Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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Tackling violent child

My 3 year old niece behaves very violently sometimes. She so much enjoys hitting me with tab/doll/spoon/bottle or whatever she has. She hits very hard. I try to take the things away from her. But ...
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How do you help a child with nightmares?

My child is 3. Sometimes he has nightmares. What's a good technique to help him deal with these, both at the time when he wakes, and long term to help him overcome them? (He's not having night ...
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How to tell if a 4 year-old child deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible moment?

Recently, my 4 year-old daughter goes to the toilet too late and sometimes soils her clothing before she can take it off. I don't know if she deliberately postpones urinating until the last possible ...
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Encourage pre-schooler to keep room clean

My 4 year old's room is constantly a mess. Usually once a week, we tell him to stay in his room and clean up. He usually does a decent job of it with some help from us. But he generally lacks the ...
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How to prepare children for impending death of a parent?

My wife has been told that she has a limited amount of time left due to an illness, the average life expectancy is 7-8 years after onset, of which we have used up 7. With excellent management, and ...
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How do you prepare a pre-schooler for potentially permanent separation from a close friend?

My three-year-old son attends a small, in-home daycare. The other kids in the daycare range from about 1 year to 5. There is one other boy my son's age, and the two of them are very good friends. ...
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What are some strategies for helping children cope with divorce?

I have two young children and I'm going though a divorce. My daughter is 5, and my Son is 2. I'm worried because my son and daughters behaviors has gone down hill. I was wondering if there was ...
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Acting different for mom

We have 2 boys aged 3.5 and 2. They are your average rambunctious boys. Pretty good at daycare and with dad, but when it's just mom they start acting out. Not listening. Don't stay in time out. ...
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At what age should opposite-sex siblings stop bathing together?

When should I stop bathing my son and daughter together? What signs can I watch for that would indicate that they should be separate? Also, what are the average ages in the US and other countries and ...
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When to teach daughter to dry herself after urinating

My daughter is five years old and my wife is out of town for a while. While I am taking care of her on a daily basis, she seems old enough to dry herself after using the toilet. Are there any ...
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What can I do to stop my child from being over-sensitive?

My child is 3 years and 6 months and every child he seems to play with seems to pick up on his sensitivity and tease him extra. This could something really minor like touching him on the shoulder - ...
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How to stop my son being overly sensitive of his peers?

My son (4 year old) gets on well with all of the children at his childcare and also has a smaller group of 3 or 4 close friends. However, he is super-sensitive to anything they say: not every day, but ...
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How do you instill Leadership skills in your kids?

My son is 3+ year old. He is smart and energetic kid but he is very shy towards new people and also he will keep quite if some one tries to dominate him. Going further, I want my son to be bold, talk ...
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Buying a kids table/chairs for 4-6yo, what to look at?

Our 4yo has grown out from her table and we are thinking about buying that a bigger one. Other than "table should be sturdy, no sharp edges" - what should we check before buying? How to make sure ...
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What kind of questions are asked on the Metropolitan Kindergarten Readiness Test?

My child will begin school in a little over a year, and they will be administering the Metropolitan Kindergarten Readiness Test. What kind of questions are asked on the Metropolitan Kindergarten ...
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How to positively teach a toddler dishonest actions are bad

While on vacation my family and I were at a store and my 4 year old daughter had picked up a toy and placed it on the checkout belt. At this time we did not notice the toy and proceeded to checkout ...
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How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?

My 3½ year old son has been diagnosed with a mild eye defect, so he is getting corrective glasses (with non-shattering plastic lenses, obviously). As I've never worn glasses myself, nor my wife at ...
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Getting a 5-year-old up and going in the morning

Ok, so this question was somewhat helpful, but my son's problem is not quite the same. He is 5 and will be starting kindergarten in a few weeks (August 7th). Right now, we have the luxury of taking ...
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How do I determine developmentally-appropriate projects for my toddler?

I'd like to start planning out projects that my son and I can work on together. My goal is to create learning opportunities through interactive play, within 20-60 minute time periods. I'm pretty ...
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3 year boy old will not wear shorts or t-shirts WHY?

Unless he's going swimming, my 3 1/2 year old son always wears a long sleeve shirt and pants (not jeans and not button down shirts). I'm not expecting a 3 1/2 year old for logic and but I don't think ...
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How to encourage speech development

I have a three year old boy. At home we speak our native language to him and in nursery he speaks English. He seems to have very good understanding of what we say in our native language and reasonable ...
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What do we do if our children don't like the nanny?

So I just came back to work after a long discussion with our 4 year old. He complains (more to the effect, he had a meltdown) that he doesn't like our nanny, and would prefer to have our neighbour ...
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What activities/sports are optimal in developing body awareness in children age 4-5?

