and nine. While occasional #1 accidents are not that uncommon in Kindergarten, both of my boys started off their Kindergarten years with lots of them, including #2 ...
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Is there a good summary of the different discipline philosophies for pre-school and school aged childern

Is there a good website or book that describes and compares the current leading approaches to disciplining pre-school and school aged children. I realize that there are numerous opinions on the best ...
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How to provide the most support to children as an 'uncle' with only monthly visits

As a side effect of some volunteering I do, I find myself playing something of an 'uncle' like relationship for some of the children of women I've volunteering with. I love children and am more then ...
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How do I increase concentration of my 6years old daughter?

My daughter has a very low attention span. She is a bright child otherwise. But lack of concentration affects her studies. Please could you recommend some activities or games that can help?
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What is a good physical activity for a seven-year old who loves falling down?

My son has tried a lot of sports and activities, and he rarely likes them. We are trying to find something new for him now, but we're running low on ideas. He has tried soccer, baseball, gymnastics, ...
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How to encourage children to 'reign-in' their enthusiasm + socialness

Our 8 year old (boy) is a rather socially vocal about things that interest him, or anything that grabs his mind, what I mean by that is that he will (at length) talk to anyone around him about his ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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Fast feedback loop activities for primary-schoolers?

All, what would be some activities that are appropriate for a primary-schooler and have fast feedback loops to help a kid learn competency development, and ultimately self-confidence? Here is an ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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How can I help my kids prepare for a long-distance move?

While similar to this question, I would like to know how to help ease my 6 year old into a move out of state. We are going to be moving in the next couple of months, about 500 miles away. We brought ...
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Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument?

My middle child (seven years old) hates dressing up. Well... sort of. He likes shopping for dressy clothing (slacks, vest, button-down shirt, tie) and has a respectable collection. He'll even ...
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Is it a parent's responsibility to remember their 6 year-old child's coat as they leave their home to go to school?

Is it the 6 year-old's responsibility to remember their coat before going to school, or is their parent's responsibility?
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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How do you explain to a five year-old what energy is?

The other day I told my son to not waste hot water, as it is a waste of energy. He then asked what that is. I want to explain it well, also from a physical point of view, since I find it important. ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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Negotiating a shorter school year in a US public elementary school

My child is starting kindergarten soon, at a public school in California. We've always done family adventures, lasting weeks and months. Backpacking trips, sailing trips, etc. In a few years, I'd ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?

Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and punishments for many of my conventional parenting ...
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My son has been offered money by a classmate, if he would pull down his underwear

My son, B., has a close friend, G., and a class mate, M. They are all eight years old. It has come to my attention that M. has offered G. money, if G. would hit himself. G. did and used the money to ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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How can I handle a situation with a faulty, cruel teacher that does not like me and takes it out on my child?

Let me start by offering to explain my situation. It is a lot more challenging to handle than the title presents, so I should definitely elaborate, then I'll ask my question. My child is in 1st ...
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5 year old - Enrolling in Pre-school - Concern?

I have a five year old. He had been to preschool when he was 3.5 years old for 1.5 years. Now at 5 years 4 months, he is able to read the sentences, write words, do almost 2nd grade math. He loves ...
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What can help a seven year old boy cope with night terrors and being constantly afraid?

My son used to be very independent little boy without any fears. In the last two years his night terrors and fears have gotten out of control. He dreams about robots, house fires, tornadoes. The ...
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What to do when a 6-year-old expresses suicidal thoughts?

A mom at my daughter's school told me that her son told her that my 6-year-old daughter told him that she doesn't like herself and wants to kill herself. I'm really not sure how to approach this with ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?

Our son (7 years) is having piano lessons for some months now. Currently we want him to practice at least 10 minutes each day, but this is sometimes difficult if he gets home late after sports or ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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How to handle separation from former classmates at the start of a new term, when your child was the only one in a different class?

My 6 year old just started first grade, but to our surprise he was assigned to a different class from his former (from last year) classmates. The ones that did not transfer schools at least, but he ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?

I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary that she loves a boy - and she is only 10 years old. How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her?
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My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?

Our 7 year-old son has a 6 year-old girl friend and the 2 were really very close friends - one heart and one soul. Now she's moving for 3 years to another country (very far away) and the evening ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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Child worse than tattling she lies

Anyone have any thoughts on this? I observed Bella - 6 years old. Playing with children. This was all in the time frame of 30 minutes. Sophia accidentally brushes her lightly on the arm. She said ...
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Should I choose a language immersion or regular school for a child with below average language skill?

My daughter (4 yrs 10 months) is bilingual (Japanese,English) and will be starting kindergarten next year. We currently live in the U.S.; her English is capable, but still fragmented and below her ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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1st grader acting up at school

I have a 6 year old who will be 7 in less than 6 months. She has always been a very smart girl... She went to preschool for 3 years. She was very close to the teacher (since she was an infant) so I ...
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How to encourage a child to self-edit and take criticism positively?

Our eight year old daughter writes well for her age, and has produced some really spectacular pieces in class. She's not terribly interested in writing for fun at home, though. When she does, what she ...
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My Granddaughter is 8 and is having trouble sleeping. She seems to have a lot of unfounded fears and I am worried about her

She can usually fall asleep but awakens in the night afraid. She says she doesnt feel safe in her house. She also says she worries about school because sometimes she cant get her work done "fast ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 5 yr olds defiance and aggressiveness

My 5 yr old son just started Kindergarten last month. His class uses the Red, Yellow, Green color methods to record his behavior for the day and he has had 90% Red - which is bad. He is being very ...