Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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Help! My 5 year old just won't poop on the toilet

I don't know what to do. We have been trying to get our son to poop in the toilet since he was 3. He is now 5 and shows no signs of starting any time ever. He has done it once or twice but he poops in ...
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How to prepare children for impending death of a parent?

My wife has been told that she has a limited amount of time left due to an illness, the average life expectancy is 7-8 years after onset, of which we have used up 7. With excellent management, and ...
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What should I do with my daughter on Take Your Child to Work Day?

I'm a programmer and will be observing Take Your Child to Work Day with my four-year-old daughter, Thing1, on Thursday. I'm planning to get us dressed up, take her to breakfast and then bring her ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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How do we keep kindergartners entertained while camping?

It's been a while since I've been camping and I never did so as a very young child. What types of activities and general camping prep would be appropriate for going with a kindergartner?
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Addressing bad behavior after the fact

My 5 (almost 6) year old daughter has started doing things that she knows are wrong when friends are over. From what I can tell, it's not the friends who are instigating the bad behavior, it's my ...
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Attention-promoting activities for a toddler

ADD runs in our family ("in fact, it practically stampedes"), and I'm starting to see my toddler's attention become more and more difficult for him to control; he's beginning to have difficulty ...
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Help for my friend's pre-schooler who eats too much

I want to know if anyone has any kind of experience with this as it is foreign to me. My best friend has two little girls (seriously, this is about my best friend. Not me.). Her oldest just turned ...
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Recommendations on helping my left-handed preschooler when my husband and I are right-handed

My four-year-old is very obviously left-handed. We've suspected that he's left-handed for a couple of years now, but now that he's starting to learn to write, it's obvious. Every time he tries to ...
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Relation of Multiple languages to (overall) development of child

I have been to most questions related bilingual aspects where whether and how should one introduce more than one language to child. This helps. I am trying to find a bit broader opinion as to what ...
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Moving with our bilingual child

We are two German parents and we are living in an English speaking country. With our child - who just turned three - we speak German, whereas all other people (our friends, his friends, the kids in ...
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How do you teach children “Humility”?

I feel that my kids, after some persuasion, are capable when it comes to schoolwork, homework and other such skills. We have always identified good behaviour and let our son know when he has done ...
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How to deal with others' children who do not respect my authority?

What are good strategies to deal with children (not my own ones, but children I'm meeting in the kindergarten) which do things to me or to my son which they should not do like throwing things etc. ...
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How should I react if another child “attacks” my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)

Recently I was in the following situation: I wanted to pick up my son (4.5 years old) in the kindergarten and another child was throwing bark mulch at him. I don't consider this especially ...
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How to help a child understand why she'll move back to her old school again?

(I had trouble titling this question so if someone can think of a better title please edit it) My daughter moved to the 'big kids school' this year to attend Pre-K. The school goes through eighth ...
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How do I prepare my preschooler for a move?

I am a parent of a 3 year old. We have a second child due at the end of April. In order to make room for then new baby we are moving at the end of this month. How do I prepare my preschooler for the ...
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How do we choose when to start kindergarten?

Each school has its own cut off for kindergarten. When a child falls on or very close to that cut off what criteria should you use to determine which kindergarten class he should go in. I know both ...
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How do you say “not now”?

Sometimes children (say 3-5 years of age) want you to play with them, but for whatever reason, you cannot participate. How do you say "not now" without hurting their feelings or making them feel ...
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How do I deal with my pre-schooler's over tired behavior after school?

Obviously four years old is too young to diagnose ADD; however, my daughter has always exibited ADD symptoms and it would not be surprising if one of our children has ADD as it runs in the family. We ...
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How can I add English to an already bilingual household?

In this recent question, Matej raises his son English bilingual. I think teaching English very early is a great idea because there's hardly any way around English anyway so you might as well learn it ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?

How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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What should we do when our 2.5 year old is being negatively influenced by a kid in his class?

He has started throwing fits like this kid, and screaming. He also has started to hit and pull hair (not very often, but we have seen this other kid do these things.) Our son mimics everything. He ...
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How can I stop my pre-schooler from whining?

My 3 year old son has been whining a lot. We make him rephrase and say it in an appropriate voice, but this has been going on for about a month. Are there any other ideas of how to handle this?
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Parenting books [closed]

I love the "Love and Logic" books for helping me raise my young children with appropriate limits and consequences. I am not happy with the following book for over 3ish year olds. Does anyone know of ...
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How do I figure out why my child no longer likes preschool?

