Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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How to respond when your kid is being ridiculed by another kid when the other kid's parent(s) are present?

Yesterday, while trick or treating, several of my 5 year old's friends were making fun his name in an unpleasant manner. The mom of these other kids were there but they did not notice this behavior or ...
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Birthday and Christmas on the same date

A kid in my neighborhood was born on the 24th of December. As long as he was a toddler, this didn't matter but he’s starting to notice that other kids have separate birthdays from Christmas and get ...
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How to mitigate the impact of other people comparing my children to each other?

My husband and I have tried very hard to show both of our children that they are loved and cared for, and to encourage their own unique interests and to be proud of the individuals they are growing ...
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How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?

Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
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saving uneaten dinner for breakfast?

I'm sure some of you have either said or heard something like this before: "If you don't finish your dinner, you can have it for breakfast the next morning" We used to have problems (and still ...
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When to allow children to consume sugar/candy/sweets/junk?

We have so far not allowed our toddler (20-months) any foods that contain sugar (chocolate, cake, sweets, sweetened juice, etc.) on the premise that consuming sugar is not needed and only causes ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading

My daughter is 5 years old (will be 6 at the end of February) and lately has wanted to learn to read. However, I've become a bit concerned because it seems as though she has absolutely no memory for ...
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How do you prepare a pre-schooler for potentially permanent separation from a close friend?

My three-year-old son attends a small, in-home daycare. The other kids in the daycare range from about 1 year to 5. There is one other boy my son's age, and the two of them are very good friends. ...
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What are some age-appropriate tasks that my pre-schooler can do around the house?

My wife and I both work full time, this means when we are at home we are both quite busy with housework. This could be in the yard or inside. As my son is an only child and he wants to spend more ...
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How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?

My 3½ year old son has been diagnosed with a mild eye defect, so he is getting corrective glasses (with non-shattering plastic lenses, obviously). As I've never worn glasses myself, nor my wife at ...
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How do you help a child with nightmares?

My child is 3. Sometimes he has nightmares. What's a good technique to help him deal with these, both at the time when he wakes, and long term to help him overcome them? (He's not having night ...
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What activities/sports are optimal in developing body awareness in children age 4-5?

I believe any physical activity a child age 1-3 finds interesting is great for developing body awareness. Tag, throwing balls, running around the house, jumping, rolling around, wrestling, dancing... ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I ...
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What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home?

It is something I have always thought about, but never asked. We have put our kids into kindergarten/nursery even though my wife doesn't work. We decided that the benefits for our children ...
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How to prepare my 4 year old for his 4 year old vaccinations?

My 4 year old is going to have his vaccinations and it seems like when they are younger, you can handle it better, but now that he is older and understands more concepts, are there any tricks or ...
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Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?

In my education, my parents never asked me such a thing. My wife, on the other hand, understands you can ask a child to stop crying (she had a tougher childhood I guess). So I have mixed feelings ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...
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Should I be concerned that my 3 year old is not able to pronounce an 'r' sound?

My daughter is turning 3 this December, she goes to pre-school with other kids who speak totally different languages. We're from a remote part of India, thus she shares her mother-tongue with no one ...
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How to deal with a naughty nephew?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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How do I stop my child from grinding his teeth while sleeping?

How do I stop my 4 year old son from grinding his teeth while he is sleeping?
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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3 yo still asks about my ex

My 3 year old son's mother and I split up long ago when he was only about 6 months old. We have a good co-parenting relationship, and we're at peace with each other. I started dating last year. My ...
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How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
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What is the best way to calmly respond to a pre-schooler who will not listen?

What is the best way to approach 4yo son that behaves poorly and\or doesn't listen to you, ignores your words, and at the same time stay calm? It seems the only thing he understands is a physical ...
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How do we keep kindergartners entertained while camping?

It's been a while since I've been camping and I never did so as a very young child. What types of activities and general camping prep would be appropriate for going with a kindergartner?
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Four year old does not play with toys

My four year old son pretty much doesn't play. I mean, he will usually when he has another child to play with but overall, throughout the week he doesn't play. It's driving me crazy because he seems ...
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What can I do to stop my child from being over-sensitive?

