Regarding issues that arise during pregnancy (medical, legal, planning). See also the tag [maternity] for specifics regarding maternity-wear.

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I don't want to be a father [closed]

I feel awful about this, but I can't keep my silence about it anymore. I'm a 25 year old man. I am a piano teacher and have a lot of entrepreneurial/artistic dreams and goals. I met a girl about two ...
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How can I tactfully ask that people refrain from giving religious items at a baby shower?

My wife has a baby shower coming up in a month or so and we are not religious, but both of our extended families are Christian. We've seen other members of her family receive religious items, like ...
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We're looking to get pregnant - what can we do to optimize our chances?

We've heard of some couples taking a long time to get pregnant, from the time when they decide to start. We're wondering what we can do to make the process faster.
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My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't

My wife wants a 4th baby, but I don't. We have been talking about it for the last few days (talking strongly). I have raised points such as: We will get less time to spend with our current kids. ...
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Is it normal for a husband to sleep significantly more while his wife is pregnant?

Since my wife is pregnant, I've been sleeping a lot more. I feel tired much much earlier (around 9~10 instead of midnight). Is this a documented known reaction? I've heard of/seen men gain weight, ...
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Are prenatal classes worth it?

My girlfriend an I were wondering if we should attend prenatal classes. We have some really mixed opinions in our friends and family. Some say we just have to listen to the DVD because they say ...
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Can contact with cat feces be harmful for pregnant women?

Is it true that coming into contact with cat feces can harm the unborn baby of pregnant women, whether by a mishap handling kitty litter or gardening in an area where cats may have relieved ...
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What aspects should we consider when choosing a name for our child?

I thought of this question while writing an answer to this related question. I think it would be useful to compile some ideas: When we were expecting our first child, we discovered how hard it can be ...
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How long should one wait between pregnancies?

I've read What is the least problematic age difference between siblings? but I had a different question. That question is rather "from a child's point of view: what age would you prefer your siblings ...
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Does a baby cry inside the womb?

Considering Music for gestation - what should baby be hearing while in the womb? that babies can hear sounds inside the womb, I also expect myself to hear the baby crying or making sounds inside the ...
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When will I feel the same attachment for my next child as my firstborn?

My second child is due towards the middle of next year. This was an expected, planned pregnancy. I have no worries or reservations about having another child. It's something my wife and I both wanted ...
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How do I tell my parents that my wife and I are pregnant?

My wife and I are pregnant with our first child, and we want to find a unique and fun way to tell our parents.
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Is it ok to be on diet while pregnant?

While pregnant (4 months), is it ok to "be careful"? Is it ok to avoid eating too much and bear hungry feelings some days?
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My wife is pregnant again, does she need to stop breastfeeding our son?

We have a 1 year old son, and my wife is now pregnant with our second child. Our doctor says she should stop breastfeeding our son because she is pregnant, because it may harm the fetus. This makes me ...
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Is it safe for a pregnant woman to be around someone smoking “e-cigarettes”?

A co-worker of mine is pregnant, and was commenting that she was going to be visiting a friend of hers that smokes "e-cigarettes" (sometimes known as "vaping"). She was concerned that her friend ...
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Is it usual to meet with a nurse practitioner instead of a doctor for a first prenatal visit?

I have scheduled my first prenatal visit since I am two-months pregnant. One of my friends referred me to one of her doctors. I have been told by my friend that the first visit is the most important, ...
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Is it safe to breastfeed through pregnancy?

I have heard 2 arguments against breastfeeding while pregnant, that it causes contractions that can lead to premature labor, and that it can be difficult on the mother to support a developing baby, ...
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How long should we try to conceive before consulting a doctor?

How long should a pair wait while trying to conceive before consulting a specialist doctor? Is it one year like most of the sites recommend, less or more?
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Why do humans require assistance in childbirth so frequently?

I have always found this fascinating. We are the most intelligent beings on the earth. Still, a rat can give birth to its offspring all by itself, but why is that not happening with humans? Is it just ...
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What cheeses are ok for pregnant women to eat?

A useful answer might be a comprehensive lists of cheeses which are ok, and of those which are not (are any of them ok in smaller quantities?) Alternatively is there a sure way of telling if a cheese ...
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What do we do with the elder sibling during our baby's delivery?

As professor Farnsworth would say it, "Good news, everyone; we are expecting a baby." My problem is to find a place to leave the elder sibling during delivery. We moved to a new place, where we have ...
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What are the chances that my wife will give birth vaginally after having a caesarean section in a previous pregnancy?

My wife is now 4 months into our second pregnancy. Our first child was born via caesarean section. Our doctor told us that since the second child will be born within 2 years of the c-section, the ...
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Pros and cons of C section (Cesarean) delivery?

Are prenatal classes worth it? +1 for mentioning the unexpected information about the c-section. No one wants to have a c-section with their first baby, but I know so many women who wound up ...
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Arguments for/against same birthday for siblings?

My son is born on October 1st three years ago. My wife is pregnant again and the calculated delivery date is October 22nd. We might end in a situation where the delivery is earlier, for reasons ...
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Consequences of smoking marijuana during pregnancy (especially first weeks)? [duplicate]

I just found out yesterday I am 4 weeks pregnant, I am a regular weed smoker I usually smoke once a day at night right before bed just a couple hits out of my pipe so I basically smoked every night ...
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Is cosmic radiation a concern for a pregnant airplane passenger?

