Age specific questions from about 5 years to about 8 years. Younger: pre-schooler. Older: middle-schooler.

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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?

Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and punishments for many of my conventional parenting ...
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My son has been offered money by a classmate, if he would pull down his underwear

My son, B., has a close friend, G., and a class mate, M. They are all eight years old. It has come to my attention that M. has offered G. money, if G. would hit himself. G. did and used the money to ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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How can I handle a situation with a faulty, cruel teacher that does not like me and takes it out on my child?

Let me start by offering to explain my situation. It is a lot more challenging to handle than the title presents, so I should definitely elaborate, then I'll ask my question. My child is in 1st ...
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5 year old - Enrolling in Pre-school - Concern?

I have a five year old. He had been to preschool when he was 3.5 years old for 1.5 years. Now at 5 years 4 months, he is able to read the sentences, write words, do almost 2nd grade math. He loves ...
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What to do when a 6-year-old expresses suicidal thoughts?

A mom at my daughter's school told me that her son told her that my 6-year-old daughter told him that she doesn't like herself and wants to kill herself. I'm really not sure how to approach this with ...
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Should I cut my child's dad out of his life?

My son will be six years old in another month and since he has been 1 years old his dad has been in and out of his life. He has been to prison twice and spent a year both times he went, so that ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Learning to play an instrument: Should we insist that our child practices each day?

Our son (7 years) is having piano lessons for some months now. Currently we want him to practice at least 10 minutes each day, but this is sometimes difficult if he gets home late after sports or ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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How to handle separation from former classmates at the start of a new term, when your child was the only one in a different class?

My 6 year old just started first grade, but to our surprise he was assigned to a different class from his former (from last year) classmates. The ones that did not transfer schools at least, but he ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl “in love”?

I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary that she loves a boy - and she is only 10 years old. How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her?
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My 7-year-old is “in love” with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

He tells me regularly that she's so nice and kind to everyone, how beautiful she is, how pretty her hair is, and this, that and the other. Now he's asking me what he should say to her, and if he ...
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How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?

Our 7 year-old son has a 6 year-old girl friend and the 2 were really very close friends - one heart and one soul. Now she's moving for 3 years to another country (very far away) and the evening ...
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Helping a child cope with a parent's relationships

First- if anyone has a better title suggestion after reading this feel free to edit. I had a hard time formulating a brief description. My oldest son is the result of a failed relationship that ended ...
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Child worse than tattling she lies

Anyone have any thoughts on this? I observed Bella - 6 years old. Playing with children. This was all in the time frame of 30 minutes. Sophia accidentally brushes her lightly on the arm. She said ...
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Should I choose a language immersion or regular school for a child with below average language skill?

My daughter (4 yrs 10 months) is bilingual (Japanese,English) and will be starting kindergarten next year. We currently live in the U.S.; her English is capable, but still fragmented and below her ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her ...
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1st grader acting up at school

I have a 6 year old who will be 7 in less than 6 months. She has always been a very smart girl... She went to preschool for 3 years. She was very close to the teacher (since she was an infant) so I ...
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How to encourage a child to self-edit and take criticism positively?

Our eight year old daughter writes well for her age, and has produced some really spectacular pieces in class. She's not terribly interested in writing for fun at home, though. When she does, what she ...
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My Granddaughter is 8 and is having trouble sleeping. She seems to have a lot of unfounded fears and I am worried about her

She can usually fall asleep but awakens in the night afraid. She says she doesnt feel safe in her house. She also says she worries about school because sometimes she cant get her work done "fast ...
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Need suggestions on how to deal with my 5 yr olds defiance and aggressiveness

My 5 yr old son just started Kindergarten last month. His class uses the Red, Yellow, Green color methods to record his behavior for the day and he has had 90% Red - which is bad. He is being very ...
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How do you explain to a very sociable 5 year old about strangers? [duplicate]

I have a 5 year old that is very very very sociable. I am being a generous here. I have tried to explain to him in simple terms that not everyone is good and that he can't go up to everyone he sees ...
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How to help a seven year old with unrequited love?

My son turned seven two months ago, and will begin his second year in elementary school after this summer. Yesterday he received a love letter by one of his class mates, a girl of the same age. She ...
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“Secret” correspondence with a child

A is parent of B, let's say in primary school age. A invents fake profiles of n realistic, inspiring characters and starts sending anonymous letters from each of these n characters to B, at different ...
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Is jogging an appropriate activity for a pre-adolescent child?

