Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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My daughter “forgets” her numbers even though she knows how to count

My daughter is 4 1/2 or so. She knows how to count to at least 10, possibly higher, and will do so unprompted. However, we've recently tried to start playing some board and card games with her. In ...
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How to prepare a two year old for international relocation

We are going to relocate to a different country in summer with our daughter who is going to be 2.5 then. I found this question but our situation is different and the answer does not apply. Ours is ...
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What techniques can keep a reluctant pre-schooler on a morning schedule?

Early starts at distant work make for alarm clocks and morning rush in our house. A 4 year old child and two adults have around an hour to get washed, dressed and fed to leave at 7am. To my son ...
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How can we counter cultural gender stereotypes?

My three year old son has picked up some very concrete ideas of the differences between boys and girls. Unfortunately, they're almost all based upon gender stereotypes. When asked what presents we ...
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3.5yr old pre-schooler cannot deal with frustration

Our 3.5 yr old (will be 4 in July) son has a real difficulty handling frustration to the point that it is driving me and my wife insane. Hardly a day goes by where we don't both end up in tears, ...
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How can I help my pre-schooler to relax and fall asleep?

Our 5-year-old has trouble going to sleep at night. If we put her to bed at 8, she might not fall asleep until 10 or 11, then sleep in until 9 the next day. She'll lay in bed and try to go to sleep, ...
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How to mitigate the impact of other people comparing my children to each other?

My husband and I have tried very hard to show both of our children that they are loved and cared for, and to encourage their own unique interests and to be proud of the individuals they are growing ...
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3 year old gets bullied all the time

My 3 year old daughter is a very shy and laid back girl. She loves playing by herself and will not really care if she has got someone to play with her or not. I usually look around for playdates for ...
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4 year old daughter starved for Dad's attention

My 4 year old daugther always wants my attention, and I try my best to give it to her. Either by telling stories, playing with stuffed animals, reading books, or anything else she likes to do. I have ...
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How can you communicate with a child that refuses to talk?

I have a four year old son who has slight autism. Up until now he has babbled but never used any words associated with anything. We try to encourage him to talk by talking with him a lot, and we have ...
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How should I react if another child “attacks” my son by doing something he does not like (but not especially dangerous)

Recently I was in the following situation: I wanted to pick up my son (4.5 years old) in the kindergarten and another child was throwing bark mulch at him. I don't consider this especially ...
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Not so sleeping beauty at 4 years old

My 4 year old daughter is not going to bed at a decent time. We have a routine in place: dinner at 6, story time at 7, bath time at 7:30. 8 is quiet down time and 8:30 is bedtime. The problem: she ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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When will my boy be able to tell me about his day?

At what age could your kids reliably tell you about what went on in your absence? And how did you know it's reliable? I have an almost three year old, and although he is quite talkative, it's still ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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4 year old refuses to color

Our 4 year old is in junior kindergarten and we've received multiple letters from his teacher regarding his refusal to color in class. He also refuses at home when we try to encourage him to color. ...
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4 year old afraid of swimming

I had my 4 year old going for swimming lessons starting this summer in June. She was doing ok at first, got into water learned a lot. She can bobs, front float, back float with no problem, as far as ...
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How to respond when your kid is being ridiculed by another kid when the other kid's parent(s) are present?

Yesterday, while trick or treating, several of my 5 year old's friends were making fun his name in an unpleasant manner. The mom of these other kids were there but they did not notice this behavior or ...
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Birthday and Christmas on the same date

A kid in my neighborhood was born on the 24th of December. As long as he was a toddler, this didn't matter but he’s starting to notice that other kids have separate birthdays from Christmas and get ...
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How does a 3-year-old learn to wear glasses?

My 3½ year old son has been diagnosed with a mild eye defect, so he is getting corrective glasses (with non-shattering plastic lenses, obviously). As I've never worn glasses myself, nor my wife at ...
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How can I make my preschool child brush his teeth, and similar mandatory tasks?

Most tasks and chores can be taught by letting the child experience consequences, because those consequences are mostly immediate and direct (e.g. not going to the playground if the child won't put on ...
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Is there a downside to giving a preschooler band-aids when he doesn't really need them?

Our preschooler (3 1/2 years old) demands a band-aid for every minor injury, whether he's actually bleeding or not. I've tried discussing the actual purpose of an adhesive bandage (keeping a wound ...
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saving uneaten dinner for breakfast?

I'm sure some of you have either said or heard something like this before: "If you don't finish your dinner, you can have it for breakfast the next morning" We used to have problems (and still ...
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how to deal with complete meltdown for simple everyday tasks with my 4 year old

My 4 year old girl has been progressively worsening with meltdown-tantrums with simple daily tasks like wearing clothes, shoes, underwear. . . She has always been particular with things on her body, ...
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What activities/sports are optimal in developing body awareness in children age 4-5?

I believe any physical activity a child age 1-3 finds interesting is great for developing body awareness. Tag, throwing balls, running around the house, jumping, rolling around, wrestling, dancing... ...
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How to prepare my 4-year- old for his 4 year vaccinations?