I read somewhere that you get exposed to a non-negligible amount of radiation from the sun when you travel by air. Would this affect an unborn child's fragile DNA?!
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Does excessive laughing while pregnant cause any harm to my baby?

I am 20 weeks pregnant. I want to know if excessive laughing can cause any harm to my baby?
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How early should I start thinking about cloth diapers?

My girlfriend and I just got pregnant, she is eight weeks in. I have been reading a lot about cloth diapering, and I was wondering if it is too early to start thinking about this. Here are my ...
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Are egg yolks safe for pregnant women?

Is it safe for pregnant women to eat egg yolks? I'm sure scrambled or fried are fine, but what about over-easy or sunny side up where the yolk isn't cooked solid? If it makes a difference, I'm ...
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Does the baby in the womb get effected by the mental state of the mother?

Yesterday for some reason I was quite depressed and frightened at night. For the first time I felt the baby kicking all night in my womb (6th month). Well, that can be a coincidence. Anyways, ...
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Will smoking weed during first week of being pregnant be harmful to my baby?

My wife and I didn't know we're pregnant and in a weekend fun with friends we smoked a bit of weed - we don't usually smoke weed or cigarettes. This is not something we're regulary doing as I said, ...
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Why is the due date different in France than in the US?

There are several "due date calculators" out there, and they all pretty much seem to give the same due date ... except in France! See a striking example: ...
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Coping with gestational diabetes

I had never been diabetic, but failed the glucose tolerance test during my pregnancy and have been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes. I am under the care of a specialist and am on insulin and ...
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Can a Kids Taste in Foods be Affected by Consuming them During Pregnancy?

Can a person alter what foods their kid will like in the future by consuming them during pregnancy.
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When should prenatal visits begin?

My wife is currently pregnant with our second child. We haven't had a prenatal visit yet. With the first pregnancy we had the first prenatal visit long before now. Perhaps we're delaying because we ...
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Can a baby have an allergic reaction in utero?

If a kid grows up and has nut allergies (or food allergies of any kind), would it have been possible for that kid to have an allergic reaction if the mother ate that food while the baby is in utero?
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Are prenatal ultrasounds safe?

I recently expressed concern to my midwife about the use of prenatal ultrasounds. She scoffed at the idea that they could do harm and proceeded to use a Doppler device to monitor our baby's heart ...
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Why would a hospital not allow the recording of a baby's ultrasound video while in the lab?

I took my wife to take our first ultrasound. I was told be an operator/receptionist while we made an appointment that it is OK to bring a camcorder with us. But when we were there, the ultrasound ...
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Do high stress moments affect a fetus?

Recently my wife was driving and nearly hit a person who pulled out in front of her, and noticed a strong clenching in her stomach. There are quite a few websites indicating that a high-stress ...
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planning babies in a quick succession?

What are the pros and cons of planning babies in a quick succession and then stopping it altogether. e.g: planing one baby per year and then stopping at number three. Thus Is it a wise thing to get ...
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Do negative thoughts affect a foetus?

Do negative thoughts affect a foetus ? How do most new parents avoid negative thoughts - for example worrying intensely about birth deformities etc ?
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My wife wants a 4th child but I don't [duplicate]

We currently have a 3-year-old daughter and twin 2-year-old boys. We are both 32 years old and have decent jobs. I have many reservations on having another child, but my wife does not seem to want ...
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Pros/cons of having two kids' birthdays on the same date [duplicate]

My wife is now going to discuss possibility of induced labour with her doctor and we might need to pick up the date for delivery of our second daughter. Our first daughter is turning 4 in couple of ...
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Is a fetus's level of activity a good way to predict their personality?

Right now, my wife is having a 7 month pregnancy. :D Everytime we see our baby through USG when we visit our doctor, our baby looks very calm. He only made a simple movement such as chewing. Will my ...
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Is it safe to engage in sports while pregnant?

We have a couple of birthdays coming up soon and my partner will be 30 weeks pregnant, For the birthdays there is planned Ten Pin Bowling, and Paintball. Are these sports ok to do whilst at that ...
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Music for gestation - what should baby be hearing while in the womb?

My wife now is in twentieth week of pregnancy. I would like to know which kind of music is the best for the baby's development, of if you can point me to some literature on the subject.
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How can I show my appreciation for my wife?

I have 3.5 month healthy baby girl and my wife and I seem to manage very well. I do not rely on other people and I am quite aware what others are able to do and how much effort goes into something. My ...
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At what month of pregnancy should the DHA intake be started?

My doctor has said that since the WHO's website doesn't mention that DHA (Docosahexaenoic acid, an omega-3 fatty acid) intake is compulsory, she won't be talking about it. I am referring to the ...
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What should be the ideal sleeping posture in the third trimester of pregnancy?

I have observed that in the seventh month when I lay down on the floor and turn right side (for a while), the baby starts kicking. Then when I turn on my back, the kickings decrease noticeably. Have ...
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What type of massages should a daddy perform on mummy who is pregnant?

Would appreciate if posters included diagrams or illustrations that show what massages a husband can perform on his wife who is pregnant (going to give birth in 3 to 4 months time) and help her to ...