My child is 3 years and 6 months and every child he seems to play with seems to pick up on his sensitivity and tease him extra. This could something really minor like touching him on the shoulder - ...
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How to share embarassing story to another adult while your child is around?

My daughter is 4. When she had a tantrum, she sometimes scratches or hits herself. One morning she scratched too hard and left a mark on her forehead. I can tell clearly that she was embarrassed by ...
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Why did these two pre-schoolers swap their tantrum behaviour?

I have just noticed this in 2 boys, aged 3,4. The 3 year old used to throw tantrums quite frequently over trivial matters (such as me holding the ball I'm throwing in the right rather than the left ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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3 Year Old suddenly doesn't want to sleep

My 3 year old son has suddenly started fighting sleep at every opportunity. He is an absolute angel during bath time and getting ready for bed but will not settle. This has come out of the blue. In ...
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Raising children in corrupted country

I live in an under-military-coup-too-much-corrupted-country. There is a big gap between values and reality. For example, policeman or military soldier should be a model for kids; They -normally- ...
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How can I help my preschooler develop empathy?

My preschooler is pretty book-smart, but is quite emotionally immature for his (3.5 year old) age. This has led to a frequent, difficult situation for us. He'll be acting out a bit - say, not ...
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How to effectively balance respect for authority with independence and self-determination

We just had our second parent-teacher conference with our almost-four year old's preschool teacher (he's in a Montessori school, that follows the technique well, mostly), and among other things, ...
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How can we keep our infant safe from small Lego pieces?

We have a 4yo and a 1yo. The 4yo has been playing with Lego Duplo for a long time and it's safe for our 1yo because Duplo blocks are specifically made to be "too large to eat." It's clear that the ...
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At which age does it make sense to see a professional when suspecting Asperger?

We noticed that our 3.5 year old child begins showing signs of Asperger. Each of these signs, by itself, could be explained with age, but in sum it appears noticeable. I'm not going to list the ...
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Which music is suited infants and toddlers?

I wonder which kind of music is well suited for infants and toddlers. I'd assume those criteria are important: the change of loudness is not too big (so that the child does not get shocked by a ...
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Is starting a small fire a good way to the explain dangers of flammability?

How can one teach a 5 year old that acetone, white spirit and other household solvents are not to be played with if he somehow manages to get a hold of them? One idea is to go to the yard far enough ...
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Explaining a c-section scar to a toddler

Our 3-year-old son noticed his mother's scar from the cesarean section and wondered what it was. We didn't really give him an answer but diverted his attention instead. Now we're talking about how ...
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Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?

My 5 year old pre-schooler exhibits some behaviors that have my wife & I a little concerned, but we're unsure whether there's a real problem or not. I'll try to summarize some of his behaviors ...
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Moving with our bilingual child

We are two German parents and we are living in an English speaking country. With our child - who just turned three - we speak German, whereas all other people (our friends, his friends, the kids in ...
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How can I help when the parents don't acknowledge their child 's learning disability?

I am a pre-school teacher and in my school I have a four and a half year old girl who has problems. Her fine and large motor skills needs attention. She is not very agile in the outside area, and ...
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How can my son learn to use the bicycle's pedals?

This question about learning to ride a bike focuses on keeping the balance. For my son, balance is not a problem because he already has mastered his balance bike. We're trying to transition him to a ...
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Attention-promoting activities for a toddler

ADD runs in our family ("in fact, it practically stampedes"), and I'm starting to see my toddler's attention become more and more difficult for him to control; he's beginning to have difficulty ...
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How do I figure out why my child no longer likes preschool?

I'm wondering how to figure out why my 4 year old son no longer likes preschool. He is quiet and doesn't say why he doesn't like school when asked about it. My 4 year old son started preschool in ...
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How to ensure that necessary things get done when time is short?

My question is based on the following assumptions: I think that children learn by their success, if a certain behavior "works" to get what they want or not. In consequence: A child should never ...
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How can I encourage my three-year-old to have a bath?

Every bathtime it's the same story: Me: "It's bathtime now." Son: "I don't want a bath" Me: "You need a bath to make you clean. You don't want to be dirty do you?" Son: "I don't ...