My 4-year-old is going to have his vaccinations. It seems like when they are younger, you can handle it better. Sow that he is older, and understands more concepts, are there any tricks or things you ...
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How can I help three year old understand I can't actively play with him for a few days?

Earlier today, I pulled a muscle in my back badly enough that I need to lie down to let it relax, and also don't plan on picking up heavy objects (like a small child) for a few days. His other parent ...
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Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?

In my education, my parents never asked me such a thing. My wife, on the other hand, understands you can ask a child to stop crying (she had a tougher childhood I guess). So I have mixed feelings ...
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Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)?

Our little boy tends to get 3 minutes on the naughty spot when he's done something wrong. After this time one of us tries to explain why he's been naughty spotted and what he should do differently ...
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Can fraternal twins develop their own “language”?

I've often heard about twins forming their own "language", but I've always assumed that it only applies to identical twins. Is there any research out there on the subject? Does it apply to both ...
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Should I be concerned that my 3 year old is not able to pronounce an 'r' sound?

My daughter is turning 3 this December, she goes to pre-school with other kids who speak totally different languages. We're from a remote part of India, thus she shares her mother-tongue with no one ...
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Is it normal for a five year-old to be put in detention repeatedly for not being able to sit still and be quiet?

My granddaughter is having trouble in school and at home, but more at school. She is 5 1/2 years old and in kindergarten. She is having trouble not being still, moving hands or feet, and humming or ...
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How to deal with a naughty nephew?

I live in a joint family with two of my uncles, and I have a very naughty five year old nephew who's a nuisance to the entire household. We live in a flat and my nephew throws stuff out of the window ...
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5yr Old Has Trouble With Letters & Reading

My daughter is 5 years old (will be 6 at the end of February) and lately has wanted to learn to read. However, I've become a bit concerned because it seems as though she has absolutely no memory for ...
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How do you prepare a pre-schooler for potentially permanent separation from a close friend?

My three-year-old son attends a small, in-home daycare. The other kids in the daycare range from about 1 year to 5. There is one other boy my son's age, and the two of them are very good friends. ...
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What are some age-appropriate tasks that my pre-schooler can do around the house?

My wife and I both work full time, this means when we are at home we are both quite busy with housework. This could be in the yard or inside. As my son is an only child and he wants to spend more ...
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Should I allow my child to participate in dangerous sports?

When should a child be allowed to take part in "dangerous" sports or activities? I'm thinking of letting my son try motocross when he's "old enough" - but when is that, when is a child old enough to ...
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3 yo still asks about my ex

My 3 year old son's mother and I split up long ago when he was only about 6 months old. We have a good co-parenting relationship, and we're at peace with each other. I started dating last year. My ...
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How to give a medicine with really bad taste

My 4 year old daughter recently have scarlet fever. It seems antibiotics are non-negociable for it, and since she has great chance of being allergic to Penicillin, there is only one antibiotic she can ...
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How should I answer when my granddaughter asks about her absent mother?

My granddaughter has lived with us (her grandparents) since she was 8 months. She is now four. My daughter and granddaughter have been with us for two and a half years My daughter has been out of the ...
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How do you help a child with nightmares?

My child is 3. Sometimes he has nightmares. What's a good technique to help him deal with these, both at the time when he wakes, and long term to help him overcome them? (He's not having night ...
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How do you handle a pre-schooler who tries to use excuses to justify his behavior?

My boy is creeping out of 5 1/2. Right now we're dealing with a phase of "Justifications" We tell him not to do something but he starts with, "I'm just" or follows up with "It was an accident" I ...
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5 year old boy having adjustment issues to kindergarten

My 5 year old son had his first day of kindergarten and it was my worst fear. When I went to pick him up his teacher pulled me aside and told me about his day: he pulled the other kids hair, used his ...
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What are the (dis)advantages of putting a child in a nursery or pre-school even when one parent is at home?

It is something I have always thought about, but never asked. We have put our kids into kindergarten/nursery even though my wife doesn't work. We decided that the benefits for our children ...
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How much direction does a preschooler need while doing crafts?

My son just turned 4 and I'm trying to figure out how much direction I should give while doing crafts. He really enjoys to doing crafts but if I give him a specific 'project' to do (e.g. something ...
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How do I address lack of tact in a 4 year old?

This morning, I dropped my son off at pre-school, and he introduced me to one of his new friends. He then, loudly, and right in front of this friend, proceeded to explain how this child "gets upset ...
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How do I stop my child from grinding his teeth while sleeping?

How do I stop my 4 year old son from grinding his teeth while he is sleeping?
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How do you handle “materialist” behaviour?

My 4 years old daughter attaches a lot of importance to toys, clothes, presents ... How do you help your kids take some distance with that ? Sample behaviour I'm uncomfortable with : asking grandma ...
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How can I persuade a preschooler to wear a suit?

A few month ago, I asked: Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument? That was mainly focused on my eight year old, and now I have a related question... but about a preschooler. Our ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...