Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-childhood.

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What are the pros and cons of colouring books?

What are the pros and cons of colouring-in (as opposed to freehand drawing) for pre-school and primary age children? I'm asking in response to this question: At what age should I tell my child to ...
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How can a parent encourage their child to talk more about what they did at school?

My son's just started school, and it seems to be exceptionally difficult to get him to talk about what he did during the day. The responses are generally, "I don't know", or "I can't remember". ...
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As a step parent, what should be my role in dealing with a volatile five year old?

About a year and a half ago I met a woman who was going to school full-time and raising a 5 year old little girl. I really just fell in love with both of them and we all bonded relatively quickly. We ...
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How do I get my child to remember to flush?

Our son is now 6. He is "going potty" entirely on his own at home and escorted but directly unsupervised in public. Our problem is that he will almost never remember to flush. This is something we ...
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How can I help my 6 year old learn patience

My 6 year old daughter could use some help developing her ability to wait or be patient. Understanding that most of us, and especially children, could use help with that, she does need some help ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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How do I help my third-grader focus on homework?

My child just entered third grade, and the homework load is much higher this year, with a lot of writing and math drills. It is all work that she can do easily, but it's causing the whole family a lot ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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My 5 year old princess makes me feel unwanted [closed]

A brief background: I have been divorced for 3 years now. My ex wife wants me dead, she made threats like "Both of us won't come out of this alive" near the end of our marriage. She has opened an ...
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Should I be expected to love my new step-granddaughter instantly?

My son has been living with his girlfriend for 4 years. He has an 11-year-old daughter and his girlfriend also has an 11-year-old daughter. They live in another state and do not come to see me. My ...
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How can I become part of my daughter's life again?

I have a 4 year old daughter who's life I have been in and out of (more out than in since we're being honest). I have royally screwed things up with her mother who is now married. I have a crippling ...
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Are signs of early puberty in a primary-school aged child a cause for concern?

My son is less than 6 years old, and last week we discovered that he has grown a little bit of pubic hair. This seems way too soon for this to happen. My older son, who is 9 years old, only now ...
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Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?

Our son (now nearly 6.5 years old) has problems with potty training for years now. (The long history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). Remarks: We are ...
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Is it normal for a six year old to say he's fallen in love?

Our 6.5 year old boy came home one day saying "there's something wrong with my mind", after some questioning he told my wife that he sometimes falls in love with girls and can't stop thinking about ...
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How do you stop a child from using bad language and profanity?

My child has started to use swear words. This is shocking because he is using words that we don't use. I'm not sure how to react! How do I get this to stop?
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How to choose between one activity vs another?

My daughter has been doing ballet for the past few years and may have the opportunity to be in the Nutcracker with a major ballet group. Auditions are coming up this weekend. She has been in the ...
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Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?

Our son (7 years) is having piano lessons for some months now. Currently we want him to practice at least 10 minutes each day, but this is sometimes difficult if he gets home late after sports or ...
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Is there an alternative to Boy/Girl Scouts in the US?

My son desperately wants to join the Boy Scouts, but I've had to say no due to the local troop's religious agenda. I've been helping my friend try to come up with ideas for her daughter's new Girl ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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My 8 year old son won't fall asleep

We put him to bed at 9pm and he stays up til 1am or later. When I go to check on him he is always playing with his hands and sometimes talking. I ask him why he is awake and not trying to sleep and he ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

I have two boys, just turned six and nine. While occasional #1 accidents are not that uncommon in Kindergarten, both of my boys started off their Kindergarten years with lots of them, including #2 ...
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What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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How to provide the most support to children as an 'uncle' with only monthly visits

As a side effect of some volunteering I do, I find myself playing something of an 'uncle' like relationship for some of the children of women I've volunteering with. I love children and am more then ...
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Is there a good summary of the different discipline philosophies for pre-school and school aged childern

Is there a good website or book that describes and compares the current leading approaches to disciplining pre-school and school aged children. I realize that there are numerous opinions on the best ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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How can we help my 7 year old quit sucking her thumb?

