Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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What should I do to help my child break a bad habit?

My 5 year-old has developed some anxiety. My first observation came after we moved from my parents house, this is strongly related. Since moving I have observed the following symptoms in my child: ...
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My pre-schooler is out of control, and I feel like my parents are undermining my relationship and authority with her

Alright, I guess a little back story would help. I am a single mother and an only child, I will be 21 in a few months. I've graduated high school with honors and have been raising my daughter on my ...
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How to deal with 5 year-old “homesickeness”?

Sorry in advance for my english, I'm not a native speaker. Some background: I got pregnant at 20 years old, while I was at the University. My partner was living back then 400 km away from us, so my ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening ...
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How do discipline my kid at preschool?

Today I dropped my little 4yr old girl at school and she just didn't want to eat because from what she says, she "stuffed her face with popcorn" when I wasn't looking. The problem: All of her friends ...
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If a 4 year old is afraid to swim is it better to keep trying or wait?

My son is afraid of swimming, and has been for a very long time. We first took him to baby swim classes and he never took to it like the other children in the class. I took him to swimming classes ...
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When to pull loose teeth

My 5 year old is starting to have some teeth become loose. Specifically her lower two front teeth. I just noticed today that one of them is really loose. However, I don't know how loose it should be ...
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If my 4-year-old asks me “why”, what kind of “why” does he mean?

My 4-year-old asks me questions like "Why is water transparent?" What kind of "why" does he mean?: What sense does it make for water to be transparent? How is it achieved that water is transparent? ...
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How do I deal with a child waking up at night and starting to read?

My 6YO daughter has a major problem. She likes to read. The issue is, that she is so addicted to reading, she will do it when she really shouldn't. Like at night. More specifically, she will wake ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...
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4 year old refuses to color

Our 4 year old is in junior kindergarten and we've received multiple letters from his teacher regarding his refusal to color in class. He also refuses at home when we try to encourage him to color. ...
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How much instruction should be incorporated into a pre-schooler's art activities?

We've set aside one evening a week as our dedicated family craft night. That doesn't preclude us from doing craft projects at other times, of course, but rather ensures that my son gets at least a ...
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What to do with many painted pictures/ handicraft work

Our son produces tons of painted pictures and handicrafted things. We like them very much, but we are not sure what to do with them, as they need a lot of space, storage and time. It is not easy for ...
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How do you teach children “Humility”?

I feel that my kids, after some persuasion, are capable when it comes to schoolwork, homework and other such skills. We have always identified good behaviour and let our son know when he has done ...
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Is this strange behavior for a 5-year-old?

I am asking about my stepson. I don't have any children of my own, but to me his behavior seems bizarre. He talks constantly and will say the same thing several times using different words. For ...
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My 4.5yr-old girl is afraid of death. What should I do?

Last night my wife (as usual) was putting our 4.5yr-old baby girl to sleep. Our daughter becomes very chatty at that time and (especially in the presence of mom) expresses thoughts and things that ...
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My 4 1/2 year old has been potty trained since 3 but is having accidents and not going to the bathroom by himself

My son has been potty trained now for well over a year. He'll wake up dry most of the nights but when he's at daycare ( a private home) he won't go to the bathroom unless he's told. He'll have an ...
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How to handle a preschooler who hits?

My 4 year old son has autism and no verbal language, and a tendency to hit or scratch us (adults) when he gets frustrated. We try to tell him (with verbal language and signing) "no" or "stop", and ...
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How to provide the most support to children as an 'uncle' with only monthly visits

As a side effect of some volunteering I do, I find myself playing something of an 'uncle' like relationship for some of the children of women I've volunteering with. I love children and am more then ...
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What is the most appropriate way to address contrarianism in a 4-year-old?

My 4-year-old son tends to default to saying no changes in activity (even if he is clearly no longer interested in the current activity). Overall he is helpful, considerate, and will do things we ask ...
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How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
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Clean children vs dirty children

Which is better for toddler/pre-schooler's health? To let them get dirty (play as they will in sand, mud, dust, seawater) and wash them appropriately or try to keep them clean? What impacts do these ...
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Should we protect our childred from getting ill?

Nowadays there are very few sicknesses that a toddler or a pre-schooler can catch and that will kill or irreversibly harm him. Most bacteria infections can be treated and there is little real danger. ...
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How can I encourage my home schooled children to be more confident in the open?

