Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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Should I be concerned that my three year old son tries to manipulate us?

He has started to engage in behavior that is clearly manipulative. He'll do things like ask for glasses of water at bed to prolong the bedtime ritual, tell us how much he loves us when he wants ...
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How do I deal with a child waking up at night and starting to read?

My 6YO daughter has a major problem. She likes to read. The issue is, that she is so addicted to reading, she will do it when she really shouldn't. Like at night. More specifically, she will wake ...
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Encopresis: how can we encourage our child to clean himself or ask for help immediately instead of ignoring the dirty underwear?

Our son (now nearly 6.5 years old) has problems with potty training for years now. (The long history is described here: How can we potty-train our pre-schooler outside the home? ). Remarks: We are ...
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How can we teach my preschooler to not interrupt?

My three-and-a-half year old son talks constantly. Its pretty much a non-stop monolog from the time he wakes up until the time he falls asleep. We're okay with this, and try not to discourage his ...
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How can I help a preschooler who refuses to sleep?

I've got a preschooler that plainly refuses to sleep most evenings. He gets up around 07:15, in time for kindergarten, does not nap during the day, and is visibly tired by the evening. His usual ...
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How can I tell if my son is big enough for a car booster seat?

My son is getting close to 4 years of age. He's pretty big for his age. My cousins have some extra booster seats, and we plan on taking some vacations with them next year. Rather than lugging our ...
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At which age does it make sense to see a professional when suspecting Asperger?

We noticed that our 3.5 year old child begins showing signs of Asperger. Each of these signs, by itself, could be explained with age, but in sum it appears noticeable. I'm not going to list the ...
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Is it worth sending a kid to a Montessori school?

My son is going to be 3 this June. Since he's 2, he goes to a local nursery and kindergarten school. He has picked up a few skills that are necessary at his age. He can now recite the alphabet and ...
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Four year old does not play with toys

My four year old son pretty much doesn't play. I mean, he will usually when he has another child to play with but overall, throughout the week he doesn't play. It's driving me crazy because he seems ...
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How do I teach a younger child to wait, or earn, future reward?

I have a very stubborn, strong headed 3 year old. How do I teach him about earning privileges? I hope I do a good job explaining myself... For example, I don't want to give him a treat (present, tv ...
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Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?

In my education, my parents never asked me such a thing. My wife, on the other hand, understands you can ask a child to stop crying (she had a tougher childhood I guess). So I have mixed feelings ...
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How do I help my 5-year-old daughter solve problems instead of crying

I am the lucky father of an adorable 5-year-old girl. I understand she has her own process to learn how to deal with frustration and I think it's quite normal for a 5-year-old girl to start crying ...
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3 year old child acting out for some reason

My 3 year old daughter has been great up until now. She continues to pretend she isn't capable of going to the restroom and is peeing everywhere for some reason. She keeps saying "I can't do it" when ...
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What potty training goals should I use for my son's reward chart?

We've promised my 3 year old son an aquarium for when he completes potty training. Progress has not been as good as we'd like (he pees on the potty almost every day, but has only pooped once). Our ...
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One of my son's classmates bites him or attempts to bite him

My son is his only target in class for some reason. He does this when the teacher is not around. My son doesn't bite back or complain to the teacher. There are bite marks on his hand, which I have ...
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Why do my children ask “Are you happy with me?”

For the past few months, my children, 2 and 3, have been asking me "Are you happy with me?" Of course, I respond with "I am very happy with you! The most happy!" But they still ask on a daily basis! ...
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When should my multi-lingual child start kindergarten?

We are trying to figure out when to start our child in regards to kindergarten and would like feedback. Our concerns: he is a couple weeks ahead of cutoff so if we start him as normal he will ...
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Raising children in corrupted country

I live in an under-military-coup-too-much-corrupted-country. There is a big gap between values and reality. For example, policeman or military soldier should be a model for kids; They -normally- ...
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How should I prepare my son for preschool?

My son has been going to a small, in-home daycare since he was less than a year old. He enjoys it, but currently there are only 3 boys that are about the same age as him (ranging from about 6 months ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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3-year-old sleep issues

Our 3YO takes about an hour to get to sleep every night. We start the nighttime ritual at around 8pm (brush teeth, kiss goodnight, read story, lights out, go to sleep). She requires us to be in the ...
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What can I do to get my 5 year old to have respect and self control?

During the last few months, I've been having a lot of concerns about my 5 year old son's behavior. I was a single mom and have been his main influence up until a little over a year ago. He was born ...
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Is eating boogers a problem? (and how can I respond?)

My four year old son eats his boogers. I think most kids do. But it is not socially acceptable. I asked him to stop and he asked me why - and told me that he liked how they taste. So I told him that ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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Suggestions for a 5 year old who can't sit still in her chair?

