Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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How can I make my kids passionate in science while being religious?

Please be considerate in your answers. We are an observant jewish family, although I was educated in secular institutions. I feel that I have a wealth of knowledge that I want to pass to my kids ...
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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

My 4 year-old daughter keeps saying to her mom that she doesn't like/love her, and refuses to retract the comment or say sorry. Is this "normal"? A "phase"? It's pretty hard for mom to take. For ...
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?

I have two competing interests here and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this. On one hand I feel that the short answer, to questions about gods, of "some people believe that, but it's not true" is ...
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How to prepare children for impending death of a parent?

My wife has been told that she has a limited amount of time left due to an illness, the average life expectancy is 7-8 years after onset, of which we have used up 7. With excellent management, and ...
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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
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What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!

My 5-year old daughter is very defiant. It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word no she throws terribly over dramatic fits screaming ...
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How do we teach a pre-schooler about money and shopping?

When I go to a store with my four year old son he wants to buy a lot of stuff he sees. Also he constantly claims that he needs a new toy. How do I explain to him that we can't buy everything we want?
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How can I get my 4 year old to clean up toys without a battle?

Multiple times during the day, we have our 4 year old take a break from playing to clean up her toys. It's a huge battle every time. Usually, she ends up on the ground saying that there are too many ...
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How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?

What are good strategies to deal with children (not my own ones, but children I'm meeting in the kindergarten) which do things to me or to my son which they should not do like throwing things etc. ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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Some games and playful ideas for a father to do with his 4 year old daughter?

My daughter has an older brother (8yrs old) so when we all play together we tend to do older boy things. Does anybody (especially women) have any memorable games/activities they played with Dad? A ...
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How to get a child to stop pretending to choke on foods he doesn't want to eat?

I have a 4 1/2 yr old. We're at the stage where he's definitely finicky over foods. The issue is not so much that he's finicky, but that he expresses it by taking a bite and then mock choking. I am ...
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What should I do with my daughter on Take Your Child to Work Day?

I'm a programmer and will be observing Take Your Child to Work Day with my four-year-old daughter, Thing1, on Thursday. I'm planning to get us dressed up, take her to breakfast and then bring her ...
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How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home?

We're having problems with our 3.5 year-old boy concerning potty training: Since his birth it seems, that being cleaned is much more unpleasing to him than running around with brimful diapers for ...
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At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?

I just told someone on parenting that a baby becomes a toddler when it starts moving around. The question which came back was "what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?". That got me searching, ...
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When to pull loose teeth

My 5 year old is starting to have some teeth become loose. Specifically her lower two front teeth. I just noticed today that one of them is really loose. However, I don't know how loose it should be ...
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Our 4 year old won't fall asleep until 11pm

Our 4 year old doesn't like to sleep. I know that sounds like what every kid says, but let me clarify. She doesn't cry at bedtime, she just won't sleep. We start to get her ready for bed around 8pm. ...
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Why does my child eat so slowly?

When we have a family meal, the middle daughter will always take her time. I mean up to 2 hours, to finish a meal, especially if its not her kind of food. She'll get very easily distracted, sing to ...
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Free printable materials for children

My daughter (2.5) loves colouring books, but she uses pretty much one every day. Could someone recommend a decent free online resource of printable materials for children? (at 2.5 years of age these ...
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How can I help my kids to sleep comfortably (and safely) on an overnight drive?

Asking this one anonymously, I don't want the police coming round to arrest me! In a few weeks, we've got a long drive to go on vacation. Because our youngest is pretty unbearable on long car ...
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How can we prepare a pre-schooler to manage his asthma?

Given: a 5 year old kid with what is believed to be false spasmodic croup. Once in several months he experiences a sudden asthmatic fit in the middle of the night - specifically he has a mild spasm in ...
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How to positively teach a toddler dishonest actions are bad

While on vacation my family and I were at a store and my 4 year old daughter had picked up a toy and placed it on the checkout belt. At this time we did not notice the toy and proceeded to checkout ...
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Should a 5 year old excuse themselves after farting?

My five years old daughter sometime farts silently, and she doesn't excuse herself. Every time I detect such a situation, I remind her that she should try to avoid it and leave the room, going to a ...
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What are some strategies for helping children cope with divorce?

I have two young children and I'm going though a divorce. My daughter is 5, and my Son is 2. I'm worried because my son and daughters behaviors has gone down hill. I was wondering if there was ...
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What do we do if our children don't like the nanny?

So I just came back to work after a long discussion with our 4 year old. He complains (more to the effect, he had a meltdown) that he doesn't like our nanny, and would prefer to have our neighbour ...
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How do you teach young kids to defend themselves?