This question was motivated by seeing a 6 or 7 year old girl jogging with her mom today. I was in slow moving traffic so I know she ran at least 2.5 miles (the distance between the lights causing said ...
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How do I get my primary-schooler to love learning?

I do not know what to do anymore with my 6 year old daughter's lack of appetite for learning. She does not like to read anything. She would learn all the sight words and forget most of them, or ...
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Child (4-11) does not get into any of their preferred schools - now what? (UK) [closed]

I've just been reading this article on the BBC 'No meat' Hindu school place offer 'outrages' parents and I am wondering what position are the parents left in, under UK law. Consider for example, ...
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5 year old child causing problems at school

My son is 5 years of age. When he started school he was quite calm at the beginning. But after summer holidays he has become very restless. He has become aggressive and is not listening to his ...
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What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment?

What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment, at UK primary school level (age approx 4 to 11)? In the UK, most pupils have a single teacher for all subjects at this age (rather than ...
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How to inculcate concentration for 5 yr old kid?

Kids at 5 tend to be more playful and active. I want to find out if there are proven ways to inculcate the habit of concentration from such a young age, which will help the kid not only at school but ...
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Is there a formal term for a “I'm not your friend anymore” trait?

One time, when my wife was doing homework with my 6-year-old son, he did not want to do something so she couldn't take it and she slightly yelled at him. I sat down with him and he told me that "He's ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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6 year old has adult tooth very visible, baby tooth still in place [closed]

My 6 yr old has had a loose tooth for months now. it refuses to fall out. And shes tried her hardest to pull it out. her adult tooth is visible now. will she have crooked teeth if I,dont get the loose ...
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How do I convince an elementary schooler to always tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants?

What are good approaches to convince an elementary school age child to tuck his shirts/tshirts into his pants? Every single time he gets dressed, the shirt/tshirt is over the pants. He'll tuck it ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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My son is 8 and is still soiling his pants and doesn't care

I would like some help on how to deal with an 8 year old boy, who is refusing to go number 2's in the toilet and does them in his pants and then won't go and clean himself up. I have talked to him ...
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How can I encourage 5 year old to kick the ball?

A 5/6 year old girl really doesn't like to kick the ball. Throwing is much more prefered. She would kick if a parent insists on it. But on her own volition she would always throw (so that when she ...
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How do you handle poor sportsmanship from other parents during your child's sports events?

Crazy sports parents. How do you deal with them? I've heard of everything from parents screaming obscenities at players on the opposing team, their own team, or even their own kids, to actual fights ...
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Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?

Our son (now nearly 6.5 years old) has problems with potty training for years now. (The long history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). Remarks: We are ...
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How do I teach my girls to deal with disappointment in friendships

I have three daughters, aged 5, 7 and 9. I teach them to love and to respect, to be kind and to be good friends, but what they come across at school is people insulting, bullying and hurting their ...
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Established methods to help fussy/picky eaters at late primary age

Our 8 year old daughter has always been a picky eater - even as a baby we had a hard time convincing her to try different baby foods. We assumed she'd grow out of it, but it hasn't happened and it's ...
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How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
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6-year-old son's behavior differs from school and home

Our son is in Kindergarten, and we have been having problems with him misbehaving in school since the beginning of the year. They're saying that he is excessively talking, moving (dancing, moving, ...
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My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
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8 year old son, misbehaving at school. help!

My son is 8 years old and in second grade. as the school year progresses his attitude and behavior is declining rapidly. It started out that he was a class clown. always talking and making jokes. Then ...
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How to deal with Encopresis in primary school?

Our son has Encopresis since many years (the history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). He is now 6 years old and in some phases (which often last 2..3 ...
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Five-year-old fever: what's the cure?

Five-year-old fever: that's what her teacher calls it. I'm calling it (IN MY HEAD) the "F*** You Fives." Apparently this is something that almost all of her peers are going through; if I had a ...
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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8 year old sleep

My 8 year old daughter takes 3 melatonin just to be able to sleep, goes to bed at 830, reads till ten,wakes at 6. what to do? she seems well rested, but is getting two hours less than regulation, at 8 ...