My daughter who is now 7 is still sucking her thumb. It is a great embarrassment to her and she always talks about how it is her big secret from her friends. We have tried the finger nail polish, ...
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What is a good physical activity for a seven-year old who loves falling down?

My son has tried a lot of sports and activities, and he rarely likes them. We are trying to find something new for him now, but we're running low on ideas. He has tried soccer, baseball, gymnastics, ...
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How do I increase concentration of my 6years old daughter?

My daughter has a very low attention span. She is a bright child otherwise. But lack of concentration affects her studies. Please could you recommend some activities or games that can help?
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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My 6 year old son misbehaves at school and home. Please help

My son constantly needs attention. He sometimes pulls his younger sister's hair to get her complain and get our attention. He talks back frequently. He repeatedly says that other kids in school bother ...
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How do you explain to a five year-old what energy is?

The other day I told my son to not waste hot water, as it is a waste of energy. He then asked what that is. I want to explain it well, also from a physical point of view, since I find it important. ...
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Fast feedback loop activities for primary-schoolers?

All, what would be some activities that are appropriate for a primary-schooler and have fast feedback loops to help a kid learn competency development, and ultimately self-confidence? Here is an ...
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How can I motivate my child who doesn't care about rewards?

My son is 8 and has always been argumentative and basically lazy with doing ANYTHING since he could talk. If he has homework that takes ten minutes, he will take two hours due to just leaving the ...
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How does one go about determining if a child, adolescent or teen is capable of understanding a given book?

This question was inspired by one posed on the Science Fiction Stack Exchange by a parent wondering about The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Through some commentary and discussion, he did clarify ...
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What can help a seven year old boy cope with night terrors and being constantly afraid?

My son used to be very independent little boy without any fears. In the last two years his night terrors and fears have gotten out of control. He dreams about robots, house fires, tornadoes. The ...
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How do you feed a picky eater?

Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active

I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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How can I get my child to stop biting others?

How do I get my 5-year-old to stop biting his brother and classmates?
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What is a good strategy for getting our 5 year old to finish dinner before expecting dessert?

More and more lately, I'm finding that our 5-year old daughter starts asking for dessert before she's finished her dinner. Obviously, I'd like to find a way to manage this without it ending in a ...
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Is my 7-year-old child sleeping too much?

My child gets very tired and sleeps very easily. While parents of babies might find this a nice problem to have, in a 7-year-old it's possibly a concern. She easily sleeps up to 14 hours a night, also ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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How can I get my primary-schooler to remember to turn off the light?

I have a 8 year old kid with ADHD. He never turns off the lights when he leaves a room. Never. It's a pet peeve of mine when lights are kept on when not in use. His younger sister has learned and ...
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How to encourage children to 'reign-in' their enthusiasm + socialness

Our 8 year old (boy) is a rather socially vocal about things that interest him, or anything that grabs his mind, what I mean by that is that he will (at length) talk to anyone around him about his ...
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How to teach my daughter to get the shampoo rinsed out of her hair throughly?

My seven year old daughter has been bathing by herself for some time now, but I find I have to send her back in for another "rinse" quite frequently as I can still see suds and bubbles in her hair ...
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How can I help my kids prepare for a long-distance move?

While similar to this question, I would like to know how to help ease my 6 year old into a move out of state. We are going to be moving in the next couple of months, about 500 miles away. We brought ...
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How to build self-confidence / reduce social anxiety in a 7+ yr old boy?

Summary: I am looking for strategies and parenting best practices on how to boost self-confidence & reduce social anxieties in a 7+ yr old boy. Context: We have a little boy who seems to be ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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How do I motivate my 8-year-old to practice the piano regularly?

I end up offering TV time as a reward but he complains so much while practicing, tracks time by calling out every 2 minutes, and practices without respecting the piano or the music (bangs it out). He ...