I believe any physical activity a child age 1-3 finds interesting is great for developing body awareness. Tag, throwing balls, running around the house, jumping, rolling around, wrestling, dancing... ...
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How can we teach our pre-schooler enough of a second language to cover basic manners?

We recently moved to another country (Germany). My daughter is currently learning to speak in our native tongue (Dutch). She doesn't go to school yet, and kindergarten is also still half a year ...
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5 year old always yells when excited, and isn't learning when to use quieter voices

I'll start by saying I don't think it's a hearing problem, as she uses a normal voice in non-excited conversation, and can hear questions asked to her in a normal voice (aside from what I suspect is ...
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How to get a child to stop pretending to choke on foods he doesn't want to eat?

I have a 4 1/2 yr old. We're at the stage where he's definitely finicky over foods. The issue is not so much that he's finicky, but that he expresses it by taking a bite and then mock choking. I am ...
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Learning to propel oneself in a swing

At what age do children generally learn to propel themselves in a swing? Is this something that they generally figure out on their own, or do parents/older siblings teach the skill? How do you teach ...
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Why does my child eat so slowly?

When we have a family meal, the middle daughter will always take her time. I mean up to 2 hours, to finish a meal, especially if its not her kind of food. She'll get very easily distracted, sing to ...
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Should we teach rules of multiple board games at once

I've been playing with my 5yo and teaching her how to play board games (chess, chechers, go, etc) and card games. To make the study consistent we play 30 minutes every day. But I was wondering - ...
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How to teach a child to “tell” when she needs to go to the toilet?

My cousin's daughter is now 3.5 years old. She still uses diapers all the time and does not tell ever that she needs to go to the toilet. So, I wish to know how to teach a child from the beginning ...
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At what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?

I just told someone on parenting that a baby becomes a toddler when it starts moving around. The question which came back was "what age does a toddler stop being a toddler?". That got me searching, ...
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How can I help when the parents don't acknowledge their child 's learning disability?

I am a pre-school teacher and in my school I have a four and a half year old girl who has problems. Her fine and large motor skills needs attention. She is not very agile in the outside area, and ...
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Explaining a c-section scar to a toddler

Our 3-year-old son noticed his mother's scar from the cesarean section and wondered what it was. We didn't really give him an answer but diverted his attention instead. Now we're talking about how ...
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How to deal with a naughty nephew?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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saving uneaten dinner for breakfast?

I'm sure some of you have either said or heard something like this before: "If you don't finish your dinner, you can have it for breakfast the next morning" We used to have problems (and still ...
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Should I make my child respond to me in my language?

In my family (including extended family), everybody speaks both German and Danish. It also means that everybody can speak whatever language they happen to prefer, and we even throw in a word from the ...
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Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?

My 5 year old pre-schooler exhibits some behaviors that have my wife & I a little concerned, but we're unsure whether there's a real problem or not. I'll try to summarize some of his behaviors ...
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potty training my 4 year old whom refuses to even make an attempt?

my 4 yr old son absolutely hates to poop in the toilet. He will pee no problem on his own, but he fights to avoid pooping even to the point of claiming it hurts to poop in the toilet. When we ask him ...
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Help for my friend's pre-schooler who eats too much

I want to know if anyone has any kind of experience with this as it is foreign to me. My best friend has two little girls (seriously, this is about my best friend. Not me.). Her oldest just turned ...
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Which music is suited infants and toddlers?

I wonder which kind of music is well suited for infants and toddlers. I'd assume those criteria are important: the change of loudness is not too big (so that the child does not get shocked by a ...
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Why does my son (5) suddenly provoke me although everything seemed to be perfect before?

My son (5) sometimes changes his mood suddenly. Sure this is somehow normal human behavior, but it can drive us mad. This morning everything worked great and "peacefully" until breakfast. After ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?

Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own. Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?

My question is based on the following assumptions: I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not. In consequence: A child should never ...
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How to share embarassing story to another adult while your child is around?

My daughter is 4. When she had a tantrum, she sometimes scratches or hits herself. One morning she scratched too hard and left a mark on her forehead. I can tell clearly that she was embarrassed by ...
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How do we choose when to start kindergarten?

Each school has its own cut off for kindergarten. When a child falls on or very close to that cut off what criteria should you use to determine which kindergarten class he should go in. I know both ...
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How do I deal with my pre-schooler's over tired behavior after school?

Obviously four years old is too young to diagnose ADD; however, my daughter has always exibited ADD symptoms and it would not be surprising if one of our children has ADD as it runs in the family. We ...
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How should we prepare for a parent-teacher consultation in preschool?

Our very first parent-teacher consultation for our pre-schooler (almost three years old) is coming up. Because of that I'd like to bring some more attention to this question: How to maximise the ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?

What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm? It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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How do you say “not now”?

Sometimes children (say 3-5 years of age) want you to play with them, but for whatever reason, you cannot participate. How do you say "not now" without hurting their feelings or making them feel ...