Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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First pet (fish) just died. Is there a teachable moment?

My 4 year old wanted a dog. I told him that I need to see him take responsibility first for a small pet before getting him a dog - Plus, my yard is not exactly animal friendly right now. We got him a ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?

What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm? It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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Take a 3 year old to funeral?

Would you take a 3 and a half year old girl to the funeral of her great-granddad? She knows about death and heaven... Death belongs to life, right? On the other hand, I don't want to overstrain ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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How do we keep kindergartners entertained while camping?

It's been a while since I've been camping and I never did so as a very young child. What types of activities and general camping prep would be appropriate for going with a kindergartner?
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Four year old does not play with toys

My four year old son pretty much doesn't play. I mean, he will usually when he has another child to play with but overall, throughout the week he doesn't play. It's driving me crazy because he seems ...
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What can I do to stop my child from being over-sensitive?

My child is 3 years and 6 months and every child he seems to play with seems to pick up on his sensitivity and tease him extra. This could something really minor like touching him on the shoulder - ...
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How to share embarassing story to another adult while your child is around?

My daughter is 4. When she had a tantrum, she sometimes scratches or hits herself. One morning she scratched too hard and left a mark on her forehead. I can tell clearly that she was embarrassed by ...
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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?

I have just noticed this in 2 boys, aged 3,4. The 3 year old used to throw tantrums quite frequently over trivial matters (such as me holding the ball I'm throwing in the right rather than the left ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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3 Year Old suddenly doesn't want to sleep

My 3 year old son has suddenly started fighting sleep at every opportunity. He is an absolute angel during bath time and getting ready for bed but will not settle. This has come out of the blue. In ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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Raising children in corrupted country

I live in an under-military-coup-too-much-corrupted-country. There is a big gap between values and reality. For example, policeman or military soldier should be a model for kids; They -normally- ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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5 yr old son behaving sexually

My son is 5 years old. Over the last few months I have been observing some disturbing sexual behavior from my child. He is rubbing his penis on the bed or pillow. Sometimes he would get naked and ...
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How can we keep our infant safe from small Lego pieces?

We have a 4yo and a 1yo. The 4yo has been playing with Lego Duplo for a long time and it's safe for our 1yo because Duplo blocks are specifically made to be "too large to eat." It's clear that the ...
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How should I teach my son to play video games?

My son will be 4 soon, and he already enjoys playing a few educational games on my tablet or his mother's phone (he plays maybe as much as an hour a week). I'm a gamer, and we've tried playing a few ...
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If a 4 year old is afraid to swim is it better to keep trying or wait?

My son is afraid of swimming, and has been for a very long time. We first took him to baby swim classes and he never took to it like the other children in the class. I took him to swimming classes ...
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At which age does it make sense to see a professional when suspecting Asperger?

We noticed that our 3.5 year old child begins showing signs of Asperger. Each of these signs, by itself, could be explained with age, but in sum it appears noticeable. I'm not going to list the ...
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Which music is suited infants and toddlers?

I wonder which kind of music is well suited for infants and toddlers. I'd assume those criteria are important: the change of loudness is not too big (so that the child does not get shocked by a ...
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Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?

My 5 year old pre-schooler exhibits some behaviors that have my wife & I a little concerned, but we're unsure whether there's a real problem or not. I'll try to summarize some of his behaviors ...
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Is starting a small fire a good way to the explain dangers of flammability?

How can one teach a 5 year old that acetone, white spirit and other household solvents are not to be played with if he somehow manages to get a hold of them? One idea is to go to the yard far enough ...
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Explaining a c-section scar to a toddler

Our 3-year-old son noticed his mother's scar from the cesarean section and wondered what it was. We didn't really give him an answer but diverted his attention instead. Now we're talking about how ...
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Moving with our bilingual child

We are two German parents and we are living in an English speaking country. With our child - who just turned three - we speak German, whereas all other people (our friends, his friends, the kids in ...
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How can I help when the parents don't acknowledge their child 's learning disability?

I am a pre-school teacher and in my school I have a four and a half year old girl who has problems. Her fine and large motor skills needs attention. She is not very agile in the outside area, and ...
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How can my son learn to use the bicycle's pedals?

This question about learning to ride a bike focuses on keeping the balance. For my son, balance is not a problem because he already has mastered his balance bike. We're trying to transition him to a ...
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Can it be unhealthy to deprive a child of sugar?