I'm wondering how to figure out why my 4 year old son no longer likes preschool. He is quiet and doesn't say why he doesn't like school when asked about it. My 4 year old son started preschool in ...
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How do I stop my child from grinding his teeth while sleeping?

How do I stop my 4 year old son from grinding his teeth while he is sleeping?
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At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?

I just told someone on parenting that a baby becomes a toddler when it starts moving around. The question which came back was "what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?". That got me searching, ...
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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How can I help when the parents don't acknowledge their child 's learning disability?

I am a pre-school teacher and in my school I have a four and a half year old girl who has problems. Her fine and large motor skills needs attention. She is not very agile in the outside area, and ...
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What is the right age to put the toddler to (pre-)school?

I have read a lot about Pre-school, Nursery, etc. But there is still lot of confusion on what should be the right age to put my kid to school (He is two currently) Is there a scientific research or ...
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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?

I have just noticed this in 2 boys, aged 3,4. The 3 year old used to throw tantrums quite frequently over trivial matters (such as me holding the ball I'm throwing in the right rather than the left ...
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Free printable materials for children

My daughter (2.5) loves colouring books, but she uses pretty much one every day. Could someone recommend a decent free online resource of printable materials for children? (at 2.5 years of age these ...
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Could cold/flu-induced asthma lead to other triggers later in life? [closed]

My 15-month-old is currently going through her second bout of a cold-induced asthma. It's relatively minor as this time my wife and I are better prepared - the first time did require a trip to the ...
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How to respond when your kid is being ridiculed by another kid when the other kid's parent(s) are present?

Yesterday, while trick or treating, several of my 5 year old's friends were making fun his name in an unpleasant manner. The mom of these other kids were there but they did not notice this behavior or ...
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How can I help my 3 year old son to be more mature according to his age?

My son just started school a few weeks ago. He is 3. We arrived to the country we currently live in about a year and a half ago, when he was starting to speak our mother-tongue. Maybe in part because ...
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How can I help my child to stay still?

My 3 year old son is generally very well behaved and plays well with others. However, he just wont sit still when we need him to. He is good at staying still when he is focused on something, but as ...
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How to stop my son being overly sensitive of his peers?

My son (4 year old) gets on well with all of the children at his childcare and also has a smaller group of 3 or 4 close friends. However, he is super-sensitive to anything they say: not every day, but ...
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At what age can/should a child be able to clean themselves after bowel movements?

How can parents find the right time to encourage a child to clean itself after bowel movements? Our son is nearly 4 years old and it is still difficult for him to get to the toilet early enough (see ...
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Should I be concerned that my 3 year old is not able to pronounce an 'r' sound?

My daughter is turning 3 this December, she goes to pre-school with other kids who speak totally different languages. We're from a remote part of India, thus she shares her mother-tongue with no one ...
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How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?

Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?

My question is based on the following assumptions: I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not. In consequence: A child should never ...
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How can I help my pre-schooler be more confident and assertive in competitive play situations?

In a certain type of games, where children are expected to run to a goal point (1) and then to perform something (2), e.g. to run to a bag full of toys and then quickly grab the best toy ahead of ...
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How can I help my pre-schooler be more confident and assertive when other children are taking toys away from her?

Our daughter is a very sociable child; she goes to kindergarten and has a lot of friends outside her kindergarten-friends circle. When we're at the playground she is always the first to approach ...
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?

I have two competing interests here and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this. On one hand I feel that the short answer, to questions about gods, of "some people believe that, but it's not true" is ...
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Does this method of potty-training work?

According to this article, my three-year-old son is "resistant to potty training." That is putting it mildly -- he was getting so good, and then in the past month or so he's gotten worse than he ever ...
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What techniques can keep a reluctant pre-schooler on a morning schedule?

Early starts at distant work make for alarm clocks and morning rush in our house. A 4 year old child and two adults have around an hour to get washed, dressed and fed to leave at 7am. To my son ...
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How can I help my pre-schooler to relax and fall asleep?

Our 5-year-old has trouble going to sleep at night. If we put her to bed at 8, she might not fall asleep until 10 or 11, then sleep in until 9 the next day. She'll lay in bed and try to go to sleep, ...
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What is Heuristic play?

I've been looking at lots of different nurseries (day care) for my one year old child. Most of them are proud to offer something they call "heuristic play". What is heuristic play? Why is it so ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...