How do you teach kids to defend themselves, without becoming bullies? I'm talking about younger kids (1.5 to 3yo) who are not mature enough (or old enough) to take self-defense classes. My son is two ...
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At what age is it no longer appropriate for your child to be naked in public (e.g. on the beach)?

My 3½ year old son loves to be naked. He spends a lot of time running around naked in our garden on hot days. We went to the beach during the Summer, and- since we forgot to bring any swimming ...
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Help! My 5 year old just won't poop on the toilet

I don't know what to do. We have been trying to get our son to poop in the toilet since he was 3. He is now 5 and shows no signs of starting any time ever. He has done it once or twice but he poops in ...
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How do you say “not now”?

Sometimes children (say 3-5 years of age) want you to play with them, but for whatever reason, you cannot participate. How do you say "not now" without hurting their feelings or making them feel ...
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How can we help my pre-schooler get over his initial shyness when we have guests?

My four year old is always extremely unsettled whenever they first interact with a guest. It doesn't matter if it is another child who has played with many times before or an adult. It also doesn't ...
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How can I help my child to stay still?

My 3 year old son is generally very well behaved and plays well with others. However, he just wont sit still when we need him to. He is good at staying still when he is focused on something, but as ...
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Should we get her a doll?

Winter is coming, and with it, Christmas and presents. We have a 3 years old daughter, who has an almost 2 months old sister, and it's time thinking about which toys to get her (we have almost full ...
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Is it okay to leave a 3 year old alone to nap for 1 hour and 45 minutes if she isn't napping?

My wife and I disagree about this. I think it's a bit selfish and neglectful to leave her alone, especially when for the first 20 minutes she just cried and screamed. After that she was pretending her ...
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How to eat out with kids?

My wife and I have tried taking our kids out to eat (even at a young age) in hopes that more experiences will help them understand what is appropriate behavior and what is not. My oldest son (4) has a ...
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How many hours of television per day are acceptable for a pre-schooler?

I'm aware that TV should be avoided at all, if possible. However, my daughter likes it and when she watches TV we have the chance of doing some cooking, housekeeping, etc. So, what's an acceptable ...
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When disciplining that used to work no longer works for a middle childhood boy and q preschooler girl

My wife and I are two working parents so most of the discipline happens on week nights or weekends. When our boy or girl was acting out the consequences were usually one of these: Take away ...
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Preschooler can't sing, but sings anyway - loudly!

My 3½ year old has never had any sense of music, rhythm, notes, or anything resembling the musical arts. (Motor skills is where he truly excels; he's a sports person, not a musician.) Recently, he ...
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my daughter “forgets” her numbers even though she knows how to count

My daughter is 4 1/2 or so. She knows how to count to at least 10, possibly higher, and will do so unprompted. However, we've recently tried to start playing some board and card games with her. In ...
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How can I help my pre-schooler to relax and fall asleep?

Our 5-year-old has trouble going to sleep at night. If we put her to bed at 8, she might not fall asleep until 10 or 11, then sleep in until 9 the next day. She'll lay in bed and try to go to sleep, ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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How can we counter cultural gender stereotypes?

My three year old son has picked up some very concrete ideas of the differences between boys and girls. Unfortunately, they're almost all based upon gender stereotypes. When asked what presents we ...
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4 year old daughter starved for Dad's attention

My 4 year old daugther always wants my attention, and I try my best to give it to her. Either by telling stories, playing with stuffed animals, reading books, or anything else she likes to do. I have ...
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3 year old gets bullied all the time

My 3 year old daughter is a very shy and laid back girl. She loves playing by herself and will not really care if she has got someone to play with her or not. I usually look around for playdates for ...
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How should I react if another child “attacks” my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)

Recently I was in the following situation: I wanted to pick up my son (4.5 years old) in the kindergarten and another child was throwing bark mulch at him. I don't consider this especially ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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4 year old refuses to color

Our 4 year old is in junior kindergarten and we've received multiple letters from his teacher regarding his refusal to color in class. He also refuses at home when we try to encourage him to color. ...
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4 year old afraid of swimming

I had my 4 year old going for swimming lessons starting this summer in June. She was doing ok at first, got into water learned a lot. She can bobs, front float, back float with no problem, as far as ...
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What techniques can keep a reluctant pre-schooler on a morning schedule?

Early starts at distant work make for alarm clocks and morning rush in our house. A 4 year old child and two adults have around an hour to get washed, dressed and fed to leave at 7am. To my son ...