My youngest son just turned five. For years he's had a relentless craving for sweets. He's constantly requesting/demanding sugary food and drinks If we walk by somebody eating anything in a wrapper, ...
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PC mouse and lefty

Personally I would prefer that my lefty son would use PC mouse with his right hand. Is it worth a try or let him use his main left hand and prepare for infinitely changing of mouse button assignments? ...
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3 year boy old will not wear shorts or t-shirts WHY?

Unless he's going swimming, my 3 1/2 year old son always wears a long sleeve shirt and pants (not jeans and not button down shirts). I'm not expecting a 3 1/2 year old for logic and but I don't think ...
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Attention-promoting activities for a toddler

ADD runs in our family ("in fact, it practically stampedes"), and I'm starting to see my toddler's attention become more and more difficult for him to control; he's beginning to have difficulty ...
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How do I figure out why my child no longer likes preschool?

I'm wondering how to figure out why my 4 year old son no longer likes preschool. He is quiet and doesn't say why he doesn't like school when asked about it. My 4 year old son started preschool in ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?

My question is based on the following assumptions: I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not. In consequence: A child should never ...
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How can I encourage my three-year-old to have a bath?

Every bathtime it's the same story: Me: "It's bathtime now." Son: "I don't want a bath" Me: "You need a bath to make you clean. You don't want to be dirty do you?" Son: "I don't ...
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Confused 5 year old

My daughter who is 5 and usually very happy and loving recently told my husband and me she wanted to shoot us and run to Noni. After talking with her, we later realized this anger is directed at me. ...
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How to extract child from busy place without physical restraint

Last weekend, my wife took our two children (almost 3 and 14 months) to the museum. They go there frequently (5-10 times in the last six months), and usually have no problems. This time, the older ...
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How do I determine developmentally-appropriate projects for my toddler?

I'd like to start planning out projects that my son and I can work on together. My goal is to create learning opportunities through interactive play, within 20-60 minute time periods. I'm pretty ...
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How do we address other adults telling my son to ask us to bring him to their house?

My sister-in-law has developed a habit both my wife and I find annoying: in order to try and get us to come to their house more often, she constantly pulls my son aside when they're leaving from a ...
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At what point are children developmentally able to understand long periods of time?

I know that every kid hits milestones at different times, and there's no real "right" age, but roughly when should by son (now 4) start to really understand things like "next month"? He kind of, sort ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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Why does my son (5) suddenly provoke me although everything seemed to be perfect before?

My son (5) sometimes changes his mood suddenly. Sure this is somehow normal human behavior, but it can drive us mad. This morning everything worked great and "peacefully" until breakfast. After ...
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My 5yo is struggling to concentrate

My 5-year-old is struggling to concentrate for more than a brief period of time and is falling behind the other kids in her kindergarten class. When she does concentrate for a few minutes she's able ...
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Parents' experience of leaving water warts (molluscum contagiosum) untreated?

My 3yo daughter has water warts (Molluscum contagiosum). This causes spots but has no other effects that I know of. We've already been to the doctor. I'm not seeking medical advice here. We have a ...
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How do I help my 5-year-old daughter solve problems instead of crying

I am the lucky father of an adorable 5-year-old girl. I understand she has her own process to learn how to deal with frustration and I think it's quite normal for a 5-year-old girl to start crying ...
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Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?

My 4 year old niece is very sensitive to the tone of your voice and hates confrontation. She cries all out if she is scolded or if your tone is even remotely unhappy. I think she figured out that if ...
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Kid screaming after waking up in a car?

I recently became involved with this awesome guy who has two kids. His son who is 3 is a very sweet boy. But when we take car rides and he wakes up while in the car he is hysterical. I've heard of ...
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How important is a diverse diet for a pre-schooler?

My son, if left to his own devices, would eat the same meal every single time. We ensure that his meals are reasonably balanced, with fruit and vegetables at every meal, but it's a challenge to keep ...
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How do I help a child who is afraid of the dark?

A 5 year old girl is afraid of the dark, to the point where she screams whenever the lights go out. How can we help her get over this fear?
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Should we teach rules of multiple board games at once

I've been playing with my 5yo and teaching her how to play board games (chess, chechers, go, etc) and card games. To make the study consistent we play 30 minutes every day. But I was wondering - ...