I have a 5 year old daughter and she has a real struggle to: Sit in the middle of her chair Stay there without fidgetting In terms of #1, she often falls off her chair as she sits on the edge. ...
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As a grandma what can I say if my daughter sits and watches her 4 year old hack at her hair

I find it very distressing to witness the disfiguring of my grandaughter while my daughter says it is ok for her to cut her own her hair, from beautiful long curly hair to a hacked haircut. What can I ...
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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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Should we put siblings in the same kindergarten group?

I've got one child in kindergarten and another one that will begin there next year. The way it works is that the youngest ones have a group for themselves, with ages from 2½ to around 3½. From 3½ ...
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Is 4 years old too young to expect them to try to handle their own social situations during play at home?

My 4 year old niece is very sensitive to the tone of your voice and hates confrontation. She cries all out if she is scolded or if your tone is even remotely unhappy. I think she figured out that if ...
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How do you respond to your pre-schooler when they tell you that you're on Santa's Naughty List?

My three-year-old son really enjoyed Christmas. My son is still talking about how Santa came to our house to fill our stockings two times (my wife put treats in one night, and I put some in two days ...
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How can I explain New Year to a preschooler?

We've been trying to explain New Year to our 4-year-old but since he doesn't yet have a good understanding of the calendar, time references are meaningless to him. How do you explain this? This is ...
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Kid screaming after waking up in a car?

I recently became involved with this awesome guy who has two kids. His son who is 3 is a very sweet boy. But when we take car rides and he wakes up while in the car he is hysterical. I've heard of ...
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5 yr old son behaving sexually

My son is 5 years old. Over the last few months I have been observing some disturbing sexual behavior from my child. He is rubbing his penis on the bed or pillow. Sometimes he would get naked and ...
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How do I deal with my out of control 3 year old?

My son will be 4 in a month, and he is very aggressive toward his brothers. He hits, kicks, bites them and takes their toys. He screams at my 1 year old constantly when he touches anything or ...
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My son sleeps too much

MY 4 yrs,11mths old boy sleeps too much but mostly at school. He has just changed schools, but there was no report of similar behaviour from his previous school. It is getting worrisome as this is ...
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Three year old gets up hours before it is time - what do we do?

The other morning, the parent's of the three year old I watch most days awoke to a spooky scratching sound in their room. They couldn't place from whence the sound came but apparently it was as ...
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Is it okay to leave a 3 year old alone to nap for 1 hour and 45 minutes if she isn't napping?

My wife and I disagree about this. I think it's a bit selfish and neglectful to leave her alone, especially when for the first 20 minutes she just cried and screamed. After that she was pretending her ...
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Birthday and Christmas on the same date

A kid in my neighborhood was born on the 24th of December. As long as he was a toddler, this didn't matter but he’s starting to notice that other kids have separate birthdays from Christmas and get ...
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How can we keep our infant safe from small Lego pieces?

We have a 4yo and a 1yo. The 4yo has been playing with Lego Duplo for a long time and it's safe for our 1yo because Duplo blocks are specifically made to be "too large to eat." It's clear that the ...
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5 year old only wants to poop wearing a diaper but refused to poop in toilet bowl [duplicate]

My daughter just turned 5 years old 2 weeks ago but until now she refused to sit on a toilet bowl to poop. She only uses the toilet to urinate and we have no problem with this. She even wakes up at ...
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My 4 year old son always takes away any new book or magazine that I read. How to deal with it?

My son does not allow me to read any NEW book or magazine and always becomes cranky till I stop reading and hand over that book to him. Initially I thought it might be temporary thing but now, it ...
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How can we counter cultural gender stereotypes?

My three year old son has picked up some very concrete ideas of the differences between boys and girls. Unfortunately, they're almost all based upon gender stereotypes. When asked what presents we ...
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Why did my pre-schooler suddenly develop an odd accent?

Over the past week, my three-year-old son started talking with what I can only describe as a Southern (U.S.) accent. He has started elongating his pronunciation of "ah" sounds, so that "yeah" sounds ...
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If a 4 year old is afraid to swim is it better to keep trying or wait?

My son is afraid of swimming, and has been for a very long time. We first took him to baby swim classes and he never took to it like the other children in the class. I took him to swimming classes ...
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How do you help a child with nightmares?

My child is 3. Sometimes he has nightmares. What's a good technique to help him deal with these, both at the time when he wakes, and long term to help him overcome them? (He's not having night ...
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What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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How to tell if a 4 year-old child deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible moment?

Recently, my 4 year-old daughter goes to the toilet too late and sometimes soils her clothing before she can take it off. I don't know if she deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible ...
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Encourage pre-schooler to keep room clean

My 4 year old's room is constantly a mess. Usually once a week, we tell him to stay in his room and clean up. He usually does a decent job of it with some help from us. But he generally lacks the ...
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How to eat out with kids?

My wife and I have tried taking our kids out to eat (even at a young age) in hopes that more experiences will help them understand what is appropriate behavior and what is not. My oldest son (4) has a ...