I have 3 nieces. Two are twins aged 4 and one is aged 2. My sister is home schooling them and she has started with so many activities and lessons for them in the house. Problem falls when she takes ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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How to improve my 5 year old son's behavior in pre-kindergarden?

My oldest child (5 year and a half son) has been more agitated lately in pre-kindergarden and often will make other kids laugh or disrupt activities in class. We have been getting more feedback like ...
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My 4 1/2 year old loves to sleep… is this a problem?

My 4 1/2 year old daughter loves to sleep. When she was younger I couldn't get her to sleep at night so we completely stopped her naps. Now, she is in preschool and will go about her normal day. She ...
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Is there a downside to giving a preschooler band-aids when he doesn't really need them?

Our preschooler (3 1/2 years old) demands a band-aid for every minor injury, whether he's actually bleeding or not. I've tried discussing the actual purpose of an adhesive bandage (keeping a wound ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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Structured reading coaching

I want to give my child (just about to turn 6) some structure coaching in reading over the summer. I want to do this myself to see how she's progressing. Are there any sites or books that will ...
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How can I help three year old understand I can't actively play with him for a few days?

Earlier today, I pulled a muscle in my back badly enough that I need to lie down to let it relax, and also don't plan on picking up heavy objects (like a small child) for a few days. His other parent ...
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?

Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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Can fraternal twins develop their own “language”?

I've often heard about twins forming their own "language", but I've always assumed that it only applies to identical twins. Is there any research out there on the subject? Does it apply to both ...
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Why does 2 hours in front of the TV make my kids grumpy?

I've got two kids, boy 3YO and a girl 5YO. We find that on a weekend, when they play around the house for two hours (with parental involvement) they end up reasonably good natured (although somewhat ...
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Mom is a kindergarten teacher

Due to some conflict situation with previous kindergarten owner, we were forced to pull our 2 y.o. from this. In the middle of the year, it's a bit difficult to find new place for a child, but for our ...
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How can I help my kids to sleep comfortably (and safely) on an overnight drive?

Asking this one anonymously, I don't want the police coming round to arrest me! In a few weeks, we've got a long drive to go on vacation. Because our youngest is pretty unbearable on long car ...
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The cars of hanoi. Or: two parents, two children, one car [closed]

I imagine that this is not a hypothetical math problem for many of you, and it's very likely to have been done before, but just recently, our first child started Kindergarten. Our youngest is still in ...
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How should I answer when my granddaughter asks about her absent mother?

My granddaughter has lived with us (her grandparents) since she was 8 months. She is now four. My daughter and granddaughter have been with us for two and a half years My daughter has been out of the ...
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Not so sleeping beauty at 4 years old

My 4 year old daughter is not going to bed at a decent time. We have a routine in place: dinner at 6, story time at 7, bath time at 7:30. 8 is quiet down time and 8:30 is bedtime. The problem: she ...
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How to mitigate the impact of other people comparing my children to each other?

My husband and I have tried very hard to show both of our children that they are loved and cared for, and to encourage their own unique interests and to be proud of the individuals they are growing ...
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Confused 5 year old

My daughter who is 5 and usually very happy and loving recently told my husband and me she wanted to shoot us and run to Noni. After talking with her, we later realized this anger is directed at me. ...
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How do you teach young kids to defend themselves?

How do you teach kids to defend themselves, without becoming bullies? I'm talking about younger kids (1.5 to 3yo) who are not mature enough (or old enough) to take self-defense classes. My son is two ...
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to what degree should I encourage contact with dad?

I have a three year old with my ex. When we separated he moved back in with his mom ( he didn't have a job, bad credit, etc... I know, I was an idiot ). These issues were a big part of our separation. ...
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Should a 4 year old be made to quit crying every time she cries?

My granddaughter is forced to stop crying any time she cries by her step dad. Is that healthy? She just turned 4.
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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Explaining Thunder/Lightning to a preschooler

I have a very intelligent three (almost four) year old who has a mixed relationship with thunder and lightning (see an older question from me, for example). He likes seeing it, but is also afraid of ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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As an atheist, how should I explain theism to my children?

I have two competing interests here and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this. On one hand I feel that the short answer, to questions about gods, of "some people believe that, but it's not true" is ...